Children Are from Heaven: Cara Membesarkan Anak Secara Positif Agar Anak Menjadi Kooperatif, Percaya Diri, dan Memahami Perasaan Orang Lain
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Children Are from Heaven: Cara Membesarkan Anak Secara Positif Agar Anak Menjadi Kooperatif, Percaya Diri, dan Memahami Perasaan Orang Lain

3.88 of 5 stars 3.88  ·  rating details  ·  392 ratings  ·  54 reviews
Menyajikan metode mengasuh anak yang praktis dan efesien. Ketrampilan baru dalam membesarkan anak ini dapat diterapkan secara efektif pada bayi sampai remaja. Ada lima pesan pokok yang ada dalam buku ini: - Anak boleh saja berbeda dari anak lain- Anak boleh saja membuat kesalahan.- Anak boleh saja memiliki emosi negatif.- Anak boleh saja menginginkan lebih banyak.- Anak bo...more
Softcover, 370 pages
Published 1999 by Gramedia Pustaka Utama
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icha
Berikut poin-poin bagus yang mel dapet dari bacaan yang remarkable ini...

penulis kawakan ini bahkan membutuhkan 30 tahun untuk mengembangkan kemahiran mengasuh secara positif yang tertuang dalam buku ini. 16 tahun sebagai penasihat, serta mempelajari situasi terutama dari problema para orangtua. 14 tahun untuk mengembangkan aplikasinya...

* Bagian penting dalam mengasuh anak adalah mencurahkan kasih sayang, waktu dan energi sepenuhnya. Kasih sayang adalah hal utama, tapi ternyata kasih sayang saj...more
Farah

كتاب جميل للتفاهم مع أكثر المخلوقات طهراً, و وعياً




" لم أنته منه,, بعد "


Marci
I found some of his advice to be interesting, but he tends to go on and on in his writing and I found myself skipping over paragraphs because it seemed so repetitive. I do really like his steps for encouraging obedience from children...although he doesnt call it obedience really, he calls it childrens natural desire to please their parents. I have been discouraged lately as I hear my son mimic orders to me and I don't like it. So, following Dr. Gray's advice to ask "Would you....please?" brought...more
Kelli
This was highly recommended to me. However, so far, it hasn't given me any earth-shattering news. Don't beat your kids. (anyone surprised?) Then it has focused on parents focusing on the positives with their kids rather than the negative.

Okay, so I got through chapter 9 and just couldn't do anymore. This has good ideas, but it's all obvious. Don't beat your kids. Use positive messages instead of threats. Thanks- learned that in 101 of teaching. If I hadn't been a teacher, this would have been mu...more
Eman Helmy
Very good once he gets to the point!! I think this book should be summarized to half of it. Over 350 pages is too much for what he has to say. And the question" HOW do I do that."arises a lot while I'm reading. Maybe everything will come clear at the end. Otherwise there are a lot of important points about parenting I learned from here that I wouldn't have known elsewhere. I'm a Bit skeptical about the part about avoiding fear based methods,I think there should be at least a tiny part of it. The...more
Tatuu
Thanks to my journal, I discover that I read some parenting books in the year 2008. But why???

I remember this to be a bulky book and I definitely can't remember all the principles that are shared until I read it again. Here are 5 messages to positive parenting.
1. It's okay to be different
2. It's okay to make mistakes
3. It's okay to express negative emotions
4. It's okay to want more. [Though I have an issue with this- if it's okay to want more, then how will I teach them contentment?] Maybe that...more
Rachel
Oct 22, 2007 Rachel added it  ·  review of another edition Recommends it for: Yes
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I am still reading this book. I am not sure whatto say yet. It is new and different than other parenting books I have read and I like the direction it is going in. I want to talk about it more and think about it more but I need to read more!

My husband said when I mentioned one concept,"That is the opposite as the the other book we read!" I said,"I know, just go with it! It cannot hurt to try."

I still am going to get to this book but the one I am reading right now takes priority! (Hold Onto Your...more
Leahjoypro
I picked up this book b/c years ago I read a lot of his relationship books and found them to be spot-on - especially "Mars and Venus on a Date". This book has a lot of great things to say, although I didn't necessarily agree with everything. His explanations of time-outs are helpful and interesting. He also has a lot of insight into understanding your child's point of view. Like many other parenting books I've read, he seems to borrow heavily from "How to Talk So Kids Will Listen...", but it's s...more
Rachel
I was excited with this book first came out. I bought it and read it for one of my early childhood education courses (we had to focus on parent education). Some of the material is a repeat of topics we've learned but there were sections that I was very upset in reading, thinking how many parents will do this because he suggests it.

I spoke about this in my class and it really discouraged others from using his methods.

