I See Rude People: One Woman's Battle to Beat Some Manners Into Impolite Society
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I See Rude People: One Woman's Battle to Beat Some Manners Into Impolite Society

3.4 of 5 stars 3.40  ·  rating details  ·  225 ratings  ·  64 reviews
We all just suck it up every day. You leave the house for a latte and somebody'll flip you the bird on your way and force their loud cellphone conversation on you once you're there.
It doesn't have to be that way, says award-winning syndicated columnist Amy Alkon. Her hilarious stories of her in-your-face encounters with rude people and businesses will inspire you to stan...more
Paperback, 215 pages
Published November 1st 2009 by McGraw-Hill
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Let me begin with a complaint: two of the ruder things (at least in my opinion) that people regularly do (smoking and bathing in Axe and other stinky scented products) are not included. I consider this a major shortcoming. With that out of the way, I liked this little book and its insights into how rude modern society is and how unaware people are of how their actions affect others. But most of my enjoyment of this book stems from Ms. Alkon's determination to end modern ill manners - she's this...more
Shannon M. Howell
For a non-fiction book, this was quite an enjoyable read. I read it on my Kindle, but according to Amazon, the paperback is 224 page. I went through it in under 24 hours (including the acknowledgements). So, it clearly held my attention and, while not a page-turner in the sense of a thrilling mystery or action-packed novel, I was obviously turning the pages… quickly.

I figured this would happen, since Ms. Alkon’s writing voice is, in my opinion, hilarious. It’s not that she says things I don’t th...more
Very interesting! The author does seem to 'cross the line' in her effort to combat rudeness on occasion, but she has a point! And since she is a journalist, she uses her encounters in her writing. I really liked the section on how American parents have abdicated their responsibility for discipline and that the kids are in charge in many families; she compares that with French parents and it's eye-opening. She takes on Bank of America, telemarketers (charges them for the time they steal from her...more
Jessica Robinson
I could make a terrible joke about how RUDE it is for me to give this such an average rating and how I hope Alkon doesn't SEE it, but I'm not a soulless monster. Eh, the book was fun and light, despite Alkon's tendency to use the bare bones of science and psychology to support her claims. I thought her chapters were a bit disjointed and I disagreed with some of her main complaints (I don't really think that people should have to sequester themselves to talk on their cellphones so long as they're...more
Nov 13, 2009 Valerie rated it 4 of 5 stars
Recommends it for: all my students
Recommended to Valerie by: the title
I bought this, because I work at a high school, and, consequently, I think about manners a lot. Her specific examples about not just taking it when people are rude to you were very inspiring. I especially liked her invoicing for time wasted, I've done that, even if you don't get money it is great fun. Check out her blog: http://www.advicegoddess.com/goddessb...
Much of this book is a rant and the author patting herself on the back for attacking bad behavior for the good of humanity. Her willingness to relentlessly go after corporate nuisances in the form of telemarketing is amusing. The discussion of "underparented" children includes many valid points.

I had difficulty understanding, though, how publicly shaming people for inconsiderate use of cell phones was anything other than responding to bad behavior with more bad behavior. Certainly there are obn...more
I love this book! The subtitle is "One woman's battle to beat some manners into impolite society." Yeah, I've felt that way quite a lot as I get older; I find myself wanting to go up to people and say "Didn't your mother teach you any better?" Seems like rude people are everywhere you turn around, making one wonder why we ever walk out our front doors in the first place.

No one is safe from Alkon: lax parents, internet bullies, rude drivers, negligent businesses, telemarketers, car thieves, and...more
Sh*t! It would break my heart if I found out that author/columnist Amy Alkon didn't pick up her dog's poop.

