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Act Like a Lady, Think Like a Man

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Steve Harvey, the host of the nationally syndicated "Steve Harvey Morning Show," can't count the number of impressive women he's met over the years, whether it's through the "Strawberry Letters" segment of his program or while on tour for his comedy shows. These are women who can run a small business, keep a household with three kids in tiptop shape, and chair a church gro...more

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Published January 27th 2009 by HarperCollins

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Feb 18, 2013 Kathrynn rated it 5 of 5 stars · review of another edition Recommends it for: All Women Plan to Date Men

Shelves: own, 2009, reviewed, 2013, non-fiction-relationships, non-fiction-self-improvement

First read April 6, 2009:
A quick, easy read that wasn't as funny as I thought it was going to be. Mr. Harvey gives straight, common sense advice about men that could be used by teenage girls just beginning the dating cycle to women married/divorced with kids. Several of his examples are with divorced women with kids: when to introduce your kids to the man you are dating; if a man is truly interested in a long-term relationship he will make an effort to include your kids on dates, etc.

As for you...more First read April 6, 2009:
A quick, easy read that wasn't as funny as I thought it was going to be. Mr. Harvey gives straight, common sense advice about men that could be used by teenage girls just beginning the dating cycle to women married/divorced with kids. Several of his examples are with divorced women with kids: when to introduce your kids to the man you are dating; if a man is truly interested in a long-term relationship he will make an effort to include your kids on dates, etc.

As for younger women starting to date, this book could be very insightful. Respect yourself and a good man will respect you. He recommends not having the first sexual encounter for 90 days. Uses the advice of starting a new job and having to wait 90 days for the "benefits" to kick in (health insurance). Men can do it if it's important to them, if it's not they move and women are better off knowing early on. I felt the book was primarily geared toward young women just starting to date...

As for married women, Mr. Harvey gives some advice on keeping your man happy at home. Why they cheat and who they cheat with. He states that men will cheat if they aren't getting "the cookie" at home or if "the cookie" is not like he wants it to be. He mentioned that men will cheat and not consider it cheating, just having sex. I laughed at his joke about how men will deny their butts off when caught cheating--even in mid "pump" with their social security numbers tattooed on their butts. There is a section on forgiving a man who has cheated, too.

He mentions how women should deal with a momma's boy. What questions a women should ask a man she is dating (both early in the relationship and later). He explains what type of answers women should receive if the guy is committed to a long-term relationship or a fling. He uses the analogy of sports fishing: keeping and tossing back. He talks about the first words out of a woman's mouth when a guy begins talking to her. Women set the stage for how the guy will see them and treat them: long term material or a quick toss. He mentions how men will do almost anything to get sex and how not to be used for sex if your goal is a long-term relationship.

Mr. Harvey gives a brief insight into his own life at the beginning of each chapter, then delves into the topics that range from:

The Mind Set of a Man:
- Three things that drive a man:
1. Who they are
2. What they do
3. How much they make

Why Men Do What They Do
- This section was neat to read because it talked about how men behave--if they love you--particularly for married men.

How to Win the Game
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Dec 13, 2012 عزة rated it 4 of 5 stars · review of another edition

بيبدأ المؤلف بالطلب من السيدة اللي بتقرأ الكتاب انها تنسى كل الكلام اللي سمعته عن عقلية الرجل من المجلات أو الراديو والتليفزيون لان كله غلط

الفصل الأول :
الرجل لازم يلاقي اجابات 3 أسئلة :
أنا مين ؟
بأعمل/بأشتغل إيه ؟
بأكسب كام ؟
أو على الأقل يبقي ضامن أو عنده فكرة واضحة عن الطريق لتحقيقهم
قبل ما يلاقي الاجابات الثلاثة مش هيركز فيكي أو يفكر في الالتزام بالارتباط بيكي

الفصل الثاني:
المرأة تعرف ان هذا الرجل يحبها بالفعل بـ 3 حاجات
profess , provide , protect

