Love Smart: Find the One You Want--Fix the One You Got
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In Love Smart: Find the One You Want--Fix the One You Got, bestselling author Dr. Phil tells people who are dissatisfied with their love lives to stop making excuses and start taking action. You deserve a committed relationship, and it is within your control to have the one you want. First, though, you need to determine what you want in a partner, plot your course, and ge...more
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Published December 26th 2006 by Simon & Schuster Adult Publishing Group (first published 2005)
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Marwa Al-saydalani
كتاب مفيد لمن تريد ان تكتشف أكثر عن انماط شخصيات الرجال

هناك فصول غير مفيدة و هي تحكى عن الواقع الغربي و لا تناسبنا كـ عرب و هي فصول البحث عن الرجل المناسب
و في المقابل هناك فصول رائعة تناسب من هم في مرحلة الخطوبة
كيف تكتشفين شخصيتة ؟ و كيف تعرفين هل هو مناسب لكِ ام لا ؟
مع بعض التقنيات التى تجعل اكتشافك بطريقة غير مباشرة
يتحدث الكتاب عن أنماط شخصية الرجل و كيف تتعاملين مع كل شخصية بما يناسبها
و في الفصل الاخير يتحدث عن كيفية تحقيق الانسجام بين الزوجين ..
أنصح كل فتاة بقراءة هذا الكتاب القيم
Aya Hassan
ظننت ان الكتاب يتحدث عن الذكاء العاطفى فوجدته يتحدث عن الهروب من العنوسه
هو نسخه مبنيه على اساس علمى من كتاب كيف تصطادين عريسا
اكبر استفاده لى شخصيا هو انى عرفت كيف احصل على المعلومات التى اريدها من اى شخص بمناقشه لا تمت بصله من قريب او من بعيد الى المعلومات التى اريد معرفتها
عيبه الكبير انه يتحدث على اساس محتمع غربى ونظام المواعده وما الى ذلك
Marwa Ayad
This was an OK read. I couldn't help noticing the similarity between some of the things Dr. Phil mentioned and some of the things Dr. Barbara De Angelis mentioned in her book "Are you the one for me?" (which I highly recommend by the way) which was published in the 90's. Also, Love Smart reminded me of "Why Men Love Bitches" (published in 2002), at least in parts. The book didn't feel original; I felt like I'd read it before (and I hadn't). There's really no wonderful advice and Dr. Phil mostly...more
Jen
After I read this I made a list (like it suggests in the book) about what I wanted in a lifelong partner. I started dating David shortly thereafter and realized that he had more than the suggested 80% of qualities that I was looking for in a mate. We got engaged 8 months later.
Heba Tarek
اممممم أجلت ملاحاظاتى على الكتاب حتى أنتهى منه تماما ..
قبل اى شىء .. الكتاب يصلح له عنوان ( كيف تصطادين عريسا ) وسيحقق أعلى المبيعات فى مصر والدول العربية !!

عندما قرأت العنوان اعتقدت أنه على شاكلة كتب الرجال من المريخ وكيف يفهم كل جنس الاخر بطريقة صحيحة ..لكن الواقع المرير الذى وجدته هو كيف تعمل المرأة بكل ما أوتيت من قوة لكى

تصطـــــــــــــــاد عريسا !!!

تعجبت من صدور كتاب كهذا فى دولة " متقدمة " كما يقال كالولايات المتحدة ..بل ويتم التحدث فى هذه القضية على أنها عملية استثمارية بحته .. المرأة ه...more
آيات  مختار
الكتاب عجبني انه ركز في معظمه علي فكرة ان مفيش شخص مثالي ، لازم نقعد منتظرين انه يجي ، لكن فيه شخص مناسب لينا بنسبة كبيرة
لكن فكرة الشخص المثالي واللى فيه كل المميزات دي فكرة خيالية جدا


عجبني كمان فيه فكرة الحب بذكاء ، الكتاب مش بيقول ان الحب بيجي بمجرد اتنين بيشوفوا بعض وبيحبوا بعض ويتنطلق شرارة الحب ، بالعكس الكتاب بيركز علي أن الحب الذكي هو اللى بيبني علي توافق ومقبول وعامل مشتركة بين الطرفين ، مش مجرد مشاعر حب وبس


