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Preview — The Twisted Sisterhood by Kelly Valen
The Twisted Sisterhood: Unraveling the Dark Legacy of Female Friendships
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What was most interesting to me about this book was the backlash the author professed to receiving after it was published. The backlash was from women who called her an anti-feminist "woman basher" and said she was being overly sensitive to the in ...more
I’ve always been one of those overly sensitive types that can relive every criticism uttered to me since middle school. Apparently I’m not alone. Valen’s study of over 3000 women discusses the long-term suffering from “social wounding,” an insidious form of ...more
This book gav ...more
But I got the gist: we act like jerks to each other.
Even when it sucks.
That's all. Make that the focal point of all your interactions with other humans and you, at least, will not be hurting others. And if we can't stop ourselves from being hurt, at least we can do that much ...more
This is important subject matter that merits more thoughtful treatment than it receives here. One might think that Valen is just the person to write on this issue, given her painful experience of being blamed by her sorority sisters for her rape. But I think that may be what handicaps her: the issue is just too painful for her, and she lacks perspective. Whatever the case, this is less a nuanced look at a complex issue than it is a generous helping of familiar mean-girl, queen-bee and green-eyed...more
However, I could barely get through this book due to the author's style and tone. It was extremely conversational, but in that trying-too-hard kind of way. Some examples:
"I have to come clean here and admit that while I wrote this book, I took my little surfing breaks and ...more
I got this book because a friend mentioned it and I thought, "Why was I so catty in high school? Why were my friends? And why didn't we get tired of it?" So I picked it up. But I got to the end and felt like, "So what was the point she made? Or any point she made?" I guess the point was "Be nice." Duh.
I also felt like I couldn't relate to the book at all, and disagreed with its basic premise that cattiness and compet ...more
It was refreshing to discover a whole sisterhood of women who have also experienced alienation, discrimination, and abuse from other women and the s ...more
It all began with Valen's self admittedly dumb foray into a frat party where she was date raped after consuming too much booze. Instead of support from her sorority, she got the blame and shame game. Fast forward to the writing of the book with a questionnaire sent out to women of all ages, sizes, social standings, and colo ...more
The author was prompted to write this book after not being supported by her sorority sisters after she was raped in college. The effects for her were far-reaching and long-lasting, as she has found it difficult to get close to women or form meaningful friendships with them since.
Overall, it was pretty repetitive and not very relatab ...more