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Don't Bring Home a White Boy: And Other Notions that Keep Black Women From Dating Out

3.85  ·  Rating Details  ·  96 Ratings  ·  19 Reviews
In Don’t Bring Home a White Boy, writer Karyn Langhorne Folan debunks the myths about interracial relationships. Drawing on real-life testimonials, she boldly tackles this difficult subject with warmth, humor, and understanding, as she explores stereotypes of black female sexuality and white male perspectives on black female beauty.

Folan goes beyond statistics an
Hardcover, 256 pages
Published February 2nd 2010 by Gallery Books/Karen Hunter Publishing (first published January 11th 2010)
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Michelle Gilmore
Jan 10, 2011 Michelle Gilmore rated it liked it
Recommends it for: anyone interested in race relations, and/ or interracial dating
I thought this one was pretty good. I really enjoyed reading the historical info the author provided. In fact, I was inspired to go and my research. I think the author, and the persons interviewed for the book provided some helpful tips to that can be applied to any relationship, not just interracial couples. I appreciated the way the Langorne Folan tackled issues such sexism, and domestic abuse etc, and made a point of saying that "all" at one time or another in their lives may encounter such i ...more
Shun Jackson
Dec 29, 2010 Shun Jackson rated it it was amazing
This was an awesome read and very funny at times. I am already into interracial dating so a lof of the information I knew. But I still learned some other insightful things as well. I could definitely see myself reading this again in the future. What's funny though, is that I got a lof of stares from people because of the cover of the book. It amazes me that when there are so many other people in the world who date interracially, it is such a big deal when it is a white man and black woman. I was ...more
Apr 12, 2010 Valerie rated it liked it
Shelves: read-in-2010
This book, written by a black woman in a relationship with a white man, was written to try to encourage Black women to have open minds about interracial dating. The author explores and dispels ten notions that black women tend to cite as their reasons for not dating outside of their race. My mind is already open to interracial dating, so I didn't need to be convinced. Thankfully, my parents never said anything like, "don't bring home a white boy" to me, but my mom tells me she got that her fathe ...more
Apr 27, 2016 Angela rated it really liked it
Shelves: self-improvement
This book definitely opened my eyes to some misconceptions that even I had. Without going into great details of my life - my parents provided the opportunity for me to live among other cultures, with the majority of my life spent overseas. During that period I honestly did not see race. Yes I saw different shades, but this meant nothing to me - other than different shades. I dated who I wanted, and nothing was said. Not until I came to the US was my race made a huge deal. I'm assuming that this ...more
Apr 01, 2013 Deborah rated it it was amazing
Being first brought up in a predominantly white suburb of Philly, then being moved to a very integrated community in Delaware, I relate so much to the struggles of these women. I still get told that "I think/want to be/act" white by black friends and sometimes family, and this book both comforted me with similar stories as well as made me mad that people ignorantly feel it's ok to judge and limit people in this way.

As a writer, the book also really inspired me and helps me to push on to create p
Maria Ekpo
Jan 19, 2016 Maria Ekpo rated it did not like it  ·  review of another edition
I saw this book in a magazine and figured I would read it since the number of highly educated unmarried black women has been a hot topic for years now. Unfortunately, this book is just anecdotal and offers little to no research, which is simply unacceptable for a sociology non-fiction book. I was beyond disappointed and do not wish to spend any more time on reviewing it.
Mar 31, 2012 Phoebe rated it really liked it
Smart, funny, and backed up by facts. We should all be so wise and clever! Particularly, I thought the author's voice was very strong and enjoyed how she organized the book by dispelling "notions" (such as, "mix race children are confused.) My one gripe was that author never once mentioned the possibility that some black women might like to bring home other WOMEN, regardless of color. (I find it very odd when books written for heterosexual audiences carefully deny the existence of non-heterosexu ...more
Ebony M
Mar 02, 2015 Ebony M rated it really liked it
The best discussion of the topic of black women's marriage options of the 2010s
Myth vs. Reality of inter-racial dating
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dis jawn was crazy it was bout how dis (Black) qirl had lived wit her family nd wat soo ever nd her family has always wanted her tew bring home a (Black) boy buht onee day shee has came home with a (whitee) boy instead nd her parents were soo pissed dat dey did everything that they can to qet rid of him. This Book was so crazy because u should never judge a book by it's color like it was crazy how her mom had judged her boyfreind just because he was (White) Like come on now if anybody was to do ...more
Dec 25, 2012 Mel rated it really liked it
This book was funny and insightful. It didn't tell us a whole lot we didn't know. But, Karyn Langhorne Folan took stereotypes and excuses and proved them all wrong. She also used facts and statistics to prove her points. What I liked the most was the points of views and stories from men and women in interracial relationships. I have dated different races and ethnicities and a lot of it rang true.I have read one of her fiction novels and am looking forward to reading more by her.
Jul 11, 2013 Barb rated it it was amazing
Shelves: favorites
This book provides a wonderful insight into why there are issues with black women dating and marrying interracially. It's also a great argument as to why black women should consider dating outside their race. This book in does not, in any way shape or form, "put down" men of any race because as it's discussed, men are men. I thoroughly enjoyed this book and would recommend it, especially to black American females.
Jul 25, 2011 Jessica rated it really liked it
Given the title (I know judging a book by its cover and all that), the book was a surprisingly nuanced look at biases in the 'black community' about black women dating outside their race. The author mixes soft science with anecdotes to make quite a compelling case for African American women to consider expanding their dating circles.
Mar 11, 2013 Ariel rated it really liked it
I'm only 17, but I found this book very empowering a must read for girls and women who are out searching for love. Who says we have to stay within our own race? This book destroys all of the notions set before African-American women, and inspires us to step out of our "dating box".
Jul 29, 2012 Cheryl rated it really liked it
Shelves: african-american
I am one of the people who believe that love is love regardless of the persons skin color. Would I rather be with a man who looks like me? Yes. Am I going to sit around waiting for this man? No. I won't deny someone the opportunity to get to know me because he isn't black.
Mar 06, 2011 Nicole rated it liked it
This book was very interesting. Opened my eyes to the possibilities and was a GREAT book club discussion book!
Mar 31, 2011 Elizabeth marked it as to-read
Shelves: npr, gender-studies
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Apr 18, 2015 Flip rated it liked it
It was an okay read for me, it was funny at times.
Sep 09, 2012 Doreen rated it liked it
Informative. Nothing new for me.
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Karyn Langhorne Folan graduated from Harvard Law School and after practicing and teaching law for several years, decided to pursue her dream of becoming a writer. She is the author of twenty-one books and counting, including three young adult titles for the popular Bluford High series, four romance novels, several works of nonfiction. She has also been the ghostwriter for personalities in the ente ...more
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