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Not Even a Hint: Guarding Your Heart Against Lust

4.05  ·  Rating Details ·  2,618 Ratings  ·  134 Reviews
Harris, author of "I Kissed Dating Goodbye," calls a generation bombarded with images of sexual sin back to the freedom and joy of holiness in this PG-rated book.
Hardcover, 192 pages
Published August 23rd 2003 by Multnomah (first published 2003)
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KC McCauley
Apr 01, 2009 KC McCauley rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
This book does a wonderful job of approaching sexual lust as not only a huge problem, but that of an even bigger problem: our rebellious heart that lusts after sin instead of God. The issue of sexual lust is an issue of holiness and whether or not one is growing in it. This book is written for both girls and guys, and it does a wonderful job of showing the similarities and differences in lustful struggles. I highly recommend this book for anyone to read.

There are many challenging statements tha
Apr 22, 2010 Jennifer rated it really liked it
Shelves: christianity
This is a great book to learn what lust is really about and how to combat it in our lives. Lust is not just a male problem and does not just mean dealing with pornography. Joshua Harris lets us know that God does not want us to even have a hint of lust, whether it is having impure thoughts, reading romance novels, watching romantic comedies, staring at an attractive person, etc. if it does not honor God. It was surprising to find out that he as a pastor and a married man also struggles and needs ...more
Keri (JD)
Mar 18, 2014 Keri (JD) rated it did not like it
This book and its prequel have created a generation of christian teens who are uneducated in sex, and fear education in it. They are pretending they have chastity devices on until marriage, ignoring healthy urges to masturbate and look at the opposite sex. Guilt reigns their lives WHEN (not if) they slip up from these unreal expectations of themselves to ignore their biological sexual impulses. Abused wives, secretly masturbating husbands, repressed souls. A generation of christian children pret ...more
Liesl Hathaway
Jun 09, 2011 Liesl Hathaway rated it it was amazing
This book may not be for everyone, but it was definitely for me. It is very blunt and gives practical help for the battle against lust.
Probably what stood out the most to me in this book was what the author referred to as the key to escaping the cycle of defeat:
Embracing God's standard for holiness (not even a HINT of lust), His source of power for change (victory of Christ's death and resurrection), and His motive for fighting sin (grace - trust in the undeserved favor of God). Our human tend
Sary Trespalacios
No tengo palabras para describir este libro, realmente nunca escribo el review cuando leo algo pero creo que esta vez lo haré. A veces nosotros los cristianos tratamos de mantener una imagen delante de los demás de perfección y pensamos que somos los únicos luchando con algo, y que el resto del mundo no. Que dicha que Joshua y otras personas que han pasado - y pasan - por esto permita que sus historias se han contadas y lo que es mejor, como Dios los ha redimido y como los ha fortalecido en área ...more
Oct 19, 2007 Brittany rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
Recommends it for: Any Christian struggling w/ sexual immorality
Shelves: christian
Man, I don't know how I would've gotten through the last couple of months if it weren't for this book! Being a new believer to the christian faith, it is a real test to follow the path of Jesus Christ faithfully. And I have had to work really hard and gain my strength in this area a lot! This is one of the areas that I was struggling a lot in and this book gave me the confidence to believe in God in that he will give me the strength to overcome my lustful desires and provide for me.
Havebooks Willread
Mar 18, 2014 Havebooks Willread rated it it was amazing
Destry had loaned "I Kissed Dating Goodbye" to a couple friends from church who ended up buying all three of Joshua Harris's books. After reading Not Even A Hint: Guarding Your Heart Against Lust, they asked Destry if he wanted to read it because they thought it was really good.

I have to agree with them, it had some very good points and I've never read another book quite like it. Even though Destry read it before I did, I would recommend that parents read this book before handing to their teenag
Ruth Baker
Aug 27, 2016 Ruth Baker rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
This was really interesting and looked at the issue of desire in a whole new light. When dealing with physiological urges and whether we listen to them or not, I found this quite informative in distilling my thinking in what living holiness looks like and purity of mind and spirit. Very useful for having a language in pastoral discussions on issues which can be very difficult for people to express themselves.
Aug 14, 2009 Rcbuenaventura rated it it was amazing
Joshua Harris, best known for writing "I Kissed Dating Goodbye" , tackles the tough subject of lust in his third literary outing. Harris candidly writes about his personal struggles and also recounts stories and insights from others who have written letters to him.