الأولي انه يعرفها لأهله أو أصدقائه أو الأشخاص المهم...more

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Nov 29, 2010 Reeka (BoundbyWords) rated it 1 of 5 stars · review of another edition

Ok so, I definitely have mixed feelings about this book. On one hand, I admire the fact that Steve Harvey gives it to you straight and without a TRACE of subtlety (or sugar-coating if you will), the reasons why the majority of men ARE the way they are, and why we, as women, are unknowingly encouraging them to continue bad habits. He made some very valid points, though I felt that many of them should ALREADY be obvious to woman everywhere (i.e. set standards for yourself, RESPECT yourself in orde...more

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Mar 06, 2013 Miranda rated it 1 of 5 stars · review of another edition

I'm sorry to say this, but this book is a JOKE. The first half of the book, it acted like it was talking to smart women, telling women what drives men and how to make your man feel like a man. Then the second half was talking to dumb, easy girls, making sure they have standards for themselves and don't be clinging to a guy who has other women hanging on his other arm. It didn't flow into "this is what you need to do next" from the beginning.

Another thing he does, is has women making lists of ho...more I'm sorry to say this, but this book is a JOKE. The first half of the book, it acted like it was talking to smart women, telling women what drives men and how to make your man feel like a man. Then the second half was talking to dumb, easy girls, making sure they have standards for themselves and don't be clinging to a guy who has other women hanging on his other arm. It didn't flow into "this is what you need to do next" from the beginning.

Another thing he does, is has women making lists of how she wants her man to be! Every girl in her right mind who has read a good relationship book knows not to make a "list" about what her "dream" man is. It's such unrealistic expectations to say you want a 100% gorgeous, funny, smart man.
Here's an example of how he's not clear: "And if we can't exercise two of the major components that make up who we are as men—providing and protecting—then we're not about to profess our love for you." THEN he says, "Don't give up your money, or your job, or your education, or the pride and dignity that come with all of that. Just be a lady." Women will NEED to give up their pride in order to have a healthy relationship.

Another thing: He's not very clear on which side of the board he's on for ANY points. For instance, he expects a woman to take care of her family, take care of her husband, keep a clean house, cook, let the man provide and protect, etc. yet he says men like women who are independent and don't "reach in his pockets" and "it's a necessity for both the husband and the wife to work to make ends meet", and then "most men would not have a problem with his woman staying home." And then in the Q&A section, he says "most men who really care about you won't think anything of (women asking for money) if they have it." ??? Which is it? Is she a "gold digger" or "relying on her man"?! And then, he wants them to wear heels on top of all this (in the Q&A section he even says that he doesn't know a single man who prefers women in flats and "If we could get athletic shoes with heels for women, we would!") I personally believe that for me, as a woman, my place will be in the home, and my future husband's place is providing for the family. These are natural human instincts, like he mentioned before about the man wanting to provide. Why make it more confusing than it is?!

I hate to bring up this issue, but he comes off as racist. All his examples are of "black character", I guess you could say. Talking about "gold diggers" and "mama's boys" and the like. Me, being white, can't relate to the examples of these black women.

Another thing: he says a woman needs to have her man say this to her: "When I don't see you, I miss talking to you, I always wonder what you're doing and whenever you come around, I just feel better—you're the type of woman I've been trying to find." And he goes on to say, "In other words, his answer has to make you feel wonderful. He may not be in love with you just yet, but he's crazy about you and he's probably thinking he wants to explore a long-term commitment with you..." He has to explain himself on everything because he is not clear. He has no examples of good, healthy marriages in this book, to prove his point. It's all on a whim and what he believes. He puts all men in one category and it proves absolutely nothing. I think this book emasculates men! His relationship story with his wife doesn't convince me that he has good advice! What man says "I'm going to marry you someday!" when she walks into the room? I told my brother (who is 19!) about the things in this book and he agreed with me! Steve Harvey is a confusing male and doesn't have business writing a "self-improvement" book.

