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Fathered by God: Learning What Your Dad Could Never Teach You

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There is a path leading to authentic manhood, cut by men who have gone before us, sons following in the footsteps of their fathers, generation after generation. There are perils along the trail, even disasters?all the more reason to rely on the guidance of a Father who has gone before.

But in an age when true fathers are in short supply, how do you find the path to manhood?
ebook, 240 pages
Published April 21st 2009 by Thomas Nelson (first published 2009)
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Nov 11, 2009 Ryan is currently reading it  ·  review of another edition
The first chapter is about boyhood, the earliest stage of our life when the world is a place of adventure and suprises, when we are learning and exploring. Eldredge says that the most important thing for a boy is that he feels like he is the beloved son. Not just approved of in his fathers heart, but adored and prized completely by his father. For a lot of men, we were wounded in our boyhood. Some of our fathers didn't spend much time with us. Some never taught us anything important and we felt ...more
Gabriel-paul Israel
I loved this book. I've often found that the books that are written specifically for one gender are highly beneficial to both genders. I find that the sections of the book that are expository for the benefit of the reader by a grown man about having moments of feeling incometent are incredibly important. Reading about the different stages of masculinity are usually not thought about by the average reader and they are just as important for women to know as they are for men to know. I find that th ...more
Jennifer Harshaw
I really love John Eldredge's writings I had just finished Wild at Heart and dived into this one. It flowed really well at first but after a bit I had a hard time finishing it out, until getting to the last chapter. It seems the last chapter of every book I read of his corresponds to the current events I am dealing with in my life now. He wraps it up well. I liked Wild at Heart better this was more in depth, but I am a female, though I am a female I do feel either the information is still pertin ...more
Gerald Thomson
Feb 16, 2016 Gerald Thomson rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
Though the message is similar to Wild at Heart, I enjoyed Fathered by God much more. Maybe I am in a better place to receive Eldredge’s message. It also felt like there was a bit more humility in this offering. Maybe time has been good for Eldredge. His view of the masculine journey certainly gets one to take pause and examine where you have been and where you are going. If you have not read Eldredge, this is a great place to start. This would also be helpful for parents of boys.
Jan 13, 2012 Bj rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
This was the first book I read after my divorce this past summer. It helped me to process through some of my pain and realize that I have a loving Father in Heaven who only wants me to come to Him. I feel that I have much to learn about what my mortal journey holds, nut this book helped me realize that I needn't do it alone. For that, I'm grateful.
Nov 19, 2009 Doug rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
Sometimes it's hard for a son to see flaws in a father who seems perfect. Eldredge's book quickly shows that my love for my son, and my father's love for me, pails in comparison to God's love. This book is a great read for fathers.
Dec 14, 2009 Scott rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
This book has been amazing for me! About to begin a second time through with a study guide. It is helping me better understand some of the gaps from my childhood and how to relate to God as my heavenly father.
Colby Clapp
Oct 30, 2013 Colby Clapp rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
I found this book extremely thought-provoking. I have never read any other works by John Eldredge (a counselor) and just randomly picked it up at the Christian book store. Apparently, this is a reworking of material from a previous book, Way of the Wild Heart, which some reviews online took exception to, but seeing as how I have never read it, the fact didn't concern me. At the conclusion of the book, he suggests that you read Way of the Wild Heart, I assume because it is much broader in scope, ...more
D.A. Cairns
Eldredge's book really connected with me on some levels. My spirit recognizes truth in this work also, but I am also troubled by the masculine stereotype it propagates. Men go camping and hiking with other men. They fish and hunt and climb mountains. They build things and do other 'manly' stuff. While I understand that the author is writing from his own experience, to a specific audience, I think his definition of masculinity, (and femininity for that matter) is too narrow, and that is why I mar ...more
Feb 20, 2013 Josh rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
Recommends it for: Young Christian Men
Eldredge does a very good job here of outlining what masculinity looks like, though I wonder if he ends up to culturally biased with his anecdotes of fishing, hiking, camping, and mountaineering. His earlier stages (Boyhood, Cowboy, Warrior) do a solid job anyway of outlining the stages and the Biblical basis for them. This likely also has something to do with Eldredge being old enough to reflect on and write about these stages with some authority and distance. The later stages, however (Lover, ...more
Robert Gilbert
Is this book just another one of those “claim it in faith, buy it on credit, expect God to pay the interest” kind of books? I bought it for a friend, and I read it because it looked like it might help me, but by the end of it I am left feeling like I am the reason God wandered off like an absent Father. I know that is not the Creator of the Universe. I know that’s just the poser Jehovah who has led so many astray throughout the centuries. But this book tries to paint him as our Father in Heaven. ...more
Mar 31, 2015 Kazuki rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
During the process of reading this book I've drawn in series of self-reevaluations: that I've unresolved issues in my growing years, that something from my past is holding me back to grow spiritually mature (that I need to deal with it head on like a warrior), that I have a Father that will lead me through this growing process so that my journey as a man may complete, just as He intended.

