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In this groundbreaking work, Larry Crabb shows readers how to build intimate, healing connections with others-mini-communities where God's power to heal souls is quickened and released through individuals' compassionate, authentic relationships with others.
Hardcover, 240 pages
Published October 7th 1997 by Thomas Nelson Publishers (first published September 30th 1997)
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Michael Culbertson
Larry Crabb suggests that the exhortation/accountability and psychological disorder/therapy paradigms are not the most effective and appropriate means for dealing with many kinds of personal problems. Rather, Crabb believes that balm for these problems comes through connecting---when "the life of Christ in one person is poured into another and awakens in the emptiest recesses of that other person's soul the experience of life" (44)---which any Christian (perhaps with some guidance), not just tra...more
Jim &
This was one of several formative books in my ministry journey. After defining what disconnection looks like throughout Biblical history, Crabb goes on to show how the church is more a repository of disconnection than of true, safe connection. He then goes on to spell out the theology and practice for how to break the cycles of shame and disconnection that keeps Christ's bride in bondage to a shallow, performance based, and spiritually cliche culture. True intimacy (connection) is scary, but it'...more
This was one if my favorite required readings in college on intrapersonal relationships. So much so that I purchased it again fifteen years later for a refresher. Though you need a good cup of coffee (or caffeine of choice) before sitting down with this book, Crabb offers very valid biblical thoughts about why God gave us church family. We have allowed so many other activities to consume our time that we've certainly lost the joy that comes with connecting with those around us, and the healing t...more
When I was having dinner with Dr Crabb at the School of Spiritual Direction a few weeks ago, I remember during our conversation that I wondered aloud whether I was going through some of the same professional transition that he went through many years before as a professional psychologist. It felt arrogant saying it, and in no way would I imply that I am similarly brilliant, but it seemed that many of his struggles of 20 years ago are things that I struggle with. His book Connecting (1997) has st...more
Ron Mackey
This was excellent. He's getting to the root of one of our major issues in the culture: lots of connection, but very little meaningful, Christ-centered community. I highly recommend this book to anyone looking to get out of the shallows.

As one who followed him during the earlier years, Dr Crabb's personal journey from Psychologist to discipler of people is intriguing for me. I admire that the cement is not set.
Bob Flores
I absolutely loved this book. The message of connecting is dear to my heart. Everything happens through relationship. He does not banter around with it in this book. While although he gives good advice on how to connect, bottom line is relationships are hard work. There IS no easy answer. But I will say that after reading this book I have much greater insight into what hinders me in my attempts. The 4 areas he mentions we must all die to where right on the money and I felt the author was looking...more
While I was reading his other book Men and Women: Enjoying the Difference, I stumbled across an audio version of this book, Connecting. I wish I lived closer to Dr. Crabb, because I'd hire him as my personal therapist. His voice is so confident yet soothing. The audio version is what I am giving my 5-star rating!

Dr. Crabb first begins to ouline what a dis-CONNECTION looks like. From Adam and Eve, when Adam hid from God in his shame, we are destined to disconnect by our very nature, Crabb argues...more
Excellent book on connecting with others and using community to help heal each other and develop a deeper intimacy with God. We can be there for each other and encourage each other to grow through the trials and difficulties we encounter.
"So Adam, and all his descendants with him, struck out on his own, independent from God, dependent on self, all because he did not believe God could be that good. We have all since committed ourselves to seeing how we can manage without connecting with a God we...more
Apryl Anderson
When clinical psychology meets the real world...but just so long as your world is established on a long history of American Christian culture. Crabb is courageous enough to admit that he has a habit of projecting what he knows to be good and right and true onto other people, and that's seriously dangerous if you want a mutual relationship of trust and freedom. The point is that we all want to grow into something eternally beautiful, and it's so easy to get bogged down by what seems right at the...more
Aubrey Bowditch
Good for pastoral counselors.
Sheila Derr
Anyone interested in deepening the relationships they have with close friends, family, and the body of Christ should pick up this book! It's a keeper. Larry Crabb focuses on the healing that can come through the intimate relationships we share with others. He provides an interesting argument, not necessarily against, but on the idea that we, as a society, may be a little too dependent on the work of therapy and psychology to take care of the deep wounds of people when we already have the tools i...more
Probably one of my favorite books I had to read to college. Crabb questions whether we would need therapy if the church would step up and be the community scripture states we should be. We live in an age of megachurches and individualism; it can be hard for the average Christian to build meaningful relationships with others in their church. But the church should be a family that encourages us and keeps us accountable for our actions. Crabb has some really great thoughts.
Ryan Jankowski
Spectacular. A vision of what the Church could be like. What it should be like. Highly recommended.
Alex Bala
This book opened my eyes to look different relationship with others and helped me open up to them. a great book...
Stuart Espy
Very insightful view of the power in connection. Crabb feels passionately that mental health problems in the world today are more likely due to a soul that is disconnected from God and from relationships. We were created to be connected, but when we get outside of that design we will struggle. Crabb feels that the church should be in the business of reconnecting people, but that the church has instead directed people to therapy.
Garland Vance
Larry Crabb's thesis is that the Christian community could put most of the counseling professionals in the world out of business if we would act like the community we are supposed to be. I agree. Crabb paints a beautiful picture of how Christians can help others discover God's vision for their lives. This is a wonderful book and one that inspires me to look at relationships much more thoughtfully.
It may be primarily because I am a jerk by nature, but this book is changing my life. It is written by a professional counselor who posits that the root of most of our "issues" is a failure to truly connect in authentic community, and that resolving most of our "issues" is accomplished by true connecting, rather than counseling.

I know, it sounds fruity. Give it a try. It might just change your life.
More helpful to me as a small group leader than a counselor, this book challenged me to truly connect to the people I'm around by delighting in Christ in them, encouraging when they are on the right track, and confronting when they are not.
This is a very solid book on the importance of Christian community. The first ten chapters are a bit slow and repetitive, but starting with Chapter 11 and the "Urges to Be Killed" there are some excellent biblical points.
I began this book because of the leadership principles, but what I discovered was a profound book on being a better husband, father, and friend. This book is a game-changer in how we live out our lives in community.
my discipleship group read this together as i read it for the 3rd or 4th time. an important book for anyone who wants to practice living the life of a Christ follower.
Good read on what connecting with another person is and isn't.
Some valuable insights, but a lot of personal sharing by author that seems a bit indulgent.
An good book on the need for Christians to live in community, that growth happens in the context of the church, as we are fellowshipping with believers.
A really good book, which has the potential to change the way one does ministry. You get the point after a little while, but I would recommend it.
a very important and foundational book for functional christian community. i'll update with a funny story or something more later...
Geoffrey Kerns
It's weird to think that we need to read a book in order to learn how to connect with others. But honestly it's worth it.
While I agree wholeheartedly with the message, I just haven't been able to get very far into the book.
Many powerful insights in this book. The practical application is a bit vague but still good.
Great book on the power of community among believers.
Julie Bennett
Written from a Christian perspective.
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Dr. Larry Crabb is a well-known psychologist, conference and seminar speaker, Bible teacher, popular author, and founder/director of NewWay Ministries. In addition to various other speaking and teaching opportunities, Dr. Crabb offers a weekend conference throughout the country entitled Life on the Narrow Road and a week-long School of Spiritual Direction held in Colorado Springs, CO. He currently...more
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