He suggests that when a child is upset by throwing a tantrum, to placed them i...more
Fanny
I felt quite disappointed and did not even finish reading this book. Some of the advice are interesting but others seem pretty unrealistic to me. I agree with Gray's approach of avoiding punishment, physical or psychological, but his method has not convinced me fully. The practical examples he gives on how to speak to children seem very unlikely to me. Furthermore, the book is quite repetitive and lengthy.
Tasneem  Zafer
Was very helpful!
I don't agree though with some of the ideas but in general I really learned something that has helped me a lot when I first started teaching kg1s!
I highly recommend teachers and parents to go through it once at least!
Thank you Miss Mariam for recommending the book.
Soul
كتاب مترجم للكاتب جون غراي
الكتاب يتكلم عن خمسة أساليب للتربية الإيجابيه
للحصول على اطفال متعاونيين واثقيين
يحتاج الآباء إلى قرائته مرات ومرات والتدرب على تلك الأساليب
هذا الكتاب غير الكثيير من افكاري بشأن التربيه ..
Saleem Khashan
Around me I still see people treating children like they were treated this is a good insight into thinking about how they should be treated, that is all!
أثير عبد الله النشمي
وجدت الكتاب تجارياً للغاية ، لم يحتوي بالنسبة لي على أية إضافة تربوية ، لم استمتع به ولم استفد منه
Kara
I hated this book. I couldn't even finish it. Very opinionated and full of crap.
Steph
Is was good but dated. It was written in the 90's and reflected as such.
Jonathan McGuinness
Let those five messages sink in and the skills to back them up
( Ebtsamh )
كتاب تربوي من الطراز الأول

عجبني وايد واسمتعت فيه
Dawn Buffham-Bates
Nov 28, 2010 Dawn Buffham-Bates rated it 3 of 5 stars  ·  review of another edition Recommends it for: all paretns or people becoming parents
As I enjoyed Men are from Mars and Women are from Venus, I thought I would check this out. The techniques in this book are very good. I read this book over a year ago and wished I had brought it with me to Egypt, as I believe it could have helped with the transition period. Having implemented the techniques as I read the book, I could see the impact and improvement in my eldest son very quickly. Our relationship is so much better, as well as my understanding of how much my behaviour affects him,...more
Fraya


Would love to give up sooner... But I bought this book so far. I am not myself when i read this book, neither was the example is special nor realistic in making the parent move as a leader. No age is specific addressed to the treatment, so that alone left me confuse. Hopeless. I realize....i'm just not one of those parents who could put up an effort to turned her head around at some methods that are simply wasn't in her traits. Am gonna have to put this down for a while, the explanations are ev...more
Hafsa Yusuf
كتاب جميل، ليس فقط لأنه يعلم كيف يجب أن نتعامل مع الأطفال، بل لأنه يفتح أعيننا على أنفسنا؛ كيف نشأنا يوم كنا أطفال! يساعد الإنسان على أن يراجع نشأته وتربيته ويكون أكثر تفهما لما لا يعجبه في تربيته وأقدر على معالجة أي آثار ظلت في نفسه من تلك المرحلة الأهم في حياة كل إنسان
José Mendoza jr
This book was highly suggested to me by my wife for years. I finally picked up the book and was impressed by the explanations and examples the author included to help understand the logic behind his messages. Before the book, I admit I was the parent who expected a child to listen, remember, and obey a parent's request. I now understand this isn't (and shouldn't) be the case. I don't want to raise my child as a mindless follower. I hope to learn and put these skills and messages to use. Good luc...more
Melanie Curren
This is the single best parenting book I have ever read. I own it in paperback, and I bought the audio cd. I have it on my ipod, and try to listen to every 6 months or so. It is so fantastic, and so good about how to parent all different types of kids in a positive way with firmness, but not meanness. I really love this book, and highly recommend it to everyone who deals with children.
Samantha Wilde
I wish someone had given me this book when I had my first child. This is one of the single best books on child rearing that I have read. It stresses what I find so powerful and important: keeping the preciousness of the child at the forfront of your mind (even when you want to throw them out the window!)
Kim
A little heavy on the generalizing (children "today" versus children "back then", for example), but he offers at least some reasonable advice. Also offers some weird advice/explanations, like "if your children are having tantrums in public, they aren't getting enough time outs at home"...?!
Kim
A great parenting book. He teaches "let children be children" and I learned not to try to force my kids to become what I wanted them to be. Children are like seeds, already pre-programmed to be who ever they are. Our job is to nurture them to become the best version of them selves.
Beth E
I really enjoyed this perspective on a different way to raise children. We can all stand to learn some of these lessons, as I think many of us were raised with spankings, wooden spoons, and threats about waiting until our Dad gets home... I definitely want to read more on this subject.
Julie
Aug 16, 2012 Julie rated it 5 of 5 stars  ·  review of another edition Recommends it for: all parents
I feel my parenting over the last four years has been secretly video-recorded, watched and analyzed, and then the information gleaned and sent back in time to be put into this book. This book has helped encourage me and offer solutions to problem areas in an amazing way.
Brooke
This is the book that I wished my parents had read when I was a kid. It speaks to many of the issues I have with parenting and I can say that by implementing several of the suggestions I am a much better person in general and have better relationships with my kids too.
Nada Anwar
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John Gray is an American author on relationships and personal growth, best known for his 1992 book Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus, and other "pop psychology" books offering relationship advice.

He was previously married to fellow self-help author Barbara De Angelis, but they divorced in 1984. He is now m...more
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