الكتاب كمان بيركز علي فكرة تقبل المرأة لذاتها وأنها لازم تحب نفسها وشخصيتها اى...more
Jennifer
Yes, I have this book. And yes, it's on audio tape. Whilst taking a leisurely drive home from Maryland to New York a few months ago, I stopped off at this depressing little outlet mall in Delaware. They had one of those cheap bookshops and outside, a rack with $1 audio books. Audio books, NPR, Prairie Home Companion, I love it all while driving so I thought I'd take a look. The best thing there was this Dr. Phil book and since hey, I'm a fool when it comes to love I thought why not?

Well, after s...more
Kathrynn
I enjoyed this well written book. Felt it was nicely laid out and enjoyed Dr. Phil's humor, analogies and personal stories as he relayed some insights into the male mind. He even went into the dreaded "dark zone."

This should be a MUST READ for all looking for or in a relationship, in my opinion.

There are some great questions Dr. Phil shows you how to present and read between the lines. Nicely done. Highly recommended.
Corey Rae
If you want to get married and are ready for that next step in your life, this is the book that will take you there. Dr Phil assists you with redefining realistic goals for the right type of man when searching for the one to marry. He helps to prepare you if you for real life and what a marriage should be. I read this book and met and married my husband within a year and a half!
James Preston
This is obviously a self help book. So as far as entertaining, it wasn't. But there was a lot of good stuff in it. I think it would be very helpful for a lot of people, just not me. But I think I would recommend it if you're struggling with your marriage or something.
فنافن
حسنًا..
من المدهش أنني وصلت إلى هذا الكتاب الظريف عن طريق إحدى الروايات التي أكرهها :)
أعترف أني بدأت بالقراءة كما يلي:
استعرضت فهرس الموضوعات.. وقررت أي الفصول التي سأتجاوزها دون قراءة لأن موضوعاتها لا تعنيني.. ثم شرعت في قراءة المقدمة لآخُذ فكرة عن أسلوب الكاتب الذي أقرأ له ولأول مرة.. وأعترف أني سُحِرت تمامًا بأسلوبه الفكاهي.. ولم أكد أنتبه لنفسي إلا وقد انتصفت في الكتاب!
قطعًا لم يكن محتوى فصوله الأولى يناسب بيئاتنا الإسلامية، لكني قرأتها سطرا سطرا بحثا عن تلك الجمل الاعتراضية المضحكة والاستعار...more
Farheen
I love Dr. Phil. What I would give to have just one day to talk to him in person...
Olga
Очень американская книжка про отношения.
Доктор Фил - действительно популярная личность на западе, в основном благодаря своему шоу про взаимоотношения, которое он ведет. Кроме этого он доктор (психотерапевт, вроде) и также выпустил ряд книг, которые стали бестселлерами.

Мне эту книгу порекомендовала подруга как такую, которая подойдет всем, включая даже замужним девушкам, таким как я. На самом деле 70% книги все же ориентировано на одиноких барышень, которые мечтают найти свою половинку и быть с н...more
Daniel Currie
I listened to the 6CD audio version of this book (read by Dr. Phil himself!).

After 1CD this is what I have learned:

Finding the right person: It IS a game, as he states and then restates for emphasis.

You are perfect already. Presumably it would be beyond his scope to fix you, to make you right for someone, so he assumes you are already basically perfect.

Women are the only ones who need advice in this area. Despite there being nothing saying this on the box, it is 100% geared toward women finding...more
Caitlin Trepp
Update: this book is still awesome. I just reread it and I feel like I learned more about myself!

I was surprised by how much I enjoyed reading this book and how much I learned from it. I am a fan of the show, and I have read a couple of Dr. Phil's other books (Life Strategies, Weight Loss, etc.) and found them lackluster (they're pretty general). I enjoy the show so much that when I saw this one in the library I picked it up, and I wasn't even really serious about dating or dating advice so I di...more
Talia
I went to the library to get “Men are From Mars, Women are From Venus” on the recommendation of a friend. However, it was gone. This book was next to the empty spot. I’ve never seen Dr. Phil on TV or read any of his books, so I thought, “hey, why not?”

