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The Boyfriend List: 15 Guys, 11 Shrink Appointments, 4 Ceramic Frogs and Me, Ruby Oliver (Ruby Oliver #1)

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Ruby Oliver is 15 and has a shrink. She knows it’s unusual, but give her a break—she’s had a rough 10 days. In the past 10 days she:
lost her boyfriend (#13 on the list),

lost her best friend (Kim),

lost all her other friends (Nora, Cricket),

did something suspicious with a boy (#10),

did something advanced with a boy (#15),

had an argument with a boy (#14),

drank he
Kindle Edition, 258 pages
Published January 16th 2009 by Delacorte Books for Young Readers (first published 2005)
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Jun 15, 2012 Tatiana rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
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I can't help it, I simply adore E. Lockhart's YA books. As far as girly, chick-lit books about relationships go, hers are the best. And this is coming from a person who isn't into chick-lit.

Just like in The Disreputable History of Frankie Landau-Banks, E. Lockhart explores the challenges of being a teenage girl. In “The Boyfriend List” we learn about Ruby Oliver through her relationships with boys (not necessarily her boyfriends), how these relationship affect her life
Oct 26, 2012 Nataliya rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
Recommends it for: Those who like books with REAL teenage characters
Recommended to Nataliya by: Catie

Few things are worse than being 15 (examples: nuclear war and dental work without anesthesia).
As Stephen King said, "If you liked being a teenager, there’s something wrong with you." But Ruby puts on her Big Girl panties and DEALS WITH IT.

No catatonia or glorified semi-suicidality. Instead, she sees a therapist, like a responsible young adult.
Why is being a fifteen-year-old girl so traumatic, you ask? Some things that instantly come to mind: crippling insecurity and faltering self-esteem, a
Emily May
May 27, 2011 Emily May rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
Recommended to Emily May by: Tatiana
I remember being 12 years old and thinking I was pretty much awesomeness personified for reading books like Jane Eyre and Wuthering Heights when all the other kids were reading Roald Dahl. Since then I seem to be going backwards and reading all the books I should have read prior to my 16th birthday, like Angus, Thongs and Full-Frontal Snogging and also this one. And I love them! It just goes to show how a book doesn't have to be a couple of centuries old and a household name to be awesome.

I love
Mar 30, 2012 Catie rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
Recommended to Catie by: Cassi aka Snow White Haggard
I like this book so much for being a fun, frothy, escape about gossip and boys. But I LOVE this book for transcending all of those things. When I first read the title: The Boyfriend List: 15 Guys, 11 Shrink Appointments, 4 Ceramic Frogs and Me, Ruby Oliver, I expected that this book would contain a few swoon-worthy boys and that our heroine Ruby would experience some drama-fueled teenage angst trying to decide which one to date. I even jokingly proclaimed myself “Team Noel” within minutes of the ...more
Mar 01, 2011 Heather rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
Shelves: 2009, ya, faves, 2011
(Re-Read)Attention, you don’t need a therapist when you’ve got E.Lockhart! Seriously, where was she when I was 15? More importantly, is it sad that it is just as beneficial of a read now that I am nearing 25? This book is a self help book in disguise and I absolutely adored it!

Ruby Oliver, aka Roo, is a noteworthy heroine and I have no doubt that most of the female species can and will find her relatable. She makes mistakes, she’s passive, insecure, intelligent, a bit eccentric, average looking,
I am not sure why, but this book took me completely by surprise. The reviews for this book rated it highly and I knew the narration was reported to be fantastic. But I still got my socks knocked off. This book hooked me from the beginning. What this book is about at its core is a young girl (sophomore in high school) navigating the social mine field of high school and trying to make sense of her female friendships and her relationships with boys.

The setting is perfect – a private school, a scho
Tink Magoo is bad at reviews
I've had a good run with young adult/ high school based books lately, so my hopes were high for this one. Sadly they were dashed by girlish kissing fantasies and daisy filled daydreams. Okay, it wasn't exactly like that, but near enough compared my teenage years.

This certainly has a charm that will appeal to a lot of people; maybe those who aren't as jaded, sarcastic and generally inappropriate as I am. See, my biggest problem was being unable to relate to any of the characters. Granted it's bee
I'm not sure why it is so hard for me to articulate my E. Lockhart appreciation. It may be because every time I think of the Ruby Oliver books I pretty much do this:

