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When Did I Get Like This?

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When Did I Get Like This? is the hilarious story of one mother's struggle to shrug off the ridiculous standards of modern parenting, and remember how to enjoy her children

Over the last seven years of long days with little children, I have had many moments of joy, calm, and peaceful reverie.

This book is about the other moments.

Before I became a mother, failing at something...more
Hardcover, 253 pages
Published April 6th 2010 by William Morrow & Company (first published 2010)
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An Open Letter to the Author:

Dear Amy,

Is it okay if I call you “Amy”? Because after reading your book, I feel like I have known you my whole life. Actually, I feel like you are me (but with better skin and sharper wit). I bought your book as a Mother’s Day present to myself, during a rare afternoon of “alone time”. We really didn’t have the money to spare, but since I just blew $300 on tickets for my husband to see his favorite rock band (thus, why we had no money to spare), I figured $20 wasn’t...more
Kelsey Stewart
This book couldn't have fallen into my hands at a more perfect (or perfectly miserable) time. I've been going through what I hope is just the "terrible twos" with my son. I say hope because I quietly pray that this is "only a phase," and that his newly blossomed maddening temperment isn't an indication of the person he's turning out to be. I guess I just never realized how terrible these twos could be. And when you find yourself in tears just as often as your tiny companion, you can only beg to...more
I think When Did I Get Like This? was written for me. As a mother of three children ages five and under, it more than warms my heart to read this book in which Amy Wilson really understands the struggles of everyday life as a mother. There are so many moments as a mother that I feel that I’m alone, but this book let me know that there is someone else out there who is going through some of the same things. As the blurb on the back of the book states, “Over the last seven years of long days with l...more
another new york city mommy memoir. that is supposed to be humorous. i remember very little about this book & i just finished reading it yesterday, so you can draw your conclusions from that. the chapter i remember most clearly is all about how the author constantly tells her daughter that she is beautiful & dresses her up in cunning little outfits with crinolines & frills. she justifies this by saying that it will give her daughter a needed self-confidence boost when she's in junior...more
Every single day of my life, for the past 10.5 years, I have second-guessed myself, worried that I'm not good enough and wondered how anyone could have entrusted me with a baby or a toddler or a tween or two or three of them. Every day as I hear things I thought I would never say come out of my mouth ("Get off the roof!" "You brushed your teeth? Are you sure? Come here so I can smell your breath." "No, we do not put cheese in the DVD player!") I wonder who the woman who has taken over my life is...more
Jen Thompson
This book made me laugh out loud at points! Finally I heard another mom owning up to moments of terrible weakness in her mothering journey. We've all been there and done things we regretted and the author delivers her ups and downs with humor and grace as well as a dose of lessons learned.
While I can't identify with the NYC "more-than-comfortable" lifestyle of the author, I found plenty of moments while reading this book where I breathed a sigh of relief, nodded in recognition or laughed aloud at a particularly well-crafted retelling of classic Mommy moments. Amy Wilson's humor and writing style are so appealing that I can imagine reading this for entertainment alone, did I not have two young children of my own. Part entertainment, part education, part breath of fresh air and par...more
This book began with a wonderful, hilarious, and relate-able first chapter. Unfortunately, it largely lost me after that. I feel really sad about that.

The opening chapter was so funny. I tried to refrain from reading entire paragraphs aloud to my husband, tears running down my face, but was unable to do so. I tend to run a little high-strung and related to Amy's perfectionist approach to parenting so well. The first few chapters that followed were sweet reminiscences of my own pregnancy and chil...more
The first half was a little slow - my kids are about 10 years older than Wilson's, so it's been a while since my kids were babies (remembering it all is kind of a blur of exhaustion mixed with boredom!). The second half was more relatable, however, as I remember well the forming of these little need machines into whole human beings, with fresh ideas of their own, and wonderful senses of humor. I laughed out loud on more than one occasion.

Undoubtedly, my favorite chapter was the stuffed pig stor...more
I loved this book! It was such an easy read. One that I could pick up and enjoy when I had a spare 5 minutes. I loved how "real" she told her story. No glossing over of the life of a mommy. It felt good to know I wasn't alone on insecurities common to moms. My favorite quote of hers really struck a chord with me, "The things a mother does well are always invisible compared to the things she does badly." It made me feel bad for the years of being a bratty teenager towards my mom but gave me hope...more
Sarah Thomas
Laugh out loud funny and heart warming also. Very much enjoyed this book!
Despite my low expectations - due to the title, subtitle, cover art, and general subject - I really, really enjoyed this book! I usually prefer memoir-type books when it's about something I have no experience with - mountain climbing, or farming, or fishing in outer Mongolia - but this was a really well written book on a subject that I'm currently living. I'd definitely recommend this one to my mom friends.
Sarah Weller
I thought this would be hilariously relatable but it was just boring. That is all.
So far..this book could literally be about me as a parent. Hilarious
Mindy Arbaugh
Yes, another upper-middle-class mummy writes a memoir. Yes, some will find it difficult to relate to a family that can afford Manhatten private schools, babysitters, and summer homes. But in between is an intelligent, loving, frazzled, and funny woman that any of us can identify with. Some chapters felt a bit thin, but many made me laugh out loud, and my husband too when I shared one of Wilson's many relatable parenting moments. This isn't a book of advice. It's a pat on the back and a clink of...more
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Apr 20, 2011 ReviewsByMolly rated it 5 of 5 stars
Recommends it for: everyone
Recommended to ReviewsByMolly by: TLC
Absolutely awesome! I loved this book. It wasn't fiction. Nope, nothing like fiction work. BUT, I still LOVED it. It was exactly what I needed to read. Having two young boys myself, and often, feeling the same way that Amy Wilson has felt, I knew that I needed to read this, whether it was fiction or not. And, after reading it, I am pleased to say that Amy Wilson hit so many things head on that I am HIGHLY, HIGHLY recommending this book to all new mothers, and mothers of young children. It will l...more
I LOVED this book. This is a great read for ANY mom who has ever felt like they were struggling. Newsflash: We ALL are! Wilson writes very humorously about key parenting experiences. It spans everything from breastfeeding to kids sports. Here are some of my favourite quotes from the book:

