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Broken Open: How Difficult Times Can Help Us Grow

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""If we can stay awake when our lives are changing, secrets will be revealed to us-secrets about ourselves, about the nature of life, and about the eternal source of happiness and peace that is always available, always renewable, already within us.""
-ELIZABETH LESSER
During times of transition, amid everyday stress, and even when we face seemingly insurmountable adversity,
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Published October 30th 2008 by Villard Books (first published May 4th 2004)
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Adam
Apr 21, 2008 Adam rated it 5 of 5 stars  ·  review of another edition
Recommends it for: EVERYONE WHO CAN READ!
Recommended to Adam by: GOD/THE UNIVERSE
Oh my God!!! This book changed my life!!! Hell it MAY have saved it. I was homeless in New York and going through a really rough time in my life and this book was constantly by my side as my companion, my friend, my pillow (sometimes), my hope, my inspiration and maybe even my savior. I cannot say enough about it. Maybe it was just me and my extrordinary circumstances that made this book such an amazing thing for me but i definitely think it was more than that. I am not the same person i was bef ...more
Ruhegeist
I borrowed this from a friend who tends to be what I consider over the top wacky spiritual. Watching her move through life, easily make friends and enjoy what I so often take for granted is amazing and makes me a little jealous all the while resisting and occasionally mocking.

Thankfully this book was believable and down to earth which allowed my over logical mentality to connect to the writing. Lesser writes beautifully about her experiences (not quite as well when making generalities). The quo
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Jordan
I realize that this book is out of character with the sorts of things that I normally read. I was led to this book by both a coworker's recommendation and by my personal struggles of this past year. Last March, an old friend of mine committed suicide. A month later, my first real boyfriend broke up with me. Together, these two events have dictated how I feel in my daily experience: when I'm with friends, or on a date with someone new, or even just spending time alone with my thoughts, my mind wi ...more
Julie Weaver
If you're wanting to learn how to cope with life's trials, this book is an excellent tool to teach you how to do just that. Its not so much a self-help book, but more of an instruction manual on how to look at trials in a different perspective, and to graciously welcome life's opportunities to grow and learn instead of resisting them and feeling beaten up by the process. A book you'll want to refer to often! Highly recommended!
Nedra
EVERYONE who has gone through a personal crisis whether it be death, depression, divorce or just a simple personal evolution should read this book. And, everyone else should read it too. Elizabeth Lesser speaks to psychological and spiritual awakening in an understandable, lighthearted voice.
Laura
I am currently reading this book. Although I am generally NOT into self help books, this book goes beyond that to explore the way we view the world and in times of turmoil, how we manage through. I really like the wisdom and shared stories of Elizabeth Lesser
Homa
Full of hope and excited to begin reading this book, as the title seemed promising, especially when one feels so broken at the tragic loss of a family member. The book had me realize that I am human, and accepted myself with all my flaws, because what I consider flaws are not bad, it's just being human, and being human is good. I have negative thoughts, ugly, bad, mean, etc. But I'm not a bad person. Author goes on to explain that "we are all bozos on the bus. There is no cool crowd bus where pe ...more
Carolyn Dorstek
One of the most important books in my adult life. This book has been my friend since I started reading it in mid-May. I continue to re-read parts of it when I need encouragement facing the upheaval that my life has become. It has helped me to jump into the fray without fear. Like playing hide and seek as a child, this book knows the secrets we think we have kept really well. It offers simple, honest reflections about life's situations, and allows the reader to make the most of the bleakest situa ...more
Jodi
I read self help books on a frequent basis, and this is definitely one of my favorites. It's hard to describe exactly why I liked it so much. I only know that I found myself unable to put it down once I started.
Amal
Jan 12, 2009 Amal is currently reading it  ·  review of another edition
To make a long story short....A patient got me to read this book......!
Angie Klink
I actually read this book twice and learned new things the second time. I loved the first half, then the second half lost me. But the first pages really helped me with my own life events of being "broken open." I highly recommend it to anyone who has a major life difficulty, shift, or revelation. One of my favorite lines: "Your lesson in this lifetime is to find and trust your own precious voice." Another: "Things may get worse before they get better, but they'll only get better if you let them ...more
Liz
Some insightful thoughts and guidance on how to accept the things that happen to us, good and bad and how to deal with changes and transitions. The author does go into some detail of her own life, maybe a little too much...but guess it is good to know how she and some of her other friends she highlights within the book, dealt with life's challenges to inspire the reader.

Instead of fighting change, believe that it is the way it is meant to be and use your energy not to fight the current but to op
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Jane
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Michelle
3.5 stars. I picked this up because one of my respected Goodreads friends rated it a 5 star and I always love a good spiritual growth type book. It's about letting yourself be "broken open" during difficult times to allow for growth. I am certainly not going through a difficult time but I still appreciated the author's insight. I completely believe that souls are put on earth to learn lessons and I loved that angle of it. The vignettes were great, although I couldn't quite buy into the fact that ...more
Mary
This book was amazing. I've had it on my to read list for a long time. I heard positive reviews of her book and her work. I enjoyed listening to Elizabeth Lesser on Oprah and Friends radio shoe and her interview on Super Soul Sunday. I normally don't buy books. This is one that I will be purchasing to re-reading, dog earring pages and high lighting passages. I can't say enough wonderful things about this book~life changing. A must have, text book of sorts as you live life. Buy it, check it out, ...more
Audra
The sections of this book that I loved were generally other people's words and experiences. I felt that Elizabeth Lesser's philosophy was too New Age, make excuses for people's bad actions -- including her own -- by attributing them to some cosmic experience.

