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On Grief and Grieving: Finding the Meaning of Grief Through the Five Stages of Loss

4.24 of 5 stars 4.24  ·  rating details  ·  851 ratings  ·  92 reviews
Shortly before her death in 2004, Elisabeth Kübler-Ross and David Kessler, her collaborator, completed the manuscript for this, her final book. On Grief and Grieving is a fitting completion to her work. Thirty-six years and sixteen books ago, Kübler-Ross's groundbreaking On Death and Dying changed the way we talk about the end of life. Now On Grief and Gr ...more
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Published July 19th 2005 by Scribner (first published January 1st 2005)
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I "really liked" this book as much as you can about a book on loss and grief. I highly recommend it for anyone who is going through grief because of losing a loved one.

I was really reading this to familiarize myself with what a close friend is going through at the moment, but found that it was quite insightful for me, as someone who has also experienced the loss of loved ones. It made me see myself as someone who wasn't totally crazy at the time of my grief. I also realized that someone could b
This book served to be my guide to surviving my mother's death without feeling alone, misunderstood, helpless, or -worse- hopeless. This book has validated all the emotions I've felt in my devastating loss by seeing life and death, love and grief through almost every perspective.

"On Grief and Grieving" defines all five stages of loss (denial, anger, bargaining, depression and acceptance), while also addressing and defining grief from a variety of perspectives (when a person dies from suicide, a
Here's what my three stars mean for this book:

I found this book helpful and problematic. It was mostly helpful in presenting a sort of map of grief, a list of possible ways that grief will manifest itself in the life of the griever and some nuggets of wisdom for living through that process. It also contained helpful affirmations - you're going to feel isolated from other people in the grieving process, that's okay, people experience loss differently, etc. I found it most helpful to read this boo
Leila Summers
Of all the books I devoured after my husband passed away, this one was most helpful to me. While many of Kübler-Ross' books focus on the dying, this book is for those of us who are left behind to grieve and find our way through an unimaginable and indescribable loss.

On Grief and Grieving begins by describing the five stages of grief which include denial, anger, bargaining, depression and acceptance. These can last for different periods of time, or we can go through all of them in one day. This b
María José
Este libro es bastante simple y accesible. A algunos les puede parecer un poco sensiblero y con alguna falta de rigor científico. Sin embargo, es una obra imprescindible para acercar los diferentes aspectos del duelo a la población en general. Ésto es algo que es muy difícil de hacer, ya que nadie quiere saber nada de esto hasta que le toca, y cuando le toca a alguien cercano, es difícil saber lo que hacer precisamente porque uno no ha querido detenerse mucho en pensar en ello. No es muy infrecu ...more
I would highly recommend this book to everyone! It offers a lot of insight into the grieving process, and explains the stages that people often experience. It is addressed to individuals who have suffered the loss of a loved one, but it will help everyone who reads it to understand their own losses and to be able to help others who are grieving as well. I read it from a counseling perspective because a lot of my clients have experienced significant losses. I would highly recommend it to all coun ...more
Kubler-Ross, a psychiatrist, was the leading expert on death and grief in the field of psychology. This was her last book, co-written with Kessler, a counselor with many years of experience working with the terminally ill and grieving.

The book is written in short vignettes that are accessible and easy to read, and the first half of it is excellent. The authors describe the well-known five stages of grief and explain how they are often misunderstood. Kubler-Ross describes our society as death-de
Mark Cape
A powerful important book - I read it after my best friend - soul companion - child - animal friend got bitten by a cobra here in Cape Town. I burned so deep - the book put a new ground under me. Grief is such a little word for such and immense thing. I am still amazed at what it really is - a given and absolute - so weird that out of the blue there is such a thing as venom and other things custom designed by nature to shut a whole world down - sometimes within minutes. This is the world were in ...more
Bob Grommes
Kubler-Ross' comprehensive final book, completed shortly before her own death, is about the process of grieving the loss of a loved one -- what to expect, how to cope emotionally. It covers more complicated forms of grief such as the grief surrounding murder and natural disaster. It covers grief and children, grief and sex, grief and pretty much anything remotely related to or impacted by grief.

Although the author clearly believes in an afterlife, she writes in a non-sectarian fashion. The book
I know I will read this book again, as I have already, to remind myself that my grief is normal, irrational, explainable and unavoidable. Well provided you aren't a sociopath.
Michelle Mailloux
This book is titled On Grief and Grieving by Elisabeth Kubler-Ross and David Kessler. This book weaves the theories of death into the 5 stages of grief, along with sharing of the authors’ insight and experiences on life and death. Characters are nonexistent, as the book is more of a reference; reaching an academic publication. Likewise, there is also no setting provided for the reader. The authors expand on the inner and outer worlds of grief, specific circumstances, and the common misconception ...more
 Gloria Maria  Vazquez
This was such an insightful book for me. I highly recommend it to anyone who has gone thru or is presently going thru some sort of loss. Although the authors focused on loss thru death -- those who expierence loss in other ways, such as thru divorce, loss of job, loss of health, can also benefit from the wisdom presented in this book.
Bob LaCross
I very simple book with a lot to say about the grieving process. The loss of a loved on is not something we are taught. We seldom have good examples or role models and, in this "get over it" world, are left wondering if the terrible way we feel is okay. I like this strangely comforting excerpt:

