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The Man Who Fell in Love with the Moon

4.22  ·  Rating Details ·  2,246 Ratings  ·  285 Reviews
Set against the harsh reality of an unforgiving landscape and culture, The Man Who Fell in Love with the Moon provides a vision of the Old West unlike anything seen before. The narrator, Shed, is one of the most memorable characters in contemporary fiction: a half-Indian bisexual boy who lives and works at the Indian Head Hotel in the tiny town of Excellent, Idaho. It's th
Paperback, 368 pages
Published January 6th 2000 by Grove Press
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Jan 10, 2008 bruin rated it it was ok
Shelves: fiction
everyone loves this book. well, most people. but i gotta say that the way that spanbauer dealt with race/ethnicity in this book made me feel super yucky. and i heard an interview that he did where someone asked him about his right to write from the voices of perspectives of native characters, and i was super less than pleased with his answer.

which is a tragedy cuz a whole lot of this book is so beautiful, it makes me wanna cry. i have the same qualm with franchesa lia block and charles de lint.
Sep 03, 2007 Nephyr rated it it was amazing
This is hands down my favorite book ever written. It has changed my life more than once, and most people I recommend it to end up feeling deeply about it as well. It's raw and beautiful, and sexy and scary (in an emotional way, not in a stephen king way) and dangerous and amazing.
Jordi Via
Jul 20, 2015 Jordi Via rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
Me ha dejado boquiabierto, en breve leeré más obras de Spanbauer que forma ya parte de mi estantería personal de libros a la que llamo MALDITA. Una estantería en la que entre otros está Denis Johnson y Cormac McCarthy, por citar a sólo dos de los integrantes.
Como ya he dicho por aquí, la primera parte (las primeras 107 páginas) ya podría ser una novela a la que daría cinco estrellas. Sin lugar a dudas esta va a ser una de las mejores novelas que he leído en los últimos seis años.
Melisa Resch
Dec 17, 2009 Melisa Resch rated it it was amazing
Recommended to Melisa by: pamalam
ohmygod. this book. holy fuck. incred. i could not stop reading it, just devoured it. all the themes that Spanbauer deals with; sexuality, family, gender, race, class, religion- that is the stuff that makes up our lives. and he just takes it all and shakes it up and lays it back down in a totally different order, one that makes sense and feels right. I am usually hesitant to read native american stuff written by white dudes but i'm so glad i read this one. some of the stuff made my mind feel lik ...more
Jun 24, 2007 Damien rated it it was ok
Shelves: queer
I thought this book was hokey. The attempts at multi-racial/multi-cultural inclusion were insulting, and the sexuality reminded me of the way sleazy neo-hippies try to seduce people.
Apr 22, 2009 Leah rated it liked it
Recommends it for: opium smokers, people who think Heroes fanfiction isn't Mormon enough, amputation fetishists
Recommended to Leah by: jessika
Objectively this book is problematic as fuck. It includes a minstrel show, presents underage prostitution as a rocking good time, rape as not that big a deal and there's a dead Indian shaman living the body of our protaganist. Oh yeah, and it has a casual attitude towards incest.
But then, our hero is a boy named Out-in-the-Shed which is also used throughout the book as euphemism for sodomy, and really, what's not to like about that?
Despite not making a whole lot of sense and being just a tiny
Blake Fraina
Jul 14, 2011 Blake Fraina rated it it was ok
Oh, how I wanted to love this book. I truly did.

Over the years, it’s been highly recommended to me by writers whose work I admire and readers whose taste I trust. It has garnered glowing reviews from the NY Times, Washington Post Book World, Publishers Weekly and New York magazine, among many other well respected publications.

I almost feel badly about just how much I don’t like it.

I’ll start with what’s good. The writing is carefully composed and stylish. The narrative voice is distinctive. And
Feb 24, 2008 Harper rated it liked it
I'm really torn about this book. It's a beautiful, heart wrenching story that often sits close to home. The way it deals with queerness makes me really happy. It addresses hard issues and is full of interesting, well crafted characters.

On the other side, it's written by a white man, and I find its portrayals of native people and women to be stereotypical in the most offensive ways possible. The main character is a queer, male, native american prostitute who is attempting to find love, himself,
Dec 05, 2007 Tiffany rated it it was amazing
This book was amazing (5 stars, Yeah!). I just finished reading it and I'm already ready to read it again. The story involves Native Americans, and Cowboys, and Whores, and Mormons, and Homos, and Drunks, and Bad Guys, and Good Guys, and Animals and More. I think Tom Spanbauer is pretty much a genius. He tells you the horrible things that are going to happen at the very beginning of the book, and then tricks you into forgetting all about it until the very end. And then, on top of everything that ...more
Jun 24, 2010 Lori rated it it was amazing
I love this book beyond all reason. But the other women in my book club despised it, and I can see their point of view, too. The sexual abuse of the main character is so twisted that most of them couldn't get beyond it. I didn't have children at the time and now that I do, I realize that might have been a game changer for me, too.

