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Living Successfully with Screwed-Up People

3.72  ·  Rating Details ·  382 Ratings  ·  52 Reviews
With more than 200,000 copies sold, this popular book on how to get along with others despite conflict has a fresh look.
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Published February 1st 2010 by Fleming H. Revell Company (first published October 1st 1999)
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Oct 14, 2014 Fiikske rated it it was ok  ·  review of another edition
It was an interesting read that gave me some valuable insights and inspiration, but I feel still at a loss on how to put it too practice.

Here some concrete remarks:
- i perceive the chapters as quite abstract. I would have expected more examples, especially positive examples;
- the book relates quite often to the previous book of the author on how to cope with the death of a relative/close one. As I have not had this experience, the reasoning and examples are hard for me to understand and connect
Jay Connor
Jan 14, 2012 Jay Connor rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
Alright, I'll admit it. This book title attracted my eye after spending the holidays with my extended family. Not that my family is composed of screwed up people. Far from it! But the clan, as a whole, was having difficulty dealing effectively -- "living successfully" -- with one difficult member. Many of the coping strategies were reactive and bordered on being as dysfunctional as the original underlying behaviors.

While this book does not transcend much of the "self-help" pablum: clarity of vis
Finley Neal I
I picked this book up while I was visiting Williamsburg VA. Everyday we face people during our walk through life that have very different perspectives on life than we do. Some are family, some co-workers & others just acquaintances we meet in our random dealings. I did enjoy reading this book although there were some times where I felt as if I wasn't getting what the author was trying to relay. I did find interest in thinking about whether the "SUP" was the other person or myself. Sometimes ...more
Apr 11, 2015 Ruth rated it it was ok  ·  review of another edition
The best part of reading this book was when my brother caught me reading it and took it personally. Haha!

But seriously. I found the book fairly basic, and although published by a subsidiary of Baker Books, supremely lacking in biblical support. Probably my strongest criticism, though, is that this book has been mis-titled, the blame for this lying solely with the publisher. While the title is catchy, it's misleading. This book is more about what to do if you are a victim in a toxic relationship
Jan 01, 2012 Viki rated it liked it  ·  review of another edition
I realized that I was the screwed-up person I was living seriously, this was a kindle freebie that reiterates what all self-help books can only fix do it.
Jul 30, 2010 Paulette rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
Lots of info for both sides of the fence!


5 out of 5

Elizabeth B. Brown attempts to help you deal with people who you might considered "Screwed-Up" in your relationships. She uses sayings, personal experiences and stories, and insights from her own life and others to show you how to deal with people who have made your life a living hell.

All right, I'll tell you what I thought about the book. This book, like almost all non-fiction "how
Jul 02, 2016 Maame rated it it was ok  ·  review of another edition
There really wasn't a lot points in this book that you wouldn't get in most self help books but I like the title. It definitely grabs your attention. I didn't like that the author chose to use the Black Panther Party (commonly dismissively stereotyped as armed militants and a hatred of white people) as an example of a screwed up person in one of her examples while not knowing the actual history of why the party was formed. I believe if she she was aware of the history behind the party then the r ...more
Sep 01, 2014 Anna rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
The book's title is brilliant. Who doesn't think that some of the people around us are screwed up?

The meat inside is pretty good. Sure, there are chapters that felt too long and one I skipped (although I'm impressed that God wasn't thrown at me much elsewhere in the text --- good job mostly limiting it to that one chapter). But there were also major eye-openers. I've read a few other books that cover codependency, but this is the first one that really made it clear how much the difficult dance h
Lauren Langford
Jun 06, 2014 Lauren Langford rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
The title of this book is catchy but abrasive and really should be called something more like 'learn to deal with all people in a compassionate manner regardless of what you are feeling or the circumstances of the conflict'. I suppose that is too long, however, so the current title will have to do. This book helps you to understand how YOU might be contributing to your relationships in an unhealthy way and also how to deal with the 'screwed up' person in your relationship that is making things d ...more
Nancy Graham
Jun 30, 2012 Nancy Graham rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
We've all dealt with them -- people who press our buttons or annoy us beyond measure. They may be family members, co-workers or neighbors. Worst of all, we feel deeply stuck; we can't seem to get out of the unhealthy patterns and often feel consumed by the sickness of the relationship. Brown offers helpful guidelines for getting "unstuck." Though I do not currently have a SUP (screwed-up person) who's sapping my energy, I certainly HAVE had such relationships; I suspect this book would have reso ...more
Jul 10, 2011 Winterboyd rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
So far the Author's perspective on people and personalities are common. She does a good job at giving you somethings to think about. There are many different personalities in the world screwed up or not, you have to learn not to let anyone penetrate your happiness. Besides the people you think are screwed up think the same about you! lol If you need a little more real to life examples the book will give you a normal interpretation of the same kind of people you deal with on a daily basis. I app ...more
Suzanne Williams
Everyone should read this book because every one of us will find himself or herself within its pages. I was surprised at how much of my own behavior I saw there. I was equally surprised at how many times she exactly described something I had done or seen someone else do. Above all else,the author gives hope. I come away feeling better about myself and believing that no matter how difficult the person is, there is a way to live happy and successfully, and a way to change the negative to the good. ...more
Mar 30, 2015 Yougo rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
Shelves: self-help
This book wasn't what I originally thought it might be. I thought it would be how to deal with annoying people around you, but it was much deeper than that. Meant to address living with serious problems in your serious relationships, it was much heavier topic than I originally thought it would be. It is well written with many good points, definitely worth reading, even if you don't have any SUP (Screwed-Up People) in your life (although you probably have one - yourself).
Feb 14, 2016 Kelci rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
Choice Reads dropped a couple tables of books off at my work, for people to puruse. The title caught my eye. I sat down and read 1/3 of it while giving breaks and decided to buy it after that! Title alone tells you how to the point the author is. I think she did a wonderful job with this far.
It is collecting dust on my shelf. I will pick it up and look at it for 10 mins when I am going over the shelves.
Nancy Wilson
Nov 23, 2012 Nancy Wilson rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
I started to read this because I thought it might give me some perspective on my living situation at the time. It is definetly challenging to live with other people after living by myself for over 10 years. It did occur to me while I was reading that perhaps I was the screwed up person. All the people I had problems living with all seemed to have the same things in common and I was the odd person out. I'm not sure I am convinced but it was interesting to think about.
Faythe Swanson
Feb 19, 2014 Faythe Swanson rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
Recommends it for: Everyone!
This was a very helpful book from beginning to end. I even learned a few things about myself! We all have at LEAST 1 person in our lives who is difficult to deal with, & this book was full of wisdom! It's about having the right attitude & choosing to do the right thing no matter how bad the situation - this book offers many tools to help guide you in the right direction!
Jul 05, 2009 Cherie rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
This book was given to me as a gift. What can I say? It's fantastic!

