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It's Not That I'm Bitter . . .: Or How I Learned to Stop Worrying About Visible Panty Lines and Conquered the World

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In a world where eye cream is made from placenta, Gina Barreca is the lone voice calling out “But wait, whose placenta is it?” She asks the crucial questions: Why is there no King Charming? Why does no bra ever fit? Why are there no tutus in XL? Why do more intelligent women have trusted psychics than have trusted financial advisors? While she definitely wants everyone to ...more
Hardcover, 240 pages
Published May 12th 2009 by St. Martin's Press (first published 2009)
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Jeanette  "Astute Crabbist"
January 26, 2012 I made a quick second run through this before passing it on to a friend. Barreca goes beyond a breath of fresh air. She's a right bracing breeze.

This was the perfect choice for whiling away a dreary Sunday afternoon. With a title like that I thought it would be all lighthearted silliness, but she also shares some surprisingly profound wisdom about life in general and societal attitudes toward women. I'm always impressed by and a little envious of people who can put into just th
Feb 02, 2013 Shelley rated it really liked it
Shelves: read-in-2013
Funny, funny, funny! This is a must read for any woman over the age of 40. Witty, sarcastic, and everything you've always wanted to say to the world. It's not that I'm bitter is the kind of book women should leave on the coffee table as a conversation starter!
Aug 18, 2011 Christina rated it really liked it
I'm now reading this book for the second time because I like it so much. It feels like a conversation with my best friend: hilarious, intelligent, and reassuring. I understand the target audience is a little older than I am, but any woman with an honest eye and half a brain would enjoy this read. Furthermore, any man with the desire to better understand women might also want to check it out.

I never realized I was irreverent until I became an adult and suddenly people found my behavior and opini
Jun 07, 2009 yoli rated it liked it
Shelves: 2009
It's not that I'm a cynic but in making this a mass-market and not solely academic novel, I think Barreca had to self-deprecate and de-fang some of her arguments--so they'd sell. And part of me is indignant both for her and against her because her "girly way of looking at things" is every bit as valid as someone's "womanly" or "manly" or "boyish" way of doing it and she ought to feel no shame in it. Coyness in a book with a chapter posturing against it is rather, well, stereotypically woman isn' ...more
Mar 29, 2010 Rebecca rated it really liked it
Shelves: women, humor, essays
Although this book is probably geared more towards women in their 40's and 50's, I (at 28) still found this book hilarious, relevant, and engaging. Barreca has a way with words that not only disarms the reader but then charms the pants of of them. The book is essentially a series of essays on what it's like to be a woman in this day and age, many including our acceptence of bizarre fashion rituals and societal expectations (just wait until you read the essay on the 'rogue hair,' ladies know what ...more
Nov 19, 2013 Joanne rated it liked it

I have seen Gina Barreca live twice this year and she is FUNNY! Very entertaining and tells it like it is – growing up in an Italian household, funny women stories of bonding, shopping and body issues and I could relate since as she starts off her session with what every woman wants to know – how old is she and how much does she weighs. Okay she’s just a few years old than me and a little heavier, but she’s also taller! That said I expected the book to be really funny. This collection of short s
Jun 03, 2009 Sarah rated it it was amazing
Gina's new book is smart, funny, provocative, and weirdly acute about the most frustrating, embarrassing, and bizarre parts of being a woman in the world these days. My favorite bits? Chapter 5: "Why do Women Worry about Everything While Men Worry about Nothing." There's a part of that story having to do with environmental temperature and gender difference that made me laugh so hard I had to dig out my inhaler from the back of the medicine cabinet. Seriously. In short: if you ladies have any pla ...more
Eliza Fayle
Jan 06, 2013 Eliza Fayle rated it it was amazing
Reading It’s Not That I’m Bitter … is like watching a stand up comedy routine, without being subjected to the inevitable annoying heckler in the audience. Unless you count my Siamese if I happen to be reading during his treat time.

The great thing about stand up comics is that they are simply stating facts about everyday life. They just happen to point out what nobody else is willing to, or they put a fantastic spin on the facts.

Gina Barreca has this down to a science when it comes to the daily l
Nicole Fraser
Jul 03, 2013 Nicole Fraser rated it it was amazing
I just heard about Gina Barreca from colleagues and am so happy to have discovered her work. She's an instant favorite for me with her wit, fast pace, laser wisdom and heart.

Barreca and I are fifty-something women, simpatico in attitudes and experiences. I haven't laughed this hard since Ellen DeGeneres tried to read Fifty Shades of Gray for an audiobook.