Weeks later these books are still bringing a smile to my face. I loved the underlying themes of self-discovery and self-respect. E. Lockhart has this fantastic way of making universal experiences so poignantly personal. I adored Ruby. Her adventures will always have a special place in my book-lovin' heart.
Apr 22, 2012 Keertana rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
I can sum up my entire experience reading The Boyfriend List in one word: cathartic. If you don't already have a shrink, you'll probably realize you need to get one after reading this book (or if you're broke like me, the Ruby Oliver books will do just fine). The Boyfriend List isn't your usual contemporary romance. I admit that halfway through the first chapter I declared myself Team Noel (still shipping those two after the book was over but more on that later) but really this book is all Team ...more
Stacia (the 2010 club)
May 06, 2012 Stacia (the 2010 club) rated it liked it  ·  review of another edition
Recommended to Stacia (the 2010 club) by: Isamlq
Therapy - how people used to work through problems before Facebook existed. Nowadays people tend to talk about how much their life sucks on a social network until enough people pop in to console them. Ruby has a therapist, half the world has a Facebook, and I just have Goodreads.
Reviewing as therapy : Everything you absolutely didn't want to know about my life made available for you to read about in print.

This book made me feel a little bit disturbed about my own high school existence. The end
Mar 21, 2014 Kiki rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
I read this book years ago and remember loving it. I'll probably have to re-read it to write a full review, but what doesn't need refreshing is the memory of me writing my own boyfriend list in the back of the book, my sister finding it, and then her proceeding to torment me by reading my notes in silly voices and generally cauterizing any desire in me to ever share secrets with her again.

I know, right? How improbable, but it was really, really good. And Ruby is hilarious. (Seriously, I kept laughing out loud like a mad Mr. Burns woman.)

Cassi aka Snow White Haggard
(Note this is a review for the first 3 books. Yes I know that's a lazy cop-out but I've read too many books to properly review lately. Also I'm not really sure why I took away a star and I'm considering giving it back)

When I first met Ruby Oliver at the local library, I thought the books looked pretty darned girly. Also it sounded a little bit too boy-crazy. Sometimes I get frustrated with all those true-love YA stories. I want to scream THERES MORE TO LIFE THAN BOYS! Besides, who finds true lov
Mar 20, 2012 Monique rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition

Since The Boyfriend List is a book about lists (15 Guys, 11 Shrink Appointments, 4 Ceramic Frogs, and Me, Ruby Oliver), I think I'm going to go out of the box and write my thoughts on the book in enumeration form, too. My personal sub-title: 5 Reasons I Liked It, 3 Reasons I Didn't, And A Recommendation.

5 Reasons I Liked It:

1. It dealt with high school reality and teen angst/problems, much in the same manner that Stargirl (by Jerry Spinelli) did. Personally, I never experienced anything s
♥ Sarah
My very own soundtrack for this book:
Crystal Fighters - You & I
The Lumineers - Charlie Boy
The Lumineers - Flowers in Her Hair
This, the Silent War - We Are Broken
Vance Joy - Riptide
MSMR - Bones
Banks - Waiting Game

Sometimes I get this urge to write stuff down.
Mundane day-to-day thoughts, to-do lists, to-read lists, to-buy lists, to-cook lists, to-gift lists, etc. (Clearly, I have a List Writing Addiction, or too much time on my hands.)
I’ve probably created and destroyed and revised a do
So there I was, my mom yelling at me, Heidi talking crap about me, weirded out by the Noel dynamic, Angelo probably mad at me, Jackson thinking I was cheating on him/getting over him too quickly/generally skanky - and you'd think things couldn't get worse, but ha! It's my life. Things can always get worse.

It's really too bad I wasn't much of a reader during most of my teens, because there have been times when I seriously could have used some Ruby Oliver in my ridiculously confusing teenage lif

The Boyfriend List by E.Lockhart is set in Seattle. Ruby Oliver is fifteen years old and lives on a houseboat with her parents, Elaine and Kevin. She attends Tate Prep on a scholarship and up until ten days ago, had a best friend, Kim, and two other close friends, Nora and Cricket. Now she's had a panic attack and is feeling anxious so she starts seeing a psychologist, Dr Z. Dr Z suggests Ruby (or Roo to her friends and family) make a list of all her boyfriends, real or almost, and any other boy
Maddie (Heart Full Of Books)
The Ruby Oliver books are like the American equivalent of the Georgia Nicholson books in the UK. The girls are just as obsessed with boys and relationships and drama, with the same type of humour and style. It's not really my thing, because the characters feel so immature and I was never that kind of 15 year old, so I don't think I'll finish the series.
Described to me as one of the best high school girl romantic shenanigans confessionals out there. I think this might actually be true – high school was just ten years ago for me in real time, even if it was much longer in soultime, and this book feels very familiar and authentic to me. It just had no aliens. Or ghosts, or demons, or telepaths – basically, no one had to save the world, so it didn’t kick up to awesome for me.

That, and the much more important thing. The shtick here is that our narr
E. Lockhart definitely delivered a heartfelt book with laugh out loud moments that captured my attention and sympathy from cover to cover.