The book help me to understand the heartbeat of the Heavenly Father, as He prepare the way of growing and mat
John Barbour
This book is about the 6 stages of a man’s life and being fathered through each one. I wish I had something like this when I was young. I think it provides a good model. Obviously, your earthly dad can’t do it all. What is needed is other men and above all, God, himself. This book leads you into a deeper awareness of the Father-heart of God and how he brings “fathers” into our lives - but we must be aware. Btw: Muslims and other religions do not have this idea of God. It was revealed to us throu ...more
Jul 20, 2014 BDC rated it liked it  ·  review of another edition
I like the general message of this book. I don't think he is a great writer. And I don't get too inspired by his stories of fly fishing and mountain climbing (just not my cup of tea). I am bothered by 5 or 6 of his comments related to masculinity (’God strengthening us, healing us, is a distinctly masculine venture;" ”never letting your boy play with weapons is emasculating"). But overall the main point is good: there are stages of a man's development and in each he has something to learn and ne ...more
Aug 18, 2015 Michael rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
I read this book a few years back when it was titled The Way of the Wild Heart, and for some reason it didn't resonate with me. Fast forward to now and this book caused me to take an inventory of my life and spark a fire in me to embrace the stages of manhood. In this book, Eldredge talks about the different stages that guys go through in life. The book is well written and has a good flow and pace to it. If you haven't read Wild at Heart, I would recommend you read that first, as it sets a found ...more
Todd Stanfield
Feb 21, 2014 Todd Stanfield rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
I was encouraged and challenged by this book. I loved Wild at Heart. It cast a vision for the life I am called to as a man in Christ, but it lacked many of the particulars. Fathered by God lays out a road map for the Christian boy/man, showing you the nature of the key challenges you will face along the way. It is a model of masculine development that rings true to my own life. I love the prayers at the end of each chapter that have you asking God for his guidance at each stage, even those you m ...more
Stephen Kuhn
Aug 29, 2014 Stephen Kuhn rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
A few years back my counselor recommended I read Wild at Heart to help me understand how my addiction was fueled by misunderstandings of how God made me as a man.

To say that book changed my view of what Biblical masculinity looks like would be an understatement.

As much as I enjoyed Wild at Heart though, I believe Fathered by God is perhaps even more helpful for men who struggle with living as the man God calls them to be.

