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Feel the Fear and Do It Anyway
Dynamic and inspirational, FEEL THE FEAR AND DO IT ANYWAY is filled with concrete techniques to turn passivity into asssertiveness. Dr. Susan Jeffers, teaches you how to stop negative thinking patterns and reeducate your mind to think more positively. You will learn: the vital 10-Step Positive Thinking Process; how to risk a little every day; how to turn every decision int...more
Paperback, 240 pages
Published
August 25th 1998
by Ballantine Books
(first published 1987)
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A girlfriend in grad school gave me this book, shortly before we parted ways, in fact. It was a real eye-opener to me that I lived much of my life hovering around the perimeter of the pool rather than jumping in with both feet.
Most eye-opening for me, though, was it was the first time I had been taught that fear was fine - embrace it, don't dodge it. Then, walk through the fire anyway.
I'm not saying I turned into Russell Crowe from "Gladiator" because of it. I'm still more Woody Allen from "Ann...more
Most eye-opening for me, though, was it was the first time I had been taught that fear was fine - embrace it, don't dodge it. Then, walk through the fire anyway.
I'm not saying I turned into Russell Crowe from "Gladiator" because of it. I'm still more Woody Allen from "Ann...more
A friend of mine recommended this book to me and at first I was a bit skeptical but fell in love after the first 10 pages. It seems to cover every issue you come across without actually pinpointing one certain issue.
It's a good book to fall back on as a quick picker-upper if you're having a bad day or just feel discouraged. It's helped with my personal life alot and it's something I'm sure to have memorized within the next 10 years.
It's a good book to fall back on as a quick picker-upper if you're having a bad day or just feel discouraged. It's helped with my personal life alot and it's something I'm sure to have memorized within the next 10 years.
Sir Ken Thompson recommended this book in his, The Element. I picked it up with some trepidation, because the whole idea sounded so simple. But it's a top-notch self-help book, about a whole lot more than just fear. Jeffers covers the whole waterfront of ineffectual behavior and patiently tells you how to stop it and replace it with better behavior. If you're stuck at any point with fears, resentments, bottled up anger, and so on, this book will help (if you let it).
I was afraid to leave this review, but I did it anyway. Kidding.
Really, though, this book is probably really important for some people. Women, especially. Women leaving relationships, I'd imagine. The first two chapters are pretty neat. They highlight an important truth that you can't wait for the fear to go away before you do something.
I know that this book influenced a lot of other books I've liked.
The 3 stars instead of 4 or 5 is partially because of sentences like these:
[This] "Higher Self i...more
Really, though, this book is probably really important for some people. Women, especially. Women leaving relationships, I'd imagine. The first two chapters are pretty neat. They highlight an important truth that you can't wait for the fear to go away before you do something.
I know that this book influenced a lot of other books I've liked.
The 3 stars instead of 4 or 5 is partially because of sentences like these:
[This] "Higher Self i...more
Susan Jeffers has a lot of sound, practical advice for taking the step to overcome the nagging fears that are standing in the way of getting to the places you want to be in your life and career.
The first year I was teaching at a university I was really nervous and anxious whenever I stepped into the classroom. I loved what I was doing, but hated not being an expert with years of experience yet. What if a student asked me a question I didn't know the answer to?
I used to read a little bit of thi...more
The first year I was teaching at a university I was really nervous and anxious whenever I stepped into the classroom. I loved what I was doing, but hated not being an expert with years of experience yet. What if a student asked me a question I didn't know the answer to?
I used to read a little bit of thi...more
Aug 23, 2008
Jj873
rated it
5 of 5 stars
Recommends it for:
anyone who wants to feel that they control their life, it doesn't control them.
Recommended to Jj873 by:
random find by my mom
Having lived most of my life with debilitating Panic Disorder (google it if you're curious) this book has done more to put me in charge of my life than all the years of medications, therapy, and all the other self-help books I've read combined.
I encountered this book at the worst point in my mental health struggle (being nearly housebound by agoraphobia - again, google if needed) and truly found it to be a sanity saver!
