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And the Bride Wore White: Seven Secrets to Sexual Purity

4.05  ·  Rating Details ·  1,482 Ratings  ·  76 Reviews
'As a mother of two teenage daughters, I cannot think of any book more beautifully inspiring than And the Bride Wore White. My daughters love Dannah's insights, humor and her call for a life without regrets...I am deeply grateful for the realistic role model she is for my daughters...she has changed their lives and in doing so she has changed mine.' Tammy Maltby, author an ...more
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Published January 1st 2004 by Moody Publishers (first published 1999)
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John Egbert
Oct 17, 2011 John Egbert rated it did not like it  ·  review of another edition
Recommends it for: Naive idiots
Recommended to John by: A naive idiot
Warning: I will be making fun of myself, Jesus, God, and Satan. Oh, and also, this book. Beware.

Warning Warning: If after reading this review you feel the need to tell me I'm A)going to go to hell, B)am mocking god or Jesus and therefore I will go to hell, C)something really bad will happen to me or D)I simply don't understand because I haven't yet accepted Jesus as my savior then save it. description
I've heard it before and I just don't care. Amen.

This is for the pure lulz. You're continuing reading at y
Emily May
Sep 30, 2014 Emily May rated it did not like it  ·  review of another edition
Shelves: non-fiction
I hate the ideas in this book. This is a dangerous and ridiculous idea that teaches girls that they are only as important as their hymen. Why isn't this book about the groom? Why must a woman remain sexually abstinent but not a man?
It's an outrage that this kind of crap can be published and I only hope young people will see sense and reject this backward nonsense. It must be bad times when I find myself hoping that girls will look to shows like Gossip Girl as an inspiration, but compared to harm
Sep 17, 2011 Cory rated it did not like it  ·  review of another edition

The wtfuckery in this book is astounding. I can't even believe people think like this. Then, all I have to do is look at books like Mara Dyer that are subsets of this mode of thought.
 Danielle The Book Huntress (Back to the Books)
I really appreciate that Ms. Gresh wrote this book. I find myself somewhat resistant in a way, because I don't like to identify myself with the religious right, although my Christian faith and commitment to saving myself for marriage is very real to me. Even with my resistance, what she is writing in this book really speaks to me. I like that she includes objective research on sexuality. That adds a level of credibility. She also cites scriptures that pertain to sexuality. The only issue I've ha ...more
Terri Lynn
This was yet another dud, I mean, book that was recently given to me by a Christian woman who knows we are Atheists but hoped my 19 year old daughter would read them. After the daughter turned 50 Shades of Red and Purple and blasted enough angry steam rise off the top of her head to outblow a volcano, I backed away to throw these things away (lest some innocent person accidentally read this trash) then decided to have a peek at the Dark side, the sexual and dating advice 21st century religious f ...more
Jul 08, 2016 Heather rated it did not like it  ·  review of another edition
Shelves: christian, dnra, faith
This book has such great lessons for young women about staying pure for their husbands and God! It’s so great that someone wrote this book! And the lessons are so important! So I put them in a list so that I could always refer back to these godly teachings on purity!

On Female Sexuality

*women’s sexual needs are universal girls are like robots, they are all the same. what are lesbians again?
*except I forgot that there are terrible women who apparently have sexual feelings like men real women have
Sep 24, 2012 Rebekah rated it did not like it  ·  review of another edition
This book seems fake and not only that, I cannot STAND the fact that she basically says women do not have a sexual desire, and that it's a front put on by feminist ideas in modern society. Like we can make no decisions for ourselves and men are over bearing and perverted.

SHAME on you.
Jun 22, 2007 Ashlie rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
Recommends it for: Every teen and young woman.
I really enjoyed this book. Every young teenage girl, and young adult woman, should definantly read this book. If you are committed to stay sexually abstinent, util after you are married, this book will help, and encourage you.
Oct 02, 2012 Charlotte marked it as if-you-recommend-this-i-ll-bite-you  ·  review of another edition
"The end result are usable "how-to-say-no" skills that can reduce the risk of a young woman's heart being broken by sexual sin."


