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And the Bride Wore White: Seven Secrets to Sexual Purity

4.04 of 5 stars 4.04  ·  rating details  ·  1,142 ratings  ·  65 reviews
'As a mother of two teenage daughters, I cannot think of any book more beautifully inspiring than And the Bride Wore White. My daughters love Dannah's insights, humor and her call for a life without regrets...I am deeply grateful for the realistic role model she is for my daughters...she has changed their lives and in doing so she has changed mine.' Tammy Maltby, author an ...more
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Published January 1st 2004 by Moody Publishers (first published 1999)
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John Egbert
Warning: I will be making fun of myself, Jesus, God, and Satan. Oh, and also, this book. Beware.

Warning Warning: If after reading this review you feel the need to tell me I'm A)going to go to hell, B)am mocking god or Jesus and therefore I will go to hell, C)something really bad will happen to me or D)I simply don't understand because I haven't yet accepted Jesus as my savior then save it. description
I've heard it before and I just don't care. Amen.

This is for the pure lulz. You're continuing reading at y
Emily May
I hate the ideas in this book. This is a dangerous and ridiculous idea that teaches girls that they are only as important as their hymen. Why isn't this book about the groom? Why must a woman remain sexually abstinent but not a man?
It's an outrage that this kind of crap can be published and I only hope young people will see sense and reject this backward nonsense. It must be bad times when I find myself hoping that girls will look to shows like Gossip Girl as an inspiration, but compared to harm

The wtfuckery in this book is astounding. I can't even believe people think like this. Then, all I have to do is look at books like Mara Dyer that are subsets of this mode of thought.
 Danielle The Book Huntress (Angels Weep For Goodreads)
I really appreciate that Ms. Gresh wrote this book. I find myself somewhat resistant in a way, because I don't like to identify myself with the religious right, although my Christian faith and commitment to saving myself for marriage is very real to me. Even with my resistance, what she is writing in this book really speaks to me. I like that she includes objective research on sexuality. That adds a level of credibility. She also cites scriptures that pertain to sexuality. The only issue I've ha ...more
Terri Lynn
This was yet another dud, I mean, book that was recently given to me by a Christian woman who knows we are Atheists but hoped my 19 year old daughter would read them. After the daughter turned 50 Shades of Red and Purple and blasted enough angry steam rise off the top of her head to outblow a volcano, I backed away to throw these things away (lest some innocent person accidentally read this trash) then decided to have a peek at the Dark side, the sexual and dating advice 21st century religious f ...more
This book seems fake and not only that, I cannot STAND the fact that she basically says women do not have a sexual desire, and that it's a front put on by feminist ideas in modern society. Like we can make no decisions for ourselves and men are over bearing and perverted.

SHAME on you.
May 03, 2011 Lynn rated it 5 of 5 stars  ·  review of another edition
Recommended to Lynn by: Sunday school teacher
Shelves: personal-library
This book really changed my understanding of why purity is so important.

Dannah Gresh is putting forth a great effort to teach young Christian women like myself the value of staying pure not just physically, but mentally and emotionally, too. She doesn't condemn those who have made mistakes in these areas, but rather gives encouragement to get things right with God and others and to start fresh with a new commitment to purity.

There were a few small points that I didn't totally agree with - but
Jun 22, 2007 Ashlie rated it 5 of 5 stars  ·  review of another edition
Recommends it for: Every teen and young woman.
I really enjoyed this book. Every young teenage girl, and young adult woman, should definantly read this book. If you are committed to stay sexually abstinent, util after you are married, this book will help, and encourage you.
This book has been a tremendous help to me in my journey toward regaining purity. I'm a 21 year old college student and I believe that any teenage girl or young woman looking to live a pure lifestyle, or maybe questioning why, SHOULD read this book! It's beautifully written and has amazing moments of hurt, healing and triumph. Dannah writes with a very non-judgemental and understanding/compassionate tone. I love the book and will probably read it again. HIGHLY recommend. :)
Laura Williamson ditto
I read this book in High School (about 4 years ago) and thought it was very encouraging and insightful. It is written for Christian women who want to live their lives in a manner that is pleasing to God. This writer never states that sex is "bad" neither does she suggest that a woman should be "enslaved to a sexist man" as other reviewers of this book have indicated. I don't think Gresh wrote this book to convince girls to "keep their legs crossed," I believe she wrote it to encourage young Chri ...more
Nov 30, 2012 Brittany rated it 4 of 5 stars  ·  review of another edition
Recommends it for: Moms, Girls Group ministry leaders, Young adults, teenagers,
This is a great book for women of any age, especially teenagers, to try understand sexual purity. It's very easy to read and understand, and it also gives practical advice to stay on the path of purity which is very important. I think this book lacks in explaining the forgiveness and restoration of God for those who didn't wait to have sex for marriage. The book seems to assume the girls who are going to be reading this books are Virgins. Unfortunately in this day and age that won't be the case ...more
Anna Matsuyama
These are messages that books like this one sends:

A woman is a commodity, and no one wants a sloppy seconds, right?

