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The Art of Manliness: Classic Skills and Manners for the Modern Man

3.93 of 5 stars 3.93  ·  rating details  ·  1,420 ratings  ·  113 reviews
Man Up!While it's definitely more than just monster trucks, grilling and six-pack abs, true manliness is hard to define. The words macho and manly are not synonymous.

Taking lessons from classic gentlemen such as Benjamin Franklin and Theodore Roosevelt, authors Brett and Kate McKay have created a collection of the most useful advice every man needs to know to live life to
Paperback, 274 pages
Published November 1st 2009 by Northlight (first published September 17th 2009)
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This review is a supplement to the excellent review which V_Shaft has posted.

This book, like Brett and Kate McKay's blog, is useful for what you choose to take from it. No, this book will not magically transform you into manly man or a Victorian gentleman or whatever kind of man you aspire to be. The title of the book is The Art of Manliness, not The Philosophy of Manliness. The subtitle is Classic Skills and Manners for the Modern Man. But for the guy who wants to learns some classical skills o
Mar 20, 2013 Jim rated it 3 of 5 stars
Recommends it for: Teen males
I'm always moaning over the generally boorish behaviour of your average North American male, so every once in a while I like to read a little something to refresh those parts of my memory that deal with culture and etiquette. This book seemed ideal as it promised to deal with classic skills and manners for the modern man.

The book lives up to its promise, sort of, as it does touch lightly on manners, dress and propriety, but most of the book is nonsense. Well, not nonsense, exactly, but a bunch o
Teo Kos
From the founders of the popular website of the same name, comes a book about the (lost) art of manliness. I was a casual reader of the said site, and I found some of the advices there useful, but to say it'll really bring you from a wuss to a manly man would be an overstatement. And, just like the site, this book is a mixed bag.

First of all, I thought it would focus on the notion, or ideal of manliness. As it turns out, it's more of a how-to guide for doing things the authors deems as manly. Th
"Manliness" has found itself sequestered to either the macho realm of false bravado or the neutered face of too many sitcom dads. This book finds a more measured approach to the topic. General etiquette need not be lost with the rise of Facebook, there's nothing wrong with uphoding basic etiquette towards women while simultaneously championing gender equality and there's nothing "gay" about having close male friends that--only in recent generations--have been frowned upon if the connection goes ...more
Tom Metge
Being married for 10 years to the most wonderful woman I have ever met has taught me something that we all tend to admit only intellectually: men and women are different, even radically different at times. The American society tends to devalue that difference in the name of seeking equality. This goal is admirable, but the approach is wrong-footed. This is why I love this book: it asserts that there is value to this difference, that there is worth to being a man. What is wonderful about this adm ...more
The Art of Manliness is a guide to becoming a better man by focusing on one's mannerisms, dress, and intelligence. The book posits that modern men have become stuck in 'permanent adolescence' and are not up to task on the necessary virtues and strengths which belonged to the men of the past.

Leaning upon past paragons like Theodore Roosevelt and Benjamin Franklin, this book covers different aspects of becoming a better man in today's society by eliminating time-wasters, maintaining cleanliness, a
Keenan Johnston
Obvious and Banal. Only good as a coffee table book
A truly remarkable book! At first I feared it might contain a lot of drabble about etiquette rules, but that fortunately wasn't so. Although that subject is mentioned, there are many things more, one of which is sound advice on how to be likeable to other people. Many of the behavioral principles resemble those found in Dale Carnegie's How to Win Friends and Influence People, and justly so.

"The Art of Manliness" contains interesting tips on how to dress well, descriptions of different kinds of h
Geof Morris
There's a lot of bullshit in this book. For one, it denigrates individual therapy with a very broad brush, which is 1) crap because most of us emerge from our initial family life in an immature state, and no amount of walking in the woods will fix that and 2) it tells people like me, who have literally been saved from death by their own hand because of therapy, that they're wasting their time in therapy. So fuck you, Brett McKay. I'm sure that you would have given my mother a really convincing a ...more
Eric Moote
Overall: a great source of essential to random qualities every man should have or strive for.

