Goodreads helps you keep track of books you want to read.
Start by marking “The Spirituality of Imperfection: Storytelling and the Search for Meaning” as Want to Read:
The Spirituality of Imperfection: Storytelling and the Search for Meaning
Enlarge cover
Rate this book
Clear rating
Open Preview

The Spirituality of Imperfection: Storytelling and the Search for Meaning

4.3 of 5 stars 4.30  ·  rating details  ·  1,096 ratings  ·  105 reviews
I Am Not Perfect is a simplestatement of profound truth, the first step towardunderstanding the human condition, for to denyyour essential imperfection is to deny yourself andyour own humanity. The spirituality ofimperfection, steeped in the rich traditions of the Hebrewprophets and Greek thinkers, Buddhist sages andChristian disciples, is a message as timeless as it istim ...more
ebook, 304 pages
Published December 23rd 2009 by Bantam (first published April 1st 1992)
more details... edit details

Friend Reviews

To see what your friends thought of this book, please sign up.
This book is not yet featured on Listopia. Add this book to your favorite list »

Community Reviews

(showing 1-30 of 2,817)
filter  |  sort: default (?)  |  rating details
Karen Mcintyre
Easily read, this book introduces us to the concept that to grow in spiritual realm means to accept imperfection --- no to celebrate it! Using stories and quotes from some of the worlds greatest thinkers and mystics the authors share this concept encouraging each person to take steps to become their own.

The messaage is don't wait for someone to tell you who you are--begin this path and unfold the letter God wrote to you upon your birth!
Amy Hayden
It's difficult to describe the impact this book has had on my life, but for anyone struggling with developing a sense of spirituality that isn't dependent upon organized religion, this book is key.
Sep 11, 2011 Esther rated it 5 of 5 stars  ·  review of another edition
Recommended to Esther by: Andy
Shelves: religious, self-help
This one was sent in a care package at just the right moment, when someone else had just told me my job was to learn how to fail, and to do it well. I almost laughed at the irony, picking this out of its box, but really, this book isn't telling me to learn how to fail. It's saying I already do fail, and to accept failure and success as part of life. Accept that the safer place on a see-saw is not at an extreme, trying to be perfect or beating oneself up for being a failure, it's sitting in the ...more
Morgan Blackledge
Humble Roots:
I have lived in California for about 26 years, but I grew up in Michigan.

When I was. Kid, my dad had a catch phrase that pretty much summarized Michigander values.

Any time we would be working on a project together, and I would try to find a creative new way of solving a problem, my dad would say "nothin fancy".

This highly functional but highly invalidating little gotcha pretty much ensured that we would have the fence posts dug in and set before my dad had to report to his afterno
Two words... life changing. Seven years ago I was on my knees after hitting rock bottom and as I clawed my way to get back on my feet again it was this book that kept me going. I still have my copy and its the one book that I go back and read over and over again. This book is very special to me.
The Spirituality of Imperfection is a wonderfully elucidating guide to applying spiritual principals in life. This beautiful book is a wise alternative to the deluge of metaphysical nincoompary that is as uninteresting as it is unhelpful to those of us who really are trying to find meaning in this often challenging world and still hope to become better people in the process.

Authors Kurtz and Ketcham draw on the ages old tradition of storytelling as it is handed down to us from the sages and sai
Rod White
This is a well-written book, full of stories and wisdom. I appreciated it in spite of myself, since I am a Christian. I can agree with almost all the postmodern philosophy of AA and even with most of the "spirituality" presented here. But the alternative religion of AA and the claim to that the spirituality of imperfection is the overarching umbrella of spiritual reality that all religions are ultimately revealing is a bit much for me. In the name of not being grandiose, it is grandiose; and in ...more
This is very much a long-term favorite of mine. I always reach for it when I'm sad, frightened, or stuck in any way. It centers on Alcoholics Anonymous and how Bill W. (AA's founder) discovered that the desire to be perfect was really the sticking spot for most alcoholics; they had to discover that perfection was impossible. The book is full of stories from three or four religious traditions, plus AA stories and Bill W's letters illustrating not only humankind's innate imperfection but our need ...more
wow. where to begin? this book is very thought provoking. it is kind of text booky in parts, but if you can get through that there is a great deal to ponder up in he-yah. tons of examples from ancient history to current day. the basic premise is that to deny your imperfections is to deny your very human-ness. if you can come to terms with the fact that you are flawed by nature, you can begin to understand and forgive the imperfections of others. for someone who has struggled with the p-word most ...more
Insightfully helpful

This book, perhaps more than any other book I've read, does the best job explaining spirituality. The book uses alcoholics anonymous as its frame of reference for the imperfection. Presumably they do so for it is so relatable, or, at the very least, understandable.