If it has helped me pull myself back from the brink of desolation too deep an...more
I encountered this book at the worst point in my mental health struggle (being nearly housebound by agoraphobia - again, google if needed) and truly found it to be a sanity saver!
If it has helped me pull myself back from the brink of desolation too deep an...more
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"Take your life in your own hands, and what happens? A terrible thing: no one to blame. " Erica Jong
One of my favourite quotes of all time sums up what this book is trying to say; basically we cannot blame situations around us for the state of our own lives. This book brings up some very interesting thoughts; we are in control of our own attitudes and decisions. We may not be able to control the hand that life has dealt us, but we certainly are in control with what decisions we make in order to...more
One of my favourite quotes of all time sums up what this book is trying to say; basically we cannot blame situations around us for the state of our own lives. This book brings up some very interesting thoughts; we are in control of our own attitudes and decisions. We may not be able to control the hand that life has dealt us, but we certainly are in control with what decisions we make in order to...more
I bought this book years ago after a friend of mine had attended one of Dr. Jeffers's seminars. I did not attend the seminar and I do not know Dr. Jeffers.
The initial premise of the book is excellent: Basically that whatever it is you're afraid of is something in the future. It might be something as major having to tell your boss that you lost a major account or tell your boyfriend your pregnant, or as minor as opening a past due bill, but the dread comes from worrying about what will happen or...more
The initial premise of the book is excellent: Basically that whatever it is you're afraid of is something in the future. It might be something as major having to tell your boss that you lost a major account or tell your boyfriend your pregnant, or as minor as opening a past due bill, but the dread comes from worrying about what will happen or...more
I finished reading this book 2 weeks ago, and feel compelled to review it.
A few short months ago i took the steps needed to change my life for the better. I was not happy living how i was, i hated my body, i hated myself, all because i was scared of the truth. That truth is that i am transgender.
I admitted to myself that i needed to seek medical help, to rectify my situation, which includes taking hormones and having gender reassignment surgery in the future. I went to the doctor in december 201...more
A few short months ago i took the steps needed to change my life for the better. I was not happy living how i was, i hated my body, i hated myself, all because i was scared of the truth. That truth is that i am transgender.
I admitted to myself that i needed to seek medical help, to rectify my situation, which includes taking hormones and having gender reassignment surgery in the future. I went to the doctor in december 201...more
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في الحقيقة تقييم لن يكون دقيقاً، لكني على كل حال سأكتب تجربتي الشخصية معه.
الكتاب جيد وغير جيد.
غير جيِّد لأن المؤلفة ذكرت أن حل مشكلة الخوف ليس لازماً أن نعود إلى جذورها التي كونتها. وشخصياً، أعتقد أن هذا إلى حد ما غير دقيق، أو يحتاج إلى تدقيق. لأنه كما ذكرت في غيرما كتاب أن أكثر مشاكلنا اليوم هي نتاج طفولتنا.
النقطة الأولى: بشكل شخصي أحببت الكتب التي تبدأ في حل المشكلة من أساسها بدلا من إعطاء أساليب وعلاجات لمعالجة الأعراض
symptomatic treatment
وهذه الطريقة يستخدمها ( جون غراي في كتابه ما تشعر به )...more
الكتاب جيد وغير جيد.
غير جيِّد لأن المؤلفة ذكرت أن حل مشكلة الخوف ليس لازماً أن نعود إلى جذورها التي كونتها. وشخصياً، أعتقد أن هذا إلى حد ما غير دقيق، أو يحتاج إلى تدقيق. لأنه كما ذكرت في غيرما كتاب أن أكثر مشاكلنا اليوم هي نتاج طفولتنا.
