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The challenge every man faces...the fight every man can win!

From movies and television, to print media and the Internet, men are constantly faced with the assault of sensual images. It is impossible to avoid such temptations... but, thankfully, not impossible to confront them and gain victory over them!

Millions have found Every Man’s Battle the single greatest resource for
Paperback, 336 pages
Published August 18th 2009 by WaterBrook (first published July 18th 2000)
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J.G. Keely
Oct 29, 2007 J.G. Keely rated it did not like it  ·  review of another edition
When I was a kid I used to sleep over at my best friend's house, and since he and his family were practicing Christians, I ended up going to a lot of Sunday services with them. We'd sit and listen to the pastor and sing some songs, and often, we'd go back to his house and talk about what we'd heard.

I remember going with him and his brother to Bible study a few times, where I was always shocked to find that I knew more about the Bible than the kids who were there, who could quote a hundred verses
Oct 15, 2007 Amy rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
I read this on the reccomendation of a friend, and have since reccomended it to many of my friends. It opened my eyes to ways that I might have unknowingly hindered my brothers in Christ. I appreciated the honest approach on the subject of sexual sin, of the way that God created men, and the frank advice given to men as well as women. I used the book to create a discussion, which I gave to the youth with whom I was working at the time. One of the questions I asked of the young ladies was: "Do yo ...more
Mar 04, 2010 Charles rated it did not like it  ·  review of another edition
This book was disappointing. I've heard people speak of this book as if it's "the book" on defeating sexual temptation. Unfortunately, that's not what I found on the pages.
First of all, the authors are far too graphic, and may in fact evoke some of the very thoughts that they are telling you not to have. Big problem.
Second, while the authors provide some practical advice - it is all quite basic and really never touches on the real problem of lust - the heart. Bigger problem.
Lastly, the authors a
Apr 26, 2010 Beckie rated it it was ok  ·  review of another edition
Recommended to Beckie by: my boyfriend
I'd actually give this book 2.5 stars but that's not an option.

I don't have anything against the book, it just covered a lot of things I either already knew or mostly, I was outside their target audience.

Now before you say "duh, this is a book for men," I'm referring to the sections for women. While the book is good at shedding light on men's struggles, I seem to fall into a narrow 1% of "understanding and merciful women" who were not exactly represented in this book.

My boyfriend lent it to m
Jun 13, 2010 Devin rated it liked it  ·  review of another edition
This book is an excellent overview of the sexual struggles that most (if not all) men face in their lifetimes. The book was very accurate, explicit, and helpful in describing men's sexual wiring and how temptations often overcome men and can be conquered in light of this wiring.

I will say that this book is definitely helpful. Arterburn and Stoeker offer great advice on taking practical steps to fighting what they call "fractional" sexual addiction. Their solution starts with giving men helpful a
Mar 27, 2008 Dana rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
Shelves: marriage
I really enjoyed reading this book...not in the sense that it made me feel great, but that it was eye opening and challenging. I think it helped me to be a better wife and understand my husband in a new and honoring way. I would encourage all husbands and wives (well, really everyone...married or single) to pick up a copy of this book. It is raw and insightful and doesn't dance around the issue of sexual temptation.

It also has a great study guide at the back of the book...
Joshua Walden
Apr 19, 2009 Joshua Walden rated it did not like it  ·  review of another edition
This book was shenanigans. Super conservative, non-denominational shenanigans. Sexual purity is a great concept. However, this book is so hetero-sexist, and full of masogyny. I stopped reading it halfway through because of the offensive content.
Feb 02, 2014 MC rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
There are certain subjects that many people do not want to discuss due to the discomfort associated with discussing them. One of those subjects is that of sexual purity. No one wants to go anywhere near it. That is taboo, it seems. No one wants to even think about it. The conversation that might get started will invariably end up discussing our personal darkest thoughts and secrets, as well as biological concepts that we would rather not deal with, or even know about, really. On top of all of th ...more
Frikkie Bruwer
Oct 11, 2015 Frikkie Bruwer rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
First of all, I applaud the authors' courage to discuss a subject that most Christians are extremely shy and reluctant to even mention. It isn't discussed in church, and if your parents don't guide you through it, you can potentially become quite lost and misled by the modern standards for acceptable sexual thoughts and behavior.
I wouldn't say I agree with every word, but the ample references to Bible Verses keeps the authors on track, what else do we have to live by, if not what we read in the
Oct 20, 2008 Mike rated it it was ok  ·  review of another edition
Taken from a discussion about the book.

