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Surviving the Death of a Sibling: Living Through Grief When an Adult Brother or Sister Dies

4.23  ·  Rating Details  ·  137 Ratings  ·  19 Reviews
When T.J. Wray lost her 43-year-old brother, her grief was deep and enduring and, she soon discovered, not fully acknowledged. Despite the longevity of adult sibling relationships, surviving siblings are often made to feel as if their grief is somehow unwarranted. After all, when an adult sibling dies, he or she often leaves behind parents, a spouse, and even children#8212 ...more
ebook, 272 pages
Published February 4th 2009 by Harmony (first published May 27th 2003)
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Jo
Aug 28, 2010 Jo rated it it was amazing
This book is also very good & helpful. It's the only one I've found so far on living through grief when an adult brother or sister dies (which is also the subtitle of the book). I like that that its targeted that way. It has touched on things that I'm experiencing that no other book focussed on losing a parent, child, or spouse has expressed (and the ones on losing a sibling as a child I just couldn't finish, it's not the same) in quite the way I needed to hear it. [Like the, probably well-m ...more
Sonja
Jan 08, 2009 Sonja rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
This helped me a LOT after the death of my younger brother, at age 25 of cancer. Highly recommend to people who have lost a sibling. We are the forgotten grievers.
Ali
Jul 07, 2008 Ali rated it liked it  ·  review of another edition
I found myself lost in a foreign land, and read this book looking for a roadmap to get me to through to the other side.

My expectations were unrealistic. There are no maps to this new land.
Merlina
Oct 12, 2011 Merlina rated it liked it
“But how can I learn to live in a world that doesn’t include my brother? All my life, I’ve always been my brother’s sister; it’s part of my identity, part of who I am. My brother is part of my past; we share a common history. And we had plans for the future.” – T.J. Wray “Surviving the Death of a Sibling.”

There is so little literature out there on dealing with the death of a sibling, that, I welcomed this book at first. But, ultimately, for me, Wray’s analysis was not very helpful, mired as it w
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Liesbeth
Jun 13, 2010 Liesbeth rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
No magical cure for the unbelievable pain caused by losing a sibling, but recognition. And understanding. A feeling of not being totally alone. Hopefully will help those who are left behind in those dark dark moments.
Aunt Edie
That is a very dry title for a book that is anything but dry. However, I will concede to its usefulness - if you are searching for a book about surviving the death of an adult sibling the title lets you know you've found your manual. I found the book to be everything I was looking for, both for myself and to give to those around me. I've already bought three copies. While it is obviously a helpful guide for those who are grieving, I think it would be as helpful - if not more - to those who are t ...more
Sara
Jan 31, 2014 Sara rated it really liked it
Wow, as someone experiencing the loss of an adult sibling this book spoke directly to me. It deals with many things including learning about grief and how to deal with people (even those close to you) that just cannot understand. There are not many resources out there that speak specifically about this type of loss so this is really a great read for a person in this unthinkable situation.
Mickey
Apr 22, 2016 Mickey rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
Even though my siblings died later in life, this book helped me enormously. Just validating my feelings was beneficial.
K. Marie Jones
Mar 24, 2016 K. Marie Jones rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
Very beneficial to read as it specifically describes the dynamic of loss of a sibling. very recommended
Katie
Feb 27, 2016 Katie rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
Finished 2/28/16 - 6 month anniversary of James' death.
Linda Carvelli
Apr 09, 2015 Linda Carvelli rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
comforting
Cindy
Nov 24, 2007 Cindy rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
Recommends it for: those looking for healing after a suicide
Shelves: booksforhealing
T.J. does a wonderful job of describing emotions that siblings go threw even thought we may not always be recognized as griefing like other family members are when there is a loss of a loved one. I would strongly recommend this to any sibling or other family member that is not as recogized as a griver after the death of a loved on.
Judi Kling
Dec 05, 2012 Judi Kling rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
This is an amazing book. One of many books on grief that I read when my brother passed away from cancer. This was by far the best for adult siblings. I've purchased several copies to give to others, and have recommended this book over and over again.
Alyssa
Jun 30, 2012 Alyssa rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
I read this book in 2010 right after my 34 year old sister Tara passed away. It seemed as thought I could relate to every sentence on every single page. It was a very helpful book & it defintely showed me that I wasn't alone.
Bernie Tomasso
Aug 25, 2013 Bernie Tomasso rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
This book is very helpful if you have lost a sibling. There are few books on this topic.
Martine
Aug 21, 2010 Martine rated it liked it  ·  review of another edition
Shelves: psychology
Little is written on the death of a sibling. This is a must!
Bev
Nov 28, 2010 Bev rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
Great help.
Barbara Graves
Very helpful...
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So far, so good.
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“But how can I learn to live in a world that doesn’t include my brother? All my life, I’ve always been my brother’s sister; it’s part of my identity, part of who I am. My brother is part of my past; we share a common history. And we had plans for the future.” 5 likes
“Is it any wonder, given the volatility of sibling love, that we might feel anger at a brother or a sister for dying? How dare they die and leave us! We feel angry, but there is no recourse, so we usually end up feeling guilty. We” 0 likes
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