Devotion: A Memoir

Devotion: A Memoir

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In her midforties and settled into the responsibilities and routines of adulthood, Dani Shapiro found herself with more questions than answers. Was this all life was—a hodgepodge of errands, dinner dates, e-mails, meetings, to-do lists? What did it all mean?

Having grown up in a deeply religious and traditional family, Shapiro had no personal sense of faith, despite repeate...more
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Published January 26th 2010 by HarperCollins e-books
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Caroline M.
It's not that I can't enjoy a memoir about exploring one's spirituality -- for all its problems, I really kind of enjoyed Eat, Pray, Love, the book with which this one will inevitably be compared. Dani Shapiro's memoir is blessedly shorter, and far less indulgent, and really struck much closer to home. She's a mom, I'm a mom; her father had a deep connection to and daily practice of his faith, just like my dad has. But for all that, and despite some lovely writing in spots, this left me just kin...more
Marty
This book was great. I thought it was going to be another project-for-a-year-memoir (like Eat, Pray, Love or The Happiness Project), this time about finding spirituality. But it's much better than that - instead of being a formulaic project, it's a book-length meditation on the meaning of life, on joy, on mortality, and on God and faith. It's beautifully written and deeply absorbing.

Early in the book, it's clear that the author is a pretty anxious person:

"Nothing - absolutely nothing I could put...more
Kristen
I think I came to this book at exactly the right moment. Like Dani Shapiro, I am looking to “opt back in” to a religious - or, at least, a spiritual - identity and want to “form – if not an opinion – a set of feelings and instincts by which to live.” Her struggles toward feeling and defining a presence in her life larger than herself especially resonated with me.

Shapiro presents the book in a series of mini-chapters, which do leap around a bit, but which I think symbolize her search for lessons...more
Florinda
There�s something about entering parenthood that can prompt those who�ve drifted away from the religion of their upbringing to consider a return to it. In my own story, the wish to make a religious framework part of our son�s education led my first husband and me back to the Catholic Church around the time he started school.

The decision wasn'�t quite as cut-and-dred for Dani Shapiro. Raised in an observant Orthodox Jewish family, she�d left behind most of those practices in young adulthood, and...more
Nancy
This was an intensely satisfying read for me. Dani Shapiro has a way of articulating the taboo questions I have inside my own head, shaking them out and writing them down. She then works through her questions (which are often my own) as she relates life-altering experiences from her own existence. She blends her Jewish faith with her yoga studies and her sharp intellect and explores the nooks and crannies of faith, God, fate, divinity, connectedness, tragedy and carpool.

I related very well wit...more
The Sunday Book Review
Reading this book, I found myself following Dani and she tries to figure out where she stands in the world. Not only in terms of career and family, but in terms of her faith. Being brought up and surrounded by her Jewish family, she is struggling to find out where she fits in now that she is older and has stopped practicing her faith.

You couldn't get a more relatable book! No matter what faith the reader is, there is something in this book for them. I liked the way Dani mixed personal stories -...more
Karen
Have you heard of the law of similars (you know, that 'like attracts like")? That may very well explain why I was drawn to this book. It grabbed me right away, what with the author’s talk about being a woman in her midforties, a mother, a wife, and a person who is struggling to find meaning in the practice of her religion, and to (like me!) make her yoga and meditation practice happen on a daily basis. But unlike me, after months of poring over the catalogue, circling courses she lusted over whi...more
CoffeeBook Chick
Feb 28, 2011 CoffeeBook Chick rated it 4 of 5 stars  ·  review of another edition Recommends it for: Anyone searching for their purpose in life
She is an adult, married, with a young son. She is a writer, living in New York, with deadlines and assignments. Her place in life is already carved out and understood.

Right?

For Dani Shapiro, her memoir embraces the fact that she actually doesn't know, but that she is trying - trying so very, very hard - to find out. Most especially, faith becomes the crucial piece that perhaps will help make sense of it all, to calm her anxiety and the fear that something bad could happen at any moment. Faith,...more
Judith
This year, I am interested in reading books about how people find and/or lose their faith, which brought me to this book about a middle-aged woman's search for her own religious and/or spiritual journey. She had a nice style and a nice story to tell, which is why I kept reading it. But by the time I was finished, I felt like I had spent an afternoon talking to a passenger in the seat beside me on a trip across the country. Entertained but not enlightened. I think maybe I have read enough of thos...more
Sarah Joyce Bryant
I read Devotion in two days/two sittings. The structure of the book – chapters starting right where the last ended – made it difficult to find a place to stop reading and I loved it. Dani Shapiro’s narrative was so personal and spoke to me on such a deep level and that structure gave me permission to keep reading…just one more chapter. What Shapiro wrote about: Is this all there is to life? If so, why do I feel like something’s missing?, and the spiritual quest that she began, is something unive...more
Karyn Hall
Dani Shapiro, on the cusp of Gen X and the baby boomer generation, is entering what Jung called the “afternoon of life,” a time to seek answers and meaning. A blonde New York author on the outside, she carries a melting pot of strong, sometimes contradictory influences within her. Her resulting unique personality is difficult to integrate leading her to constantly feel on the outside.