Behavioral intervention is a good first step but, I agree, it is limited. The bouncing the eyes thing is a good tip in that regard, but eventually it will have to move beyond that kind of intervention. This is the only strength of the book and that isn't saying much.

I agree that the interaction between the husband and wife isn't dealt with well. The whole topic is very skewed toward validating the man's experience. I vaguely remember a concept in the book r
Dec 17, 2012 Matthew rated it really liked it
Most men who struggle with sexual temptations feel that they are alone in their battle. The believe that other men don't struggle with the same issues and if anyone finds out about there will be a lot of shame involved. The authors of this book help to debunk these myths and offer practical methods for overcoming sexual temptations. This book is written from a Christian perspective and assumes that you believe in and will apply the scripture to this problem.

I found the book to be very encouragin
Jul 21, 2012 Duane rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
I thought this was an eye-opening book and gave me pause about what our culture teaches men (young AND old). I thought it was helpful to hear it articulated by someone else those things which every man seems to deal with on a daily basis.

I especially liked the observation that every interaction with a woman that provided even the smallest bit of gratification was stealing what is rightfully your wife's. That is a great way of looking at this from the male side of things.

I realize that 98% of wo
D.A. Cairns
Jul 16, 2016 D.A. Cairns rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
If you are a man, read this book. If you are a woman, read this book. It will turn your thinking about male sexuality upside down, and let's face it, if you look around, this whole world has a pretty serious problem with sex. Pornography, masturbation and infidelity are all tackled head on. No excuses, no wishy washy BS post modernism.

This is an honest, and honestly great book. I'm going to read it again. Immediately. If you're a regular guy like me, who either thinks he has a problem controllin
Josh Czinger
Its a short read and is fairly no-nonsense in its approach. The goodreads description is fairly apt. The discussion around Job 31:1 is the best portion of the book. It assumes basic items have been taken care of such as salvation. This book provides a good framework for counseling and a good place to start some difficult conversations. Due to its content, I would be particular in who I recommend this book to.
Ally Publico
Jul 15, 2015 Ally Publico rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
the greatest lessons i've learned about purity came from this book; though it's meant for men to read, it's also a gem for women in this never-ending pursuit of holiness. this wonderful book sheds light in this generation of immorality and deviance towards God.
Kim Voss
Sep 09, 2007 Kim Voss rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
Guys are such sluts.
Carlo Zebedee
Oct 14, 2015 Carlo Zebedee rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
Shelves: game-changer
A great book from the combination of a well-acclaimed author in Christian Marriage, Stephen Arterburn, and a person who learned from the experience, Fred Stoeker that will change your perspective about women, men that will tell you on how to be a real men by facing the battle every man: the battle of lust by including and citing Biblical principles to strengthen our foundations. Guarding our eyes, mind and also our heart are the heart of the message. Included also are the perspective and comment ...more
Harold Cameron
Sep 17, 2012 Harold Cameron rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
Every Man's Battle - Winning the War on Sexual Temptation One Victory at a Time

"The challenge every man faces...the fight every man can win!"

From movies and television, to print media and the Internet, men are constantly faced with the assault of sensual images. It is impossible to avoid such temptations... but, thankfully, not impossible to confront them and gain victory over them!