I do think it's great that he advises to lay your expectations of a relationship out on the table and not to have sex for 90 days. Couples who want sex before they really know each other need to take the time to get to know each other first, but isn't this a pretty obvious point?

I also like how he advises women to re-word what they're trying to say to their man to make him feel like man. We're wired different and communicate different.

After telling women they need to act like a lady, he says this: "This "If he wants to marry me, he'll ask me" thing has got to stop. Because we're not going to ask you when you're ready—we're going to play with you until you give us your requirements and standards and stand by them. I'm not telling you to get on bended knee. I'm telling you to set a timeline for the ring and the date, and tell the man you want to married to what it is." Talk about pushy! Every woman knows that if you've talked to your man about marriage and he hasn't made a move, chances are, he's not ready! Whatever happened to the beginning of the book where he said men cheat because they haven't found out who they are yet? Well, chances are, he's not giving you a ring because he hasn't found out who he is.

In the Q&A section, a question asks "What do men think of women who buy drinks?" and he says "It's a total come-on. In our mind, if you want to buy us a drink, you want us. And if we think you want us, well, we're coming in for the kill." Really? So scratch all that talk about a guy's instincts to pursue a woman and chase her?

Anybody wanting a true relationship book shouldn't read this. The only reason I wanted to finish it was to say I finished it all the way through (in case, at the end, he says "just kidding!") and to make a review on here. I wouldn't really say it was a waste of time though, because I got to see what men NOT to marry. Go read Dr. Laura. She tells of true, healthy relationships! ;)(less)

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Oct 17, 2010 Judith rated it 1 of 5 stars · review of another edition

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Act Like a Lady, Think Like a Man by comedian, Steve Harvey, is as simple as the title. Moreover, Harvey insists all men are simple, like him. Also, all women are complicated, nurturing, irrational beings, or if not, they should fake it so they can get a good man. According to this book, whenever a “real man” chats with a woman it is because he wants to sleep with her. Mr. Harvey compares dating to sport fishing: a woman who is too easy is a “throwback,” not a “keeper.” So, ladies, if you want t...more

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Mar 10, 2012 Ziyanda Xaso rated it 1 of 5 stars · review of another edition

I'm actually going to review this book as I read it. I actually find it very simplistic in dealing with relationships. Steve here deems men to be simple creatures who are all basically the same regardless of upbringing, culture or creed. He makes some really sweeping assumptions about both men and women. The fact that he assumes that all men are running some sort of game on us women tells me that he really does not have a broad view of people. To me the book sounds like the advice that a father...more I'm actually going to review this book as I read it. I actually find it very simplistic in dealing with relationships. Steve here deems men to be simple creatures who are all basically the same regardless of upbringing, culture or creed. He makes some really sweeping assumptions about both men and women. The fact that he assumes that all men are running some sort of game on us women tells me that he really does not have a broad view of people. To me the book sounds like the advice that a father gives to his girl child before he allows her to go on dates with guys, just to make sure that she is not duped into sleeping with them.

I must say the book is an extremely easy read as I was able to finish it within 24hours. But honestly towards the end I was really tired of the advice that Steve is dishing out. I’m honestly surprised that this book has made it to the best seller list and I guess it’s a testament as to how desperate we are as women to try and have successful relationships with these men. It is really sad to think that so many women are desperately seeking solutions in dealing with their relationships to no avail.

Now back to my review of the book, really the best thing about it is the fact that it is such an easy read and that you really don’t spend that much time getting through it. Which in itself is a blessing as honestly the advice does become a bit tedious towards the end. Really the whole book is a bit of a big joke and looking at it from that perspective makes reading it bearable.

Obviously not everything he says in the books is trash but in the same breath he really does not delve much deeper into the subject. The classic mistake he makes is in assuming that all men are the same and all women are looking for the same things in relationships. Mind you there is an audience for this book, narrow as it may be. But following everything he says in this book to the letter will really reduce your relationship to a game instead of something in which two grown intelligent people are building.

