Surviving the Death of a Sibling: Living Through Grief When an Adult Brother or Sister Dies
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Surviving the Death of a Sibling: Living Through Grief When an Adult Brother or Sister Dies

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When T.J. Wray lost her 43-year-old brother, her grief was deep and enduring and, she soon discovered, not fully acknowledged. Despite the longevity of adult sibling relationships, surviving siblings are often made to feel as if their grief is somehow unwarranted. After all, when an adult sibling dies, he or she often leaves behind parents, a spouse, and even children—all...more
Paperback, 272 pages
Published May 27th 2003 by Harmony
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Jo
This book is also very good & helpful. It's the only one I've found so far on living through grief when an adult brother or sister dies (which is also the subtitle of the book). I like that that its targeted that way. It has touched on things that I'm experiencing that no other book focussed on losing a parent, child, or spouse has expressed (and the ones on losing a sibling as a child I just couldn't finish, it's not the same) in quite the way I needed to hear it. [Like the, probably well-m...more
Merlina
“But how can I learn to live in a world that doesn’t include my brother? All my life, I’ve always been my brother’s sister; it’s part of my identity, part of who I am. My brother is part of my past; we share a common history. And we had plans for the future.” – T.J. Wray “Surviving the Death of a Sibling.”

There is so little literature out there on dealing with the death of a sibling, that, I welcomed this book at first. But, ultimately, for me, Wray’s analysis was not very helpful, mired as it w...more
Liesbeth
No magical cure for the unbelievable pain caused by losing a sibling, but recognition. And understanding. A feeling of not being totally alone. Hopefully will help those who are left behind in those dark dark moments.
Ali
I found myself lost in a foreign land, and read this book looking for a roadmap to get me to through to the other side.

My expectations were unrealistic. There are no maps to this new land.
Sonja
This helped me a LOT after the death of my younger brother, at age 25 of cancer. Highly recommend to people who have lost a sibling. We are the forgotten grievers.
Sara
Wow, as someone experiencing the loss of an adult sibling this book spoke directly to me. It deals with many things including learning about grief and how to deal with people (even those close to you) that just cannot understand. There are not many resources out there that speak specifically about this type of loss so this is really a great read for a person in this unthinkable situation.
Cindy
Nov 24, 2007 Cindy rated it 4 of 5 stars
Recommends it for: those looking for healing after a suicide
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T.J. does a wonderful job of describing emotions that siblings go threw even thought we may not always be recognized as griefing like other family members are when there is a loss of a loved one. I would strongly recommend this to any sibling or other family member that is not as recogized as a griver after the death of a loved on.
Judi Kling
This is an amazing book. One of many books on grief that I read when my brother passed away from cancer. This was by far the best for adult siblings. I've purchased several copies to give to others, and have recommended this book over and over again.
Alyssa
I read this book in 2010 right after my 34 year old sister Tara passed away. It seemed as thought I could relate to every sentence on every single page. It was a very helpful book & it defintely showed me that I wasn't alone.
Bernie Tomasso
This book is very helpful if you have lost a sibling. There are few books on this topic.
Martine
Little is written on the death of a sibling. This is a must!
Bev
Great help.
Barbara Graves
Very helpful...
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“But how can I learn to live in a world that doesn’t include my brother? All my life, I’ve always been my brother’s sister; it’s part of my identity, part of who I am. My brother is part of my past; we share a common history. And we had plans for the future.” 3 likes
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