Overall, the book was pretty good. I liked how he stressed that you have to be happy with yourself and realize that you don’t have to have a partner to complete you. I think too many women don’t recognize this. They feel incomplete without a husban...more
Chriss
Of course everytime I watch Dr. Phil or read one of his books, everything looks so easy. The book does have some very valid points, good suggestions and seems to make a whole lot of sense when looking at the big picture. It's just putting it all together that is difficult. Of course that is why we are reading it in the first place. It's not as simple as going to the local coffee shop, meeting the guy and finding out he's great and living out our happy little lives. Sometimes we don't meet the gu...more
Brisbride13
I have really come to like Dr. Phil and his methods and I really did like this book. It's very common sense stuff, for the most part, but I think because people go so deep and far to figure out what's wrong with their love life, common sense is pushed to the side. What I really liked about the book is that it doesn't stray from the Dr. Phil you see on TV, which lends to its credibility; sometimes I could swear I heard his voice while reading! :)
Ejlal Alkhuzaie
Recommended by one of my friend , as similar to book of men from mars and woman from Venus.

In my point view is the following it's how to fall in love in smart way , how don't let your age train run without some.

I think is little bit different than men from mars and woman from Venus , because is discussion on that book how men think , and woman think , and how woman and man can communicate with each other without having problem.

This issue don't only apply on wife and husband but over college ,...more
Annette McLeod
The usual Dr. Phil sorta stuff. A bit repetitive, some of it painfully obvious, but always a few nuggets you can chew on.
BT
هذا الكتاب راائع ، مناسب جدا للراغبات بالزواج ، ولم يرتبطن بعد ، احببته بعمق ، واستمتعت بقراءته❤️
Hind
its very good book and helpful
Laura Ngo
this doesn't speak to everyday women, women that have it together but still wants to find love...this book is for those that doesn't know how to take care of themselves- that needs the hand holding to get out of bed and take a shower, put on a little gloss and self worth. Dr. Phil is preying on the fat, the ugly, and the low-esteemed people in America. I know- I sound cruel and insensitive- but those are my thoughts.
Abeda Ajaj
Apr 30, 2014 Abeda Ajaj marked it as to-read  ·  review of another edition
plzzz anyone can send it to me pdf ...
Joy
So, my aunt bought me this book. And really, I only used part of it. At the beginning, it basically has you make an honest profile of yourself and it helps you narrow down what you want in your spouse. So, I made the list several months before I met my husband. And guess, what, my husband pretty much is that list. Otherwise, I didn't really read the rest of the book.
Julia
I think he has some insightful things to say and ways to change it up if you struggle with meeting love interests. Some of his advice seemed like it would be unrealistic for many people and I often felt he was writing to us as if we were stupid. If you can get past his "tough love" tone and need a new perspective on dating, I would recommend this one.
Sharon
'Love Smart' is down-to-earth and helpful. McGraw advises women how to develop and strengthen their niches (maneater, girl next door, etc.,) and gives insight on how men think and feel. He also teaches readers how to increase their self-esteem, be excellent conversationalists and provides insight on what to look for when meeting potential suitors.
Nicole Denoncourt
Thanks Mom for giving me this book on Valentines day when I was single! Looks like the reading might have helped me out though.....interesting read just because I am in love with psychology and the human mind/manners. Although I am not sure I would highly recommend it but I do feel it is enlightening...
Don Weidinger
your self confidence, honor and cherish, winners do what losers don’t want to do, begin with the end in mind, love is a choice, excellence vs perfection, 80-20 rule of importance, listen 75% speak 25%, mirror to acknowledge, right or right now, being vs falling, from vs to, not a mind reader.
Jessica
This is a great self-help book for women who want to understand what to focus on if they want to have a healthy relationship whether they are single or partnered. It contains lots of useful Q&A sessions to help focus on what works and what doesn't when you're looking for a partner.
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Phillip Calvin McGraw, best known as Dr. Phil, is an American television personality, psychologist and author who is the host of the psychology themed television show Dr. Phil. He gained celebrity status following appearances on The Oprah Winfrey Show.
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