The Idle Parent: Why Laid-Back Parents Raise Happier and Healthier Kids
"The Idle Parent came as a huge relief to the whole family. Suddenly, it was okay to leave the kids to sort it out among themselves. Suddenly, it was okay to be responsibly lazy. This is the most counterintuitive but most helpful and consoling child-raising man ...more
Every time my mother snarks at me about my life being so "easy", as if it is some badge of honor to have made yours ...more
Then, I started reading.
What I couldn't understand is why the author is so fixated with drinking! Hodgkinson continually brings up drinking with good parenting - drink more, give baths tipsy, and on and on. It's almost pushy and it got very weird. Is it okay if parents don't drink? I would say, not for him ...more
Tom Hodkinson – Leitfaden für Faule Eltern
Nach der Lektüre hin und her gerissen. Neben klugem Wachrütteln und Hinweisen fürs Wesentliche steht irre anmutender Schrott. Das Schema ist ungefähr folgendes: Ein guter Ratschlag zu einem Perspektivwechsel wird so ins Extreme gedrückt, dass er fast seinen Sinn verliert. Es ist, als müsse man sich nicht die Rosinen aus einem Kuchen holen, sondern aus versalzener Blutwurst.
Eine Besprechung wäre fast zu zermürbend. Der Einfachheit halber stelle ich die Pu
The notes below are for my benefit.. the things that apply to me... quotes, thoughts, and I guess you could say "spoilers".
They're happy because we're happy... Do not suffer. ...more
Tom Hodgkinson's The Idle Parent does just that -- and after finishing the book, I can't help but love the concept of idle parenting. No, it's not because I want my kids to bring me breakfast to bed, and I'm not even that much into drinking alcohol ...more
"What w ...more
I was nodding at all the basic premises of the book: leave your kids alone more so they can exercise their own creativity, work together at home, ...more
After the writing 2 books, Hodgkinson came to the realization that he better write another book. He took inventory: he enjoys humor and entertaining others; and as a writer, he has many responsibilities dealing with his children that he would like to avoid. He likes ...more
Loneliness seems to be a paradox to family life, but the modern nuclear family often creates for parents the experience of overwhelming loneliness and a sense of ineptitude to rear one's offspring. I talk out of exper ...more
I loved the premise of the book: let your kids be kids. Let them play in unstructured environments, let them run around outside, turn off the TV, expect them to contribute to the household (in appropriate ways), rely on/support other family members and friends to share the big task of raising kids, etc.
But, I also often found his lofty applications of his phil ...more
Because this book is really a hymn to a simple sort of family life - one where the members make their own entertainment, shut off or get rid of the screens, keep animals, sing, dance, play, garden, cook and read together.
It i ...more
In the early chapters, this book sounds pretty ridiculous. The author appears to be condoning honest laziness. He gives the impression that his take on parenting is literally kicking your feet up and doing nothing for your kids. When you get a little further in, the truth is revealed. The auth ...more
He has obviously followed his own dictum and not worked too hard in writing this book. There are many ...more
Hodgkinson is a prodigy of work and intelligence who went to Westminster School and Cambridge. He then went on to be joint head of creative development at The Guardian. After that and a number of successful books he founded 'The Idler' magazine and the 'Idler Academy'.
He recommends people should work less. It's not clear if ...more
Yes, not pampering kids too much is a good thing.
The previous book really appealed to me. The thesis was largely that you should enjoy what you do, and choose a life that maximised your enjoyment and minimised toil and grief. This book is an attempt to extend the thesis to the process and activity of being a parent. And in the process I ended up not buying in to t ...more
In the early chapters I enjoyed seeing my own parenting philosophy in print. I have at times witnessed such extreme tiger mum / helicopter parenting ...more
This is a highly entertaining read. I got through it in two sittings and there is much to love and raise a smirk at in between some genuine pearls of parenting wisdom that you won't find in a parenting manual or newspaper column. I like and subscribe to much of Hodgkinson's philosophy (this is essentially a philosophical book not a parenting book), I enjoyed How to be Free and this book covers much of the same ground albeit with ...more