Read the full review here.
Chris McGrath
This book came to me at just the right time, as I'm doing a lot of introspection regarding my role as a father and also the successes and failures of my journey thus far. It has, in part, helped me to identify those things I missed, that created wounds in me that need healing. It has helped me to understand why I chased certain dreams at different times and what questions I was looking to answer in each of them. And it definitely gives me a clearer picture of the father and man that I want to be ...more
David Mullen
Nov 25, 2014 David Mullen rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
Great ideas...and big ones. Initiating our biys into young men, our young men into warriors, our warriors into kings and our kings into our sages. Which one are you? You'll find yourself somewhere along this continuim, and you may recognize you have had at least one of these steps excised from your story...yet each step is important in becoming the full man God intend. Eldredge is helping us put those forgotten peocs back into our stories.
May 25, 2010 Shelli rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
I just picked this up from costco and thought it funny I would buy a book mainly for men but it sounded interesting and I was surprised how I liked it. The author is a christian and feels strongly that boys, men (all of us) need to put our life in Gods hands and let him teach us and direct us as our father. He basically expresses what all men and women in this life need to become...Sons and Daughters of God who can become just like him. The world needs more books like this!
John Mark
Sep 04, 2014 John Mark rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
A great book that breaks down the stages of Masculinity and how the ancient ways of initiation is still needed even more so today because this is The Fatherless Generation. Masculinity is bestowed and thank God for this book that helps boys open their eyes that they need Mentors and Abba to help them become the Men that GOD intended them to be. Read Wild at Heart before you read this book though. Thank you John Eldredge!
Laura Bennet
Feb 25, 2015 Laura Bennet rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
Once again, John Eldredge is a vessel used by God to share incredible truth. My husband asked me to read this as it was remarkably helpful to him. I can only say the same. It not only gave me great insight into the way men grow, mature and think, but it also revealed some ways in which women are affected by the way they are fathered. A must read. Life changing, encouraging and enlightening. Highly, highly recommended for men and woman alike.
Evans McGowan
Dec 10, 2009 Evans McGowan rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
classic eldredge; if you're familiar with his other work, Wild at Heart, Way of the Wild at Heart and Epic, there's not a whole lot more here, but it's still full of great tidbits and flushes out his theology. I still have a few quibbles with his "fighting" stance againt evil forces, but overall it's highly encouraging.
Caleb Mowery
Jul 28, 2013 Caleb Mowery rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
I would recommend this book to every male. Fathered By God deals with the hurt, confusion and emptiness our earthly fathers purposefully or mistakenly imposed on our journey to manhood. I was impressed how easy the book was to read, yet the truths in each chapter gave me a lot of pondering and action points.
Nov 09, 2011 John rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
Shelves: spirituality
I generally like Eldredge, even when I don't agree with every little theological detail or application of his thought. This was no excpetion. A lot of food for thought here and a lot that should be seriously considered about rites of passage, transitions between various stages of life, etc. for men and boys.
Adam Johns
I've already passed this book along to a friend and he is benefiting from it as well. The introduction calls this the sequel to "Wild at Heart" which many have read and love, but I think this book is even better than that one as it gives much more practical advice and guidance to men as we travel this journey through the different seasons of life: boy, cowboy, warrior, lover, king, sage.
A good solid read that occasionally suffers from overdevelopment of thought without forward movement to the next. Eldredge consistently writes in this manner so it should come as no surprise to any who have read his other works. The central idea and development of it is not only interesting but accurate (and will be confirmed by your own observations and experiences).
Brian Murray
Oct 05, 2012 Brian Murray rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
Great follow up to the book Wild at Heart. This book gives a great perspective on how to spend time with our Father God. This book also provides a perspective on a man's stages of life and gives great insight for men to see and follow. I highly recommend this book for men who struggle with understanding what it means to be a father to boys and men in their lives.
Kevin Cullis
Aug 23, 2016 Kevin Cullis rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
Excellent sharing of the stages boys and men go through, or hopefully go through. I highly recommend every teenager, man, and woman read this so that we an truly share what each of us is meant to be as men and as a society.
Jul 12, 2010 Arielcatheryne rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
Shelves: faith-focused
John Eldredge delivers again. On many occasions, I felt like being a man would be really awesome and was sad in a way that I'm not... So I feel like I'll be reading Captivating next...for the 3rd time to think on what it means to be a woman again :-)
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John Eldredge is an author (you probably figured that out), a counselor, and teacher. He is also president of Ransomed Heart, a ministry devoted to helping people discover the heart of God, recover their own heart in his love, and learn to live in his Kingdom. John grew up in the suburbs of Los Angeles (which he hated), and spent his boyhood summers on his grandfather’s cattle ranch in eastern Ore ...more
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“This is the time for a young man to stop saying, “Why is life so hard?” He takes the hardness as the call to fight, to rise up, take it on.” 3 likes
“the great divide lies between men as lovers and men as consumers. Does he seek her out, long for her, because really he yearns for her to meet some need in his life—a need for validation (she makes him feel like a man), or mercy, or simply sexual gratification? That man is a Consumer, as my friend Craig calls him. The lover, on the other hand, wants to fight for her—he wants to protect her, make her life better, wants to fill her heart in every way he can.” 3 likes
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