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Ten Stupid Things Women Do to Mess Up Their Lives

3.68  ·  Rating Details ·  4,238 Ratings  ·  175 Reviews
Self help book
Paperback, 256 pages
Published February 15th 1995 by Harper Paperbacks (first published February 8th 1994)
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Rosa Anderson Eighteen is the perfect age for a young woman to read this book. The book covers way too many mature topics for a young teenage girl.

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Aug 19, 2007 Laura rated it did not like it  ·  review of another edition
I was given this book by a couple I babysat for years ago and found it then (when I was a at least a decade younger) condescending and insulting. 'Dr.' Laura's patriarchal and het-centric views of women in general do nothing to help women, but rather bully them into submission. I think this book actually made me a feminist as a teen.
Jul 31, 2013 Sarah rated it liked it
The same women who give this book a low rating are the women who think 50 Shades of Grey was one of the best literary ventures of the 21st century.

I don't know that I particularly care for the Dr. Laura Schlessinger herself but she speaks the truth and women need to hear, acknowledge, and admit to what they are doing wrong in choosing bad men and take ownership of their poor decision making. Women choose the same ass over and over and over again hoping that they can turn their Christian Grey in
Mom 2
Jul 21, 2008 Mom 2 rated it it was amazing
Recommends it for: every female over 15 in the world
This should be required reading for girls and women. wish someone had given it to me when I was about 17. I might not have paid attention, dismissing it as some old person's jaded take on life because I was so smart, so wise at 17 - none of these things would happen to me. NOT. Read it. Make your sister read it. Give it to your daughter. PAY them to read it, if that's what it will take.
Jul 17, 2007 Kecia rated it did not like it  ·  review of another edition
Recommends it for: no one
Shelves: no-that-great
I'm embarassed to even admit I read this TRASH. Perhaps she should have written Ten Wise Things Women Do to Improve Their Lives...but that would not have sold as many books, eh. If I ever see her...I'll throw this book back to her.
Tiana Dalichov
Dec 19, 2011 Tiana Dalichov rated it it was amazing
Amen, Dr. Laura. Everything she said in this book is one-hundred percent truth. I have to admit I was skeptical when I read the title. My father bought this for me when I was a senior in high school, and he asked me to read it when I was dating my first boyfriend that year. I saw several things I was doing that were actually hurting me, and I broke up with him a few months later, right after I finished reading the book. I'm not surprised by the negative reviews for this. But she's telling the tr ...more
Aug 30, 2007 Fanny rated it did not like it  ·  review of another edition
Recommends it for: NO ONE
This is the only book I ever read by this irritating woman who capitalizes on women's misery and pain by making them feel like idiots rather than women who need REAL advice. I have suffered my share of painful relationships and I actually threw down hard cash looking for guidance and understanding from a purported 'professional'. This at a time when I really was beginning my soul searching to understand myself. Rather I was told what a FUCKUP I was! OH! It was all MY fault!!! I was insulted and ...more
Jul 17, 2007 B. rated it did not like it  ·  review of another edition
What a freak.....
Feb 05, 2011 Mary rated it did not like it
Let me start by saying generally I hate Dr. Laura and don't agree with much of what she says and feel like it applies to the lowest common man. Instead with this book I found I agreed with most of the concepts but still it applied to the stupidest of stupid women as the book implied. The ten mistakes let me just give you the gist and spare you the read:
1. Deriving self worth from a man
2. Tricking a man into dating you and implying too much meaning in men's actions and begging
3. Justifying crappy
Nov 10, 2009 Fiver rated it really liked it
Bless me, Father, for I have sinned: I've given a "Doctor Laura" book four stars while putting certain works by Asimov, Lewis, Card, and even Ellison in the "two star" category.

Ugh... how did I come to this?

Well, here's how.

I picked up this book while vacationing in a beach condo in Florida. I needed to relax and let my brain pig out, so I flipped through "Ten Stupid Things" just so I could laugh at how wrong and opinionated this author was.