A man is a customer, so he should have sex and date women before marriage, so he could compare and choose best suited partner.


Women who have sex before marriage are impure, polluted and immoral.

They have gone astray. Deep down they have no self respect and men doesn't respect them either.

Oct 02, 2012 Charlotte marked it as if-you-recommend-this-i-ll-bite-you  ·  review of another edition
"The end result are usable "how-to-say-no" skills that can reduce the risk of a young woman's heart being broken by sexual sin."


So, according to this book, women are precious little lambs who will always be coerced into having sex with men whose come-on lines are always "Trust me". Lord forbid that a woman might actually have a mind of her OWN. Lord forbid that you should write the same book for a GUY. Because we all know women are pure creatures who have no sexual feelings whatso
Melody Cantwell
Gresh has grace and understanding. Though she can appear legalistic and out-of-touch, it's really the reader who does not know her own heart.

Not everything she says is Gospel truth. She places too much emphasis on waiting and counting on your impending marriage. But no one is guaranteed a wedding and family. The single life is appropriate for some, and encouragement to live godly lives with or without a husband is most important.

Gresh speaks truth and gives helpful advice. But really, if you w
Sarah Moon
among the worst books I've ever read.
Peninah Odhiambo
Am glad we still have people who encourage sexual purity and actually help explain how to achieve it. Many times am preached to in church how horrible it is to commit sexual immorality but not how to deal with my sexuality since its part of me.

This book encourages, tell me how to be pure the biblical way.

May god use you Danna Gresh more and more
I did not like this book AT ALL. I have read a few christian purity books and this one is by far the worst one. It was very poorly written and sometimes it left me confused. I couldn't finish it and requested a refund from Amazon. I am sure it would be suitable for someone who is in their teens, but it wasn't for me.
Becky Harris
Some things I did not agree with, but overall a very insightful, challenging book.
I would recommend it to all girls who are waiting or who are in a time of "second chance."
When I came home one day, my mom gave me this book, raved about how great it was, and the first thing I did was hide it in some drawer. I didn't want anything to do with it.
This book then caused quite a few arguments as she would question me almost every day for months about it and I still refused to read the book.

Eventually, she told me I had to read this book or not read any others, and I was having trouble keeping all my books at my Dad's, so I gave in. I spent the first few chapters rollin
Lady Nicole
Jan 07, 2015 Lady Nicole rated it 4 of 5 stars  ·  review of another edition
Recommends it for: Christian teen/collage age girls and their moms
Recommended to Lady Nicole by: My closest friend
Let me start out by saying I enjoyed reading this book. But for the first six or seven chapters I was unimpessed. I had read Josh harris's 'I kissed dating goodbye', first and agreed with most every word. So I felt a little funny when she talked about 'dating'. Plus I've never dated so I was somewhat annoyed during the chapter about breaking up. So while I prefere the word courtship and the old fashion principles it implies, I discovered that for the most part it is the same idea. What I get fro ...more
This book was good, and I think it would be very beneficial to many girls, especially those in there teens.
A lot of the things covered I don't really struggle from, but the overall message is good. :)
I think the author handled it all really well, with grace and understanding, and it was easy to read. Challenging, too.
Highly recommend this book to everyone seeking sexual purity. I read this book while dating my now-husband and it really set a good pace for our relationship! It opens your eyes to the hurtful nature of sin & its lasting consequences even years after. Wonderful book & the author really did her research!
Deb Brammer
I found this book really helpful as I prepared to teach "purity classes" to the teenage girls in our church. I took a different approach at points, but really profited from the ideas she presented in this book.
Caroline Abbott
Helps a woman strive toward purity on her way to marriage. Loved it!
I read this book 10 years ago when my daughter was a baby. It really helped me understand the mistakes I kept making in relationships. I bought an extra copy with the intention of giving it to her when she becomes a preteen. I can't believe the time is here.
This is a great book for young girls to read and realize the power and value they have in dating relationships. I can't wait to reread this book with my daughter and prayerfully help her to avoid some of the life altering mistakes that many
Teresa J.
This is a very good book. I highly recommend it.
Good reminder of the value of purity
Mar 31, 2014 Navessa marked it as stahp  ·  review of another edition
I think this message is something that needs to be hammered into the heads of todays' youth because they are so misguided by what they see on TV and what they believe is the standard. I felt like this was a good book, but there were some parts that could have been a little more interesting. Still, I really thought the message was relevant and I would definitely recommend.

*Taken from my book reviews blog:
While this book was quite informative on how to conduct oneself sexually in any relationship, I found it to be a bit dull. It was helpful at parts, but all in did not seem to apply to me, nor did it help me figure out how to go about having a proper relationship with a man. There seemed to be no sincerity and just was a disappointment, in my opinion . Others get quite a bit of use out of it, and I thank God for it. Personally, it did not help me.
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