Status Anxiety

Status Anxiety

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"This is a book about an almost universal anxiety that rarely gets mentioned directly: an anxiety about what others think of us; about whether we're judged a success or a failure, a winner or a loser. This is a book about status anxiety." "Alain de Botton, asks - with lucidity and charm - where worries about our status come from and what if anything we can do to surmount t...more
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Published January 13th 2005 by Penguin Books (first published January 1st 2004)
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Ruzz
Jun 10, 2008 Ruzz rated it 4 of 5 stars  ·  review of another edition Recommends it for: brad
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this book claims to be absent any original ideas. It cites long (and I mean long) standing philosophical precepts, draws on well worn wisdom and largely repeats what has already been said.

what's remarkable then is that it does so in such a clear and erudite manner that nearly every part of it--and it follows the whole would--makes sense. fundamentally.

it offers no cure for status anxiety (as there isn't one) but it does give great insight into its roots, and some of the ways people have managed...more
Corey Fry
Jul 04, 2007 Corey Fry rated it 5 of 5 stars  ·  review of another edition Recommends it for: anyone with a job
I loved this book. However, if you're going to read it, be ready to analyze your life, question your ambition and search for ways in which you can better treat your fellow humans.

I love comparitive philosophy. I especially love it when it's well-researched and well-written. Alain's style is conversational and informative but he doesn't come of sounding academic and esoteric. You learn from his research that our modern day obsession with 'stuff' isn't a modern convention.

I loved this book and re...more
Matt Harris
When I drop my daughter off to her Early Learning Centre in the mornings, I sometimes hop out of the car and away from it with her as quickly as I can. Anxiety about my old Toyota Corolla with the salt-affected roof, and the missing wing mirror actually produces changes in my behaviour which have been frustrating, annoying me. These parents at my daughter's ELC have Mercs, Cayennes. At the very least; large, clean, new cars.

It was with this particular instance in mind that I approached Status A...more
Ryan
Really interesting. I don't tend to read this kind of thing, but I saw his TED talk about status, and despite status being something I don't think about a lot, his delivery was interesting and he had some solid ideas.

The book's a short philosophical exercise that goes through causes, and then solutions, of anxiety we feel about status. Both run the gamut from religion, politics, lovelessness, history, and other ways of looking at how we've looked at life over the last couple millennia. Do we pu...more
Rebecca
Status Anxiety offers a generalized history of Western conceptions of status and the ways that art, philosophy and religion have mediated, supported and challenged these definitions. After several examples chosen from the broadest of time frames, de Botton only briefly mentions how this history can be related to our current time period and doesn't offer any ingenious perspective on how current institutions, behaviors or practices could mediate, support or challenge our current definition of high...more
Chris Gottlieb
Entertaining, but not his best: I'm usually quite a fan of Alain de Botton's writing but I found this book a little disappointing. De Botton has a consistent style and approach: a light-touched, urbane tour of the great minds, usually in search of resolutions to widespread issues or questions, in this case the causes and potential solutions to status anxiety. It is a pick and mix of philosophy, art and economics: not in such large chunks as to be indigestible and sweetened with wit and amusing e...more
Serena
Aug 31, 2009 Serena rated it 4 of 5 stars  ·  review of another edition
Recommended to Serena by: Wendy Yu
I had a really great review for this book and then my computer crashed...apologies since this version won't be as good or comprehensive. Overall I'd say that the book was more didactic than I was expecting, but that won't stop me from reading more of his works.

Maybe it's schadenfreude, but there's nothing wrong with validation on our natural human feelings of insecurity, especially given today's economic state. de Botton never gets too preachy as his premise is grounded in several historical exa...more
Mike
De Botton wanders nimbly through the philosophical, religious, political and sociological history of western so-called civilization. In so doing, he comes to the unmistakable conclusion that aside from a few scattered bohemians, we are all pretty much a bunch of snobs. De Botton himself, in spite of his great learning, seems to be siding with the bohemians. There's more than one way to live, he tells us. To be anxious of our status, when living in a land of snobs, is a self-defeating crock of sh...more
RT Wolf

Anyone who’s ever lost sleep over an unreturned phone call or the neighbor’s Lexus had better read Alain de Botton’s irresistibly clear-headed new book, immediately. For in its pages, a master explicator of our civilization and its discontents turns his attention to the insatiable quest for status, a quest that has less to do with material comfort than with love. To demonstrate his thesis, de Botton ranges through Western history and thought from St. Augustine to Andrew Carnegie and Machiavelli

