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C'est ici que l'on se quitte

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Qu'y a-t-il de pire que d'enterrer son père ? Réponse : passer la semaine qui suit enfermé avec sa propre famille de dingues...
Morton Foxman s'en est allé. Mais avant de mourir, il a exprimé une dernière volonté : que sa famille célèbre la shiv'ah. Sept jours de deuil, ensemble, sous le même toit. Une perspective peu réjouissante pour ce clan qui ne s'est pas retrouvé ains...more
Paperback, 370 pages
Published October 8th 2009 by Fleuve Noir (first published 2009)
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Voice Over: Judd Foxman had the perfect job...

(on-air antics at the radio station; his boss makes a sexist joke)

VO: the perfect girl...

(hot young starlet (Jessica Biel?) smiles at camera)

VO: The perfect life... Until one day, it left him behind.

(smiling, Judd carries an ornate birthday cake into a bedroom. "Surprise, honey! Happy birthday!" Flash cut: Biel in bed, looking over a man's shoulder. "Judd!" The man turns, and it's Judd's boss. "Foxman! How's it hanging?" Back to Judd, who flings the...more
I picked up this book on the recommendation of an acquaintance whose taste I trust. And in reading the dust jacket flap, I was immediately drawn in by the idea of the book: a family -- four siblings -- mourning the death of their father, coming together for seven days to sit shiva. The book promised to be witty and biting, an unforgiving look at family dynamic. I'm in. Sign me up.


For sure there was some great language in here. Some sharp observations about disappointment and growing up and lo...more
This book is weak. I’m not usually a fan of novels that think they can hold their own merit on nothing but shock value and really bad sexual innuendos—I’m pretty sure this book may have overestimated itself. I’d even feel bad for it, but the fact that its shallow cliché-ness seems to beg for a Hollywood deal rather sucks up any pity I might have otherwise had.
Does this story sound like it’d tickle your funny bone? Judd Foxman and his wife Jen lost a baby during the last months of her pregnancy. A year later, he catches her in bed with his boss, a crude radio shock-jock. Months after that, Judd doesn’t have a job and is living in a crappy apartment when he gets the news that his father finally died after long battle with cancer. Just then, Jen drops by to let him know that she’s pregnant. Judd’s even more shocked to learn that his father’s last reques...more
Meh. This book was fine, but it wasn't good. My main problem is that there seemed to be a lot of anger at and objectifying of women on the part of the main character, Judd Foxman. There was a lot of talking about women (both young and old) as body parts (though to be fair, this happened a lot with the descriptions of men too) and as vehicles for Judd's fantasies. I get it that his wife cheated on him, but still I didn't like this part of the narrative. Maybe I just wasn't supposed to like Judd a...more
A grating combination of trying too hard to be funny, casual misogyny, and generally unsympathetic characters. Tropper also seems completely obsessed with judging the physiognomy and physiques of all of the characters, including minor ones that just show up to sit shiva or whatever. Heaven forbid that you grow old and expose any skin, or wear low-riding jeans postpartum. Everyone is physically icky except for the shining goddess of a wife who cheated on him, and all the women about whom he makes...more

-Probably one of the most effective combinations of heartbreaking and hilarious I've ever read.

-Something about it is cinematic, and almost begs to be turned into a movie (one that won't be as good as the book, of course), and subsequently a few of the plot points feel just very slightly bordering on cliché.

-It took me most of the book before I began to realize that, due to the narrator's state of depression, he's a bit hard to like. But at the same time, it's his wry observations that make the...more
Judd Foxman had a content but not always perfect marriage to the woman of his dreams. And then, I guess because Life just enjoys being an asshole, Life knocks Judd down. Judd and his wife lose their first baby, which causes Judd to lose his wife to his boss, which causes Judd to lose his job. And, because Life in this book likes to remorselessly kick people while they're down, Judd loses his father to cancer. And just when you think things can't get any worse, Judd finds out that his atheist fat...more
This was the first Jonathan Tropper book I read and I'm so glad I decided to pick it up. I work in a bookstore and this book kept catching my eye because of the simplicity of the design. Anyway, our main character is home to mourn the death of his father. Meanwhile, his personal life is falling to pieces. His family is like one big sitcom with twisting stories that most of us can only imagine. By the time I reached the end of the book, I was praying that there were more pages that had just falle...more
Tropper is a talented writer. His previoous books prove that. Unfortunately, in this book, you can see him trying to prove it. There are some passages that are well written and fit perfectly to the flow of the story. There are others that read like an observance or thought that he jotted down in his writing journal once upon a time, rediscovered it when he was writing this book, and forced a situation where he could use the phrase. It's too clever for its own good.