Millions have found Every Man's Battle the single greatest resource for overcoming the struggle and remaining stron
This book is written for men with sexual addictions- not a typical read for me. I picked this up from a recommendation of a friend who is a pastors wife. She read it and thought it was good to know this info as a woman in the church. I know a lot of woman would say- well, if they don't want to see my cleavage/side boob/butt or whatever then they can just look away. The thing is, men struggle to look away and while they may want to sometimes they just can't. Like the car wreck we can't turn our h ...more
Jan 09, 2012 Mark rated it did not like it  ·  review of another edition
Shelves: christian
In the last few years I have had the misfortune to watch several families devastated by the husband engaging in multiple, simultaneous affairs. These affairs were not something that came from no where, but a series of smaller decisions, some that seemed innocent, that led to amazing destruction. Everyman's Struggle is a book that has been written to encourage men to live honorably, to protect their hearts and marriages. There are a number of cautionary tales paired with practical suggestion that ...more
Josh Kraus
I borrowed this book from a friend. Initially I had high hopes that this book would have an explicit guide or step by step instructions on how to curb sexual desires and thoughts, but to my disappointment the book mostly contained anecdotal and impractical advice (in my opinion). The book also had a condemning nature to it, at least that's how I felt while reading it. Also reading some of the actual quotations by some of the men's wives who were interviewed regarding their husband's struggles wi ...more
Feb 19, 2012 Aisha rated it liked it  ·  review of another edition
Probably most married women should read this.
Somewhat shocking if you have not paid attention to all the research the last 20 years of how men and women differ especially in regards to viewing the male/female body, sexual needs and desires, and basic chemistry.
Very candid descriptions of the sexual drive that men have. Also the battle of the average male between purity and lust, fidelity and sin.
The reason I think MARRIED women should read this - is people have a tedency to assume that their spo
Sep 18, 2015 Rob rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
Right, firstly there is detail in this book about how lust works, that will be offensive and probably a bit unhelpful for some.
Secondly, I am trained to look for the theological foundation, which in this case isn't there. And furthermore many, many people will not relate to the style of writing. Yet I still say 4 stars, why?
Because this subject is so taboo and personal that it requires the straight-talking, no nonsense approach used by the authors.I have read books that give the theological fou
Aug 01, 2014 Elizabeth rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
As a woman, I read this book for a better understanding of what men go through daily when faced with temptation. What I learned from this book is that, while I thought I had an idea, I had NO CLUE! I didn't know what to expect when I began reading, but the book answered all possible questions; I appreciated the "heart of a woman" section, which shared feedback from various women who expressed many of the feelings I had while reading it. I'm thankful that the authors were willing to address the p ...more
This is a very frank and brutal look at how to fight sexual impurity in the eyes, mind and heart.
The authors talk about "bouncing the eyes" away from arousing images and starving the mind of any images that will feed sexual fantasies.

One disappointment with the book I had was that whilst they talk of starving the mind, their anecdotes sometimes went into too much detail and did not help in starving the mind of sexual thoughts.

Also, although the book is called "Every Man's Battle", single men
Samuel Thrasher
Overall, this is a good book and I would recommend it to any mature Christian trying to beat the ever present temptation of lust. The sections of the book where it talks about setting up parameters around your mind and making a covenant with your eyes are where this book really shines. That being said, those chunks are, together maybe thirty or forty pages. However, things such as depicting lust of the eyes as almost exclusively male problem, promoting the idea of original sin, teaching that Son ...more
Kevin Cunningham
Excellent book. A great encouragement for those who want to live a life dedicated to and sold-out for God. It us filled with good, practical advice and insights to help in sexual purity as well as challenging the reader to refocus on the top priorities in life.

I've had this book on my shelf for a few years before reading it. I think I always figured it was a good book for people who needed help with sexual purity issues. I didn't think I needed that kind of help. I am so glad I read the book. I
Nicholas Bradley
Oct 12, 2007 Nicholas Bradley rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
Recommends it for: Any Man and any woman who wants to better nderstand a man's brain
I read this book ith a group of guys a while back and it blew my mind how graphic and real it was. I almost blushed at the words written on the page. If you read this book with a group of men devoted to "cleaning up their act" and becoming more pure in their walk with Jesus, you will see some major barriers break down. This book helps with the Biblical principle of "iron sharpening iron" and jumps right into what has plagued men since the fall. I have heard of wives even reading this book and gi ...more
Jan 07, 2017 Courtney rated it did not like it  ·  review of another edition
If you are a person that visualizes details when reading, and struggling with sexual addiction, don't read this book. It will cause a stumbling block. Sex, rape, prostitution, homosexuality, and fornication of all sorts are dealt with in the bible in detail. But this book crosses the line of "repeating the evil deeds of satan," and is a border-line smut novel. The authors cleverly put in a line that it is for men only, as if it is an insurance policy towards any negative reviews or opinions expr ...more
Feb 21, 2014 Tim rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
Before reading this book I only knew one way to "see" a woman and that was to immediately assess her for potential sexual contact. Now I've learned to see every young woman as my Daughter, peer as my Sister and older woman as my Mother. They are members of my family in Christ to be protected and respected. It has many, many tools every man should have in his belt for prevention, assessment and goal setting. My relationships today are so much more authentic. And when it was time to see a woman as ...more
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Stephen Arterburn is the founder and chairman of New Life Ministries — the nation’s largest faith-based broadcast, counseling and treatment ministry — and is the host of the nationally syndicated “New Life Live!” daily radio program heard on over 180 radio stations nationwide. Steve is also the founder of the Women of Faith conferences attended by over 3,000,000 women.
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