One need not be in recovery to benefit from this fantastic book. Part history of spirituality, part exposition on how we can apply this in our lives. The book relies heavily on anecdotes, stories and biographies to
ehhhh...bla bla gives a lot of excuses to be lazy in your search for sirituality...pawns off a lot of the blame of our poor choices/decisions in life on the human condition...whatever, I read it at a time in my life when I was comfortable being lazy...not really recommended to the lay person, it's a good primer for better things to come I suppose.
Deb Amend
This was a pretty good read, but I just felt like a lot of it was kind of obvious. Also the stories got a bit tiresome. "Storytelling" to me feel like it should be a bit more than what they deem it. At times it felt like "Chicken Soup for the Soul" but meatier. Maybe a "Shepherds Pie for the Soul"
Douglas Cosby
The title says it all, and this book just says it over and over again: that real spritituality requires an acceptance and embracing of our humanity and lack of perfection. Decent parables and stories to support this idea, but too much redundancy and too heavy on the AA message.
An absolutely brilliant anthology of stories from many traditions about man's obsession with perfection. I meant to read the stories one at a time and wound up reading the book in one sitting.
For those who seek Truth and love stories, this book is God sent. Initially, the content came across as a bit obtuse in contrast to the simple language of the cited stories. However, soon the text and stories start intermingling profoundly as the message of one weaves beautifully into another, transpiring gems of wisdom and compassion. The book's message is deeply influenced and inspired by the spiritual aspects of the Alcoholics Anonymous and emphasizes the acknowledgement of our imperfections ...more
Ugh. I couldn't read it.
Oct 20, 2008 Suzanne rated it 5 of 5 stars  ·  review of another edition
Recommends it for: Anyone interested in spirituality
Recommended to Suzanne by: Um yes My friend Rita (Rita Mae)
'When the King visited the monasteries of the great Zen Master Lin Chi, he was astonished to learn that there were more than 10,000 monks living there with him.
Wanting to know the exact number of monks, the King asked, "How many disciples do you have?"
Lin Chi replied, "Four or five at the very most." '
(Story Tellers cites a street entertainer named ken Feit)

Also : 'A man walking through the forest saw a fox that had lost its legs and he wondered how it lived. Then he saw a tiger come up with
Andrew Griffith
A survey of spiritualism, ranging from the Abrahamic to the Eastern religions, and including modern variants such as the 12 step program of Alcoholics Anonymous. The anchor that our imperfection is part of our essence of being human, and it is better to be open and accepting of our imperfection, rather than striving for what is not to be, is powerful. The book draws from a number of stories from the various religious traditions to underline the points, reflecting another fundamental truth, that ...more
Nicole (Reading Books With Coffee)
Someone recommended this book to me about 4 years ago, and it’s taken me several years to get through it. I loved the stories and quotes scattered throughout the book. It was hard to get into, because the book is fairly dry, and read like a textbook at times.