High points include Barreca's essays "How Much of a Crazy Astronaut Lady Are You?" and "Introduction to My Girlish Way of Looking at Things,"
Sep 16, 2009 John rated it really liked it
Shelves: library_books
I got this one from the New Books shelf at the library thinking it might be funny after flipping through it; at the same time, I was leery of an author whose occupation is shown as "Professor of English and Feminist Theory". Overall, the book is quite humorous, concentrating upon the many ways that women of a certain age ("between work-study and cremation") beat up on themselves, for lack of a better term. I didn't find her perspective so much anti-male, but that she makes generalizations about ...more
Jun 12, 2009 Chris rated it really liked it
I'm spoiled by essays. See, I expect everything to be as funny as Jen Lancaster or David Sedaris, and when they aren't I'm slightly disappointed, and may judge a perfectly good book of essays too harshly. I may have begun to do that with this book, and then made myself enjoy it on its own merits and it was quite entertaining. Lots of stuff about the crazy things that women do and think. Very relatable
Nov 05, 2014 Sherry rated it it was amazing
Gina Barreca offers the unique kind of wit and wisdom that makes me simultaneously nod my head in empathy and laugh out loud. After having the pleasure of seeing her speak in person, I could mentally hear her relaying each of these stories in her own gifted voice and words. I am only bitter I cannot write like this author. Five stars and two thumbs-up. Barreca is a treasure.
Oct 27, 2009 Rachel rated it really liked it
Recommended to Rachel by: 'Neric!
I liked this enough to buy it, and then my boyfriend read it after me. He liked it too, and admitted he learned about women from the book. Regina is a really smart gal, not just funny. She's out to help other women feel good about themselves and laugh at the stupid things we worry about. Remember, objects in the mirror are cuter than they appear!! :)
Mar 24, 2013 Eden rated it really liked it
This book was at turns thought-provoking and outright funny, but always relateable. My favorite parts were those regarding "incidental mothering" (that's part of my job, too!) and Chapter 21: "Will This Shroud Make Me Look Fat?" Anyone who experiences anxiety over decisions she's made, things she's said, or wants reassurance that she's not alone will enjoy this quick read.
Dec 03, 2009 Bookprgirl rated it it was amazing
Amy Bloom says it best:
"Some people are funny in an acid-edged cocktail lounge, like Dorothy Parker, in a smoky French cafe, like David Sedaris, or in a crazy English country house, like P.G.Wodehouse. Gina is funny in your kitchen, in the ladies' room of your favorite restaurant, in the awful dressing room with forty-seven ugly bathing suits around you. Gina Barreca is funny, for real."
Mary (BookHounds)
Sep 08, 2009 Mary (BookHounds) rated it really liked it
Shelves: library-book
I was looking for a light, funny read and this was just what I wanted. If you like Jen Lancaster or Laurie Notaro, you will probably enjoy this one. Barreca is witty and snarky, but sometimes can be a little bit preachy. This was a very quick read
Jul 30, 2009 Jason rated it it was amazing
Very funny! I enjoyed the political commentary as well as the social commentary. My favorite passage was perhaps the one about young women on the beach being like gazelles in their native habitat--something age makes one appreciate more each year!
Jun 16, 2009 Cheryl rated it it was amazing
"Love is blind" No, love is not blind. ... But love is certainly hard of hearing. If people always heard what other people said, or did not choose to ignore what they meant, it would be impossible to be in love."

Favorite chapter: "How much of a crazy astronaut lady are you?"
Aug 05, 2009 Sunni rated it really liked it
Shelves: memoir-biography
What I know when I finish this book is that (1) I'm guilty of many of her stupid-traps-women-fall-into descriptions and (2) I want her to be my friend! There are some major laugh-out-loud lines in these essays and she really gives you perspective on how ridiculous we can all be.
Jan 19, 2010 Tamera rated it it was amazing
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I loved it. So many
Jun 07, 2009 Laurel rated it it was amazing
Funny, inspiring, and thought provoking...I kept wanting to write in the margins, but the book belongs to the library!
Barbara Naugle
May 20, 2011 Barbara Naugle rated it really liked it
Hysterical and fun... can't wait to finish it!
Jen Tucker
Jan 31, 2015 Jen Tucker rated it it was amazing
Gina Barreca brings to life a collection of essays with wit and sass. She made me laugh, tear up, and adore her even more. Bellissimo!
Toni Leland
Sep 29, 2012 Toni Leland rated it liked it
Some parts are very funny for the right women. Bought the book after seeing the author speak. The book is entertaining and a quick read.
Nov 15, 2015 Sophie rated it it was amazing
Very funny and insightful.
Apr 23, 2014 Jenn rated it really liked it
A less silly, female Dave Barry. The only thing that could make her better is if she were a generation younger, so I could identify even MORE with the stories she tells.
Rachel Mitchell
Aug 03, 2012 Rachel Mitchell rated it it was amazing
Absolutely love it. Laughed the entire first chapter. Sometimes I feel she is writing about me!
Dec 30, 2011 Deborah rated it really liked it
Fun and funny.
Jan 08, 2016 Laura rated it liked it
Shelves: life, funny, clever
This book made me feel 49 years old. And American. Two of the worst things.
Jun 08, 2009 Sally rated it really liked it
Shelves: women, humor-comics
This is a funny book.
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Dr. Gina Barreca, author of the new book If You Lean In, Will Men Just Look Down Your Blouse? Questions and Thoughts for Loud, Smart Women in Turbulent Times is also the author of It's Not That I'm Bitter: How I Learned to Stop Worrying About Visible Panty Lines and Conquered the World. Gina has appeared on 20/20, The Today Show, CNN, the BBC, Dr. Phil, NPR and Oprah to discuss gender, power, poli ...more
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“How about "diamonds are a girl's best friends"? Nope. It should be switched around and pointed out, instead, that your best friends are diamonds.” 46 likes
“...there is a celebrated aphorism insisting that the best way to live is to 'work like you don't need the money, dance like nobody is watching, and love like you've never been hurt.'...After years of hearing and reading these lines I have decided to tell the truth: the original version is wrong. There is a grave error in the wording of this adage. The correct version should go as follows:

Love like you don't need the money,
Work like nobody is watching,
Dance like you've never been hurt.

See? Doesn't that make more sense?”
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