"Death is a line, a heartbreaking dividing line between the world we and our loved one lived in and the world where they are now. That line of death on a continuum becomes a Before and After mark. A line b
This book is hard to read. And yet I feel compelled to keep reading even through the tears. There are times I feel I will need to start reading it again as soon as I finish it.
I read On Grief and Grieving for a couple of reasons. One, my husband and I have experienced a handful of significant losses in the past two years and we’re both still dealing with the effects of that. Our grief counselor suggested this book. Two, I’m writing a novel in which the main characters deal with a huge loss (art imitating life?) and I wanted more insight into how grief works and how different people grieve. It’s a great book, full of information that will shed light on an often-confusi ...more
Helpful, but did not need the part about the afterlife. That could have been in another book, one I could have avoided.
Lynn Lawrence-Brown
This was just the book I was looking for. Originally I thought it might be a bit too psychological with medical speak but it was very readable and would good examples to back up its points. I also liked how the authors brought their own experiences of grief and how they learned from them. Grief really is individual but reading about how others grief really helped me understand it more as a means to heal and accept death. Although I know I'll always feel pain for Dad's death, this book helped me ...more
I truly believe this book may have saved my life
Ein geliebter Mensch stirbt - und wie riesige Wellen überschwemmen einen die unterschiedlichsten Gefühle: Schmerz, Verzweiflung, Wut, Zorn, Reue... Wie nur wieder ins normale Leben zurückfinden? Es dünkt unmöglich.
Dieses Hörbuch scheint einen Weg dorthin zu wissen, wie schon der Titel und auch der Untertitel (Den Sinn des Trauerns durch fünf Stadien des Verlusts finden) aussagt. Und in der Tat: Voller Teilnahme und Mitgefühl für die individuelle Situation werden die unterschiedlichen Emotionen
Mar 03, 2008 Candice rated it 2 of 5 stars  ·  review of another edition
Recommends it for: People wanting a Cliff's Notes, abridged version of grief
Recommended to Candice by: Ann Garrett
A good friend from my young widowed support group strongly recommended this book to us, and knowing the god-like stature Elisabeth Kubler-Ross has in the field of death and dying, I had very high expectations of this book. I have to say, though, it didn't live up to my hopes.

While what it says is accurate, the book felt too glib to me, like an inspirational Cliff's Notes version of grief. I expected more. Perhaps it's just that I've read other grief books that have done the topics more justice,
This is one of my favorite Authors and I first read her book On Death and Dying while in a class called Dynamics To Student Success. It was my first semester at FCCJ. She is one of my favorite authors on the subject of death and dying and coping with death. Though I don't agree with every single thing she writes, I do love her writings on this sometimes difficult subject. She covers the Five Stages well.....
This book was not at all what I was expecting it to be. It was extremely pacifying and at times enraging. My husband and I are grieving the traumatic loss of our infant son and this book in essence is a mollifying broken record of "that's okay to feel a, b, c, d... It's all okay". The people highlighted in the book feel generic and scripted and it's hard to believe that so many have had such profound moments of self realization during incredible low points. While I get that each grieving person ...more
Megan Uy
This book is excellent and I understand why reviews describe it as the "definitive account" on grief. However, I find myself in somewhere between/among the unnamed sixth stage of meaning-making regarding past losses and anticipatory grief of future losses. I wonder how I would have approached this book had I been actively grieving the death of a loved one. I guess one day I'll find out since I do mean to hang onto this book and return to it in my (future) grief.
This was recommended as a tool for healing loss. Grief comes not only after death of a loved one, but after almost anything traumatic in life. Even a new job can cause a person to go through the stages of grief. Understanding the stages of grief helps one heal on a deeper level and to completion. I recommend this to anyone suffering the loss of a loved one, losing a child to college/marriage/military/mission, anyone going through divorce, or has recently moved or changed jobs. I'm currently expe ...more
Vin Elle
I really cried for the first time since my father passed away. While this book is not what I expected in terms of content, it was what I've needed to read for a long time. If you've experienced death or know someone who has, this book might be helpful.
María Greene
QUÉ LIBRO TAN INTERESANTE, y tan bien escrito. Es útil para lidiar no solo con la muerte, sino que cualquier proceso que se le asemeje an la vida. Está lleno de amor, y de verdad, y de compasión. Me encanta.
Sherri Moorer
A good book for anybody dealing with loss through death. I read this to help my husband cope with his father's death and wound out learning many things about myself and my own thoughts. A great book.
Some interesting and helpful insight but it really annoyed me that the assumption was that the reader believes in God and that there is necessarily something after death.
Exceptionally helpful read. It's best read as a reference but I remember reading reading some chapters that gave clarity to my personal stages of grief. Maria Shriver stated in the foreward - "When you’re grieving, sometimes your only constant companion is a book." True story. I think anyone who read/reads this book will have a different experience but it's worth having this book as a companion in a time of grief. Hard to review to this book, but very worth a read in a time of grief. I'm sure I' ...more
Incredibly helpful book if you've lost someone who meant the world to you. This is the book that let me know I wasn't going insane (well, more insane...).
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Elisabeth Kübler-Ross, M.D. was a Swiss-born psychiatrist, a pioneer in Near-death studies and the author of the groundbreaking book On Death and Dying (1969), where she first discussed what is now known as the Kübler-Ross model. In this work she proposed the now famous Five Stages of Grief as a pattern of adjustment. These five stages of grief are denial, anger, bargaining, depression, and accept ...more
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