Her life is marked with the losses that all of us share and hers have hit unexpectedly, in unpredictable ways, s...more
Michelle
I've mentioned this before - and the more I experience the life of a book reviewer/blogger, the more I firmly believe this to be true - books have a way of coming across our path when they are most needed, when they will speak to us the most. Over the past two-plus years, as I have finally started paying attention, I have read many a novel or memoir that resonated with me specifically because they touched on something for which I too was searching. Dani Shapiro's Devotion is yet another example...more
Kasey
I loved, loved, loved this book. Which surprised me, because I wasn't particularly into the Dani Shapiro novel I tried to read. Maybe I didn't try hard enough. Because this book is beautifully written and very, very moving. It isn't really specifically about Buddhism, though it's one tradition Shapiro investigates in her effort to (for lack of better words) get more spiritual (she also explores yoga and Judaism, which is her family tradition). I'm making the book sound silly and lightweight, whi...more
Zohar - ManOfLaBook.com
“Devotion” by Dani Shapiro is a memoir about the authors mid-life crisis and search for spirituality. The book provided a fascinating read into the mind of a woman that, it seemed to me, couldn’t find inner calm if it slapped her in the face.

Evaluating herself as mid-life approaches, author Dani Shapiro feels anxiety over which she has no control. Looking at monumental personal events in her past makes her realize where some of that unease comes from. Dani Shapiro does not consider herself relig...more
Joan Winnek
My first book by this author, it gripped and enlightened me, and prompted me to order more of her books. A well-written, thoughtful memoir that intricately explores many ambiguities, the book draws from private and particular experiences and circumstances, and doesn't lose its footing as it approaches meaning-of-life issues. It's how we live, explored from the perspective of one woman, and enlightened by her explorations into many traditions and practices.

When I finish a book that particularly m...more
thewanderingjew
From the first page, I believed that Dani Shapiro was presenting an honest appraisal of her search for herself and the meaning of her life. As she pretty much bares her soul and her secrets, she seems to be exposing her fears and weaknesses in an effort to face them in the light of day and better deal with them. She worries about things that haven’t happened but devises all sorts of scenarios about what might happen and then spends her time trying to prevent them from happening or prepares for t...more
Antonio Farias
I sort of fell into this book after reading a short blog piece of hers that someone recommended on FB - was it chance, a sign, Providence speaking? Does it really matter? Growing up in a very religious Christian household, having turned away from organized religion and dealing with my own internal questions about my father, fatherhood, a child that ends up with one of those lotto odds sickness, guilt/rage about retribution from an mercurial God, my own obsessions with finding peace in the presen...more
Rachel
First of all, let me say that when I picked this book off the shelf at Barnes and Noble, I was taking a religion course at a seminary called "Building Abrahamic Partnerships" which not only made me question other religions which differed from my own, but also look internally at my own religion. This book came to me at the perfect time because of my queries about Judaism and how to live a Jewish life in a modern world. Shapiro does a great job of speaking to the reader and I definetely felt as if...more
Kristen
This is one of those books I approach with equal measure of high hopes and trepidation. On the one hand, I am heartened to see a writer putting her spiritual quandaries and concerns out there, and wrestling with them honestly and forthrightly in prose. But on the other hand, I worry that this type of book also falls into what I think we are lately calling "first world problems," or, more to the point here, "upper-middle-class white woman problems." I mean, we should all be afflicted with a happy...more
Andrea Homier
Dani Shapiro's honesty in writing of the search for meaning in her life and reconciliation with her Orthodox Jewish upbringing was what struck me the most about her reflections. She is not afraid to admit that she is frightened, depressed, and often times cannot find the meaning, and yet, this memoir is not hopeless. Meaning seeps in through the cracks -- at times. The last paragraph gives a beautiful glimmer:

This too, this too, this too, Jack Kornfield said. Life keeps coming at us. Fleeing it
...more
Julia
Reviewed by Mona at RexRobotReviews.com

Devotion: A Memoir by Dani Shapiro is a spiritually moving journey through one woman's life. I found this book to be an emotional exploration of faith and family. It is as if I were a shadow, following Ms. Shapiro through all of her trials and tribulations of finding herself and what her past means to her present and her future.

This book is truly an inspirational story. I cried and I laughed throughout this book, enjoying the writing as well as being allowe...more
Bianca Pistachio
I loved this. I loved everything about it. As a woman straddling two cultures myself I could entirely relate to the idea of figuring out how to conduct our own lives with our own children in a way that feels true.