So, according to this book, women are precious little lambs who will always be coerced into having sex with men whose come-on lines are always "Trust me". Lord forbid that a woman might actually have a mind of her OWN. Lord forbid that you should write the same book for a GUY. Because we all know women are pure creatures who have no sexual feelings whatso
May 03, 2011 Lynn rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
Recommended to Lynn by: Sunday school teacher
Shelves: personal-library
This book really changed my understanding of why purity is so important.

Dannah Gresh is putting forth a great effort to teach young Christian women like myself the value of staying pure not just physically, but mentally and emotionally, too. She doesn't condemn those who have made mistakes in these areas, but rather gives encouragement to get things right with God and others and to start fresh with a new commitment to purity.

There were a few small points that I didn't totally agree with - but
Jun 28, 2013 Marjorie rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
This book has been a tremendous help to me in my journey toward regaining purity. I'm a 21 year old college student and I believe that any teenage girl or young woman looking to live a pure lifestyle, or maybe questioning why, SHOULD read this book! It's beautifully written and has amazing moments of hurt, healing and triumph. Dannah writes with a very non-judgemental and understanding/compassionate tone. I love the book and will probably read it again. HIGHLY recommend. :)
Nov 30, 2012 Brittany rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
Recommends it for: Moms, Girls Group ministry leaders, Young adults, teenagers,
This is a great book for women of any age, especially teenagers, to try understand sexual purity. It's very easy to read and understand, and it also gives practical advice to stay on the path of purity which is very important. I think this book lacks in explaining the forgiveness and restoration of God for those who didn't wait to have sex for marriage. The book seems to assume the girls who are going to be reading this books are Virgins. Unfortunately in this day and age that won't be the case ...more
Laura Williamson ditto
I read this book in High School (about 4 years ago) and thought it was very encouraging and insightful. It is written for Christian women who want to live their lives in a manner that is pleasing to God. This writer never states that sex is "bad" neither does she suggest that a woman should be "enslaved to a sexist man" as other reviewers of this book have indicated. I don't think Gresh wrote this book to convince girls to "keep their legs crossed," I believe she wrote it to encourage young Chri ...more
Feb 22, 2015 Tracy rated it did not like it  ·  review of another edition
Shelves: abandoned
Short review:
Nope, nope, nope, NOPE.

Longer review:
I got this book after I was told it was good for book studies with youth groups. I started to read it thinking it might be good for a group study with some of the girls in my youth group. I quickly decided it was not for us; these are the same ideas that lead to shame and unhealthy sexual identities. Books like this are good in theory (kind of) but teach(although likely inadvertently) girls that their worth is in what they have or have not done s
Peninah Odhiambo
Feb 11, 2014 Peninah Odhiambo rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
Am glad we still have people who encourage sexual purity and actually help explain how to achieve it. Many times am preached to in church how horrible it is to commit sexual immorality but not how to deal with my sexuality since its part of me.

This book encourages, tell me how to be pure the biblical way.

May god use you Danna Gresh more and more
Jul 25, 2016 Navessa marked it as stahp  ·  review of another edition
Sep 19, 2011 Ashley rated it liked it  ·  review of another edition
When I came home one day, my mom gave me this book, raved about how great it was, and the first thing I did was hide it in some drawer. I didn't want anything to do with it.
This book then caused quite a few arguments as she would question me almost every day for months about it and I still refused to read the book.