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David
The start of this book posits a very compelling, and interesting, thesis-- that in the western march towards meritocracy, we have created a society where there are "no excuses" for station in life, causing widespread anxiety and erosion of dignity. If the book had hammered further on this theme, perhaps showing how people create different social lives in order to change their reference points and raise status, or look at social segmentation and the increased preference for anonymous socializatio...more
Ryan Holiday
I thought it was good but not amazing when I read it, but now that a few months have passed I think of it fairly often. I ended up quoting it in my book and it turned me on to a handful of other writers I now like (and Gustave Dore's awesome drawings of future cities in ruins from the 1800s). The book can be a bit dense at times and I think that is why I had trouble with it at first, but it is full of important digressions and memorable lessons. For instance, the purpose of tragedy in Greek soci...more
Andrew
A really excellent book in which de Botton examines how we are driven by our desire to have other people think highly of us and, ultimately, our desire to be loved. In the second half of the book he examines five areas that provide 'solutions': philosophy, art, politics, Christianity, Bohemia. I was able to latch on to all of these antidotes to a degree but was very fascinated by his inclusion of Christianity - my fascination made keen mainly because of my own belief in Christianity. One area he...more
T. Edmund
In his 300 page thesis, Alain De Botton provides us with a thorough examintion of status, and the anxiety which stems from not having it. The blurb initially makes a comparison between romantic desire and the desire for status or 'world love', but rather than looking into status desire as an individual trait, the majority of the book explores cultural perspectives on what is considered high-status.

The strongest chapters discuss how we perceive status as a comparative idea, and how what is consid...more
Qi Zeng
The book was published in 2004 (http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Status_A...) and they still paint a vivid picture of today's modern world. It is also called "affluenza", a form of overstimulated consumerism based on self-fashioning which has already do its job by spreading to the developing worlds.

In the personal life sphere, the status anxiety is fueled by the slogan such as "be the best you can be", the triumphant pursue of American dreams of bigger house, better clothes, and most often the envy...more
Megan
This is one of the best books I've read in a long time. de Botton uses his usual clear and accessible style of philosophizing to dissect just why it is we never seem to be happy where we are, and just what it is that makes us always want more. This is one of those books that should be read once every year. de Botton is probably my favorite living author, and this book hit me at just the right moment in my life, but I suspect it will be relative and useful to me my whole life long.
Arjun Ravichandran
Soothing consideration of the age-old human absorption with status. Human beings are fundamentally empty vessels ; our ideas and subsequently our conceptions of ourselves, can oftentimes only be filled with our peers. We rely on them to know how we should feel about ourselves. This existential fact of the human condition means that human beings are constitutionally obsessed with status ; while this is good to a certain extent (it drives us to achieve, and also, helps us avoid being sociopaths) i...more
Angela
One of the main ideas in this book is that everyone wants to be loved - that is, "to feel ourselves the object of concern: our presence is noted, our name is registered, our views are listened to, our failings are treated with indulgence and our needs are ministered to." People who are viewed as having higher status are more likely to receive this sort of attention. And so anxiety around our status level tends to have more of an emotional impact than it would if it were merely an issue of access...more
Jonathan
I like that the majority of this book is focused on solutions which individuals and groups have employed to counter status anxiety.
Meritocracy, Politics, Religion, and Bohemia are my favorite chapters.
Reading this book was a blend of a history lesson, an interesting angle on economics and social psychology, philosophy, and therapy: looking at the cause of the causes to an all too commonly felt anxiety.


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"Different societies have awarded status to different groups: hunters, fighters, ancient...more
Justin Douglas
Had I discovered this book when it came out in 2004, when my teenage self was just starting to question mainstream society's idea of success, it would have saved me ten years of a dull strain of chronic "status anxiety." Completely unaware that that's what it was—and that's exactly the audience de Botton intends to reach—I started devouring, vainly, all the latest books on happiness, only to find that their solutions didn't quite get to the heart of the matter.