But a funny thing happened: I couldn't really peg down
Kathy Juveli Hauck
Mar 22, 2007 Kathy Juveli Hauck rated it did not like it  ·  review of another edition
Shelves: skip-these
I'd like to pinch her little head off. My God! There's common sense and there's commense sense that's rammed down your throat.
Mar 12, 2012 Melissa rated it liked it
People either love Dr. Laura or hate her. As a former syndicated talk radio hosts, a good portion of the book consists of dialogues between Dr. Laura and her callers, and boy does she tell it like it is! While I can't stand her all of the time, I think she has some great insights!

A good intro to her book: "Here it goes. Men are not keeping you miserable. You are! If you are unhappy with your man, straighten yourself out and pick better! Put all this low self-esteem stuff in perspective. Life is
Jan 07, 2013 Helena rated it really liked it
I read this book in a matter of a few days. First off, I can understand some of the extremely negative reviews I've seen of this book - I don't entirely agree with everything Dr. Laura has to say, and sometimes she has a way of saying things that comes off as harsh. For the lady seeking gentle words of wisdom and a kindly guiding hand, don't read this book. It's brutally honest and direct, and offers extremely harsh criticism of women who do stupid things. With that said, I'm glad for the slap i ...more
Sep 21, 2008 Gabriella rated it really liked it
My father actually bought me this book towards the end of highschool- I was a rebellious girl, I felt I had to read it because he would ask me about it. Dr. Schlessinger is very conservative, but I did find some of her points helpful, and I think it may have impacted some of my decsions in college.
Jul 13, 2009 Heather rated it really liked it
Recommends it for: everyone in a relationship so basicly everyone
Recommended to Heather by: found at book exchange
loved the insights and especially:
"you need to take on challenges you can respect yourself for" pg. 168

women experience hurt instead of anger - hurt makes you powerless - anger is energy pg. 175-176

don't assume things..."hopes, dreams, and fantasies have not power. If you want something, you must be willing to express it." pg. 182

orgins of timidity

loss of parental attachment: a crippling fear notes pg. 185

wasted and misplaced anger pg. 193-195

love how it talked about when "not choosing is easie
Dec 30, 2010 kyersten rated it really liked it
I think this is a must read for all mothers and teen-aged daughters. It covers many topics with the desire to teach men and women how to have more joy and meaning in their relationships. I have enjoyed Dr. Schlessinger's radio show and many of her books so I had a pretty good idea what this book would entail. She covers topics like, proper courtship, passion, stupid co-habitation, expectations and so on. Unfortunately women of today have it all wrong. They think the women's movement has given th ...more
Jun 19, 2009 Cam added it
Shelves: 2009
Read this book to see if it's a good one to give to a family member that's making some bad decisions. Even though I was reading it with her in mind, I took some things away from the book, even though I am in a healthy relationship. It made me realize that I need to grow and have goals outside of being a wife and mom- not that I feel bad at being defined that way. I still need to be progressing as a person. I didn't agree with everything she wrote in the book, and I think this was written before ...more
 PuMbA's MoMmy*•.♥.•*
I Love Dr. Laura. My mom got me hooked on her show. Although sometimes Dr. Laura's views can be way out there, a lot of what she says makes sense and is the truth, which most people dont like to hear.

This book discusses all of the dumb actions we as woman make when it comes to our lives especially men. Why we continue to stay in toxic relationships and why we can't find happiness until we are happy with our own being.

