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The Undervalued Self: Restore Your Love/Power Balance, Transform the Inner Voice That Holds You Back, and Find Your True Self-Worth

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The Undervalued Self: Restore Your Love/Power Balance, Transform the Inner Voice That Holds You Back, and Find Your True Self-Worth
Hardcover, 277 pages
Published March 8th 2010 by Little, Brown and Company (first published 2009)
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Mar 17, 2010 Shelie rated it it was amazing
Everyone has a part of them that is undervalued so this can be a valuable book for anyone. However, if you are someone who suffers from low self esteem due to life circumstances or natural disposition, this book may be a great help to you. It is a cognitive behavioral approach that assists with some of the self talk that causes us to undervalue. I recommend it highly.
Jan 10, 2012 Jennifer rated it liked it
Shelves: self-help, psychology
From my blog...[return]The Undervalued Self by Dr. Elaine N. Aron is written to help people realise everyone has an underlying self, that inner voice that proclaims one is not good enough or worthy and Dr. Aron's book sets out to help readers to identify the causes of the undervalued self and how to combat these causes. Dr. Aron has laid her book out in a very straight forward and easy to follow manner. She has broken the book down into nine chapters. The first two describe the undervalued self ...more
Feb 14, 2014 Zoie rated it it was ok
Shelves: 2014, gave-up-on
I have to admit that I mostly skimmed this book.

The writing was alright, and the book included a lot of interesting ideas, but it was really wordy.

I did, however, really enjoy the chapter about the "six self-protections." Useful information, for sure.

Overall, it was alright. I wouldn't recommend it to people, but it got it thinking about confidence and the things we do that hold us back in order to fit in or impress others.

Wendy Reiersen
Sep 06, 2010 Wendy Reiersen is currently reading it
This book is about linking and ranking. We need to connect with others and be accepted. We do also need to be aware of our place in the pecking order. Usually, we need more linking, and linking generally feels better. Seeking for linking and getting ranking instead doesn't feel good. So far (I've read the first chapter), this book explains a lot, and has the potential to be empowering.
Oct 15, 2016 MJ rated it really liked it
Should return to this one. "Undervalued Self" makes it sound as though one ought to read this book finding oneself in a poor situation mentally and socially- nothing could be further from the truth. Anyone would benefit from this gem. You will see your fellow humans in a new light reading it. A tad self- help'y, but look past that, because wealth of available insight is not to be missed.
What a major disappointment this was.

I've been introduced to Elaine Aron through her work and explaining on the Highly Sensitive Trait which to me was a major discovery and understanding of this side of myself and others I know, and how and why we are different and sometimes struggle in a world that does not recognize or value this trait.
This book was not about High Sensitivity but on the undervaluing of ourselves that so many of us do and that makes us suffer, and I had expected Aron to also h
Mar 15, 2010 Janet rated it liked it
What an odd book. I picked it up because I value the author's previous groundbreaking work, "The Highly Sensitive Person," (and "HSP in Love") in which she explores a minority of the population (like me) who are prone to deep reflection and feelings of being overwhelmed by the world. Because she understands these special characteristics, which tend to be misunderstood as shyness and dismissed as signs of weakness in our highly competitive society, I thought for sure she'd have something ...more
Kevin Orth
Jul 31, 2016 Kevin Orth rated it it was amazing
I am a huge fan of Dr. Aron having been introduced to her by her ground breaking work studying and understanding highly sensitive persons.

As with other books by Dr. Aron, this is full of practical, applicable, engaging information that is directly and immediately applicable to daily life. Also in her usual fashion, she includes exercises and work for the reader to take a deeper dive into their own experience of the material and make a deeper connection to the deep meaning, true value, and direct
Jun 24, 2014 Imibroccoli rated it really liked it
I adore Elaine Aron's work. Aron's and Tara Brach's work were my major influence as a therapist. Needless to say I first came across her through the HSP series. I did not have high hope on this seemingly common self help book, but it has very pleasantly exceeded my expectation. The book is a synthesis of various new wave approaches to therapy, one can argue that it is 'just plain old CBT' but it really is not. From what I am seeing, it artfully fulls together techniques and concepts from things ...more
Jul 15, 2012 Sandy rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
Recommends it for: everyone
This compelling and simple read of a complex problem makes me want to read Aron's other book entitled, The Highly Sensitive Person. Although, Aron doesn't indicate she is a Jungian, she follows his theory to a T: she calls the inner child, the Innocent; she calls the negative aspects of the archetypes the Protector/Persecutor (btw, Kalshed labeled it the same way); and she describes the awareness and attentiveness to the unconscious as being requisite for a valued self. Very practical, clear and ...more
Aug 05, 2014 Tamara rated it it was ok
Previously, I had read the Highly Sensitive Person Elaine Aron because I am one, but this book,
The Undervalue Self though I do see myself with some of these qualities, I found myself skimming through parts of the book. As with most self-help books, there are tools that I will be able to use, or tricks of the trade that will help me to steer away from the Undervalued Self. I never found my grove with this book, and there were certain parts that I thought were a little hokey, but overall I liked s
Jul 27, 2016 Melanie rated it it was ok
Ok, so I skipped good bits of this. Some helpful ideas, but I didn't like the language of "ranking" and "linking" that she used throughout. And the repeated suggestion to have conversations with yourself was just weird.
Jan 15, 2015 Hoonie rated it really liked it
This book is hard for me. She is explaining some words. For example, "Ranking, Power in the Service of Linking.." They are new things for me. Yesterday, I finish read "the book theif". so, I would like to watch the movie~!
Jul 07, 2014 Wendy rated it liked it
As usual with these sort of books 50% is useful, interesting, or thought-provoking ... and the rest is repetition - in case I hadn't understood a key point.
Still, there were useful parts.
Aug 22, 2015 Jessie rated it liked it
Some interesting insights about the effects of linking and ranking in inter-personal relationships. But not a lot of applicable suggestions.
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I didn't finish this book. I just couldn't get into it.
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