I think we all have some screwed up people in our lives...whether it's at work/ family/ inlaws/ relatives/ neighbors, whatever. I thoroughly enjoyed this book and I think everybody should read it. It makes you feel that you are not alone having screwed up people in your life.
May 13, 2010 Jody rated it liked it  ·  review of another edition
This was one of those books that you can just pick and choose the chapters for information. A lot of what it had to say was just as I suspected - and helped me realize that, essentially, there's no way to reason with a crazy person - which confirmed what I thought prior to purchasing the book.
Amy Dalton
Jun 20, 2012 Amy Dalton rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
I don't usually read self-help books. They bore me. I think they are repetitive just to fill space or just too much common sense. This one jumped out at me when I decided to get divorced. I found it very good. I highlighted A LOT!!! and I rarely ever highlight a book!
Mar 06, 2016 Julie rated it liked it  ·  review of another edition
This book has a lot of good phrases. I found myself hi-lighting a lot on the kindle. But other then that, it was very basic and straight forward. The overall message--only you can control how you react to someone, regardless of how screwed up they are. Nothing too insightful, but a good reminder.
Martin Budd
Dec 27, 2015 Martin Budd rated it did not like it  ·  review of another edition
Overly simplistic analysis of failing relationships, and why you're O.K and the other person is a loser. If you're in a relationship that's bad enough to warrant reading this, frankly it's already doomed, just move on....
L.e. Diaz
Mar 03, 2014 L.e. Diaz rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
This book is a must read for all individuals regardless if you are in a relationship or single. This book offers you, through its chapters, a guiding light to find your own life and techniques to live successfully regardless of the challenges and resistance you face. Uplifting and enlightening.
Dec 17, 2009 Kat rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
Great help how to deal with difficult relationships, annoying coworkers, rude bosses, crazy friends, terrible family, etc. It lets you see the bigger picture and makes you think if your really want this change.
Highly recommended even if your world is perfect.
Jun 23, 2013 Lisa rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
Sometimes I find the best books in the public deli. I loved this- so many pearls of practical wisdom whether the screwed up person is yourself, someone you work with or live with. Have a highlighter ready (if you're old school with no kindle)
Aug 18, 2015 Z rated it it was ok  ·  review of another edition
Some okay insights, but nothing you don't already know...well that might not be true. You might be a screwed up person. If that is the case this could be a book for you. If I thought it would help, I would give it to a few people I know. But, overall, it wasn't worth much to me.
Apr 14, 2015 Lynnie rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
This book was so absolutely helpful to me! After a rough weekend of dealing with people, I flew through this book. Everything in it I can use towards dealing with my screwed up people. In a way, it was soothing to know I'm not just stuck, there are ways to help deal with difficult people.
Aug 01, 2012 Mia rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
Very useful tool to help me get out of the rut when I am feeling helpless in a current situation. Detachment....I am learning that I don't always have to be Wonder Woman.....she can get a break!
Beth Dickey
Apr 22, 2016 Beth Dickey rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
Not a perfect book, but one that could help people. I'd recommend it to anyone dealing with a troubled relationship
Dec 25, 2012 Weiss rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
It's useful to have this book around if you deal with screwed up people. Sure it doesn't tell you how to help them, because they are most likely permanent screw-ups, it's aimed at helping you cope.
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