This book fills the Revengerella part of my heart that longs to rage at cell phone users, business cheats (Bank of America, you better watch out) and "underparenting." Instead of just sitting in silence and fuming, like I tend to do, Amy Alkon takes on the people who have lost all sense of social shame and are public boors, like the people who let their dog poop on the sidewalk in front of...more
Sarah Walsh
Amy Alkon is a woman that you don't want to fuck with. Her skill of dealing with irritating people is sharp. Immediately I think of a couple of close friends of mine who I would place in the same category. There are some people out there who will not stand for Rude People. This comical non-fiction book gives us tools on how to remedy or confront these abusers of rude. The kind of people that don't get the universe is not surrounding them solely. Most of the time WE DON'T WANT TO OVERHEAR YOUR CE...more
This is a well-researched, funny, and thought provoking book. Amy tells how she has battled rude people through the years including hunting down the man who stole her car and badgering him until he returned it and taking on Bank of America when she suffered from identity theft due to their errors. In many ways, Amy herself sounds rather rude, but, objectively, what she says and does, makes sense and from the photo on the cover on the book she does NOT look like a tranny. You will have to read th...more
Michelle Cristiani
Amy Alkon has balls. She takes pictures of rude drivers. She tracks down bigwigs of companies that telemarket, and calls them at home. She traces IP addresses of people who leave bullying comments on message boards. She single-handedly traced someone who stole her car, and called him until she got her car back and damages paid.

Alkon is the person we shy people cheer for, the one who shushes the loud cell-phone user, or asks the jerky kid to stop kicking her seat on a plane. She is a champion of...more
Cj Sime
Aug 02, 2010 Cj Sime rated it 3 of 5 stars
Recommended to Cj by: cjsime007@gmail.com
Within 4 paragraphs of opening this book, I knew that I had found a kindred spirit. Though Amy Alkon uses much more colorful language than I do, I found myself nodding in agreement with her missions to get her car back as well as stop telemarketing. And if there was ever a time I would pull the "You go girl!" it would probably be on the sidelines of her fight to recivilize America.

Some musings:

1. I agree cell phone users -and frantic texters- are annoying. (though, if I am honest, I think part o...more
Amy puts rude people in their place-by sometimes being rude herself! While that might affront some people, I found it wildly hilarious and entertaining. When I correct someone out in public (and I do more often then I realized), I try to be nice, but sometimes people need a good bitch-slapping. Amy is definitely the gal to do it.

Wonderful personal stories, great advice (like freezing your credit reports), and plenty of websites for information and tools. I love that she invoices telemarketers. A...more
Hilarious! Whenever you get annoyed with idiots on their cell phones, telemarketers, unruly children, bad banks, pick up this book and follow the authors lead in seeking your revenge. She has lots of good ideas about how to try to teach the world some manners. It's absolutely delightful to read about how tenaciously she has followed through with some of these clever plans, eg., charging the telemarketing company for her time, AND COLLECTING!

This book is for all of us who get annoyed at bad behav...more
Jan 28, 2014 Zazzu rated it 2 of 5 stars
Shelves: 2014
A bit more depth and length would make this a better read. I'd love to have Ms. Alkon swoop into my library and straighten out a few people, but mostly her tactics are a little too scary/risky for me to try! Reading about this got me too worked up...I see rude people all the time at work and am NOT allowed to tell them what I think of their behavior!
Mar 11, 2010 Susan rated it 5 of 5 stars
Recommends it for: friends, colleagues
Recommended to Susan by: NY Times
We don't have to take rudeness lying down - but be CAREFUL...

Amy Alkon seems to have a talent to stay out of the way of scary rude people, but can call the rest of them to the mat. She says what I feel. She's inspiring to those who prefer to be doormats to rudeness.

We were able to see her at a signing. It was a treat. She attracted a few hecklers, understandable. They were expecting Emily Post's granddaughter or something. This is NOT that kind of book. It's a woman's story of how SHE has tackle...more
Amy Alkon is one of the cleverest writers out there. Her wit is a sharp instrument, and she uses it not just to get a laugh here and there, but also to make you think. She's fearless as she calls rude people on their behavior - from the guy talking on his cell phone and holding up the line (because he's talking, not paying) to telemarketers who unashamedly call all hours of the day. In addition, she also goes into detail about some of the reasons we're seeing an increase of rudeness and selfish...more
If you have issues with cell phone wielders or telemarketers, then this is the book for you! While her over-the-top reactions to the noise polluters is understandable, it's interesting to see how she takes this to the next level when dealing with corporations, or thieves. Both are treated in a similar manner: Alkon illustrates that homespun justice can be effective.