النقطة الأولى: بشكل شخصي أحببت الكتب التي تبدأ في حل المشكلة من أساسها بدلا من إعطاء أساليب وعلاجات لمعالجة الأعراض
symptomatic treatment
وهذه الطريقة يستخدمها ( جون غراي في كتابه ما تشعر به )...more
Ами изслушах май не точно истинската книга, а някаква практическа аудио-версия, но все пак добих представа за съдържанието - монолозите в главата ни никога не спират, карат ни да се страхуваме, тревожим, притесняваме, затова нека бъдем осъзнати и уверени, че каквото и да се случи, ние винаги ще се справим. Нека не прехвърляме отговорността за собствения ни живот и чувства на другите, а я поемем сами. Как? - с упражнения, релаксация и слушане на self-help аудио книги :-)
(не се бъзикам, това са с...more
(не се бъзикам, това са с...more
Mar 28, 2010
Moira
rated it
5 of 5 stars
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review of another edition
Shelves:
self-help,
psychology-philosophy
"Should be required reading for every person who can read," say Jack Canfield (author of Chicken Soup for the Soul) and I completely concur. I learned so much from it and use her techniques constantly. Jeffers has a PhD in Psychology, and her book is full of inspiring calls to action and powerful but accessible techniques to help "start taking charge of your life."
There are many practical, simple (although not necessarily easy) things one can do to confront fear. Jeffers suggests ways to take b...more
There are many practical, simple (although not necessarily easy) things one can do to confront fear. Jeffers suggests ways to take b...more
* Taking Risks - Don't fear to make decisions. One of the biggest fears that keeps us from moving ahead with our lives is our difficulty in making decisions. The problem is that we have been taught "Be careful! You might make the wrong decision!".
===== Origin of Love =====
Learning to give. One of the most important lessons one has to learn in life is how to give, and therein lies an answer for fear.
As babies we represent the ultimate of neediness. We come into this world as total takers. We hav...more
===== Origin of Love =====
Learning to give. One of the most important lessons one has to learn in life is how to give, and therein lies an answer for fear.
As babies we represent the ultimate of neediness. We come into this world as total takers. We hav...more
Absolutelly wonderfull book worth reading and giving away as a present to people. The title really says it all just know that doing new things to progress your life will scare you and the fear will not go away but just do what you fear and if something does go wrong just say "I'll handle it" understanding that little point is really priceless.
But that one little thing is not all that the book is good for it talks a lot about things like positive thinking and affirmations this is stuff that if an...more
But that one little thing is not all that the book is good for it talks a lot about things like positive thinking and affirmations this is stuff that if an...more
The book starts off with a pretty decent premise which is entirely summed up in the title.
Things will always be scary until you master them, then there will be something new to be afraid of so instead of eliminating your fear you should be working on pushing through. There are some decent ideas and suggestions in the first couple chapters, but it goes downhill for the rest of the book.
Between the constant ads for her other products (Inspirational Audios, books of affirmations, etc) and the unaba...more
Things will always be scary until you master them, then there will be something new to be afraid of so instead of eliminating your fear you should be working on pushing through. There are some decent ideas and suggestions in the first couple chapters, but it goes downhill for the rest of the book.
Between the constant ads for her other products (Inspirational Audios, books of affirmations, etc) and the unaba...more
I'd call it a bag of pebbles and pearls. Some stuff a bit overly simplistic and unrealistic, but some real pearls of wisdom as well. It goes beyond the subject of "fear" and encourages a positive attitude and lifestyle in general.
As I mentioned in an earlier review, I'm not a fan of affirmations, and I believe that the underlying problem should be addressed, not masked. And I think her expectations for people to choose to feel positive even under the most dire circumstances (e.g. bereavement or...more
As I mentioned in an earlier review, I'm not a fan of affirmations, and I believe that the underlying problem should be addressed, not masked. And I think her expectations for people to choose to feel positive even under the most dire circumstances (e.g. bereavement or...more
Lots of really great stuff in here. Perhaps my favorite was the point that most of our fears boil down to being afraid we can't handle it (whatever may come our way). But we always do.