I have been a fan of the website for years and I was excited when this book and the Manvationals came out. The book, at times, felt like a summary of all of the website's articles, but for the not-so-fanatical, the book is a perfect balance of sage wisdom, inspirational advice and kick-in-the-pants motivation that every man needs from time to time.

I would and have recommended the books and the website to
I am adding this to my read because i read it for free in Border's, which took 2.5 minutes and reviewing it because half of the motherfuckers who put this on their "to-read" list have faces that look like they shave with a lawn mower blade strapped to a broom handle and wielded by a blind monkey-- so I am telling you now that you do not need to put off reading this for long; you will need hardly forfeit an entire afternoon and you might actually take an interest in your appearance and its affect ...more
Jun 08, 2015 J. rated it 5 of 5 stars
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I loved this book. I wish I could force every single beibertard I pass to read it. Excellent advice throughout, I hope my daughters use this measurement of a "real man" to pick their future husbands.

Books that interest me in a topic enough to cause me to look that topic up always get bonus points and I found myself jotting more that one "look this up" reminder.

The narrator did an excellent job.

If I have any problem with the book it's in the chapter suggesting civic duty and encouraging men to gi
I really enjoy and recommend the Art of Manliness web site. It has a mix of articles that combined how to do manly things, interesting product descriptions, thought pieces, life and career stories, and more. It is a real hodge podge on a theme, but the whole ties together well. For the book “The Art of Manliness”, the McKays go for a different feel. It’s a subset of their website, more of a Boy Scout Handbook rewritten for a young adult male. This means that while they include how to tie ties as ...more
Tyler Bray
This book is written by one of the most influential writers I have ever read.

I am a big follower of Brett and Kate McKay's website The Art of Manliness, and I have had this book for a while and decided that it was finally time I read it.

After reading so many articles on their website, it was comforting to read this book and establish the core roles of what they believe a man should be (to which I agree!). Those roles are: Gentleman, Friend, Hero, Lover, Father, Outdoorsman, Leader, and the Virt
Ayushi Nayak
The art of manliness
I came across this book while randomly surfing a question on Quora when a list of 10 books to be read was laid down by a guy who looked really sorted out. This is the second one I am reading from that list &, boy, did I enjoy the couple of them.
While the worst in the book was only reflected by phrases like Man Up and treating women not like an object when the author was continuously pressing for the same, I had a thing or two to take back from the book too.

Firstly, the m
Richard White
This is an easy read and filled with mostly good advice. The couple of exceptions are the section on hats that sincerely encourage the reader to don a fedora or trilby and the section on flower giving that encourages the reader to communicate via Victorian-era code. There's also a line or two about what a modern woman really wants, deep down, despite what she says, which I imagine might raise and eyebrow from some. Despite these few shortcomings I think nearly all men would benefit by taking an ...more
I enjoyed it. In the book, the author states that the purpose of this book was to pass on sage-like advice to the younger generation who doesn't appear to be getting the information that used to be passed down by their elders since the passing on of this information has gone out of common practice. If that's the case, then the authors should know that I think they've done exactly what they set out to do. I picked up this book for those very reasons. As is pretty common for folks of my generation ...more
Hilarious, entertaining, and informative all at the same time, The Art of Manliness attempts to recapture a lost sense of what being a man is all about...and it's not about the current pop culture perception of "macho" that prevails in beer commercials during NFL games. This book's portrayal of manliness hearkens back to a time when being a good gentlemen, husband, father, worker were things that men took pride in - things that were honed like an art. The Art of Manliness will have you laughing ...more
Chris Overstreet
Loved this book (and the blog). The author makes a strong case for bringing back old school manliness. I agreed with most his opinions and really enjoyed his style of writing, especially his choice of vocabulary. The author discusses a wide array of things that men should know, do, and form their characters around. It will motivate you to think about your life as a man and what you can do to improve it. Basically, it will motivate you to man up!