I found myself utterly haunted by these strange, otherworldly characters who formed such a poetically bizarre family. I still don't know quite how or why it works, sin
Mar 17, 2017 Dina rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
Sin duda este libro ha sido toda una revelación. Lo empecé sin ganas y me sorprendió a cada paso. Es tan original que da hasta vértigo porque muchas veces no sabes como interpretar las cosas que te cuenta el narrador. El narrador, por cierto, es lo mejor de toda la historia.
Lo recomendaría, pero no a todo el mundo. Creo que hay que tener una mente abierta para leerlo e intentar no juzgarlo en ciertos sentidos, principalmente porque hay que darse cuenta de el tipo de sociedad y de época en la que
JC Lobo
May 07, 2016 JC Lobo rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
Grandes historias, pero sobretodo, grandísimos personajes. Creo que los recordaré siempre.
Raül De Tena
Feb 06, 2009 Raül De Tena rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
Shelves: 2009
El año pasado, por estas mismas fechas, cerraba Ahora es el momento después de un punto y final particularmente intenso. No es anormal que acabe un libro llorando... aunque tampoco es lo más común. Y más allá del sentimentalismo con el que recuerdo aquella lectura, se me quedaron dentro muchas otras impresiones igual de impactantes. Hoy, por estas fechas, acabo de cerrar El hombre que se enamoró de la luna y todo ha vuelto a mi mente, como cuando un olor antiguo te obliga a rescatar memorias per ...more
Georgia Portuondo
Feb 06, 2008 Georgia Portuondo rated it really liked it

If the baby is a boy, and he reaches for the bow and feather--then you've got a boy, the Tybos figure, whose human-being sex story is the way every boy's sex story had better be. If the baby is a girl, and she reaches for the gourd and basket--then you got a girl whose human-being sex story is the way every girl's sex story had better be.
But if the boy reaches for the gourd and basket, or if the girl reaches for the bow and feather, then in Tybo, you got a boy or you got a girl whose h
Joanna Sundby
Jan 30, 2012 Joanna Sundby rated it liked it
Ouch!!! The violence in this book is so real as to be almost inescapable, the way violence is when you live with it. The day to day degradation and loss of power suffered by the main character, Shed might seem over the top to some who don't know the history of the west. But everything about this book is as crisply true to life as if it had been written in High Def. All stars are against Shed as his is illegitimate, fist nations, orphaned, and bisexual. He is put to work selling himself and his e ...more
Oct 10, 2016 Bee rated it it was amazing
I really don't know how to review this book.

It's kinda like a Tom Robbins Western, but better written, more succinct. Pithy as hell. Some deep wisdom from years of people watching. Insights into you the reader as you look out at the world through the eye's of Out-In-The-Shed. Sad, and brightly hilarious. Yugen aplenty.

The story of a family, a family of whores and half breeds, cowboys with mystical insight and Damn Dave and his Damn Dog. It's a story of people telling themselves their human-bei
Feb 01, 2012 Emily rated it it was amazing
This is one of my favorite books ever. The main character is so wonderful, with a voice all his own that might make the book difficult to read initially, but like in real life, if you spend time with him you quickly learn to flow with his unique rhythm and language. So many lines are quotable for their simplicity, beauty, and clear-eyed wisdom. This is just a little taste: "Indian people talk about the mountain that Excellent, Idaho, is built in the shadow of--the mountain the morning sun rises ...more
Mar 29, 2011 Randal rated it really liked it
Shelves: lgbtq, gender, favorites
Queer as folktales. This is the kind of book I've been craving to read for a long time--and not just because it features a multiracial, bisexual boy raised in a turn-of-the-twentieth-century whorehouse.

Yes, it's heavy-handed at times. A couple of key phrases are hammered home a bit too frequently. Race wanders in and out of the story like a bull that had sensitivity training before entering the china shop. And sex is presented either too bluntly or too abstractly.

But there's a sweet mysticism to
May 12, 2010 Xhmko rated it it was amazing
Recommended to Xhmko by: My first girlfriend
This book is extraordinary. There is no blushing or coy looks in this book. It is dirty and insightful. It is depraved and celebratory. It is essential reading for prude people who have would benefit immensely from this considered exploration of the delicate network of relationships in a frontier American brothel.