The author's 5 truths about fear:
1. The fear will never go away as long as I continue to grow.
2. The only way to get rid of the fear of doing something is to go out... and do it.
3. The only way to feel better about myself is to go out... and do it.
4. Not only am I going to experience fear whenever I'm on unfamiliar...more
The author's 5 truths about fear:
1. The fear will never go away as long as I continue to grow.
2. The only way to get rid of the fear of doing something is to go out... and do it.
3. The only way to feel better about myself is to go out... and do it.
4. Not only am I going to experience fear whenever I'm on unfamiliar...more
With an extremely dorky title, I was only encouraged to read this book as it was a gift from a friend. It's an exceptionally easy read and lays out strategic plans to overcome negative perceptions, fears, and other psychological limitations we place upon our selves preventing us from living the fullest lives possible. It references a lot of Yogi and Buddhist spiritual points of view and serves as a good reminder, with good suggestions, on how to step back from one's own life and put things into...more
This was okay. I mean, there were a few good 'reminders' about conquering fear and realizing that you're not alone -- everyone experiences fearful situations and nervousness when facing situations outside their comfort zones. Although it served as a nice reminder... a lot of this book was fairly obvious... at least to me.
Some good tips -- realize you can handle whatever is thrown your way. Instead of getting frustrated and playing the victim, assume the attitude of "I can handle this." The only...more
Some good tips -- realize you can handle whatever is thrown your way. Instead of getting frustrated and playing the victim, assume the attitude of "I can handle this." The only...more
Jul 05, 2012
Rubina
rated it
3 of 5 stars
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review of another edition
Shelves:
personal-development,
psychology
Dr Susan Jeffersstarts by identifying the different levels and types of fears, and the 5 truths we need to acknowledge about our fears - fear will never go away as we continue to grow; only way to get rid of the fear of doing something is to go out and do it; the only way to feel better about ourselves is to go out and do it; everyone experiences fear; pushing through fear is less frightening than living with the underlying fear that comes from a feeling of helplessness. She then teaches how to...more
Mar 16, 2013
Mike Sambuco
rated it
4 of 5 stars
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review of another edition
Shelves:
personal-development
I had heard about this book from several sources over the past few years, and finally decided to find and read it. I was somewhat apprehensive before going into it, not really knowing what I was going to have to confront internally. I expected it to be a difficult read. It turned out not to be so. I will be reading it again in the near future to better absorb everything.
She teaches that you can unlearn the thinking that keeps us a prisoner of our own insecurities. I believe and embrace that. He...more
She teaches that you can unlearn the thinking that keeps us a prisoner of our own insecurities. I believe and embrace that. He...more
A great book for everyone even if you don't think the title applies to you.
Sometimes the only way to overcome the fear and feel better about yourself is to just go out and do it. But it also talks about taking more control of your life instead of indecision ruling because of being afraid of making mistakes. Tells you how to move from a position of pain ("It's not my fault, I'm never satisfied, It's terrible") to one of power ("I'm totally responsible, I want to learn and grow, It's a learning e...more
Sometimes the only way to overcome the fear and feel better about yourself is to just go out and do it. But it also talks about taking more control of your life instead of indecision ruling because of being afraid of making mistakes. Tells you how to move from a position of pain ("It's not my fault, I'm never satisfied, It's terrible") to one of power ("I'm totally responsible, I want to learn and grow, It's a learning e...more
This was the first self help book I have ever read and I have to say I was pleasantly surprised.
I always have thought these type of books would be hard to read but not so with this! The author has made it easy and pleasant to follow, adding real life stories as examples which helps greatly to follow the book.
I will admit that some parts went over my head and I think I would have to read the book a few more times for things to sink in more but its definitely thought provoking and even calming at...more
I always have thought these type of books would be hard to read but not so with this! The author has made it easy and pleasant to follow, adding real life stories as examples which helps greatly to follow the book.
I will admit that some parts went over my head and I think I would have to read the book a few more times for things to sink in more but its definitely thought provoking and even calming at...more
I have to admit the best thing I got from this book was.... the title.
It isn't a badly written book, I think my expectations are too high. I get caught up in the excitement and then.. then. I realize nothing in my life has changed, and I'm still facing the same slog. Not the author's fault, of course, but something similar to using cotton candy to heal a broken heart: it tastes great for a bit, then leaves an odd flavor, an upset tummy, and it didn't 'cure' the ache at all.
