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The Dangerous Passion: Why Jealousy is as Necessary as Love and Sex

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Why do men and women cheat on each other? How do men really feel when their partners have sex with other men? What worries women more -- men who turn to other women for love or men who simply want sexual variety in their lives? Can the jealousy husbands and wives experience over real or imagined infidelities be cured? Should it be? In this surprising and engaging explorati ...more
Hardcover, 272 pages
Published February 14th 2000 by Free Press (first published 2000)
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Feb 05, 2016 Brandt rated it really liked it
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I am a robot.

At least sometimes it feels like I am a robot. And I guess there is some truth to it. I tend to view everything through a overly logical lens. From where I sit, emotional entanglements tend to fuck things up, so I dismiss the emotions that I feel get in the way of making logical decisions. As such I think that I have managed to short circuit some of those emotions in myself, including jealousy.

I don't know if this is a good or bad thing, but reading David M. Buss' The Dangerous Pass
Nov 27, 2011 Dan rated it really liked it
I am a sucker for "how do people really work" with experimental evidence. This book delivers. David is a professor of psychology at the University of Texas who has spent a serious hunk of his career studying the strategies of human mating. Jealousy has evolved to protect against infidelity. Infidelity is bad for those being cheated upon because their genes are less likely to be passed on to a future generation. This book explores infidelity (especially the meat market-- what makes someone attrac ...more
Jul 19, 2017 Kimberley rated it it was amazing
This book astonished me. I had no idea that jealousy was so useful! I had no idea it was so necessary. I had no idea how dangerous it can be. David Buss made jealously make complete sense to me even while it's very complex. Mostly, he puts the onus on the liar and cheater, not the jealous partner.

I underlined and dog-eared many pages and excerpts. Here's one: "... less attractive men, usually unsuccessful in charming women, allotted far more time to tending the home nest, doing household chores
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Jan 03, 2016 Miss Mouse rated it it was amazing
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I thought this book was very interesting and insightful. I never really thought about why people get jealous and why people do it. It was interesting to see all the things that contribute to jealousy and why people want to cause jealousy. It definitely opened my eyes about jealousy and how sometimes it doesn't have to be a bad thing.
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Jan 31, 2014 Rachael Kvapil rated it really liked it
Initially, I read after getting caught up in the jealousy trap of two male friends. But most of this was much too in-depth or didn't apply to that simple scenario. I finished the book and used it for research for my fiction writing. Quite fascinating though I probably could have deducted a lot of this from watching Spanish novellas.
Sep 19, 2008 David rated it it was ok
Eh ... not really backed up with anything scientific .. a lot of assumptions and guesses, didn't make it all the way through the book -- interesting idea that jealousy is an evolved characteristic necessary for survival ...
Dec 21, 2014 Anri rated it really liked it
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This book has a lot of just-so logic going on, but I found it weirdly entertaining to read.
Feb 28, 2014 Jenni rated it it was amazing
Well, if there was ever a book that reminded me to feel fortunate and grateful to be single and unattached, this would be the one! Table for one, please!
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David M. Buss is a professor of psychology at the University of Texas at Austin, known for his evolutionary psychology research on human sex differences in mate selection.
Buss earned his PhD in psychology at University of California, Berkeley in 1981. Before becoming a professor at the University of Texas, he was assistant professor for four years at Harvard University, and he was a professor at t
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