(Tangent: I had no idea the writer's life was so solitary... and that it was OK to be so alone - my mother always told be to stay busy, involved, and surrounded by people - it's so hard to shake a loving mother's well-meaning advice... :) I find days alone writing at home drive me mad....more
Rhonda Rae Baker
Life has a way of unraveling us if we let it yet inner strength helps us weave back in what is important to us as individuals. I was expecting to find greater insight within the pages of this memoir but what I found was encouragement to keep on keeping on.

Dani didn’t share any profound wisdom for me yet her path gave me light at the end of my own tunnel. I understood her hyper-vigilance and search for meaning in all the chaos coupled with the fear of losing something important along the way. But...more
Beth
Shapiro qoutes Carl Jung on pg 182
“Thoroghly unprepared, we take the step into the afternoon of life; worst still, we take this step with the false assumptions that our truths and ideals will serve us as before. But we cannot live the afternoons of life according to the programme of life’s morning – for what was great in the morning will be little in the evening, and what in the morning was true will in the evening have become a lie.”

Shapiro qoutes Carl Jung on pg 182

May I be safe
May I be happy
M...more
Mandy Fernandez
Wow, I really loved this book! I could relate to it in so many ways. I stumbled upon this book accidentally but wondered if maybe it was divine intervention or dare I say "fate" that brought us together. This memoir is about a Jewish-born woman who abandoned her faith but began questioning it again after her son was born. She has so many internal conflicts and notions of what prayer and enlightenment should mean. She cofesses her fears and weaknesses but later learns to make some kind of "peace"...more
Mike
I love her narrative voice and her outlook on life. Her prose sometimes sizzles poetically.
I love how well-read she is, and how she leavens her text with aptly-chosen echoes & resonances from other wise writers and fellow-seekers.

Shapiro's spiritual journey is an interesting, unique, authentic one.
I think she identifies as very much of a Jew-Bu(ddhist), as do I (although I'm not sure how to spell it!).

Due to the trials and tribulations she's endured, her sensibility is often dark.
But she has...more
Barb
I may take a rest from this genre (middle age spiritual quest) for awhile, even though I liked this book very much. Much like "discovering" motherhood in my 20's and 30's, I'm coming head to head with the visceral knowledge of death as a reality, not just some abstract occurrence in the far off future. It's that time of life when the busyness of children and career start to fade; the importance of things seems inconsequential; the body starts its revolt and the essential "aloneness" of life reas...more
Laura Harrington
Dani Shapiro tackles the big questions of how to live our lives, what is faith, and whether we can hunger for spirituality and have an independent mind all at the same time.
I couldn't put this book down and immediately put it into the hands of a very good friend who has suffered too much tragedy.
What I most appreciate about this book is that it is subtle and honest and true. In a world where there is so much black and white thinking, Dani Shapiro has written a book which wisely celebrates the a...more
Fred Daly
Normally not the sort of book I'd choose, my independent study kid wanted to read it. It's non-fiction, about a novelist's mid-life search for spiritual meaning. She looks into her own Orthodox Jewish roots, explores yoga and Buddhism, reflects on the disasters and near-disasters in her life, and concludes that we have to search for meaning, but we don't have to find the answers all in one place. (Her husband and son are Red Sox fans, but it never seems to occur to her that everything she is loo...more
Erin
The library with its waitlist and 2 week checkout period has a way of dictating what I read when. Maybe I just wasn't in the mood for this one when it finally came up in the queue but while I enjoyed it on some level - the author is interesting, it was quick to read, and the topic was her spiritual journey - I got tired of this about half way through. Same questions, same issues, same sources of comfort. At some point I realized that I would rather be spending time on my own journey than reading...more
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Dani Shapiro is the author of five novels and the best-selling memoir Slow Motion. She has also written for magazines such as The New Yorker and Elle.

She lives with her husband and young son in Litchfield County, Connecticut.
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“This sadness wasn't a huge part of me--I wasn't remotely depressed--but still, it was like a stone I carried in my pocket. I always knew it was there. [p. 179]” 8 people liked it
“It wasn't getting easier because it isn't supposed to get easier. Midlife was a bitch, and my educated guess was that the climb only got steeper from here. Carl Jung put it perfectly: "Thoroughly unprepared we take the step into the afternoon of life," he wrote. "Worse still, we take this step with the false assumption that our truths and ideals will serve us as hitherto. But we cannot live the afternoon of life according to the program of life's morning; for what was great in the morning will be little at evening, and what in the morning was true will by evening have become a lie."
... I was writing a new program for the afternoon of life. The scales tipped away from suffering and toward openheartedness and love. [p. 182]”
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