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Things Your Mother Never Told You

3.39  ·  Rating Details ·  98 Ratings  ·  21 Reviews
'I hate you. When I'm a mother, I'm never going to be like you...' These words come back to haunt Ros, years later. As her marriage of twenty years collapses and her beloved twin sons prepare to flee the nest, Ros's world is tilting on its axis.It doesn't help that her dead mother seems to have taken up residence in her head, reminding her of things she once said.
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Paperback, 288 pages
Published September 3rd 2009 by Orion (first published May 1st 2008)
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Oct 27, 2010 Uci rated it really liked it
I remember texting my mother days -even months- after she's gone, to a number that doesn't exist, hoping against hope that she'll answer with her sweet words like she used to. It never happen, of course. She left me with a hole that could never be completely fulfilled.

Jadi begini, perasaan saya terbelah mengenai novel ini. Saya suka topiknya, bahwa ada beberapa hal yang mungkin tidak akan pernah kita ketahui tentang orangtua kita. Mungkin karena mereka sengaja merahasiakannya, mungkin juga kare
Mar 03, 2013 Supriya rated it liked it
A readable novel - brings all of the author's personality into the book. A believable protagonist - with all her foibles and oddities, she is nevertheless a likeable woman. The peculiar relationships of mothers and daughters in a modern setting is well described, although not particular psychological revelations as such, I still read the whole book through.
Jun 08, 2013 Buchdoktor rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
Shelves: family
Als Ros verstorbene Mutter Lillian zu ihrer Tochter spricht und ihr wie zu Lebzeiten Vorschriften macht, Ros sogar durch ein Medium Kontakt zu Lillian aufnimmt, hätte ich das Buch am liebsten ungelesen zurückgestellt. Doch Olivia Lichtenstein hat eine so trockene Art, ihre Figuren zu charakterisieren und handeln zu lassen, dass ich mich trotzdem in der Mutter-Tochter-Geschichte festgelesen habe.

Als Kind fand Ros ihre Mutter mit den ewigen Anekdoten über afrikanische Musik und exotische Lebensmit
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Mar 30, 2012 Annie Kookie rated it really liked it
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Nov 23, 2010 Dessy rated it liked it
Shelves: english, read-in-2010
cerita tentang ibu dan anak..*again* :D
setelah tak pernah bosan dengan buku-buku amy tan yg selalu berkisah tentang hubungan ibu & anak, kali ini aku ter-summon oleh judul buku ini :D

kisah hubungan ibu & putrinya yg tidak begitu harmonis. sampai saat si ibu(lilian) meninggal dan ros putrinya menyadari bahwa banyak hal ttg ibunya yg tidak ia ketahui dan kemudian menyesali tingkah lakunya semasa ibunya hidup.

dalam buku ini olivia lichtenstein juga bercerita ttg hubungan ros yg gagal dgn su
Apr 03, 2015 Dinallissima rated it liked it
I didn't warm to the book from the beginning ,some how it stayed on my night stand for two month and was an on off reading relationship. It could be that the book didn't catch my attention or possibly that life was hectic and busy that reading a book was simply another hard chore rather than a treat. Only by the half of the book that I got hooked up and really wanted to finish it. The bit I loved the most is the sad truth and reality how really most of us don't know our mothers. Because before ...more
Aug 23, 2013 Lara rated it liked it
Shelves: 2013
Middle-aged Ros goes in for computer-dating and hanging out with her ridiculously too-good-to-be true gay friend when her marriage stalls and her mother dies.

Found the author's constant explanations of her characters actions and back-stories tedious. And - SPOILER ALERT - I fear for our schools if dumb Ros is a typical teacher. The "I like that pina colada song" guy she contacts on a dating website sounds like her husband, her husband is there when she goes to meet her date, but it takes her aro
Mar 21, 2011 Penny rated it liked it
This book is a light and engaging read that asks the question 'Can one resolve a relationship after it has gone?'. For Ros, there are a couple of relationships she needs to resolve - her difficult, yet close, relationship with her secretive mother, and the relationship with her husband, which breaks down after the death of her mother. The story of Ros's mother growing up in South Africa in the 1950's is the true heart of this story, and is told through the use of a story her mother wrote for ...more
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May 14, 2015 Athena Macmillan rated it it was amazing
You can tell when reading a book, whether or not the author is truly emotionally invested in what they have written. This book in particular is written with such a delicate poignancy that at times it feels almost autobiographical, or at least based in situations that she has experienced for herself. The vibrant characters and depth of their situations often had me chuckling and occasionally even brought a tear to my eye, though that also could have been allergies. It features the changing ...more
Nov 23, 2012 KarenV rated it liked it
3.5 stars. The first 100 or so pages of this book (1/3rd of the total), I wasn't sure whether I liked it or not and certainly it was a solid 3 star read *at best*. It seemed disjointed to me, a bit of a slog to read and I wasn't sure about the characters. It picked up greatly when Ros, the main character, started finding out about her (recently deceased) mother Lilian's early life in apartheid South Africa and the last few chapters were genuinely moving. I would have liked to have read more ...more
Sally Marshall
Oct 17, 2015 Sally Marshall rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
Shelves: 2015
Loved it!!!!
I picked up this book and read a page and thought mmmm maybe not for me and left it on the bedside and read something else. I am glad I came back to it! What a great fantastically written story! I found myself thinking about the book while I was at work etc waiting to come home and finish it. It's a sad but light story about self discovery, letting go of passed loved ones and realizing you never really know your parents history. Keen to read more from this author
Patricia Sands
Jul 26, 2010 Patricia Sands rated it really liked it
Olivia is a most successful documentary film-maker in the UK who is turning her talents to writing. This is her second novel. Typical of her writing style it is current, touching, and humorous as it blends the complexities of personal relationships with unexpected insight into the years of the anti-apartheid movement in South Africa.
May 03, 2013 Yael rated it really liked it
I really enjoyed the book. Nice interwoven story between the past and the present. Really beautiful emotional ending. As a South African, my own faults would be some spelling mistakes of South African things eg. Karoo spelt as Karroo and babootie instead of bobotie. But then maybe I'm just nit-picking!
Apr 14, 2010 Sita rated it liked it
Shelves: fiction
Refreshing take on mother-daughter relationship compared with the daughter's own relationship with everyone else. Got some bits of historical drama thrown in. I wished she had written more about the mother though as I think the mother's life is fascinating. The ending feels a bit rushed for me but satisfying read nevertheless.
Patricia Sands
Oct 13, 2010 Patricia Sands rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
I'm not sure about the confusion in the titles. I read it as Things Your Mother Never Told You. I enjoy this author's writing style and great sense of humour - would read anything of hers.
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