Again, though, I love...more
It isn't a badly written book, I think my expectations are too high. I get caught up in the excitement and then.. then. I realize nothing in my life has changed, and I'm still facing the same slog. Not the author's fault, of course, but something similar to using cotton candy to heal a broken heart: it tastes great for a bit, then leaves an odd flavor, an upset tummy, and it didn't 'cure' the ache at all.
Again, though, I love...more
Jul 19, 2012
Caroline Cameron
rated it
4 of 5 stars
Recommends it for:
Anyone who is scared of anything and doesn't want to be anymore.
Shelves:
self-help
If something's not right and there's a sense of gnawing dread, chances are that fear is not far away. We all fear something at different times in our lives and if this is the only book you read on fear, you'll pick up everything you need to conquer it.
With so many practical techniques and great examples, Feel the Fear and Do It Anyway is a good read for anyone who is ready to overcome anxiety, indecision, pain and just being downright 'stuck'.
Once you've applied Jeffer's techniques and adopted s...more
With so many practical techniques and great examples, Feel the Fear and Do It Anyway is a good read for anyone who is ready to overcome anxiety, indecision, pain and just being downright 'stuck'.
Once you've applied Jeffer's techniques and adopted s...more
While this book doesn't offer any miracle cures - none of the self help tomes that are so popular today do - it gave me a lot to think about. Dr. Jeffers puts a lot of emphasis on taking risks, making choices, and always moving forward with your life. She says that change is a positive, powerful force, especially when it feels scary. But the key in her teachings is the simple fact that action always comes before fearlessness. If you wait until you're no longer afraid to do something, you'll neve...more
This is a book that has been on my to-read list for a while and I finally got it out on unabridged CD and listened to it. As one of the classic self-help books, it has some lessons that I have since heard in later books. I found it interesting though as I often have a fear of starting something in case I don't do it well. This looked back at the root causes of fear and of what we can change in our outlook and behaviours to change our actions. It teaches the reader tools to remain positive, trust...more
I checked this book out from the library and wanted to renew it, but there was a hold on it. I kept it anyway throughout December because I needed to read this. I've taken notes and refer almost every day to them. At the very basis of every fear is the feeling that "I Can't Handle It!" or "I Won't Be Able To Handle It!" Once you get it down that you actually can - most of us just have to look to our past to see what we've been through to get encouragement that we can - then it's just letting go...more
Jun 16, 2011
Susan
rated it
5 of 5 stars
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review of another edition
Recommends it for:
Everyone
Recommended to Susan by:
The Bank
Shelves:
inspirational
I thought this book was useful. It tells you what you'd think you should already know though. Like Lighten up, just don't let it bother you, Breathe, just breathe. But in saying that, sometimes you need reminding, and I think what she says about practise and reminders is important. Going with the flow is something you master over a lifetime, not something that comes from two seconds of going ok so now I'll be like this, and not something that will work after reading one book.
I wish I hadn't bor...more
I wish I hadn't bor...more
I'm not big on psychological self-help books, but this one has some very practical guidance on how to overcome fear and indecision, and expand one's horizons. Ms. Jeffers suggests that, viewed in the right light and done with the right attitude, making adventurous life choices need not be a frightening prospect. Her argument doesn't provide guidance for all situations, but the techniques she proposes will be useful in some way for everyone. A few chapters are a little new-agey; however, they ar...more
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Susan Jeffers, Ph.D. has helped millions of people throughout the world overcome their fears, heal their relationships, and move forward in life with confidence and love.
She is the author of many internationally renowned books including Feel the Fear and Do It Anyway, Feel the Fear. . .and Beyond, Feel the Fear Power Planner, End the Struggle and Dance W...more
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Susan Jeffers, Ph.D. has helped millions of people throughout the world overcome their fears, heal their relationships, and move forward in life with confidence and love.
She is the author of many internationally renowned books including Feel the Fear and Do It Anyway, Feel the Fear. . .and Beyond, Feel the Fear Power Planner, End the Struggle and Dance W...more
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