I also feel that Tropper's inne...more
Being married to Jonathan Tropper could scare a woman to death. This man knows women, their thoughts, what motivates them, their foibles, their intellects. He can put it all out there, too. Besides, he's a very sexy writer--he knows men, too, especially the side of them that has that morning wood thing going on all day, every day. But Tropper is not out for anything other than to spin a really great yarn about a family of grown children who haven't really gotten along very well for most of their...more
Five. Five. Five.

Fifty pages in and Tropper had declared himself one of my favorite authors. I will be reading more of his work ASAP.

Two words - Fucking hilarious.

Sex, Drugs, Love, Hate...in abundance. Love it.

I can't decide which I was drawn to more, Tropper's sarcastic wit or the not-so-subtle family dysfunction. I loved the idea of the four siblings and the erratic mother coming together to mourn the death of their father/husband. I fell in love with each of the siblings at some point or ano...more
This book made me think... if I were a character in a generic pseudo-indie dramedy what all would happen?

I'm thinking I would be a slightly bitter divorcee who chain smokes and uses scathing sarcasm as a defense mechanism. Coming home would unleash a fury of hilarious down home characters who would be surprised at my current state of bitchiness but would still embrace me, slowly chipping away at my hard exterior until my slightly warmer (still bitchy) interior is exposed. Maybe my ex-husband wou...more
To the critics who compare the Foxmans to the Bluth family, it's a comparison well made.

"This is Where I Leave You" tells the story of the Foxman family — four siblings and a mother — grieving the death of their father who they believe wants them all to sit shiva (they are Jewish) for the week following his death.

The book is told from the voice of Judd Foxman, who joins in the shiva just as his life is falling apart: a cheating spouse who tells him on the day of his father's death that she's pr...more
Around the same time Judd loses his father, he walks in on his wife of 10 years having sex with his boss. In their bedroom. Pretty vivid and erotic scene the narrator describes. Soon, Judd learns that his father's last wish was for the family to sit shiva (a 7-day ordeal). Some of the book centers around this weird family saga as you meet the characters through Judd's eyes as he flips to present and past tense, giving you the story as it unfolds at the shiva sit-in, and reflecting on his married...more
"The family that prays together stays together," or so a television commercial used to tell us. But can a family that DOESN'T pray together stay together -- for just a week? Even after a death in the family?

A Jewish family that has lost a parent, spouse, sibling, or child stays together for seven days -- to pray together and to mourn together -- or so Jewish law requires. The family created by Jonathan Tropper aims to do this because the children of the deceased are told that their father wante...more
Amanda Westmont
I *LOVED* this book. LOVED IT.

It has just about the best voice of any novel I've ever read. I love that it was written in first person present tense and that it made me laugh ACTUALLY OUT LOUD so many times. I kept stopping to highlight passages on my Kindle, which I only ever do if a book is really REALLY good.

Judd, a 35-year-old man in the middle of a torrid divorce, is recounting the early days with his wife:

"And even if you didn't fall in love in the eighties, in your mind it will feel like...more
Three stars feels a little generous because though the premise is promising (sitting shiva for their father, dysfuctional family must Learn to Get Along or Not) and it sailed along lightly (I could practically see the movie in my mind) the great big giant dollop of misogyny heaped on top really turned my stomach. Judd's constant snipes at women and their weight problems and their hotness quotient and typical male writers crap about the drag of being slave to their sex drive and the drag of being...more
Funny, profane and ultimately very insightful story centered around a Jewish family sitting shiva for their recently deceased father. I loved it! What a family, though. Egads. Can't wait to see the movie coming out soon - seems like Judd Foxman was just written to be played by Jason Bateman, doesn't it?

Recommend, but if you are easily offended, you'd best pass on this one.
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Did you catch the movie preview yesterday, folks??????