"The onslaught of things we are supposed to worry about is bewildering, all the more so because it is often contradictory. Caffeine causes miscarriages! (wait, no it doesn't! Hold on, yes it does! (Sometimes!)))...more
Anna Bergman Beach
Hmmm, what to say about this book. It was a really easy read. Fast. I liked it because I definitely recognized myself and I LOVED that she was so honest about parenting, she mentioned both things where she feels like she messed up and things that she did really well. She made me feel better about myself as a parent (knowing I am not alone). On the other hand there were a lot of things that were a bit cliched and completely outside of my, and I think most other mothers, scope. The whole NY mother...more
Amy Bergethon
"Before kids, I had a pretty successful career as an actress, and I had stories about meeting Woody Allen and Warren Beatty fit for any occasion. Now, when someone asks me, "What do you do?" I don't necessarily want to say, "I'm an actress," since that will beg the question of what they've seen me in, which is, recently, nothing. Instead, I go with the job that has kept me most consistently busy for the last seven years. "I'm a mom," I say, and then I see the switch go off behind their eyes: 'Oh...more
I had high hopes for this book and was disappointed. It was not at all "hilarious." More like mildly entertaining. Most of the author's "bad mom" moments were barely a blip on the "bad mom" scale. It was also hard to relate to her NYC lifestyle where toddlers interview for preschool and other "problems" that moms in the big city face. She seems to have taken views of motherhood to an extreme and most of the "mothers she swore she'd never be" are just ordinary moms as opposed to some mythic and u...more
Over the last seven years of long days with little children, I have had many moments of joy, calm, and peaceful reverie.

This book is about the other moments.

Before I became a mother, failing at something did not shake my fundamental belief in my capabilities as a human being. But now that I am the mother of three children under the age of seven, I have one overriding daily thought: I suck at this.

What kind of mother feeds her kids dinosaur chicken nuggets? Three times a week? What kind of mot...more
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Author Amy Wilson, Manhattan resident and mother of three, wrote this memoir after observing the changes in herself that motherhood brought. Parts of it were absolutely hilarious and I so remembered some of those feelings of early motherhood, which were kind of scary to remember now that baby number 4 is on the way for us (!), but other parts were so far beyond my experience I had a tough time relating, like when she describes the ridiculous world of high-stakes preschool enrollment for her stil...more
While the topic of this book was very very boring I still kind of liked it. Maybe it was the writing style. Who knows. Anyway, this book was written by a women about becoming a mother. Totally boring, right?! But I don't know, maybe because it was sort of chick-lit-y, but with all the mistakes of a real mother thrown in. She wanted to be perfect (of course) but when it came to writing, was very real about it all. It didn't sound like she was over protective at all, which is a nice change from fi...more
Very, very, very, very funny. Amy Wilson is a sometimes employed actress that has three children pretty close together. Her experiences with child rearing in downtown Manhattan are obviously different than most of ours but so hilarious you can still relate. I loved her account of trying to get her son into an exclusive preschool. She and her husband had to start the interview process when he just began walking. If you were going to write a humorous book about motherhood, this would be the one yo...more
Apr 11, 2012 Clare rated it 5 of 5 stars
Recommends it for: Susan, Ellen, Anne
I wish Amy Wiilson could come to my house for a playdate. We have a lot in common!

This is one of the most helpful parenting books I've read - I think it makes my Top 4 list. The author is very candid about how emotionally and physically exhausting motherhood can be while also capturing how blessed motherhood is. Wilson is practical and writes with an honest voice.

Wilson says all of the things that I think most moms feel but are reluctant to share. As a result, we all end up feeling disconnected...more
My dad bought this book for me. He has this tendency to buy any book that catches his eye, and I believe the mention of chicken nuggets on the cover made him think of my kids because if they had the chance they’d eat chicken nuggets every single day.
There is little that I have in common with the author. I’ve never been to New York City; instead I live a “simpler” life in a small town in the Mid-west. Yet I am the mother of four children so I could relate to her and the essence of her experiences...more
Alison G.
Welcome to the world of hyper-informed parenting - or at least, Mothering. This book had some laugh-out-loud relatable moments for me, but also plenty of "WHY would you succumb to that kind of societal BS? (i.e. UES NYC parental pressures)" It made me think about what kind of mother I am - unfortunately, like the author, I specialize in Mother Guilt, but apparently also have a certain knack for being the Judgy Mom. I think many of us who make it a point to be "educated" about "what is best for o...more
2.5 stars. The book started on a good note, but somewhere along the way it lost me. Maybe it was when she delved into the super elite world of finding prestigious preschools in NY when her child was just barely old enough to walk. I get that it's crazy there, but perhaps it wouldn't be of parents would stop buying into the crazy. After that we were told that reinforcing that being pretty is what's most important when you have a girl, and how lucky they are to have a summer home in the country. H...more
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Amy Wilson is the creator of Mother Load, a one-woman show that has been touring the United States since 2007. Amy is a contributing editor to Parenting magazine, and has also written for babytalk, Babble, and CNN.com. As an actress, Amy has performed on and off Broadway, on numerous sitcoms, and in films. But her favorite productions are her three young children, whom she raises with her husband...more
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