This book makes me want to meet the author, not just to soak in his brilliance but to absorb his compassion and be infiltrated by his empathy. The mundanity of life below not-really-a-m
If you're sensitive, conventional, religious or just easily offended - do not read this book. Stay far away. Sex is like breathing for these people, a way of survival, which is why the reader has to understand and then accept these characters for who and what they are. Spanbauer's language is difficult in the beginning and definitely takes getting used to but when you do, its quite worth it. You just have to understand that these people come from a wholly different place, with different beliefs ...more
Jul 27, 2007 Libby rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
Recommends it for: those who like dangerous writing
Shelves: booksilove
I have heard that Spanbauer is the king of "dangerous writing" and after reading this book I believe it. If you ever wondered about my e-mail address movesmoves, it refers to something in this novel.
Mar 21, 2007 Xander rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
Recommends it for: everyone
Beautifully written. Queer as fuck without calling itself such. About whores, cowboys, Indians, Mormons, and so much more, in the late 1800s... The characters will become good friends who you hate to leave when you've finished the book.
Alfie Paul
Mar 28, 2012 Alfie Paul rated it it was amazing
I adored this book. It's a charming little tale of a band of misfits and really spoke to me about being different in a world of conformity. I'd add that I've read this several times, and given it to many people who have ended up loving it as much as me.
Cynthia Sillitoe
Jan 07, 2017 Cynthia Sillitoe rated it really liked it
Okay, so there's story behind this book in my house. My mom loved it, but every time she read it, she teased me about the age I had to be to read it. 18, 21, 25, 30. Last time she read it, she said I had to be 40. I was 33 when she died and I set it aside as my 40th birthday present from my mom.

First off, I wish it were on Kindle because the font is small and I tend to skim things.

Second, just a little more sperm and ejaculation than I care to read about and a little too much romanticizing abo
Candi Sary
Oct 17, 2013 Candi Sary rated it it was amazing
"The Man Who Fell In Love With The Moon" is like no other book I've ever read. Spanbauer is a fabulous storyteller! He does something magical on the pages as he brings his characters and scenes to life. The book's unique perspective of the Old West is fascinating. Yes, his characters are flawed and sometimes behave in ways that made me uncomfortable, but that's part of what makes the book so interesting. I read a review where the reader gave the book a low rating in part because she thought the ...more
Dena Guzman
Jul 31, 2012 Dena Guzman rated it really liked it
I first read this book in college, I think. I remember getting it on sale. I was intrigued by the cover. I read it up so fast; such excellent storytelling.

Over the years, I have met other people who have read this book (at the time I lived in Las Vegas and barely knew anyone who read to begin with) and the opinions vary so much. I think it's one of the best told stories I've ever read. I do see issues with portrayals of gender/race/sexuality, of course. And I am sensitive to those things and al
Kevin Filocamo
Feb 29, 2012 Kevin Filocamo rated it it was amazing
This is an amazing book, one that I've read numerous times and continue to marvel at the story and the way it has been told. It is a powerful, uniquely-told story of Shed -- a person who does not quite fit the too-neat categories we use for race, gender, or sexual identity -- and his journey toward self-knowledge, acceptance and a strong, solid love. Surrounded by lovable, unique characters -- all living on the fringes of "acceptable" society -- Shed's journey is one that many will identify with ...more
Apr 20, 2011 Sarah rated it really liked it
I thought this was beautiful, and its racial portrayals did not trouble me much in the same way that Francesca Lia Block does not trouble me, because the overarching themes of love and healing are more powerful than being politically correct. I guess I also fold in religious portrayals with racial portrayals, which also did not trouble me about the book but trouble me in life. What troubles me is that reviews generally don't point out that the trope of the evil, one-sided Mormon is also a raging ...more
Aug 17, 2011 Jeff rated it it was amazing
Shelves: history-american
How the West was fumbled. A more mismatched set of tormented souls you will never meet, except possibly in Dante's Inferno and Purgatorio. And yet, despite lives of hurt, hardship, and denial, the men and women in this American-style take on magical realism will charm you earn your respect, and make you want to slap them upside they heads when they do the self-destructive things they do.

These folks have been through Hell, are too big for purgatory, and won't step foot in heaven even when the pea
B. Mason
Jul 15, 2015 B. Mason rated it it was amazing
On his podcast, Sherman Alexie mentioned Tom Spanbauer's novel to be a good depiction of Native Americans written by a white author. Along with this resounding compliment Spanbauer also manages to present a completely different take on the American West. The importance of relationships, honesty and community in a harsh and racist landscape is profoundly articulated in this novel where the pace circles but never ceases to engage the reader. The voice of Shed, guiding the reader through his world ...more
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Tom Spanbauer is a novelist and the founder of Dangerous Writing. As a writer he has explored issues of race, of sexual identity, of how we make a family for ourselves in order to surmount the limitations of the families into which we are born.

His published novels are Faraway Places, The Man Who Fell In Love With The Moon, In The City Of Shy Hunters, Now Is the Hour, and coming out April 1st 2014
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