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The Essential Family Guide to Borderline Personality Disorder

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For family members of people with borderline personality disorder (BPD), home life is routinely unpredictable and frequently unbearable. Extreme mood swings, impulsive behaviors, and suicidal tendencies—common conduct among those who suffer from the disorder—leave family members feeling confused, hurt, and helpless.

In her pioneering first book Stop Walking on Eggshells, co

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Published January 1st 2008 by Hazelden Publishing & Educational Services (first published October 15th 2007)
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Dec 23, 2008 Barbara rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
I thought nothing could ever top the first book Randi Kreger co-wrote ("Stop Walking on Eggshells") but her newest book does it---I wish I could give ten stars instead of five. This seemingly simple book is one of the top five most useful books I've ever read in my life---I've already reread it twice, and will be reading it again in the years to come to help keep me in the right mental place. If you want to not only understand emotionally troubled people, but also do something concrete to help ...more
Julian Meynell
Feb 14, 2013 Julian Meynell rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
Shelves: reviewed, psychology
I didn't entirely read the book, but skipped a few chapters, because they were not relevant to my situation. The person that I knew with Borderline Personality Disorder is no longer in my life, although the consequences of their behaviour still are. I don't think they will ever get treatment or even be properly diagnosed for that matter, so a lot of the book was not relevant to my circumstance.

I cannot say how the book compares to other books on the same topic, but it was certainly an essential
Apr 15, 2014 Mandy rated it liked it  ·  review of another edition
Shelves: psychology
It has been a couple of months since I finished this book, so my memory is getting rusty, but my general impression was that it is full of a lot of good resources but poorly organized. On the positive side, the author has generated an incredible resource with his online forum connected to the Stop Walking On Eggshells books. But:
My overriding criticism is more about this field of psychology than the book in itself: To me there are two very distinct categories of BPD - high-functioning and low-fu
The second helpful book I have read concerning living with or dealing with someone with Borderline Personality Disorder.

This book begins with a comprehensive examination of Borderline and how it affects those dealing with it. The second half of this book details 5 "Power Tools" - practical ways to prevent becoming overwhelmed when in a relationship of any sort with someone with Borderline. These include, amongst others, taking care of yourself, specific ways of communicating and setting limits.
Tara Calaby
Oct 19, 2013 Tara Calaby rated it liked it  ·  review of another edition
Shelves: psychology, bpd
I think this would be helpful to a lot of people who are in close relationships (family, friend or partner) with people with BPD. As with most of these books, there's more of a focus on the extremes of behaviour, but it's a lot more kind to people with BPD than most. I particularly liked that Kreger indicated which of the resources listed at the end of the book might be triggering to people with BPD.

Most of the techniques discussed in here make sense to me. I do, however, always feel that the k
Susan Klinke
I was maybe looking for an aha moment in this book, but didn't experience it. The book did make me think though, and it did make me question how I've been viewing and relating to a family member who has BPD. I have been angry at her for a long time and tend to be pretty persecutorial and judgmental of her. I think the big question in my mind is what should she be responsible for, and what things is she just not capable of? What kind of expectations is it ok for me or anyone else to have of her? ...more
Thane Sinclaire
Nov 18, 2015 Thane Sinclaire rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
This book is useful to both learn about the behavior of BPDs, and it provides some very useful tools for NONs to protect themselves both physically and emotionally, and if possible, save a family or relationship. (Note! Some relationships may be more or less difficult to save, and do not be afraid to ask for outside help.)

If this book has a weakness, and this would be true of any book on BPD, is that there is a range of possible behaviors that BPDs exhibit, some of which depends on the whether t
Jul 04, 2013 Brandice rated it it was amazing
A very concise and informative read for families of those with borderline personality disorder. In the same vein as Stop Walking on Eggshells: Taking Your Life Back When Someone You Care about Has Borderline Personality Disorder, it provides clear strategies and insight for interacting with a loved one who struggles with BPD. Excellent resource guide in the back of the book. I would definitely recommend this book to family members of patients with BPD or anyone who wants to better understand the ...more
Sep 08, 2015 Jessica rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
This book was very informative. It was written in a manner that conveys more then one side of this very complex mental health issue. It gives examples, or testimonials, from people with boarderline personality disorders as well as stories from those in a relationship with people who have this disorder. It gives practical steps to take to set boundaries and explains how their mind works. I would recommend this book to anyone interested in learning more about this disorder and how to live with one ...more
Feb 02, 2013 Jenny rated it did not like it  ·  review of another edition
Have to admit that I didn't really read it, did a super-fast skim. Mostly aimed at people not at all like me. Probably very useful for its target audience: people who love BP people - parents of a BP does acknowledge that treatment may not be an option (because the BP person won't get treatment) and that keeping yourself safe from a BP person is paramount....and it focused on face-to-face communication, which is not safe in my case. And I'm still waffling on a BP diagnosis for my ...more
Hanan mansour
Such an amazing book for BPD; the examples and simplification allow u as one of the public to understand the situations, feelings, and responses you're put with a person having BPD
I do recommend it for any body willing to help a person with BPD and himself, the non-BPD.

I personally made benefit from the strategies mentioned in how to act with difficult personalities in general.
Lynda Austin
Jun 13, 2009 Lynda Austin rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
Shelves: adult
This will be a book I purchase for my personal reference shelves; and for other family members too. It helped answer some questions my family has had for years! What a relief!
I appreciated the support websites and intend to check them out.
Randi Kreger-thank you for writing this book!
Jon Shum
Lots of practical advice for those who love someone suffering from BPD. The book is focused on family members and close friends, not on BPD sufferer themselves, mind you. Still, I found it very helpful in my own situation as one who does care (not provides care) for a sufferer.
Shannon Lenahan
Aug 01, 2011 Shannon Lenahan rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
This is the book I recommend most to people diagnosed with Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD)and also family members and friends! Highly Recommended book! A must read!
Victoria L. Weimer
Very helpful if you have someone in your family who suffers from this disorder. It really helps you understand how they think and how you should handle things.
Mary Fox
Dec 22, 2015 Mary Fox rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
Deepens understanding and renews compassion for this very troublesome condition. Especially helpful techniques for communicating effectively.
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