The Boyfriend List has what it takes to have you falling for the main character Ruby “Roo” Oliver as her life at Tate Prep turns upside down when her boyfriend dumps her, she begins to suffer from anxiety attacks and ultimately becomes a patient of Dr. Z to deal with her angst. Well you think when she begins to seek counsel, her life will begin to get back on
Christina (A Reader of Fictions)
When I started reading this, I added it on Goodreads and sort of scrolled through reviews, not reading them but eyeing the ratings. For most books, my friends reach a sort of general consensus; with The Boyfriend List, the ratings varied from one star to five. Thankfully, I fell on the higher end of the spectrum, a relief since I just bought the complete series in a fit of no will power.

The variety in opinions on this book makes perfect sense, though. How you feel about The Boyfriend List will l
Peep (Pop! Pop!)
OK, I tried, I really did. I listened to the whole thing from the beginning to the end and I just didn't like it. I can see how others would like it, but for me I didn't. I just don't care for stories with boy crazy girls. It's just not the kind of books that I tend to like. You may ask, “if you don't like such stories, then why read this one in the first place?” Easy, I suspected I didn't and finishing this confirmed my suspicions. Also, because I can! “Hmm, OK then, so because of the subject y ...more
Initial reaction: I really liked this, and found many moments where I just wanted to give Ruby Oliver a big hug. She goes through a lot of ups and downs in her relationships in the course of the work, and I definitely felt the bumps in the road along with her. That's not to say that I thought this work was perfect. There were aspects of it that I couldn't completely throw myself into, and I think I may need a little while to think about how to best explain those. Still, I'm all for continuing th ...more
Aug 08, 2007 Carly rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
Recommends it for: me?
Before I write a detailed review, I think I should make it clear that I fell HARD for this book right from the first page. I am blindly and irregretably in love with it, and I think it's probably an irrational love, so everything I say about it should be taken with a grain of salt.

I have never fallen in love with a book before like I fell in love with this one, right from the beginning and never letting up, only growing more and more intense as time and pages went on. The book is like someone yo
Feb 26, 2014 Sesana rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
As I read this book, one phrase popped into my head over and over: Oh, Ruby. I said it when Ruby walked up to a teenage boy and asked him, in front of his friends, if he remembered playing mermaids with her. I said it when she threw away a list of boys her therapist had her make in the school garbage can. I said it when she minimized her feelings of hurt when her now-ex-boyfriend Jackson ignored her or took her for granted. I said it when her now-ex-best friend Kim told her it was all for the be ...more
Nov 26, 2011 Tina rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
Shelves: 2011, contemporary, ya
Original post at One More Page

I've read about the Ruby Oliver series from other bloggers, and while it got me a tiny bit curious, it wasn't enough for me to get them. When I finally read The Disreputable History of Frankie Landau-Banks by E. Lockhart, I thought it was such a smart read that I decided to pick up her other books. Ruby Oliver seemed the most popular and they were easily available so I picked one up. I started reading the first book in the series, The Boyfriend List , a few weeks a
Jul 23, 2010 Sandra rated it it was ok  ·  review of another edition
At the very beginning of this novel, I found it really hard to get into a reading flow. I am not a fan of the huge amounts of footnotes found at the bottom. I like footnotes in journals and other non-fictional readings, however, in this novel E. Lockhart overused footnotes. I felt like it disrupted my reading flow because the footnotes were important to the novel but I was too busy trying to figure out when I was suppose to read the footnotes. So I guess I am not a fan of footnotes for novels.

I was afraid I wouldn't love this book as much the 2nd time--but it's possible I loved it more. I think this book makes my all-time top 20. If I weren't so sleepy, I could wax eloquently about all the qualities that make The Boyfriend List close to perfect; instead, I give you this excerpt, when Ruby Oliver goes on a movie date with a boy she barely knows:

"About a quarter into it, Cabbie put his arm around me and, seconds later, he dangled his right hand down over my shoulder and squeezed my boo
Michelle, the Bookshelf Stalker  Queen of the Undead
Thank you Regina, Catie and Tatiana. This was so much fun.

4.5 stars. (knocked it down 1/2 star for being a really short book).
Nov 07, 2015 Lynai rated it liked it  ·  review of another edition
Recommended to Lynai by: Cary
Shelves: own-a-copy
The complete title of this book is actually The Boyfriend List: 15 Guys, 11 Shrink Appointments, 4 Ceramic Frogs and Me, Ruby Oliver (Ruby Oliver #1). I’ve only read one other book by E. Lockhart — The Disreputable History of Frankie Landau-Banks — which was a pleasurable reading experience and since I read too may good reviews about the Ruby Oliver Series, I gave this first book a try. Just like Disreputable History, this book has a strong female protagonist. Well, not at first, but a tragedy, ...more
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E. Lockhart is the author of We Were Liars, The Disreputable History of Frankie Landau-Banks, The Boyfriend List and several other novels.

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