Eventually, she told me I had to read this book or not read any others, and I was having trouble keeping all my books at my Dad's, so I gave in. I spent the first few chapters rollin
Sep 19, 2011 Hannah rated it it was ok  ·  review of another edition
While this book was quite informative on how to conduct oneself sexually in any relationship, I found it to be a bit dull. It was helpful at parts, but all in did not seem to apply to me, nor did it help me figure out how to go about having a proper relationship with a man. There seemed to be no sincerity and just was a disappointment, in my opinion . Others get quite a bit of use out of it, and I thank God for it. Personally, it did not help me.
Feb 20, 2012 Lylia rated it did not like it  ·  review of another edition
Shelves: dnf
I did not like this book AT ALL. I have read a few christian purity books and this one is by far the worst one. It was very poorly written and sometimes it left me confused. I couldn't finish it and requested a refund from Amazon. I am sure it would be suitable for someone who is in their teens, but it wasn't for me.
Mar 14, 2016 Amanda rated it liked it  ·  review of another edition
This is another book where, though good can be taken out of it, young Christians may leave it with blind optimism leading to personal self-shaming. The overall message assumes a wedding dress, the perfect husband (secured through the use of a checklist) as well as rash judgements about the character of males vs. females. Good if read mindfully.
May 24, 2015 Sydney rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
Such a great book. I loved it. I have my mindset on staying pure and this book will help me to keep my promise to myself!
Jul 16, 2011 Regan rated it liked it  ·  review of another edition
It was good! There were a few a few corney and/or things that were kind of personal that she could have left out. But overall it helped me set some good standards.
Nov 08, 2012 Becky rated it liked it  ·  review of another edition
Shelves: non-fiction
Some things I did not agree with, but overall a very insightful, challenging book.
I would recommend it to all girls who are waiting or who are in a time of "second chance."
Sarah Moon
Oct 19, 2014 Sarah Moon rated it did not like it  ·  review of another edition
among the worst books I've ever read.
Gabrielle W.
Though I'm not the target demographic for this book-it's aimed towards preteen/teenage girls while I'm in my mid-twenties-when I started reading I couldn't put it down.
And the Bride Wore White is written for Christian women who desire to live their lives to please God.
Unlike some reviews I've read, the author never states that sex is bad, or even suggests that the man owns the women no matter his request....She does open your eyes to how hurtful sin can be, and how even years later it can haunt
Lady Nicole
Jan 07, 2015 Lady Nicole rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
Recommends it for: Christian teen/collage age girls and their moms
Recommended to Lady Nicole by: My closest friend
Let me start out by saying I enjoyed reading this book. But for the first six or seven chapters I was unimpessed. I had read Josh harris's 'I kissed dating goodbye', first and agreed with most every word. So I felt a little funny when she talked about 'dating'. Plus I've never dated so I was somewhat annoyed during the chapter about breaking up. So while I prefere the word courtship and the old fashion principles it implies, I discovered that for the most part it is the same idea. What I get fro ...more
I’ve read this book twice so far, once in 11th grade and again in 12th. Someone from my younger sister’s church gave her a copy of And the Bride Wore White, and my sister, in turn, gave it to me (mainly because she grew tired of my asking to borrow it all the time).
Dannah Gresh uses the Bible as the ultimate guideline for purity, and quotes verses throughout every chapter. Also, she shares her own experiences, giving a personal, rather than removed look at how a young woman in Christ should an
Denise DiFalco
Mar 26, 2016 Denise DiFalco rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition

Dannah Gresh's '"And The Bride Wore White`Seven Secrets to Sexual Purity"' is the perfect book to share with teen daughter's. Sometimes our children listen better to others who can relate to them and this book establishes to young women that if you want true joy and confidence, it is better to wait to have sex. The world we live in now is much more difficult for young people when the majority of their peers are going in the wrong direction. Ms. Gresh also addresses important topics
such as brea
Nina Test
Mar 09, 2016 Nina Test rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
I started to read some christian relationship books recently because i just started a relationship and i was intrigued on what they had to say. I wasn't expecting much out of the books and I didn't think I'd enjoy them, but with this one i was pleasantly surprised! Dannah approached this topic wonderfully. I was interested and focused while reading. She made me rethink some certain aspect of m relationship. She opened my eyes. It was very insightful and full of knowledge. Im very glad that I dec ...more
Yulia Mamonova
Oct 07, 2015 Yulia Mamonova rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
Книга, яка вказує дуже ясне розуміння, як поводитися у відносинах, що ведуть до шлюбу. Вона мотивує боротися за чистоту думок та тіла. Особливо корисними мені були завданням після кожного розділу, які допомагали зосередитися на тому, що прочитала і застосувати це до свого життя. Рекомендую до прочитання!
A book that gives very specific ideas about the time before you get married. It motivates you to save the purity of your mind as well as your body. I especially enjoyed all the Assessments after
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