The simplicity of his language and the organized chapter structure make for an easy read. In addition, the fact that he’s done his research is evidenced by the resources he quotes (C.S. Lewis, John Stott, Jerry Bridges and others.. ast
Aug 25, 2010 Butch rated it it was amazing
This is the best book I've read on dealing with lust and sexual sin. I highly recommend it.
Josh Harris, author of I Kissed Dating Goodbye, deals transparently with the roots of lust and the real issues behind it. Then he equips the reader with the tools needed to fight it.
The biggest problem we have in the fight for moral purity is that we've let the lies of the world influence our thinking. Josh helps us see where we've gone astray and realign with God.
One other key point about this is that i
Aug 29, 2016 Evan rated it it was ok  ·  review of another edition
The overall concept of the book is obviously great. But I feel as a whole, this message could be contained in an article.
Mar 22, 2016 Jerry rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
An excellent book on what lust truly is and what God thinks about it, as well as what to do to avoid that ever-prevalent sin. Great stuff!
Michael Ibarra
Feb 15, 2015 Michael Ibarra rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
I've read many books similar to Josh Harris' take on sexual purity over the years, starting when I was in high school. I only wish I had had this in my back pocket then.

Josh provides lots of relevant, practical steps to guard our minds and hearts in Christ Jesus, while not being fooled by the cunning draw of impurity, be it pornography, masturbation (yes, he uses that word), or fooling around with someone not our spouse.

Something else I appreciated is his reluctance to label this a "male" proble
Camilla Betts
Sep 04, 2016 Camilla Betts rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
Shelves: 2016
This book surprised me in several ways. It is both honest and practical, and not only addresses the symptoms of lust but also the causes. Early on it explains what lust is and what it's not, and uncovers the lies of lust. It also highlights that whatever we fill our brains with will affect our thinking and perspective of reality. If we can't honestly thank God for the music we're listening to or the film/tv show we're watching, then the activity is wrong. John Stott writes, 'Some Christians sow ...more
The Mole
Oct 20, 2015 The Mole rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
Pretty good book. It has most of the same contents I've found in similar books, BUT.. .the major difference is that he clearly stresses that victory is NOT about just having a better plan or a formula -- it's about getting God's help and trusting God.

However, this theme seems to get somewhat lost in the latter pages of this book (with calls to shore up your plans, etc.) But the heart and focus in in the (general) right place.

Still, I think Kris Vallotton of Bethel Church (Redding, CA), put it be
Anna Katrina
Aug 05, 2014 Anna Katrina rated it really liked it
Joshua Harris has been my favorite author when it comes to topics about relationships, love life, spirituality.

The way he wrote this book is very relatable to boys, and even girls, who are experiencing the hardship of fighting lust. This is a commendable book.

Though it's been a short book, its contents are full of learning and wisdom.
Garrett Schmitt
May 14, 2014 Garrett Schmitt rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
I very rarely award books 5 stars, but this was an exception. I only wish I had read it sooner. Unfortunately, I was thrown a bit by the creepy title and so let it sit on my shelf for over a year before picking it up (it was given to me by a friend. I don't think I would have bought it based on the title/cover). Joshua Harris offers a humble and honest perspective of the damaging effects of lust in our lives. And from what I have experienced in my own life at times and in watching my friends liv ...more
Sep 11, 2015 airsWTP rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
For God did not call us to be impure, but to live a holy life. Therefore, he who rejects this instruction does not reject man but God, who gives you his Holy Spirit.
(1 Thessalonians 4:7–8)

"Willpower won’t work. Only the power of the cross can break the power of sin that keeps us on its treadmill."

"The call to follow Jesus is a call to put our sin to death, to crucify it and then let the Holy Spirit control every part of our lives—including our sexual desires. He asks us to give up chasing the lu
The Book Man
Dec 31, 2013 The Book Man rated it it was amazing
Harris gives practical and godly advices for those who are struggling with lustful temptation.
I am not struggling with lustful problem but I decided to read this book because it can help me understand how to be accountable to those who do.
Harris' books are very inspirational to me!

-No one should be ashamed to want to marry young and enjoy the wife (or husband) of their youth. Marriage is GREAT.

-Keep His Word always before you. Hide it in your heart. It will keep you close to Him and
Mar 30, 2014 Mikayla rated it it was amazing
First off, I want to say how grateful I am that Josh wrote this book. I am so encouraged to know that I'm not alone in this.
Here are some interesting and relatable takeways:
1. Women do lust, but it isn't talked about as much as men
2. God created men and women as sexual creatures, putting the right desires in them to desire each other and procreate, such as men desiring to pursue a woman and a woman desiring to be pursued by a man
3. The main reason men lust is for pleasure; the main reason women
Jan 22, 2009 Baff rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
I think a lot of people from my generation will dislike this book. Holiness and sex just seem antithetical. Yet, I was thinking recently that a lot of paganism in ancient times revolved around sexuality; a lot of ancient pagan religion made sex the mode of worship. We can read about the "spirituality of sexuality" in various places regarding the worship of cerain pagan gods or goddesses, like Diana, Aphrodite, and Ashera. In fact, the "Ashera poles" were possibly phallic symbols. So the question ...more
John Brackbill
This is a very good short, readable, gospel-centered, and practical book on this subject. Josh Harris' tone throughout the book is hope giving.