In terms of the advice it all sounds like the advice that a father will give to his daughter before she goes out on her first date. And this is evident when Steve retells the incident between his father in law and one his daughter's dates. It’s all the warning that a father will give his daughter to make sure that the men out there don't take advantage of her and use her for sex. Some of this advice might apply to a teenager getting to grips with the opposite sex. But once you reach a certain level of wisdom and maturing really the game playing is out of the question.

The fact that he assumes that as women we have no idea what some men are after really belittles our intelligence. Of course we know and sometimes it is exactly the same thing that we are after, sex. I just find the book a little condescending towards wise and experienced women because in all honesty if I have to run a game on you, in order to get you, then maybe we should not even be doing this thing.
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Feb 28, 2010 Kendra rated it 2 of 5 stars · review of another edition

Emily recommended this and I thought it was a fun and fast read with some good practical, old school advice. I didn't agree with every thing he said, but then, I'm a woman and he is advising me to think like a man.

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Apr 16, 2013 Laila E 240521 rated it 4 of 5 stars · review of another edition

Think like man act like a lady is really a nice book worth reading it. I recommend you to read this book because it help women in general in their relationships with men instead of listening to their friends about a relationship. Steve is going to give them Steps and advices, so woman should understand and follow them. Because your friend may not know everything about men or maybe her husband is different than yours. So it’s better to listen from a man what he know, think, and prefers to do in d...more

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Jun 05, 2012 Doaa rated it 4 of 5 stars · review of another edition

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First .. as Steve said :Every Woman have to read This book ! yes u have 2 do trust me ..
am Completely Impressed with this book .. and u'll do too..
every woman read this book 'll Shocked ' Learn 'Knows ..More and more about our life partners .. Men !!
The Author help us to Discover this world the manhood world .. find the big Differences btween woman and men in Love and in Expression and Dealing with some Matters of life !
As well he Talk about Relationships .. Simply How to enjoy a good relations...more

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Mar 03, 2009 Kristen rated it 5 of 5 stars · review of another edition

I saw this book being promoted on "Oprah" one afternoon (rarity, since I typically work until 5) and thought he made a lot of sense. So, I picked the book up and within 2 days I read it cover to cover. Excellent. I recommend it for any woman struggling with relationships with men. It brought a lot of clarity to what I have been going through and made me realize what to look for in men.

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May 09, 2011 Kwenadi Selahla added it · review of another edition

Oh God, it is a nice book.Words cant explain enough what leason i have learnt from this book.Thank you Steve for helping us.This book is a must read for every one who needs a good relationship.
And a big thatnx to my best friend who bought it for me.U are the best........................

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Feb 04, 2009 Cydney rated it 4 of 5 stars · review of another edition

This book was right on time. Steve gives insight into the male mind and why guys do what they do. He cuts to the chase and informs females what to do to if you want to be a keeper. The book also allows you to realize the good traits that your guy has which helps you feel you're on the right track; other tidbits give you an idea of which areas of your relationship needs work. Overall, very good relationship advice novel that will give women info that they already know, but also good tips that the...more

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Mar 30, 2009 Heather rated it 4 of 5 stars · review of another edition

This review has been hidden because it contains spoilers. To view it, click here. I actually read this back in February when my mother and her partner saw Steve Harvey on Oprah and it really got to them- they kept bringing him up. And if this made an impression on two women who are done with men romantically, well, I had to check it out. This book is great because it is common sense. The older I get the more I realize that yes, women are women and men are men and there is very little changing that or getting around it. Our minds WORK DIFFERENTLY, and no matter how much you tr...more I actually read this back in February when my mother and her partner saw Steve Harvey on Oprah and it really got to them- they kept bringing him up. And if this made an impression on two women who are done with men romantically, well, I had to check it out. This book is great because it is common sense. The older I get the more I realize that yes, women are women and men are men and there is very little changing that or getting around it. Our minds WORK DIFFERENTLY, and no matter how much you try to understand it or fiddle with the way your significant other communicates with you, it isn't a long term solution. If you sit back and embrace it you will probably get better results and be happier with your relationships. Now, I should say that this book has a bent toward the traditional- the woman who wants a family and kids or at the very least a solid long term relationship.