I really liked the calls that Dr. Laura entwined in this book as reference and
Jul 05, 2015 Rachel rated it really liked it
It sounds like people either love this book or hate it. At first glance, it does look like a cheesy and incendiary self-help book that bashes on women, but I think a lot of people choose to misunderstand it. After reading, I realized that I agree with Dr. Laura's "slap therapy" approach: you are in control of your own life, and you are the only one allowing yourself to get into and stay in bad situations. A lot of women (myself included) tend to fantasize about relationships and remain passive r ...more
May 14, 2011 Lacey rated it it was ok
I only gave this 2 stars because it wasn't really relevant to me. It is mostly about choosing the right man and I already chose the right one!
Apr 13, 2012 Patty rated it it was amazing
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Oriyah Nitkin
Ah, the curse of Chava (Eve, for those of you not familiar with the name in Hebrew.) This was a book that tried, quite mightily, to undo the curse of the weirdo mindset women have. (Cultural? Innate? A combination of both, most likely.) What she had to say was accurate, and I think all women who have heard the general lines fed to women in our society could benefit from reading this book. (I know I have.) People will only treat you as badly as you allow them to treat you. Along the same lines, I ...more
Ken Mann
Jun 05, 2014 Ken Mann rated it really liked it
I picked the book up to see if I could pull some insights from it / to help me understand my wife & women in general better. I didn't feel like it was condescending toward women at all - quite the opposite. The author's purpose seemed to be to inspire women to not derive their value from men, but to set high standards and goals for themselves. The chapters each deal with a pitfall women may tend to fall into. Given the number of women the author has spoken with over the course of a long radi ...more
Elaine Shandra
Jul 23, 2011 Elaine Shandra rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
At first, I wasn't so sure this book would have much meaning for me after reading the contents page. However, I decided to give it a try anyway. It couldn't hurt, right? Although a lot of the stories did not apply to me, there were little morsels of importance and insight that I've been needing to apply in my life. I'm so glad that I have the gospel of Jesus Christ and the Holy Ghost to guide me through this life. It has kept me from some of the pain and problems some women face.

Even if you don
Jan 23, 2011 Ingrid rated it it was amazing
This is one of those books that I usually keep at the forefront of my collection for when I hear a girlfriend rant and rave about some loser she's been disappointed by. Every time I read it I'm heartened and encouraged to remember that a woman's identity isn't in a relationship, but is in who she is alone. I find it rather odd that Dr. Laura has been denounced as anti-feminist, because if those people were to read one chapter of her books, they'd read between the lines and see she's talking abou ...more
Nov 03, 2008 Naomi rated it it was amazing
11/3/08: I think Dr. Laura knows me personally. I started to write down all the quotes that I felt personally applied to me to a T, but then realized I was basically copying down the whole book. Since I bought a copy, I will have to re-read it with a highlighter in a hopefully-not-vain attempt to actually apply this stuff to my life. This book might become my new "bible." Though my current "bible," "He's Just Not That Into You," is definitely due for a re-read as well.
Jul 23, 2009 Jan rated it it was amazing
I said that I would never read a book by this woman, but for some reason I picked up this book and decided to check it out. I expected to be very critical of her views and probably angry. I was very surprised that she made way to much sense for me to even think twice about not reading it thorough to the end. I would reccommend this book to any woman who just can't seem to figure out what is wrong with all of her relationship/marriages. I am so glad that I read this book.
Dec 03, 2009 Madeleine rated it it was amazing
Ok, ok! I know, It's Dr. Schlessinger but I liked it. I thought all of her points were valid and pro-woman. Ultimately, she talks you out of all of the female traps that you are tempted by - what she calls the female escape route. All the things that your lazy scared self is tempted to default to. Then she demands that you live an engaged and meaningful life.
She reminds me of a no-nonsense grandma tugging on your ear saying, "Not today, missy!"
Lisa Gagnon
Feb 15, 2008 Lisa Gagnon rated it it was amazing
Given to me from my I won't screw up my life after serving a mission. Excellent advice for women.
Jan 05, 2009 Jennifer rated it it was amazing

I loved this. It is so true! My daughter, will be getting this as a gift in a year or so, from me.
Tayler K
May 07, 2017 Tayler K marked it as not-for-me
In mid-April, I made a comment on a HONY post which blew up. This was one of the replies:

Trish Hays:
Cats are better than humans.
All humans.
Even humans in male form.
You're obviously educated, bright, and you're not difficult at all to look at-You're probably too bright for this book but it's by Dr Laura, do ignore the title, 10 Stupid Things Women Do to Mess Up Their Lives xx The title is unnecessary but the book itself is good. I read it before I married and I just looked at things from a dif
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