I don't for a second believe that God decided people needed to die on an airplane. That was the decision of man. I don't believe God would hurt young children by encouraging an affair as the only way to find your true self. That's people. P
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Mary Ann
This is one of the best books, I've ever read. Lesser does a great job of exemplifying that EVERYONE goes through very difficult times no matter how we all appear on the surface. She believes these difficulties are meant as a wake up call to look inside ourselves and do the work to align our life choices with our inner spirit or souls. We can either choose to go back to sleep or do the work which will bring us to happier, more fulfilling lives. If you are going through a difficult period it prov ...more
Cheryl
I wanted to like this book. I had reason to, it is similar to my own personal philosophy, which includes a little bit of everything. If I was forced to label myself I would call myself a Zen, Hasidic, Jesus admiring landscape worshiping mystical earth ecstatic. The scope of this author’s spiritual forays and experiments is staggering, I think she has tried everything but voodoo, and with some fairly powerful people/celebrities. I know someone who has attended some retreats at her institute and w ...more
Chelsea
2 1/2 stars for this book. I liked how Elizabeth Lesser focused on how to just be in the moment. Not to dwell on past hurts,faults,failures, or bad things that happened to you in childhood. We grow as humans from good and bad things that cross our paths through life. That is what makes each one of us unique and special. It is easy to drum up past hurts in your life and not be able to let go. To move onto the next thing that may enter your life. As The Beatles say "Let It Be." Wise words!
John
Lesser does a great job of presenting practical applications for what might be seen (by some) as "new-agey" tools. The audiobook presents a paradox in that Susan Denaker does an outstanding job of narration, but I found myself skipping a couple of sections wholesale that I'd likely have at least skimmed in print, due to the nature of the material. Book is definitely recommended.
Maria Ortiz-cintron
Really enjoyed this book. Reading it was therapeutic for me. This is a book everyone can relate to on some level, because it addresses life changing/negative/difficult experiences and helps us to see them for the teachable moments those painful experiences can provide. It was enlightening without being preachy. I love the way Elizabeth Lesser writes.
Sarah
This was OK . . . at times indulgent and over-written. But a good reminder of lots of the teachings of greats like Pema Chodron, Titch Nhat Hanh, etc. Definitely a good read for anyone going through a life crisis - diagnosis with major illness, death, divorce - or even to re-orient during or after a mini-crisis.
Tara Hall
this is an essential book for anyone dealing with the pain of loss in a small or profound way. it is reassuring, heartbreaking, poignant, and never preachy. i will probably read it again when i am feeling particularly lost or at a big crossroads in life...i highly recommend it!
Tiffany Webb
A wonderful book for someone going through difficult times. I read it several years ago and it's the one book that I have read that I feel really impacted my life in a big way. Highly recommend!
Melissa Jones
This book was given to me by a friend during a difficult time in my life. I liked the quotes (I love quotes :) ) and this book helped me not to be so narrowed-minded. A true joy to read!
Rebecca Waring-Crane
With a mix of personal experiences and stories witnessed Lesser traces the process of change and transition, or the Phoenix Process. I enjoyed the wide range of inspiration added through quotes from David Bowie to Pema Chodron. As I work on my own book about transitions I read slowly and compiled my own list of quotes from Lessing that may one day appear in my work.

"It may seem that living for rapture is a selfish act reserved for the elite, or that it’s a fancy phrase for hedonism. But it isn’t
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Annie
This is a really wonderful book for anyone who faces struggles in life... which is every human! A really healthy approach to overcoming hardship in life.
Sophia Dorval
I listened to the audiobook whenever I had to run errands and use public transportation. The reader's voice was very soothing and it helped me digest the meaning of the book easily.
Lesser is an old hippie, I love the new age vibe of the book. It's also very honest about the pain of grieving and how to embrace it rather than repress it. A lot of great tips for meditation, prayer and therapy. Lesser is also honest about her past mistakes and how she healed from them. I highly recommend this book
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Cathrine White

It will forever be with me
-CW
Melissa Turner
I read this several years ago but. I felt compelled to mark it here as "read" and recommend it to others. Currently going through some challenging life circumstances, I have been revisiting the "open" experience as as catalyst for emotional growth and healing. I love the author AND find her quirky all the same. But one of the major themes of this book is getting comfortable with our quirks and accepting the quirks of others. We are all "bozos on the bus" . The brave bozos are willing to share th ...more
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“And the time came when the risk to remain tight in a bud was more painful than the risk it took to blossom.-Anais Nin” 75 likes
“How strange that the nature of life is change, yet the nature of human beings is to resist change. And how ironic that the difficult times we fear might ruin us are the very ones that can break us open and help us blossom into who we were meant to be.” 63 likes
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