Here were the sticking points for me:
-A man who comes up to you has a plan. He wants something from you. It's your job to decide if he gets it and how much it will cost him. If he feels you are worth the price (and you are), and we're clearly not just talking financial investment (because THAT'S sort of a slippery slope to whoredom), he'll stick with it. If not, well, don't waste your time.

-Lay down the rules right away and early on in a relationship as to what is and what is not acceptable behavior. He uses Momma's Boys as the big example, but really this could apply to anything. A girl's gotta have standards, dammit. Like cheating- another example. Men cheat because they can. You have to make it clear from day one that you won't tolerate it, and that you'll hold up your end of the bargain so they don't feel the urge to stray. This is so not me condoning cheating, but... it makes sense when you read his take on it.

-The five questions to ask before you get attached are really smart.

-Introducing a guy to your kids (if you have any) from day one is also smart. Why waste your time with someone who isn't going to be good with your kids? Who doesn't like kids? Who doesn't want to be the head of your family?

-The next one I think a lot of my friends would have problems with because it feels like playing games. The 90 day probation period. Most (and I mean MOST, not all) women I knew are hooked pretty bad once they sleep with a guy. Get your priorities in order. If a job makes you wait 90 days for benefits to kick in, a woman should be allowed to wait 90 days before giving benefits too. Believe me I know how old fashioned this sounds, but when you read the book it makes sense.

-Let men do the manly stuff. This is the one that I have the hardest time with. I am perfectly capable of lifting heavy stuff and using a drill, but to make the dynamic work sometimes you just have to let a guy be a guy and take care of stuff for you. And if it keeps the spark alive then I'm all for it.

-One other thing, men should be able to provide for the people they love and they should take pride in it because it makes them feel like they are MEN. So let them pay.

So yes, this is pretty sexist stuff. But if you are looking for a relationship I think this guy really has some excellent points. And it also is a great book for cutting through the crap and not wasting your time on guys who just aren't looking for the same things you are. I wish this book had been around when I was just starting to date- it would have saved me a lot of heartache.(less)

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Mar 13, 2009 Robin rated it 3 of 5 stars · review of another edition

The best thing about this book was that when men saw me reading it, they would get ALL KINDS of bent outta shape. Seriously. I mean, they took it personally. That only made me want to get through it faster to see what the hell Steve was telling because men were nervous.

The first part of this book reads like a relationship manual from 1950. I understand where he's coming from, but I couldn't relate. My mind doesn't work that way. A friend of mine agreed that it did sound a little bit dateed, but...more

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Apr 22, 2013 Davonni rated it 4 of 5 stars · review of another edition

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I enjoyed this book! This is a great book to read if you want a male perspective on relationships. I think I enjoyed the book so much because how he went about giving advice came from a very honest and humors place. In the book Steve gives advice on how women should think like men in certain situations. I personally found this be hilarious and informative at times.
Steve Harvey has a clear voice in this book. His opinion on situations is so evident. I can tell just by reading the book he feels p...more

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Apr 01, 2013 Imani Rothwell rated it 5 of 5 stars · review of another edition

This book is a great book. When starting to read I could not put the book down. I am a 17 year old girl and did not really know what to expect when reading such an older book, but I must recommend that most girls my age read this, because it really gives you an insight on relationships and how guys think. Most girls my age think its about just giving a guy what he wants and usually they think it is sex, but No!. Steve Harvey really digs in and talks about how "Men respect standards- get some!” W...more

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Mar 07, 2013 Lauren rated it 2 of 5 stars · review of another edition

