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The Choice Effect: Love and Commitment in an Age of Too Many Options

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Love choices but hate choosing? Welcome to the club.

The Choice Effect is for young women who have all the opportunities in the world and no idea how to decide among them. It’s one thing to have lots of options when it comes to fulfilling careers or traveling the world—but what does it mean for our love lives? How can you know whether you’re with the right person—or if the
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Paperback, 224 pages
Published May 25th 2010 by Seal Press (first published 2010)
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Sarah Zaharia
"Twirl around in the confetti of choices, and let the resulting dizziness be the worst of your problems." p.199.

This was a fun book that I read at the right time. They used a very informal writing style that I didn't always enjoy. So many pop references! The Paradox of Choice was the better book on the topic but this was an easier read. I could certainly identify with a lot of what they talked about but did have a number of moments where I disagreed with their perspective.
Heather
I could tell within a paragraph or two that I am not part of the demographic audience this book was written for, though I fall directly into the Generation Y category. This book was written to young women in their early-20s to mid-30s who - according to the authors - are paralyzed in terms of being able to make quick and solid decisions about Big Picture choices, simply because we have too many choices in life.

This book addresses our generation's inability to settle on a single career, or our he
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Al
How and why is the current generation of twenty-somethings so different than their parents? This book explores the answer to this question, concentrating on the female perspective since the three co-authors are female, but at least partially answering the question for the male population as well.

Part academic (they provide extensive footnotes for many of their contentions) part memoir (lots of their own experiences and those of their friends and part humor (they can laugh at themselves and their
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Maria Manfredi
The cover is gorgeous, but I preferred Marry Him: The Case for Settling for Mr. Good Enough by Lori Gottlieb.

I felt like this book felt a bit self congratulating rather than the wake up call it needs to be. At the end they brought up a really great point. Just because this door closed doesn't mean its the end of choice. So what that door closed a new door you didn't even see as a possibility just opened up. And that is all about prioritizing because its impossible to HAVE IT ALL. You have to fi
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erforscherin
(3 of 5 stars)

This book is a strange, scatterbrained mix of advice and anecdotes - much, I think, like the audience it's trying to market itself to. "Choisters," as they seem to define the term, are young, probably-white, probably-liberal women in their mid- to late-20s who (undoubtedly) went to some tiny artsy college, graduated with a liberal-arts degree, found they could do nothing useful with it, and decided to globetrot their way through an extended adolescence instead. The focus here is on
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Rebeccahowden
One of the things I value most about my life is that I have options. I have the luxury of choosing what I want to do, where I want to live, who I want to date, in a way that many people around the world don’t.

But the trouble with having choices is having to actually make a choice. It’s the old parable of the fig tree, where choosing one means losing all the rest. There’s a part of me that wants to have it all and do everything, be everything.

This is what Amalia McGibbon, Lara Vogel and Claire A.
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Michele Pratusevich
Very feminist, very 20-something literature. If you just broke up with someone or are looking for justification about the failures of your relationships, this is for you. Generation X, feminism, college life, and more. Great read, but if I didn't grow up as a 20-something in the US in the 2000s then I wouldn't like this book.
Anna
Before reading this book I would have argued that there is very little that I have in common with the stereotypes assigned to my generation of 20-somethings. I was surprised by how much this book made me look at my life and the reasons I do things as a "choister". It also motivated me to make an effort to enjoy my 20's more rather than languishing away in full time employment and grad school. Not that those aren't important, but as a choister, I can have my cake and eat it too with a little crea ...more
Cara
This book kind of made me hate myself, as a so-called "choister". I couldn't quite figure out the point of the book, in the sense that it appeared to be trying to explain some kind of new phenomenon, but to an audience that is mainly comprised of the kind of young women the book is about. Please, tell me more about myself and people like me! I was also not a huge fan of the exceedingly casual tone, which suggested to be a lack of legitimacy to the subject. At the same time, without the chummy to ...more
Jaclyn
Makes a good point that for a generation that has grown up in the age of last-minute tickets across the world, test-tube children and 10,000 brands of spagetti sauce, love for a lifetime is nerve-wracking, as in any choice when you haven't been able to see ALL your options. This new generation Loves having multiple choices-and hates choosing.
Jen
A book that explains a generation and the effect that all the choices we are given have on us. Required reading for people currently in their mid-to-late twenties and early thirties. And for their parents and grandparents who are wondering why they haven't settled down yet.
Judy
I learned about GenY -- told they could "have it all" want it all. Unable to make decisions because that might prevent them from having everything, they don't want to shut any doors.


Lara Vogel
Apr 11, 2010 Lara Vogel added it  ·  (Review from the author)
waiting for it to come out...but I know firsthand that it's wonderfully enriching...
Christine
If I hear the word "choister" one more time....
kathleen
Entertaining, quick read. Free on Kindle.
Jenna
While not exactly my point of view, an interesting (and funny!) look at the evolution of relationships in my generation. The inundation of choices our generation faces often leaves us without the ability to see which choice is the best for us or our futures in the longrun, whether it be about our majors in college, our careers after college, or our romantic partners. The authors (three worldly women who know all about Facebook, Twitter, and other current social memes) use humor to tell the tales ...more
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