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Every Man's Battle: Winning the War on Sexual Temptation One Victory at a Time (The Every Man )

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The challenge every man faces...the fight every man can win!

From movies and television, to print media and the Internet, men are constantly faced with the assault of sensual images. It is impossible to avoid such temptations... but, thankfully, not impossible to confront them and gain victory over them!

Millions have found Every Man’s Battle the single greatest resource for
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Paperback, 336 pages
Published August 18th 2009 by WaterBrook Press (first published January 1st 2000)
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Keely
When I was a kid I used to sleep over at my best friend's house, and since he and his family were practicing Christians, I ended up going to a lot of Sunday services with them. We'd sit and listen to the pastor and sing some songs, and often, we'd go back to his house and talk about what we'd heard.

I remember going with him and his brother to Bible study a few times, where I was always shocked to find that I knew more about the Bible than the kids who were there, who could quote a hundred verses
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Amy
I read this on the reccomendation of a friend, and have since reccomended it to many of my friends. It opened my eyes to ways that I might have unknowingly hindered my brothers in Christ. I appreciated the honest approach on the subject of sexual sin, of the way that God created men, and the frank advice given to men as well as women. I used the book to create a discussion, which I gave to the youth with whom I was working at the time. One of the questions I asked of the young ladies was: "Do yo ...more
Charles
This book was disappointing. I've heard people speak of this book as if it's "the book" on defeating sexual temptation. Unfortunately, that's not what I found on the pages.
First of all, the authors are far too graphic, and may in fact evoke some of the very thoughts that they are telling you not to have. Big problem.
Second, while the authors provide some practical advice - it is all quite basic and really never touches on the real problem of lust - the heart. Bigger problem.
Lastly, the authors a
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Beckie
May 07, 2010 Beckie rated it 2 of 5 stars  ·  review of another edition
Recommended to Beckie by: my boyfriend
I'd actually give this book 2.5 stars but that's not an option.

I don't have anything against the book, it just covered a lot of things I either already knew or mostly, I was outside their target audience.

Now before you say "duh, this is a book for men," I'm referring to the sections for women. While the book is good at shedding light on men's struggles, I seem to fall into a narrow 1% of "understanding and merciful women" who were not exactly represented in this book.

My boyfriend lent it to m
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Duane
I thought this was an eye-opening book and gave me pause about what our culture teaches men (young AND old). I thought it was helpful to hear it articulated by someone else those things which every man seems to deal with on a daily basis.

I especially liked the observation that every interaction with a woman that provided even the smallest bit of gratification was stealing what is rightfully your wife's. That is a great way of looking at this from the male side of things.

I realize that 98% of wo
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Dana
I really enjoyed reading this book...not in the sense that it made me feel great, but that it was eye opening and challenging. I think it helped me to be a better wife and understand my husband in a new and honoring way. I would encourage all husbands and wives (well, really everyone...married or single) to pick up a copy of this book. It is raw and insightful and doesn't dance around the issue of sexual temptation.

It also has a great study guide at the back of the book...
Joshua Walden
This book was shenanigans. Super conservative, non-denominational shenanigans. Sexual purity is a great concept. However, this book is so hetero-sexist, and full of masogyny. I stopped reading it halfway through because of the offensive content.
Mike
Taken from a discussion about the book.

Behavioral intervention is a good first step but, I agree, it is limited. The bouncing the eyes thing is a good tip in that regard, but eventually it will have to move beyond that kind of intervention. This is the only strength of the book and that isn't saying much.

I agree that the interaction between the husband and wife isn't dealt with well. The whole topic is very skewed toward validating the man's experience. I vaguely remember a concept in the book r
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Matthew
Most men who struggle with sexual temptations feel that they are alone in their battle. The believe that other men don't struggle with the same issues and if anyone finds out about there will be a lot of shame involved. The authors of this book help to debunk these myths and offer practical methods for overcoming sexual temptations. This book is written from a Christian perspective and assumes that you believe in and will apply the scripture to this problem.

I found the book to be very encouragin
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Devin
This book is an excellent overview of the sexual struggles that most (if not all) men face in their lifetimes. The book was very accurate, explicit, and helpful in describing men's sexual wiring and how temptations often overcome men and can be conquered in light of this wiring.