In all earnestness, I think there is a very specific type of woman that would be receptive to the advice presented in this book. And not only would she be receptive, but also she is probably in dire need of it. I don't want to get too non-PC, but there is a VERY specific kind of woman who will believe a guy is into her if he introduces her to people in his life as "This is X, my baby's momma." [Note:If I did have a child with a man and he ever referred to me as "his baby momma", I would be livid...more In all earnestness, I think there is a very specific type of woman that would be receptive to the advice presented in this book. And not only would she be receptive, but also she is probably in dire need of it. I don't want to get too non-PC, but there is a VERY specific kind of woman who will believe a guy is into her if he introduces her to people in his life as "This is X, my baby's momma." [Note:If I did have a child with a man and he ever referred to me as "his baby momma", I would be livid. So maybe this disqualifies me from Mr. Harvey's audience from the get-go.To be completely up-front, I think it is no secret that this book is written to black women. But it seems that Steve has written to the stereotypical angry and hurt black woman. I don't consider myself either of those things and found it very difficult to relate to many of his examples.]

The basic things he tells women (have standards and self-respect, get to know a guy before you sleep with him, don't wait forever for the wedding, etc.) are very simple, common-sense pieces of advice... nothing groundbreaking.

However, many of the examples he gives - even from his own life - further solidify my belief that this book is meant for certain kinds of people. Within the first twenty pages, Steve tells us that real men want to protect the women they care about. This is a fair enough point. But I can't be the only person who thinks that his example of requiring his wife to stop the adventurous activities she likes (parachuting, for example) just because he can't protect her is a symptom of being controlling. He also gives an example of a woman who has a problem with her boss at work and her boyfriend shows up at her job to speak with the boss. Call me crazy but those are major red flags to me. I would never quit my hobbies or enjoy my boyfriend showing up at my job to talk with my boss (talk about unprofessional!)

That being said, I do agree with his bullets for identifying men who aren't looking for serious relationships. I also agree with his bullets for how to carry yourself as a woman who is self-respecting and commands respect. Lastly, I like his five questions you should find out before you get serious with someone.

Still, I wouldn't recommend this book to a friend who was looking for serious relationship advice.(less)

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Jan 14, 2013 Emilie Bertrand rated it 1 of 5 stars · review of another edition

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It's the first time I write a real review of a book on this site, and I'm writing it because I'm so upset by this book.
It's totally not the kind of book I'd have thought about reading myself, but my best friend gave it to me as a gift (still don't understand why). I could't get beyond page 50. And if I got this far, it was only because I was on a train home and didn't have anything else to read. I actually wanted to give up at page 10.

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Dec 12, 2012 Crystal Walker-pirtle rated it 3 of 5 stars · review of another edition

Okay Steve.

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Oct 30, 2012 Stacey Marie Robinson rated it 5 of 5 stars · review of another edition

I'm sure one of your girl friends must have told you about this book by now, if you haven't already read it for yourself. Steve Harvey's "Act Like a Lady, Think Like A Man: What Men Really Think About Love, Relationships, Intimacy, And Comittment" is like the new "He's Just Not That Into You." Equally entertaining, and very truthful.

And with any of these relationship "self-help" books, the author is never really telling you something you don't know deep down already. Even if you're happy, secure...more

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Oct 26, 2012 Priani rated it 4 of 5 stars · review of another edition

My cousin recommended this book to me adding that it will change my life and more specifically how I deal with men in the dating world. That was a huge understatement. I got this book after I'd been dating my now husband about 3 months. From page 1, Steve Harvey starts speaking in real people speak. That got my attention 100%. I hate it when an author goes on and on and on...page fillers, I call them....about nothing really. I guess they have to have more words and/or pages for the publisher so...more My cousin recommended this book to me adding that it will change my life and more specifically how I deal with men in the dating world. That was a huge understatement. I got this book after I'd been dating my now husband about 3 months. From page 1, Steve Harvey starts speaking in real people speak. That got my attention 100%. I hate it when an author goes on and on and on...page fillers, I call them....about nothing really. I guess they have to have more words and/or pages for the publisher so they fill the book with "filler".