Mort Foxman has passed away after a long battle with stomach cancer. His dying wish was for the family to sit shiva. That means Judd Foxman will have to spend seven days with three siblings and their spouses/significant others that he hasn’t seen in years. While juggling the plethora of mourners who come to pay their respects each day, Judd al...more
Defines a new genre: "dick lit." A few moments of profound human interactions amid a sea of objectifying comments about women. Not a single female character passes by the author without some mention of her attractiveness or lack of as a sole criterion of her worth. Despicable.
Hilarious, sad, poignant, wise - but mostly hilarious. I read so many serious "dramas" and mystery/thrillers that this was like a breath of fresh air. I've seen the criticisms that it relied too heavily on crude sexual jokes and references and was clearly written with a film adaptation in mind - and these are likely true, but it was just so purely enjoyable that that doesn't bother me at all.
Apr 24, 2011 Nicole rated it 4 of 5 stars  ·  review of another edition
Recommends it for: Nick Hornby fans
Shiva is a Jewish mourning ritual during which a family mourns the death of one of their direct relatives for a period of seven days, all house mirrors are covered and all meals are provided by neighbors and friends. The Foxman family has just lost their patriarch, Mort, and are surprised that a nonreligious man has asked them to sit shiva after his death. And so, this family so accustomed at avoiding each other and suppressing all of their emotions, gathers at their family house to reflect on t...more
A few years ago I received an email from a bookseller with whom I’d traded a few friendly messages. This time she wrote because she was bursting with excitement over a novel she’d read and she felt sure it was the sort of thing I’d like. The novel was The Book of Joe by Jonathan Tropper, and it was, at the time, the best book I’d read in a good long while. I’ve been a huge Tropper fan ever since, and I have to say that his new book, This is Where I Leave You, is easily among the best of what is...more
Blah. I found this tediously unfunny. I seem to remember reading a review that likened this book to the relationships it chronicles: seemingly charming until you scratch the surface and realize you're stuck with something vapid, misogynistic, and emotionally vacant. Hear, hear, reviewer whose identity I can't recall! I would add: trying too hard to be clever. And OF COURSE it's being made into a movie. The book already reads like an uninspired screenplay of a dysfunctional family comedy.
Sweet, tender, and laugh-out-loud hilarious. Who knew that sitting shiva could be this much fun?

Thanks so much for the recommendation, Lisa!
Wait, this is being made into a movie? Wasn't Garden State already made a few years ago?

I really liked individual observations in This Is Where I Leave You, but I am left feeling little for the whole. The problem I have is not, as it apparently is for some other readers, the unlikeable characters or the over-the-top sex scenes. It has more to do with pacing and with how Tropper seems to misunderstand the role of catharsis and breakthrough in some fundamental way. He tells us repeatedly that the...more
Jun 11, 2014 Eric rated it 5 of 5 stars  ·  review of another edition
Recommends it for: Anyone with a dysfunctional family and a sense of humor
Shelves: humor
I read this after seeing this article about books to read before they are made into movies in 2014 -- and that this one will star Jason Bateman as protagonist Judd Foxman.

Probably because of the Jason Bateman adaptation, as well as the dysfunctional family theme, I'm seeing this compared to Arrested Development a good deal, but this reminded me more of the Hank Azaria comedy Eulogy and the British comedy Death at a Funeral, although darker than both. I mean, the beginning of this book was real d...more
Matthew Allard
Ugh. Just ugh. This book felt like a twist on the "Meet The Parents" films; I imagine it was pitched with a log-line and the phrase, "then hilarity ensues!" For whatever reason, that is very much not my kind of book. And this certainly wasn't. Jonathan Tropper is maybe a fine writer, and the book is a quick-n-easy read, but it's also so so so flimsy, in my taste. Any deep thoughts or realizations that Judd might encounter become trite in the presence of so many pratfalls and supposed revelations...more
This Is Where I Leave You – is the kind of book that makes you stop, think and be thankful, even for the crappy stuff. Judd Foxman has hit life’s rock bottom - his wife cheated with his boss, he’s quit his job, currently lives in a basement, and his terminally ill father has recently died. He must now return home and participate in the tradition of Shiva, spending a full week in mourning, with a family he can barely stand. However, as the reader experiences the week of Shiva with Judd’s family i...more
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Jonathan Tropper is the author of Everything Changes, The Book of Joe , which was a Booksense selection, and Plan B. He lives with his wife, Elizabeth, and their children in Westchester, New York, where he teaches writing at Manhattanville College. How To Talk To A Widower was optioned by Paramount Pictures, and Everything Changes and The Book of Joe are also in development as feature films.

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