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In Solemate, Lauren Mackler provides a groundbreaking road map to help people achieve mastery of their lives. Drawing from her own experiences; those of her clients; and the fields of psychology, physiology, sociology, holistic healing, and strategic business practices, Mackler provides the practical information, tools, and exercises to show you how to be independent and s

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Published April 1st 2009 by Hay House, Inc. (first published 2009)
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This is a must read for anybody, single or attached; to really understand your past and what is keeping you from becoming the person you were “meant to be”. It is well-written and a good read as Lauren Mackler shares her own experiences and introduces her clients’ stories. It’s about becoming the partner you seek. Mackler is very compassionate in this topic, and gives readers practical step-by-step exercises at the end of each chapter. Mackler writes that if you discover “the person you really a ...more
The entire book's point of view is the understanding that human beings are whole beings of themselves and that their interactions and relationships with others should enhance that. The book also eliminates the stigma that singledom is a problem to be fixed and uses guided exercises for helping the reader obtain personal happiness without the need of "another half".

I've read lots of self-help books, but this one isn't like most. The focus here isn't obtaining some value of success or happiness [u
I LOVED this book. As I read, I found myself telling everyone to read this. I'd put off reading it because I thought it was just about being alone, but it is so much deeper than that. This book is about healing. I'd always known of the effect my childhood had on my relationships, but I'd never considered the effect it had on the jobs I've had and so much more. Lauren Mackler gets to the heart of the things that keep many of us stuck reliving times gone by, recreating painful events in our presen ...more
I found this book a wonderful compliment to the already evolving life journey that I have began. Some pieces buried within the book may seem like common sense, but I often found that having a gentle reminder of the basics in life was beneficial. I believe this book is intended for a single person, but I read it while in a relationship and still found it to be empowering. I strongly recommend this for anyone to read, regardless of their sex or relationship status.
A basic self-help guide with less of a focus on choosing to live without a partner than I would have liked. The slant seemed to be, "Learn to live with yourself so you'll be ready to share your life with someone else" and while that's great, I was hoping for more strategies for solitary living when you're not looking to find someone.
Actually read this book several months ago and loved it. One of the few books I add to my shelf after reading it. It's a self-help book teaching the art of making yourself your own Solemate, "Master the Art of Aloneness & Transform Your Life". Rereading it again.
Good principles to follow - need to set a vision for your life and then set goals to achieve the vision. Be happy with yourself before you can be happy with someone else. Valuable advice - harder to live...
If you have had a major life changing event this book is a must have...especially for the single mother.
Allison White
Ok read. I'd given this book 3.5 stars.
Thank goodness! I thought I would *never* finish this book! WAY too much journaling for me. I did get some good things - but it was a long, hard time getting to them.
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Bestselling author Lauren Mackler is a renowned coach, keynote speaker, and host of the weekly Life Keys radio show on Over the past 25 years, she has been a psychotherapist, workshop facilitator, corporate consultant, and a leading authority in the areas of personal transformation, relationships, and professional performance. She is the author of the international bestselle ...more
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“Mastering the art of aloneness doesn't mean living in isolation or never needing the love, support, and involvement of others. It means creating and living a life in which you feel whole and content as an individual on your own; a life in which you can take care of yourself emotionally and financially.” 3 likes
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