Not so in Harvey's bible to dating....for women. We, as women, need to take a step back figure out what it is exactly that we want from our "ideal" man. "Think Like a Man" is almost a step-by-step guide to words, thoughts, and behaviors that will help you to pass over the guys that don't fit the bill. In the same context, it also (very much so) points out in exclamatory form what to pay attention to during every part of your day. The grocery store, library, bank, post office, spouses/boyfriends of friends are excellent specimens to compare to. Doing all of this helps you to come up with the characteristics, traits, and qualities in a man that are non-negotiable for you. Once done, it's extremely easy (but should be respectful...hey he's SOEBODY'S guy in the future, right?) to pass on men that don't have your list requirements. You end up giving back to a man exactly what he puts into the dating relationship. And the thing that sealed it for me was simply to forget about it. Totally put dating, marriage, men, out of my mind. I focused on my health, my kids, my house, my career. I'd joke to friends that I have no clue where a man would even fit into my world. Something very profound happens to you when you're not looking for the man of your dreams. He appears. Out of nowhere, he appears. He will come to you with an almost unattractiveness about him because he's SOOOOOO uber-confident in everything about him. But, if you're patient, observe, listen more than you talk - you will end up figuring out that the one for you is right in front of you. Once you start putting the pieces together, all the while (very important) behaving like a lady should, the giy will manifest into your life.

This should be read by every 18 year old girl, right after graduation, or better yet- stuck in a little gift bag and handed out with her diploma!! It's no-nonsense common sense stuff that we really needed @ that crucial milestone in life. Either way, no matter how old you are when you come across "Think Like a Lady" it should resonate right through you. It's all truth. Practical tools to implement. Main ingredient = common sense.

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Sep 10, 2012 Cingashe Nogaya rated it 4 of 5 stars · review of another edition

This book has indeed set me free. Its no longer an algorithm it plain easy, a man has to Profess, Provide and protect, finish and klaar, love the witty nature it is delivered in. I am soo soo appreciative of the way it makes me calm the ^&%& down when it comes to deciphering why he did not call or whether he responded to text or not.

I think I have laid down my psychic turban,and my investigators magnifying glass....I want to enjoy my life not solve equations. So if he treats you right -...more

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Aug 05, 2012 Fatma Am rated it 5 of 5 stars

من اكتر الكتب اللى بتكلم عن العلاقات و عجبتنى و حسيتها انها صح

Nothing on this planet can compare with a woman’s love—it is kind and compassionate, patient and nurturing, generous and sweet and unconditional. Pure.
If you are her man, she will walk on water and through a mountain for you, too, no matter how you’ve acted out, no matter what crazy thing you’ve done, no matter the time or demand.
If you are her man, she will talk to you until there just aren’t any more words left to say, encourage...more

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Jun 16, 2012 Philae_02 rated it 4 of 5 stars · review of another edition

While working, a library customer approached me asking for this particular book. And at once, I was intrigued by both her interest and the title. Once I started reading, I thought to myself: “Where was this book when I was dating?”

Steve Harvey offers practical advice for all ladies to the inner workings of the male mind; namely how they view themselves among other men and in society. In a nutshell, men view themselves in three categories: 1. Who they are, 2. What they do, and 3. How much he mak...more

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May 30, 2012 Lauren rated it 2 of 5 stars · review of another edition

Steve Harvey got me doing two things in the first few chapters of this book. First, he got me to laugh. Second, he got me thinking, " hmmm, I wonder if my husband would agree with that? ". Both of those things wore off somewhere around the middle of the book. I laughed less and less, and eventually started to speed read to get passed all the cliche's, stereotypes, and old fashioned ideals. I'm giving the book two stars because I truly did enjoy the first few chapters and did get one or two valua...more

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May 24, 2012 Carhyne added it · review of another edition

Act like a lady think like a man isn't as complicated as you would think it is.it breaks down the male mind into different sections:money, relationships and goals. You wouldn't think that the male mind is so simple but according to Steve Harvey it is. The average male wants money and cant focus on a relationship he until he gets it. Also the average male has 3 goals ghat he wants toachieve or in fact needsto achieve. He wants money, a title and a job.after he gets these things he is set for life...more

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Apr 23, 2012 Jessica Washington rated it 4 of 5 stars · review of another edition

I will let you know up front that I read the book because I was about to see the movie. I usually like to read the book first, and I almost had it finished before I saw the movie on opening night.

