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    <body><![CDATA[I enjoyed reading this book. Kurcinka maintains that children are not &quot;out to get&quot; parents. When they misbehave they are trying to get a need met or responding to a stress or problem in their lives.<br/><br/>She covers personality characteristics, stresses, and medical problems, and how ...<a href="http://www.goodreads.com/review/show/24260718">more...</a>]]></body>
    
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    <body><![CDATA[This book starts out slow, but once I got to the part about comparing your child's temperament with your own, I was hooked.  I also really liked the chapter about how kids deal with stress.  This was an eye opener of a book.  Not only does it explain why your kid may be acting up, but it gives you t...<a href="http://www.goodreads.com/review/show/58375324">more...</a>]]></body>
    
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    <body><![CDATA[Powerful... I think this is one I'll come back to again and again. ]]></body>
    
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    <body><![CDATA[Insightful, useful, really enjoyed.]]></body>
    
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    <![CDATA[Kids, parents, and power struggles--the inseparable triad of family life. What if you could avoid Machiavellian peacekeeping maneuverings and instead turn difficult situations with your child into jumping-off points to having a better and more productive relationship? Mary Sheedy Kurcinka's new book gives a concise, practical, and often humorous account of how to achieve this turnaround. Kurcinka doesn't promise miracle cures or overnight success, but by building on Daniel Goleman's groundbreaking work in <em>Emotional Intelligence</em>, she offers creative techniques for using power struggles as pathways to better understanding within any family. Drawing on her clinical experience with numerous real-life families, Kurcinka builds up an image of the parent as an &quot;emotion coach,&quot; whose role is to build a strong, connected &quot;team&quot; by understanding the players' strengths and weaknesses and showing by instruction and example how best to play the game. The techniques she outlines are useful for children of any age--in fact, the younger, the better--and are based on firm guidelines and mutual respect. In sections such as &quot;Bringing Down the Intensity,&quot; &quot;Enforcing Your Standards,&quot; and &quot;Teaching Life's Essential Skills,&quot; Kurcinka addresses the causes of power struggles rather than just the symptoms, so that families can reduce the pain of repeated conflict. By the end of the book, any parent should feel confident in applying the principles. <em>--Katherine Ferguson</em> ]]>
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    <body><![CDATA[I finished this book and then read several sections again.  The title is misleading.  This book encourages parents to understand their emotional styles and their children's emotional styles and to work with those to resolve conflicts.  Kurcinka balances practical advice with general perspective on t...<a href="http://www.goodreads.com/review/show/35151361">more...</a>]]></body>
    
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    <body><![CDATA[Another great book by Kurcinka. I found this book immensely helpful early in my parenting. I knew I didn't want to parent in a more &quot;traditional&quot; way, but hadn't quite figured out how I did want to parent. This was one of the books that helped me find some of the answers to that question. ]]></body>
    
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    <body><![CDATA[The book is very useful to help recognize your own temperament and your child's and to take a step back and reflect on how your temperaments fit together.  This book is especially useful when you are in the middle of a lot of problems with your precious angel pie.]]></body>
    
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    <body><![CDATA[This is an excellent book about parenting.  It is consistent with research about brain development and attachment.  Very practical ideas.]]></body>
    
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