To be honest, the chapter I liked best was the final one, as she discusses how doing good can make you feel happier and will spread(...more
I decided to read this book after seeing Amy Alkon, who writes the blog advicegoddess.com, on the Dr. Phil show. We all know from daily living how manners have deteriorated in recent decades, but Amy does not just sit back and take it. She speaks up. She takes pictures of cars that cut her off in traffic and posts them on her blog. She bills telemarketers for interrupting her dinner and even took one of them to court (and won!). She tracked down the thief who stole her pink Rambler and harassed...more
Interesting take on modern society. I really enjoyed Ms. Alkon's inclusion of scientific data to explain why we behave a certain way, because it gives credibility to some of the topics she talks about. Much of the book is about her own experiences and those of her close friends/family, so there is some bias. It's very easy to read and very funny. I am also a patron of her blog/advice columns at advicegoddess.com, and am familiar with her points of view. Nevertheless, it was very enjoyable, and I...more
Brooke Stephenson
I first heard about this book when the author was a guest on one of my favourite podcasts, professor blast off. I really liked what she was saying.about.manners so I decided to check out her book.

I'm really glad I did.

I loved her take on strangers stealing.your personal time and the part about the bank, well, I'm glad I live in canada! her personal crusade she take against the rude people she encounters doesn't just make you look at the behaviour of those around you, but your own as well.

good qu...more
This book was very interesting. I love the idea of forcing people to be a little more polite and considerate. I'm not brassy enough to do it as much as this author does, but she certainly gets results. This book is filled with a lot of personal anecdotal evidence, but it's also quite well-researched. Not a long read, but I think it's definitely worth people's time.
Plus, she uses www.penny-arcade.com's Greater Internet Fuckwad Theory, which you can find here: http://www.penny-arcade.com/comic/200...more
Douglas Tatelman
Some good anecdotes, but way too little material for a book.
I was mesmerized by the title of this book and I was not disappointed! Amy is amazing. She knows that if we are not assertive about our time and our space, then we get what we deserve! Her stories of how she stands up for herself (and others) are enthralling. It also makes you wonder at people's boorish behavior. I am glad that she chose to end the book with a chapter about being kind and how that reaps all sorts of rewards. Kindness trumps rudeness any time!
I try to not let rude people bother me basically because of what Ms. Alkon addresses in her last chapter. That said I have to say I loved the methods she employed to make people realize how they are incosiderate they were being (although it appears that many of the rude people either didn't get it or didn't care from the responses she got). I probably wouldn't use these methods myself, but they are inventive & actually quite polite. Kudos!
Miramira Endevall
Dec 09, 2009 Miramira Endevall rated it 4 of 5 stars
Recommended to Miramira by: Valerie
Alkon makes some good points about relaxing social norms, but most of the book is dedicated to her search for privacy in an ever-more-intrusive digital world. Sincerely a must-read for anyone interested in protecting themselves from identity theft or recovering from it.

V - I want to keep this book for awhile and read parts of it to S, if that's okay? I think he'll really eat it up.
Some parts were a little preachy, but overall I enjoyed Amy's personal stories about how she went up against rude businesses, neighbors, and strangers and told them to act like decent human beings. I don't think there's anyone out there who can't relate to at least one example in her book...and if you can't, you're probably the problem! She has a lot of gumption, that's for sure.
Oct 01, 2010 Cindy marked it as to-read
As my son gets older, I find that I am going to have a hard time explaining why some people don't know how to say "Hello" or "Hi" when he says this to him. He is just so friendly and polite because we are raising him up with manners.

As a public servant, I deal with rude people on a daily basis. I still cannot understand why people are so rude. I don't think I ever will.
This book has me torn. I loved her sassy way of handling things, but after a while, she just kinda seemed like a bitter person.....with saying that, I am glad that I read the book. I did laugh at loud at certain parts, and at other parts, I rolled my eyes thinking that she has gone too far...so, it will be interesting to see what my friends have to say about this one!!!!
I wondered while I read this - how much rudeness is justified when your excuse is that you're trying to make other people not act in a way that you consider rude?

It was also interesting how much trouble she had getting cooperation from others - maybe her own rudeness and confrontational attitude had something to do with that?
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