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I Loved a Girl

4.21  ·  Rating Details  ·  201 Ratings  ·  31 Reviews
The international bestseller shares the private correspondence between two young Africans and their pastor to discern the Christian meaning of love and marriage, sin and salvation. Foreword by Josh McDowell.
Paperback, Combined Edition, 120 pages
Published 1970 by Lutterworth Press (first published 1962)
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Jim B
This Christian classic should be read by everyone! Letters between a German missionary pastor and a young (nonChristian) African man and the (Christian) girl he's attracted to. Walter Trobisch is the finest writer on the subject of love that I have ever come across. He knows what it is to be in love, and unlike most Christian writers, he doesn't lose sight of that when he gives guidance from the Bible about love between a man and a woman. It is interesting that arranged marriages and polygamy co ...more
Jul 03, 2012 Daniel rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
Shelves: 2011, biography
I Loved a Girl is a reprint of the letters primarily between Walter and Francois, Francois being a native African, the result of a polygamous marriage, poor, unwanted by his father, adopted by Walter’s mission and now writing to him seeking advise. Francois is in trouble. After being baptized as a Christian and gaining a post at a Christian school, Francois has been fired. He loved a girl, or more bluntly he fornicated. Now he is being excommunicated and is filled with questions. What is the pur ...more
Leandro Guimarães Faria Corcete DUTRA
A classic. A pity it is not more popular nowadays. Sensitive, still firm.
Jun 02, 2008 Stephen rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
Shelves: literature
Set within in 20th century Africa, Trobisch brings us into the world of a young man struggling with sexuality. Although taken within the context of this Africa that is foreign to us such as bride prices, the letters between Trobisch and the young man are full of deep spiritual insights and Christian truths that cut across all cultures and time. This book is great for young men who are currently dating or looking to get married in the near future.
Phong Vu
Mar 10, 2015 Phong Vu rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
Everyone should read this. Even though the book is written by Christians, and a lot of stuffs in there are reference from the Bible, the premise on which the book is based on is real life situations and a true story of how to develop and treasure your love, a gift given to the human race, a priceless one.
I was afraid it would be woefully outdated and racist, and while there are a few uncomfortable traces of the time and culture from which it came, it's an interesting snapshot that contains some pretty solid advice and encouragement.
Jun 14, 2012 Claire rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
Shelves: christian-living
Raw, compelling, applicable, beautiful.
Sarah Bucher Stänz
a very precious book
Michael David
Jul 30, 2015 Michael David rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
I had been born into a highly conservative family. Instead of chafing under moralistic edicts, however, I became morally conservative myself, as lived examples (through my parents) are much better than written ones. My father had brought me up to be open-minded regarding knowledge as well as most things in life, however.

I'm now 27 years old. Through my personal struggles, and a rejection in love, I realized and made it my aim to be as chivalrous as possible to the women I've met, and to treat e
Dec 07, 2011 Ryan rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
This was such a good book (and it was pretty short too). It contains the letters of correspondence between two young Africans and their pastor with a few other people in there too. Although it reads like a novel and tells the story of this young man and woman, he addresses almost every question there is out there in the course of his letters. He has amazing analogies that he uses to explain his points, which I love. The only thing is he never answers one question: “What does it mean: ‘to put you ...more
Jan 29, 2015 Regan rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
Amazing read. Very easily read book filled with wisdom, truth, and very thought provoking. It is quite raw and honest. It was like nothing I've ever read but it spoke very truthfully about relationships and Gods plan for them. I'd recommend it to marrieds and singles alike. There is much to be gained and when you're finished you'll want to pass it on! Im glad a friend passed it to me!
Bonnie Fazio
I think I read this. I ran across a list of books I read in 1977, and one by this title was on it -- but without an author's name or any other comment. The description I read in some reviews does make it sound familiar. This may be something John had read before we met, and recommended.
Oct 01, 2014 Dorcas rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
Lori Nemitz
Read between January & June 1983.

Original notes on book: Good book. Shows struggles of many young Christians.
Mar 06, 2014 Stephanie rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
This book is one I think everyone should read. It is inspirational, and expresses in totality what true love really is.

I LOVED A GIRL was recommended to me by one of my favorite teachers back in H.S. It is a book of private letters written between two young Africans, Francois and Cecile and their Pastor. In these letters they express their unconditional love for each other combined with the love of Christ.

This is definitly a story that should be shared with couples, or those who ever been in lov
Mar 21, 2016 MUHIRE marked it as to-read  ·  review of another edition
Shelves: olivier, pdf
Anna Josephine
This book was a quick and fascinating read. There's so much to love. It's a real story, these are the real letters from François, Walter, Cecile and Ingrid. They're so honest in the letters about their problems and questions about sex and relationships. Even though it was written in the 60s, in Africa, it's easy to relate to their story - people all over the world still have the same questions and problems. You should totally read it.

Originally written in French.
Karen L.
Feb 24, 2010 Karen L. rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
Shelves: christianity
I really enjoyed this book. It was so interesting to see the misconceptions that the young African man had about sex and women. It was sad the idea he originally had about needing to practice with his sexual organs to see if they worked with a woman before marriage. It was beautiful to see his views change and to witness his love for his Cecile.

I read this to preview for my teenage son. I don't think he is quite ready for this story yet. Perhaps in a few more years.
Connie Rocker
Aug 01, 2008 Connie Rocker is currently reading it  ·  review of another edition
This book, which is a series of very personal letters, is a great look at the responsibility of sex for the young teenage male. Having 3 teenage sons, I felt it gave me some "food" to give them for looking at this responsiblity from a Christian perspective. Now, if I can only get them to read the book!
Jul 21, 2013 Sheila rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
This book is a must read for everyone,Having been born in Africa, knowing our culture,being a Christian,I can personally relate and understand this beautiful story.
I loved this book,its very profound,and now I want to start writing letters to.people I love...
Aug 19, 2009 Ashley rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
Beautiful letters about a young African couple in love and the Christian counseling they received during their engagement.
Nice, though not the end I hoped for. It seems it just didn't end right. Again, it's a nice piece - lots of stuff in it for you.
Mar 31, 2013 Kristen rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
I was surprised by this little book, it left me with a lot to think about. (7/10)
Aug 20, 2008 David rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
Wonderful testomony of God teaching hubel hearts to love.
Well written, I loveeed the letters.
Dec 15, 2008 John rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
Recommends it for: everyone
I read this book when I was a college student at the suggestion of a youth leader at church.
It profoundly impacted me at the time, though I wish that I had always lived up to the standard that it set.
Mar 01, 2008 Katie rated it liked it
My sister loaned me this book. It is about an African couple more than 20 years ago. It challenges many questions regarding sexual purity, religion, culture and love. Very good book for a confirmation class, teens and young adults...also for adult too.
Jun 17, 2013 Bianca rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
May 24, 2011 Alkida is currently reading it  ·  review of another edition
i love the book, :)
Eugene Caputi
May 14, 2012 Eugene Caputi rated it it was amazing
A beautiful tale.
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