Side notes: This book is in no way sexist, misogyni
The Art of Manliness by Brett McKay and his wife was pretty good. It had a very boy-scout-manual feel to it. It should only be considered a reference book. In other words, it is hard to read straight through. Although I felt like this book had some invaluable information, it was also quite lacking and occasionally I didn't not agree with the authors.

For example, I didn't agree with the author's opinion on dating and marriage. Their opinion that "people seldom change", so a man shouldn't waste ti
By far the chapter, The Virtueous Man, was superb. Even though the book overall was good, it was chapters like the one on virtue and leadership that provided the great source of inner reflection and thought processing.

The book starts from the superficial (what to wear) and builds up to what i believe is the ultimate apex of manliness.

I have followed the blog intermittently, so the tone and content were nothing new. However having a book, that i can reference particular parts in the future is a
J Campbell
A good attempt. I like the McKays' blog, and his podcast interviews are outstanding. I appreciated the book's chapter on grooming and virtues. Some of the skills in the wilderness and leadership sections require more attention than the author gave them. It was good for an early attempt, but I can tell from the Art of Manliness content available now (2014) that they have come a long way.
All men should read

Manliness in the sense this book describes is a lost art in this day and age. This book describes everything from how to get fitted for a proper suit to what type of flowers you should buy your woman. How to start a fire without matches and how to tell the weather from the clouds to how to ask the woman you love to marry you. Great read
Alex Apostol
I read this book only because it was left on my shelf from someone I dated and I was interested in seeing what a gentleman should act like and look like. This is a great book for any man wanting to bring back some wonderful, old-fashioned (classic) ways. There's so much in there- from how to be a good friend, lover, father, manly man. It was fun to read.
I don't usually give out reviews, but when I do they're certainly manly ones.

In all seriousness though, I found this book to be an excellent read. Despite reading many of the articles before on their blog, this book is filled with many insights that could help you in both your day to day life and the longrun. For those who haven't grownup yet or needing that little push in life, you might just find something in here.
Jon Angell
May 27, 2015 Jon Angell rated it 4 of 5 stars
Recommends it for: young men
I enjoyed this book, it was filled with good suggestions and information that I found to be useful and other information somewhat trivial but overall I liked it. It is a collection of blog post from the website that Brett McKay and his wife host. As such it was a good book to read in short burst, and set aside to come back to. Because of the extremely wide range of things offered in the book it was a bit more difficult to read streat trough. Also, even though I read from front to back, it would ...more
Matt Gwynn
Wow! This was a surprisingly, breathtakingly, awesome book! My girlfriend originally gave it to me as a birthday present last year and it as quickly climbed to the top of my list! It is one of the books I would happily read again! I am now a devout Art of Manliness follower and love being part of the community!
Long T. Nguyen
A good book for masculine. This book does not only cover advice on a man's etiquette but also reveals guides on how to take care of his children, how to survive in the wild, how to behave properly in relationships, how to improve men's traits like Benjamin Franklin. A highly recommended book.
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لا أدري لم اشتريت هذا الكتاب قبل سنوات، هناك موقع بنفس الاسم ويغني عن شراء الكتاب، الكتاب يتحدث عن فن الرجولة "الضائع" وكيف نعيده، كنت أتوقع كتاباً فلسفياً أو فكرياً أكثر من كتاب عملي، الكتاب يقدم دروساً أو آراء حول أشياء كثيرة، وجزء كبير منه متعلق بعادات غربية لا علاقة لها بثقافتنا.
This book is a great intro to my favorite website, The Art of Manliness. Makes a terrific Father's day gift, or high school graduation gift. The classic feel is refreshing, especially when there are so many counterfeit ideas of manliness out there in American society today.
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