"Status Anxiety," on the other hand...more
Alan
I liked the historical investigation of status in human society. An exploration of causes and effects of status in society, the book highlights times in our history when status was paramount and when it was challenged. My favorite parts were at the end when Alain de Botton explains how status is challenged by places and events that give us a wide perspective, from canyons and cathedrals to death. This is where a thesis emerges: we need not be troubled by status because we can take a perspective...more
Laura
What I love about de Botton is his ability to draw upon art, economics, politics, and philosophy to make his point. This book will not offer you a solution to status anxiety, but it will offer you perspective. You'll want to read it more than once.

Here's a quote from p.9... "There is something at once sobering and absurd in the extent to which we are lifted by the attentions of others and sunk by their disregard."
Nathan
After beginning with a solid, fairly engaging introduction to the concept of status from a cultural anthropology perspective, de Botton lurches awkwardly into a discussion of religion, science and art. The problem is, he fails to make the connection between these and his original thesis abundantly clear. I wasn't sure what he intended to convey by the end of this book. Wasted time, but at least not too much.
Liam
"Our 'ego' or self-conception could be pictured as a leaking balloon, forwver requiring the helium of external love to reamin inflated and vulnerable to the smallest pinpricks of neglect." (16)

"'To give up pretensions is as blessed a relief as to get them gratified. There is a strange lightness in the heart when one's nothingness in a particular area is accepted in good faith. How pleasant is the day when we give up striving to be young or slender. "Thank God!" we say, "those illusions are gone....more
unperspicacious
I really, really wanted to like this at first, for many reasons...then halfway through a stray but increasingly important line of argument started to fall on its own moral sword. The timeless problem of basic survival needs linked to low status is mentioned in passing (126); an antidote to this problem is offered later, but it is disappointingly familiar and rather medieval in quality. Put another way, the first half of the book is built mostly around the problems of the poor, and the second is...more
JamesMarinero Marinero
I read this book when I was sailing to Brazil - achieving a lifelong ambition and leaving the rat race for a year or thereabouts. So, I was ready for this, with an open mind (eventually 78 nights at sea, many of them on my back looking at the stars). So, what about the book?

Completely different to 'On Love' and 'The Consolations of Philosophy' (thanks Peter at congnatum.com for putting me on to Alain de Botton), the basic idea that our current system of measuring people on a scale of wealth (an...more
Jamie
I love this author, I feel like i'm visiting myself from 10 or more years ago when I first read How Proust Can Change your Life and all his other books I could get at the time. I love the way he thinks and writes!!! There's a lot of historical information in this book that is so interesting and explains this whole idea of why we compare ourselves to our peers and what it does to our sense of well-being. I did keep feeling like okay but where's the answer? How do we stop being victims of this. An...more
Morgan
This is a wonderful book, so clear and decisive, and it couldn't have came out at a more appropriate time. This is the type of book that sparks revolutions. ... Well, maybe not actual physical revolutions, but certainly revolutions in thought.
Manish
Have you ever worried about your job, your salary, your non-happening life or your inability to stand out from the crowd? Have you envied the excitement and style in the lives of your friends and colleagues? If the answer to any of these is yes, then a perusal of de Botton's 'Status Anxiety' might atleast give you some fresher perspectives to look at the problem, if not propose a cure.

de Botton devotes the first half of the book to delineating the causes of status anxiety and then explores the...more
Martyn
This is an entertaining and far-reaching survey of the development of status anxiety throughout recent human history. The only problem I have with it is that I'm still unsure what de Botton actually thinks, given the very brief conclusion drawn at the end and the lack of recommendations for dealing with status anxiety philosophically. This is a shame because the author is a wonderful and inclusive communicator and I would be genuinely interested to know his own thoughts - I'm sure there are more...more
Frederik
Een heerlijk, helder betoog over iets waar we allemaal (in meer of mindere mate) last van hebben: het streven naar (meer) status. De Botton weeft zoals gebruikelijk elementen en anekdotes uit de literatuur en de schilderkunst door zijn teksten. Meermaals krijg je de indruk dat 'de meester' even het strakke lesschema laat voor wat het is om 'een verhaaltje' te vertellen. Toch momenten waar we allemaal van genoten op de schoolbanken?

Het eerste deel is sociologisch/psychologisch het interessantste...more
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Alain de Botton is a writer and television producer who lives in London and aims to make philosophy relevant to everyday life. He can be contacted by email directly via www.alaindebotton.com

He is a writer of essayistic books, which refer both to his own experiences and ideas- and those of artists, philosophers and thinkers. It's a style of writing that has been termed a 'philosophy of everyday lif...more
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