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Private Lies: Infidelity and the Betrayal of Intimacy

3.98  ·  Rating Details  ·  49 Ratings  ·  4 Reviews
Using actual case studies, as well as examples from music, literature, and film, Dr. Pittman identifies four basic patterns of infidelity—the accidental encounter, habitual philandering, marital arrangements, and romance—discussed how to limit the damage that affairs do, and offers practical suggestions on how to make a marriage work.
Paperback, 320 pages
Published November 17th 1990 by W. W. Norton & Company (first published 1989)
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Robin Tierney
Aug 12, 2015 Robin Tierney rated it liked it
Smart insights throughout -- 4 stars for insights. Some of the case studies were rather far-fetched. Published ~1989 but still relevant and helpful.
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Private lies: Infidelity and the Betrayal of Intimacy
Frank Pittman

Affairee ... Not lover, which implies a bond that didn’t yet form. Not spring from love, but unfaithful secretive behaviors/decisions/actions. Affairee a better term.

Cuckold cuckoo lays eggs in another’s nest, tricks to incubate.

Affairs thrive on secrecy, conspiracy and adve
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Thankfully infidelity hasn't been an issue in my marriage. The author, a therapist with a lot of common sense, offers practical suggestions on making marriage work. All infidelity isn't the same. Dr. Pittman uses case studies from his practice to illustrate the various types of affairs. This is not just a book for those who have experienced cheating in their relationship. There's value here for those about to be married as well as those who have been married for a while. We can all learn somethi ...more
Henriette
Feb 14, 2016 Henriette rated it it was ok
Infidelity is BAD, divorce is WORSE and marriage is BETTER. That about sums it up.
Charlie Richmond
Aug 05, 2011 Charlie Richmond rated it really liked it
This is definitely the best of all the books concerning personal and marital relationships I have read in the last 6 months - highly recommended!
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