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Polyamory: Roadmaps for the Clueless and Hopeful: An Introduction on Polyamory

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Tony Ravenscroft leaves behind the speculation, the guesswork, and the Utopianism that only confuse the discussion. Polyamory: Roadmaps for the Clueless & Hopeful begins from the absolute basics of intimate relationships, and clearly lays out the pitfalls and problems that await everyone who embarks upon this difficult and highly rewarding way of life.

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Paperback, 294 pages
Published July 1st 2004 by Fenris Brothers
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Nov 17, 2011 Alexander rated it it was amazing
Brilliant book, a must-read for people of all relationships, mono, poly or other.
May 14, 2011 Annamarie rated it liked it
While trying to catch up on listening to Polyamory Weekly (I am horribly behind, still working through 2007), I heard a discussion of Polyamory: Roadmaps for the Clueless & Hopeful by Anthony Ravenscroft. Those involved in the discussion seemed to be put off by the author, but still found a decent number of helpful tidbits throughout.

I have to say, I agree. Ravenscroft is sharp, and has clearly spent a lot of time observing people and relationships. His commentary on poly dynamics is really
This book is bizarre. The author seems to genuinely know a lot about polyamory, and he has the sort of inquiring mind that lends itself to interesting discussion. But. The book has an inescapable air of “here are my thoughts on yaoi” (to borrow a phrase). The author also gives advice that I find mildly insane. Example: you should spend some time thinking long and hard about all the ways that your lover might hurt you, so that you are not blindsided when the worst happens. I am no proponent of ‘T ...more
May 24, 2009 Cathy rated it really liked it
Even if polyamory is not your thing, this book offers a lot of useful advice that could potentially help any relationship become more sound.

Ravenscroft doesn't hide the fact that he is a white, middle-class man, and that he can only truly speak from that point of view, but he is also thoughtful, logical, and has interacted with a great variety of people which gives breadth to his personal limitations.
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Jun 13, 2008 Keely Hyslop rated it it was ok
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Ick, rather unhelpful. The writer is a Caucasian upper middle class man who can't seem to manage any advice that would be useful to anyone who isn't. It does; however, give you an interesting overview of the politicking of the polyamory community and a guideline of sorts for becoming part of a larger polyamory network. By and large The Ethical Slut is a much more friendly, all-purpose reference on this topic.
May 29, 2009 David rated it liked it
the author tends to ramble on a little, but all in all, i thought it contained some pretty descent advice on generally conducting yourself in an ethical fashion when it comes to sexuality. i am not poly myself, but the advice was ethically spot on. i am not very well read in this area though, so i do not have much to compare this to though.
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Dec 09, 2016 Rafał Rzepecki rated it really liked it
Highly recommended to everyone interested in building human relationships, even if you're not interested in polyamory at all. Well-written manual on communication and conflict-solving in the context of romance (and more).
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