I will say that this book is definitely helpful. Arterburn and Stoeker offer great advice on taking practical steps to fighting what they call "fractional" sexual addiction. Their solution starts with giving men helpful a
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Timothy Stone
There are certain subjects that many people do not want to discuss due to the discomfort associated with discussing them. One of those subjects is that of sexual purity. No one wants to go anywhere near it. That is taboo, it seems. No one wants to even think about it. The conversation that might get started will invariably end up discussing our personal darkest thoughts and secrets, as well as biological concepts that we would rather not deal with, or even know about, really. On top of all of th ...more
Nathanael
This is a very frank and brutal look at how to fight sexual impurity in the eyes, mind and heart.
The authors talk about "bouncing the eyes" away from arousing images and starving the mind of any images that will feed sexual fantasies.

One disappointment with the book I had was that whilst they talk of starving the mind, their anecdotes sometimes went into too much detail and did not help in starving the mind of sexual thoughts.

Also, although the book is called "Every Man's Battle", single men
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Tim
Before reading this book I only knew one way to "see" a woman and that was to immediately assess her for potential sexual contact. Now I've learned to see every young woman as my Daughter, peer as my Sister and older woman as my Mother. They are members of my family in Christ to be protected and respected. It has many, many tools every man should have in his belt for prevention, assessment and goal setting. My relationships today are so much more authentic. And when it was time to see a woman as ...more
Heather
This book is written for men with sexual addictions- not a typical read for me. I picked this up from a recommendation of a friend who is a pastors wife. She read it and thought it was good to know this info as a woman in the church. I know a lot of woman would say- well, if they don't want to see my cleavage/side boob/butt or whatever then they can just look away. The thing is, men struggle to look away and while they may want to sometimes they just can't. Like the car wreck we can't turn our h ...more
Brian King
Well, I wish there was a version of this book that was not so explicit. There are some very good practical things, such as "bouncing the eyes" and starving your eyes except for your spouse that are great. But my gut feeling is that this book could cause more harm than good depending on who was reading it. I do not believe it should not be read by someone who is in the middle of sexual temptation, or actively struggling with pornography or something like that. Maybe someone already overcoming the ...more
Aaron
While I feel like the advice in this book is solid in general, I sometimes got the impression that the importance of community in the healing/recovery process was minimized (not saying it was completely excluded, just felt like it wasn't stressed enough). "I can do it." Well, yeah you can. But I disagree that you can run a one or two man show with this kind of battle. You need all the help you can get. You need to be reaching out to other people. Isolation is deadly. So while this book provides ...more
Kim Voss
Guys are such sluts.
Elizabeth
As a woman, I read this book for a better understanding of what men go through daily when faced with temptation. What I learned from this book is that, while I thought I had an idea, I had NO CLUE! I didn't know what to expect when I began reading, but the book answered all possible questions; I appreciated the "heart of a woman" section, which shared feedback from various women who expressed many of the feelings I had while reading it. I'm thankful that the authors were willing to address the p ...more
Harold Cameron
Every Man's Battle - Winning the War on Sexual Temptation One Victory at a Time

"The challenge every man faces...the fight every man can win!"

From movies and television, to print media and the Internet, men are constantly faced with the assault of sensual images. It is impossible to avoid such temptations... but, thankfully, not impossible to confront them and gain victory over them!