In the first three chapters he lays the foundation for the application section of the book. Chapter 3 entitled "You Can't Save Yourself: Where Can I Find the Power to Change? was worth the price of the book. It is the kind of chapter that I would give to someone to read even if they were not struggling with this specific sin, but were needing hope and re
Lindsay Katiuska
Jul 03, 2014 Lindsay Katiuska rated it it was amazing
Bien acostumbrados(as) que nos tiene Joshua con su tan concreto y práctico método al reflejar en las líneas de cada uno de sus libros las verdades bíblicas del día a día en nuestra vida; "sólo en Jesús" como dice la canción y como él mismo -Joshua- deja claramente en manifiesto, el problema siempre es del corazón y ya sabemos quién puede resolverlo. Insisto, estos aspectos prácticos son sumamente congruentes con la siembre diaria que debemos al Espíritu para seguir en esto que es, el camino de l ...more
Oct 05, 2008 Victoria rated it really liked it
Recommends it for: Everyone 15 & up
I thought this was a very well written , un-intimidating look at the sin of lust. The author spoke about this problem without giving inappropriate descriptions. I think it would be good for people to read this wether they think they have a problem with lust or not .
I think that the principles in here can be used towards any unhealthy activity that comes between us and the Lord. Wether it be an addiction, Food , television or money.
He talked about how Lust is a greed problem and how god made se
J. Alfred
Jun 05, 2009 J. Alfred rated it really liked it
I've heard that short stories "begin when you put the book down". I find that to be true with Christian books as well. They may be good or otherwise while reading, but their real impact will only be visible in the life change that they begin. Anyway, Josh Harris has a lighthearted, comfortable writing style that I like a lot. He aslo goes right at the tough issues without being gross or squeamish.
Very good book: definately the most insightful look at lust per se I've ever seen, and comes with s
Aug 16, 2010 Ninya rated it did not like it
Shelves: 2010
I did not like the book because there were explanations and teachings that were inaccurate to Catholic knowledge; maybe because it was written by a Christian author. Anyway, not that I am being biased but it just confused me now with my knowledge with the teachings I already know and I regret reading it. I wasted my money on buying the book because it just made me doubt the teachings I already know especially when the author said, "Jesus was completely human and that He also had sexual urges and ...more
Jun 20, 2013 Aimee rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
I absolutely loved this book. If you're a Christian (male or female) and struggle with lust I think it is imperative that you read this! I honestly wish I would have read this to grasp a better understanding of the topic of lust way earlier, I hope parents of teens encourage their children to read this book!

Joshua Harris does an amazing job of addressing male and female struggles throughout the book. He gives honest and truthful examples and opinions from not only himself, but other struggling
Jan 06, 2012 Terry rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
I was recently convincted once again of my own sinful nature of the past few years and decided to revisit this book again even as I renewed my own personal efforts in my struggles.

I've always enjoyed Harris' writings which I believe are filled with Biblically-convicting truths - that our sinful nature is the true cause and relying on our own strengths will get us no where. Harris writes with pleadfulness, understanding and never condemning. He lays out the principles that believers need to unde
Apr 25, 2012 Teri rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
I love how this book talks about the thought process of lust. I think that a lot of people believe they are ok because they haven't done anything wrong physically,but it's the mind that leads them to wrongful actions and thinking about something wrong or doing something wrong is a sin. We need to protect our minds and what we put into them through our eyes and ears. The author talks about what kinds of movies we should avoid, as well as other precautions we can take to have a more pure mindset a ...more
OK, the reason for my low score is that this book stated that it was intended for both men and women. Clearly not. Every application was addressed toward a man and his common area of slip-ups. Wish that the intro would have lived up to its word.
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Joshua Harris lives outside Washington, D.C., in Gaithersburg, Maryland, where he's a pastor at Covenant Life Church. His greatest passion is preaching the gospel and calling his generation to wholehearted devotion to God. Each January he leads a national conference for singles called New Attitude.
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“1. List your own top three lust triggers. How can you avoid them? 2. What time of day or week are you most tempted by lust? What can you do to prepare for those times? 3. Which locations are the most tempting for you? How can you limit your time in those places? 4. What five little battles do you need to be fighting more faithfully? Describe in detail what it looks like for you to fight—and win—these battles.” 1 likes
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