A.A. and the 12 Steps/Traditions are mentioned throughout the book; at times, I felt like it was more like the spirituality of A.A., not the spirituality of imperfection. Kurtz, according to the author biography at the back of the book, has
Full of great stories and thought-provoking proposals. It was hard for me to get into the flow of the book; for me it was a slow read, though not a difficult one. I appreciate the basic premise that spirituality is found in our imperfections, in the paradoxes of life and relationships, in being who we are and accepting others as they are. Not a book of action but one of reflection - calming and reassuring while grappling with difficult questions.
"One of the disconcerting and delightful teachings of the master was: "God is closer to sinners than to saints."
This is how he explained it: "God in heaven holds each person by a string. When you sin, you cut the string. Then God ties it up again, making a knot and thereby bringing you a little closer to him. Again and again your sins cut the string and with each further knot God keeps drawing you closer and closer" pg. 29
Laura K
This book explores the spirituality of imperfection through the history and philosophy of A.A. I didn't know that when I picked up the book, but I'm glad I read it. I knew very little about A.A., other than knowing that it had worked for a number of people. The history of the organization was fascinating and I was surprised to find that the philosophy is much less "religious" and dogmatic than I assumed. The historical facts are intertwined with an analysis of 'spirituality vs. religion', which ...more
The Spirituality of Imperfection assures the reader that acknowledging his/her imperfection is necessary for spiritual growth. Reassured, the reader learns that telling stories is an effective way to communicate hard-to-articulate themes such as wisdom, humility, wonder. Drawing on the AA experience of toleration and multiplicity of religious beliefs, the authors focus on process more than content. That process, however, is not a prescription. It is more a humble, open-minded, community-supporte ...more
Rena Sherwood
I received great comfort from this book. I know that's not the best criteria for literary criticism, but there ya go. It is heavy on the AA, but the AA frame is flexible enough to fit a wide variety of personal problems. It also lets you know that there are others who have screwed their lives up more than you.
This book was really interesting for about the first third. Then I felt it became quite repetitive. It was very enlightening as to the struggles and triumphs of some loved ones who thrive on AA. It contains some marvelous quotes. I am not sorry I read it, it just wasn't a book I ever would have chosen for myself.
i thought this might be helpful to my own OCD stuff, though it seemed somewhat "self help" category for me, which I always find annoying. the stories are great examples, though, and are often borrowed from diverse settings
Wonderful trove of quotations and excerpts from among the best texts, from the words of the Desert Fathers, Jewish mystics, Alcoholics Anonymous, Buddhism, and many more. All stress the impossibility of being perfect in this life and how recognizing our defects can help us grow as human beings.
This is one of those books that I will come back to time and time again- should be required reading for anyone who has experienced pain (I think that's all of us) or is searching for deeper spirituality. Highly, highly recommend.
I did not expect this book at all to use the example of Alcoholics Anonymous as the prime success story in enacting a spirituality of imperfection, but I guess that's mostly because I didn't know too much about AA before reading this book. It uses quotations and excerpts from tons of sources - the founders of AA, various world religions, philosophers, psychologists, etc - which showed a wide range of views on people who have grappled with the same hard truth that humans are flawed and that we wi ...more
Rand Lee
Dec 15, 2014 Rand Lee rated it 3 of 5 stars  ·  review of another edition
Recommends it for: 12 Step program members
I was drawn to this book because of my Twelve Step program work. The author combines Twelve Step principles with quotes from Buddhist, Christian, and Jewish philosophy to make the point that reality is by its very nature imperfect; i.e., incomplete, subject to change. For that reason, the author urges readers to practice acceptance and forgiveness of self and others.

I think this book will appeal mostly to people like me who have found Twelve Step programs useful. I found some of the quotes pret
« previous 1 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 93 94 next »
There are no discussion topics on this book yet. Be the first to start one »
  • The Sermon on the Mount: The Key to Success in Life
  • My Name Is Bill: Bill Wilson--His Life and the Creation of Alcoholics Anonymous
  • Drop The Rock: Removing Character Defects - Steps Six and Seven
  • Twelve Steps and Twelve Traditions
  • Wisdom Hunter
  • Immortal Diamond: The Search for Our True Self
  • The Unnecessary Pastor: Rediscovering the Call
  • Centering Prayer and Inner Awakening
  • Soul Making: The Desert Way of Spirituality
  • The Dark Night of the Soul: A Psychiatrist Explores the Connection Between Darkness and Spiritual Growth
  • Centering Prayer: Renewing an Ancient Christian Prayer Form
  • Proverbs of Ashes: Violence, Redemptive Suffering, and the Search For What Saves Us
  • A Hidden Wholeness: The Journey Toward an Undivided Life
  • Spiritual Direction: Wisdom for the Long Walk of Faith
  • The Preaching Life
  • God is No Laughing Matter
  • Congregational Leadership in Anxious Times: Being Calm and Courageous No Matter What
  • Addictive Thinking: Understanding the Addictive Process and Compulsive Behavior

Share This Book

“One of the disconcerting and delightful teaching of the master was: "God is closer to sinners than to saints."
This is how he explained it: " God in heaven holds each person by a string. When you sin you cut the string. then God ties it up again, making a knot-and therby bringing you a little closer to him. Again and again your sins cut the string-and with each further knot God keeps drawing you closer and closer.”
“The question "Who am I?" really asks, "Where do I belong or fit?" We get the sense of that "direction" -- the sense of moving toward the place where we fit, or of shaping the place toward which we are moving so that it will fit us -- from hearing how others have handled or are attempting to handle similar (but never exactly the same) situations. We learn by listening to their stories, by hearing how they came (or failed) to belong or fit.” 6 likes
More quotes…