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Queen of Your Own Life: The Grown-Up Woman's Guide to Claiming Happiness and Getting the Life You Deserve

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Discover the Seven Best Gifts You Can Give Yourself

Queen of Your Own Life is a philosophy, a decision and an invitation to happiness for women who have made the tough but rewarding journey to the midpoint in their lives. Kathy Kinney (best known as Mimi on The Drew Carey Show) and Cindy Ratzlaff (marketing genius behind the launch of The South Beach Diet) have been best fr
Hardcover, 192 pages
Published March 30th 2010 by Harlequin (first published 2010)
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Jul 06, 2010 Heather rated it it was amazing
I have been reading a lot of heavy books lately, and while they are all wonderful, this book was an awesome change of pace. It was so much fun! Uplifting! Just something I think all of us women need (and need to do).

You’ll know Kathy Kinney from her role as Mimi on Drew Carey, and a variety of others. Her and Cindy Ratzlaff were friends who while on vacation decided they needed to queen up. (I totally had to throw that in. I love that phrase now!)

I’m 35 now. I’m kind of at the in-between stage
Apr 22, 2010 Sharon rated it it was amazing
Publicist Cindy Ratzlaff and actor Kathy Kinney (Mimi, from "The Drew Carey Show") have put together an entertaining little book that is more than just a self-help title. Drawing on their 30-year friendship, the two present advice on reclaiming one's life and wrap it in anecdotes from their own history to show how they reached their conclusions.

This book is aimed at women over the age of 40. Kinney and Ratzlaff maintain (and accurately so) that this is the age group that is invisible in our soci
Apr 24, 2010 Joemmama rated it really liked it
Kathy Kinney and Cindy Ratzlaff have written a terrific guide for those of us that are grown up women! "Queen of Your Own Life" is not a diet book, not a self improvement book, but an accept who you are and enjoy book. It covers the seven gifts you should give yourself, from claiming your beauty, cleaning out your mental closet, to putting that crown on your head and having a party to celebrate you!

Sometimes, when life gets in our way, we forget to build our friendships, take care of ourselves,
This fairly short book lays out steps for women of a certain age (over 50) to reclaim their own "queenliness". While a lot of the concepts weren't new to me (be happy in your own skin, have a great group of girlfriends, attitude of gratitude, stop being a "people-pleaser") it provided an opportunity to review with my progress in those area.

I like the fact that they encourage women to celebrate becoming the "Queen of Your Own Life". It spurred me on to reach out to some girlfriends I hadn't talk
Sep 25, 2010 Dinamarie rated it it was amazing
Absolutely a fantastic book! Inspiring, uplifting, funny, informational. I am actually hosting an event for some of my girlfriends based on this book because I believe in it so much. If you have any women in your life that need to be reminded of how strong they are or are suffering from an lack of self esteem or just plain need something to believe in, this is the book. The authors expose the hard parts of their lives, revealing what every woman has gone through and helps you deal with it in a w ...more
Apr 13, 2012 Cindy rated it it was amazing
Shelves: books-i-wrote
Not fair for me to write a review because I co-wrote the book, but I just wanted to say that writing the book, with my best friend, Kathy Kinney, changed my life. Finding the writer within, feeling the need to tell a story and finding a publishing home, was an amazing experience.

I spent 20 years on the other side of the desk, as a publishing executive. I've always admired authors. Now, having written something myself, I think you're all saints!
Holly (2 Kids and Tired)
Jun 03, 2010 Holly (2 Kids and Tired) rated it really liked it
A charming, thought-provoking book about life, friendship and learning to love and accept yourself. Kathy and Cindy are intelligent and entertaining and a lot of what they share isn't new information, it's just packaged in a delightful, engaging way. I think it would be a fun gift book and it would make an entertaining read for a book group, especially a group of older women!