Millions have found Every Man's Battle the single greatest resource for overcoming the struggle and remaining stron
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Mark
In the last few years I have had the misfortune to watch several families devastated by the husband engaging in multiple, simultaneous affairs. These affairs were not something that came from no where, but a series of smaller decisions, some that seemed innocent, that led to amazing destruction. Everyman's Struggle is a book that has been written to encourage men to live honorably, to protect their hearts and marriages. There are a number of cautionary tales paired with practical suggestion that ...more
Josh Kraus
I borrowed this book from a friend. Initially I had high hopes that this book would have an explicit guide or step by step instructions on how to curb sexual desires and thoughts, but to my disappointment the book mostly contained anecdotal and impractical advice (in my opinion). The book also had a condemning nature to it, at least that's how I felt while reading it. Also reading some of the actual quotations by some of the men's wives who were interviewed regarding their husband's struggles wi ...more
Aisha
Probably most married women should read this.
Somewhat shocking if you have not paid attention to all the research the last 20 years of how men and women differ especially in regards to viewing the male/female body, sexual needs and desires, and basic chemistry.
Very candid descriptions of the sexual drive that men have. Also the battle of the average male between purity and lust, fidelity and sin.
The reason I think MARRIED women should read this - is people have a tedency to assume that their spo
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Kevin Cunningham
Excellent book. A great encouragement for those who want to live a life dedicated to and sold-out for God. It us filled with good, practical advice and insights to help in sexual purity as well as challenging the reader to refocus on the top priorities in life.

I've had this book on my shelf for a few years before reading it. I think I always figured it was a good book for people who needed help with sexual purity issues. I didn't think I needed that kind of help. I am so glad I read the book. I
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Nicholas Bradley
Oct 12, 2007 Nicholas Bradley rated it 5 of 5 stars  ·  review of another edition
Recommends it for: Any Man and any woman who wants to better nderstand a man's brain
I read this book ith a group of guys a while back and it blew my mind how graphic and real it was. I almost blushed at the words written on the page. If you read this book with a group of men devoted to "cleaning up their act" and becoming more pure in their walk with Jesus, you will see some major barriers break down. This book helps with the Biblical principle of "iron sharpening iron" and jumps right into what has plagued men since the fall. I have heard of wives even reading this book and gi ...more
James
I hesitate to poo-poo this book because some may find it helpful (hence I gave it two stars rather than one). This is a Christian-self help book which endevors to aide men overcome sexual temptation by training their eyes away from women (other than their wives). Beyond not being particularly realistic, this book lacks an overarching theological view of human sexuality. Being able to quote a few Bible verses and say "if Job can train his eyes so can you" does not amount to a thoughtful reflectio ...more
Erik
Jul 17, 2012 Erik rated it 1 of 5 stars  ·  review of another edition
Recommends it for: Nobody
Goes directly against Biblical doctrine and places way too much emphasis on man's own efforts to correct a problem that only God can fix. These Amazon customer reviews will tell more of the story. http://www.amazon.com/Every-Mans-Batt...

We are counted as righteous not because of our work, though it is important to live righteously, but because of our trust in a merciful God who forgives sinners. (Romans 4:5) The answer to dealing with temptation is not to "struggle" with it or to beat oneself up
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Scott
This was the second time I read through this. It's a very practical book with some good tips and encouragement as to planning a strategy to controlling your eyes. It was a good reminder of the lie we often buy into that, because we (men)are visual creatures, we can't help but look and somehow therefore, we don't need to control it. A "why bother" mentality. Hogwash. And this book calls it. Sometimes I think that the book might paint a simplistic approach like, "just do this and bingo". While the ...more
Trevor Bryant
The book offers some decent insight, but it fairly basic altogether. Though it may be a good resource for male sexual purity, it is hardly complete in and off itself. There is very little discussion on why sexual purity matters. Not to mention, they seem to operate off of broad stereotypes about men and women that could come across as a little demeaning.

Finally, they got just a little to graphic in their descriptions of the objects of their lust while many people reading this struggle with puri
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Davis Graham
Great revelation others struggle and God's way to turn your eyes on Him and His gifts.
Doug
This is just a reiteration of the Young man's battle, but goes into more depth on the issue. I really liked some of the perspectives from the married men in this book. It opened my eyes to the idea that struggles do not go away in marriage and if anything they are amplified. One great thing I got from this book was the idea of when being in a relationship with a woman (either date or marriage) having an attitude of leaving them better than you get them. I love this thought and it drastically cha ...more
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Stephen Arterburn is the founder and chairman of New Life Ministries — the nation’s largest faith-based broadcast, counseling and treatment ministry — and is the host of the nationally syndicated “New Life Live!” daily radio program heard on over 180 radio stations nationwide. Steve is also the founder of the Women of Faith conferences attended by over 3,000,000 women.
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