I think that Steve Harvey has cashed in on giving simple but really good relationship advice. This book was a fun and fast read; I bought it Thursday night, started it and got halfway through while I was at the hair salon on Friday and finished it Saturday.

While I enjoyed it for the most part, the sect...more

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Apr 09, 2012 Zero vi Britannia rated it 2 of 5 stars · review of another edition

Shelves: never, don-t-feel-like-reading-a-second-ti, no, no-just-not, not-even-with-someone-elses-money, this-is-going-to-hurt, this-will-not-be-pretty

A small rant:

I hate books that reduce male-female relationships to gender stereotypes.
I hate books that make men responsible for their woman's happiness.
I hate books that make men responsible for women in general.
I hate books that treat women as though they are objects to be sought after by men.
I hate books that teach women how to manipulate men.
I hate books that teach men how to manipulate women.
I hate books that take gender relations back to the 50's.
But you know what I hate the most?
I hate...more

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Apr 06, 2012 Kristen marked it as are-you-shitting-me · review of another edition

Shelves: trash, make-you-put-a-gun-in-your-mouth

This is a movie now? Are you fucking kidding me? Sure, why wouldn't I take relationship advice from a some fourth-rate hack comedian whose greatest accomplishment is hosting Family Feud (which apparently wasn't canceled in 1989)? Clearly this guy is a relationship expert since he's been married three times himself, so who better to tell us women how to act right for our man. I especially like the casting of unapologetic woman beater Chris Brown for the movie.

Sadly I actually have a friend who o...more

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Mar 05, 2012 Yolanda rated it 3 of 5 stars · review of another edition

Shelves: 2012, non-fiction

So, I remember when this book first came out. I was still working in the bookstore and we couldn't keep it on the shelf. People were always coming in asking for it. Because it was wildly popular, I was immediately turned off.

Cut to a few years later, I am now on the dating scene and figured reading something like this wouldn't hurt when it came to me dealing with guys. That and the movie is due out shortly.

sigh

The book wasn't horrible, but it wasn't good. It was really simple. There was nothin...more

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“Nothing on this planet can compare with a woman’s love—it is kind and compassionate, patient and nurturing, generous and sweet and unconditional. Pure. If you are her man, she will walk on water and through a mountain for you, too, no matter how you’ve acted out, no matter what crazy thing you’ve done, no matter the time or demand. If you are her man, she will talk to you until there just aren’t any more words left to say, encourage you when you’re at rock bottom and think there just isn’t any way out, hold you in her arms when you’re sick, and laugh with you when you’re up. And if you’re her man and that woman loves you—I mean really loves you?—she will shine you up when you’re dusty, encourage you when you’re down, defend you even when she’s not so sure you were right, and hang on your every word, even when you’re not saying anything worth listening to. And no matter what you do, no matter how many times her friends say you’re no good, no matter how many times you slam the door on the relationship, she will give you her very best and then some, and keep right on trying to win over your heart, even when you act like everything she’s done to convince you she’s The One just isn’t good enough.
That’s a woman’s love—it stands the test of time, logic, and all circumstance. ” — 746 people liked it

“All I'm telling you to do is to be smart about it. Know that if this man isn't looking for a serious relationship, you're not going to change his mind just because you two are going on dates and being intimate. You could be the most perfect woman on the Lord's green earth-you're capable of interesting conversation, you cook a mean breakfast, you hand out backrubs like sandwiches, you're independent (which means, to him, that you're not going to be in his pockets)-but if he's not ready for a serious relationship, he going to treat you like sports fish.” — 510 people liked it

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