Thanks to FSB Associates for the opportunity to review this book
Nov 22, 2010 Bridget rated it really liked it
I had no idea how much your thoughts can influence your life. Every woman is a queen and should be treated as such. This book would make the perfect gift for someone who doesn't seem to understand her own worth. It's an amazing book with a great message.
Jul 08, 2012 Elizabeth rated it it was amazing
Fun, light read. Full of great quotes and incites. Sometimes you read or hear something that you know will stay with you for the rest of your life. This book has that for me. Here is the quote that jumped off the page and slapped me in the face... "Remember the old analogy of life being a tapestry? We believe that's true, but we think that most of the time we live at the back of the tapestry, where it's all messy, with knots and strings hanging everywhere, and we're just jumping around trying to ...more
Feb 02, 2016 Cara rated it liked it
Shelves: fun-or-frivolity
Silly book. I like the premise, and I enjoyed some of the stories. Overall, the book probably would have been valuable if I had done the exercises, but I found it kind of annoying and didn't do what it said. Also, I hadn't been thinking of 40 as old until these people introduced it as the beginning of the crone years. Thanks, ladies. :P
Lori Helke
May 08, 2016 Lori Helke rated it it was amazing
I loved this little book!! It's full of great little tidbits of advise on living your life your way for those of us in the second half of our lives. Using humor and real life stories, the authors (who are also long time friends) give us the steps to become the queen of your own life. Now that I read it, I have to plan my crowning ceremony!!
Feb 11, 2015 Lisa rated it liked it
This is a celebrity memoir/self help book which I picked up as the self help selection for Book Riot's Read Harder 2015 challenge. Of all the self help books out there this one seemed like it was exactly where I am in life right now. Being a woman... approaching middle age...these are my people! One narrator; Kathy Kinney; who many know as Mimi from The Drew Carey Show tells how her life was made better by becoming the Queen of her own life, taking charge of her happiness and getting rid of what ...more
Aug 02, 2011 Helen rated it really liked it
I think that this is a good motivational book for the middle aged woman. In fact, I feel that it is one that I would like to keep and read often, so I ordered it from Amazon toay.
Christy Nevarez
Jan 07, 2012 Christy Nevarez rated it it was amazing
I can't say enough good things about it. It was fantastic! I think it is a must-read for most women if not all women!!!
Jun 26, 2010 Dana rated it it was amazing
I recommend this book for all of my friends! it will give us a new perspective on life.
Oct 16, 2010 Roxie rated it really liked it
And why do you think this one jumped off the shelf into my hands?
Jul 07, 2010 Vbledsoe rated it it was amazing
Loved this great, supportive and humorous book.
Sep 25, 2010 Alysen rated it really liked it
It's always good to have a reminder.
Donna Milward
Oct 17, 2014 Donna Milward rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
I loved this book. As in, I'm buying a few copies for future queens for Christmas and my copy isn't leaving the house.

This reads like a hug and a sit-down-cheer-up coffee with a friend. After two chapters, they made ME believing I was beautiful too. Not just "Yeah, we're all beautiful flowers" kind of thing. I actually believe them.

I'll admit, I had low expectations for this book. I figured some actress decided she could write a book with a ghostwriter and people would just snap it up. It's MUCH
Oct 30, 2014 Mindy rated it it was amazing
I absolutely loved this book. It was a good and funny read. I definitely recommend it for anyone that needs a boost of self-love. You could definitely turn this into an activity for church or girls' night (weekend) out. I don't think that you need to be mid-life to read it either. I think that it would help anyone of any age that may be struggling with the everyday grind of life.
May 19, 2014 Jennifer rated it it was amazing
Recommends it for: Everyone
Shelves: favorites, optimism
The authors do an excellent job of relating to the struggles of all women, showing that we each suffer from so many of the same things no matter who we are or where we come from. Better yet, they show us how to reclaim our lives in spite of the circumstances of our lives. Everyone can learn something from this book, and come away much better for it. While this book is geared toward women in the second half of their lives, I think men and young women would also benefit from reading this and apply ...more
Kristina Simon
Sep 06, 2014 Kristina Simon rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
A charming little book that teaches you (or reminds you, if you've already learned some of these lessons) to stay true to yourself, especially during and after you hit middle-age. My favorite parts of the book were the personal stories that Kathy (who played Mimi on The Drew Carey Show) and Cindy share throughout the book to illustrate their points. If you're looking for a little pick-me-up (or a great excuse to have a Crowning Party!) this could be what you're looking for.
Jul 09, 2015 Fiorette rated it it was ok
Aimed toward younger girls...
Feb 19, 2011 Matriarchy rated it liked it
Shelves: women, nonfiction
Short. A lot of the same self-esteem-plumping stuff as other women's self-help books. More of a collection of affirmations to be repeated to oneself as one suffers the insults of aging. Basically advises you to stop putting up with dumb sh*t and find a good group of supportive friends. Good advice for any age. If you sign up for the Facebook group, you can get the affirmations sent to your feed periodically.
Kristena West
Jan 08, 2015 Kristena West rated it liked it
so far I am really enjoying the honest stories these two gals tell about not being "barbie' perfect growing up an d how, on reaching " a woman of a certain age" they decided to throw out the garbage of invisibility over 50, and change the way they think about themselves. Yes we have affirmations, but I tried it the last two days and am actually enjoying the one they give- only 1/3 into book.... stay tuned.
Kay Hudson
Sep 21, 2014 Kay Hudson rated it liked it  ·  review of another edition
Shelves: non-fiction
Brought this home from the RWA conference. Light, easy read with some interesting thoughts about self esteem, setting boundaries, and taking charge. Definitely worth reading.
Savannah Reynard
Every woman should read this book. Many thanks to Cindy and Kathy for their honesty and sharing. I truly believe every woman has the capability to become the Queen of their own Life, this book helps foster those inner capabilities. Learn. Grow. Shine. This means YOU!
Mar 16, 2012 Madelaine rated it it was ok
ok book humorous, gives woman advice on how to make them feel better about themselves. If you are an emotionally stable person, it is basic knowledge that you should be good to yourself and don't let other people intimidate you or take advantage of you
Jun 05, 2013 Addie rated it it was amazing
I really enjoyed this book, it came from the heart of the two authors. It was straight forward and honest. It made me realize what I thought were shortcomings weren't but in the right direction just needing some twicking!! I'm glad I read it!
Apr 06, 2016 Kary rated it it was amazing
a must read for every woman going through peri/post/menopause! Checked book out of library and now I must go and buy it for my book collection! So many statements inside the chapters that I wanted to highlight and share with others.
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