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The Gastronomy of Marriage: A Memoir of Food and Love
“On our first date, Rich ordered a chocolate soufflé at the beginning of the meal, noting an asterisk on the menu warning diners of the wait involved. At the time, I imagined he did it partly to impress me, which it did, though today I know well that he’s simply the type of man who knows better than to turn down a hot-from-the-oven soufflé when one is offered to him.”
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Paperback, 256 pages
Published
September 8th 2009
by Random House Trade Paperbacks
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New York City freelance author Michelle expounds on her wedding plans, wedding fears, wedding exercise regime, & wedding clothes. What part of this preparation is her own (modern woman! no red meat!) and what is baggage from the past (Italian grandparents, her parent's divorce)?
And more importantly - what the hell are they going to eat for dinner? It cannot be too expensive (hello, they're saving for a wedding) and cannot be planned in advance - Michelle cringes - that would not take advant...more
And more importantly - what the hell are they going to eat for dinner? It cannot be too expensive (hello, they're saving for a wedding) and cannot be planned in advance - Michelle cringes - that would not take advant...more
3.5 stars
This review originally appeared at www.readinasinglesitting.com.
Just yesterday my husband were in the suburb of Flemington, where I was living when we first started dating. We wandered down Racecourse Road, noting the various cafes and nooks we’d eaten at and our memories of those moments: vinegar-drenched fish in the tiny park behind the public library; spiced baked eggs in a cafe regularly shaken by the trains running past Newmarket station; the oily scents of the hidden local laksa j...more
This review originally appeared at www.readinasinglesitting.com.
Just yesterday my husband were in the suburb of Flemington, where I was living when we first started dating. We wandered down Racecourse Road, noting the various cafes and nooks we’d eaten at and our memories of those moments: vinegar-drenched fish in the tiny park behind the public library; spiced baked eggs in a cafe regularly shaken by the trains running past Newmarket station; the oily scents of the hidden local laksa j...more
I have to admit - I first chose to read this book before I loved the cover - 2 yellow crookneck squash entwined on a blue background, very striking (I actually spotted the book in a photo of a bookstore on a blog).
This wasn't a perfect book, but I think it's because the author was pretty real & honest throughout. At times almost too honest - ouch, she shared how she wrote an email to break up with her boyfriend, went to church & had 2nd thoughts - not sure I'd want to share that, but pe...more
This wasn't a perfect book, but I think it's because the author was pretty real & honest throughout. At times almost too honest - ouch, she shared how she wrote an email to break up with her boyfriend, went to church & had 2nd thoughts - not sure I'd want to share that, but pe...more
"On our first date, Rich ordered a chocolate soufflé at the beginning of the meal, noting an asterisk on the menu warning diners of the wait involved. At the time, I imagined he did it partly to impress me, which it did, though today I know well that he’s simply the type of man who knows better than to turn down a hot-from-the-oven soufflé when one is offered to him.”
— The Gastronomy of Marriage
If Michelle Maisto was quite taken with her date's behavior as described above, I was equally smitten...more
— The Gastronomy of Marriage
If Michelle Maisto was quite taken with her date's behavior as described above, I was equally smitten...more
This book is a story about two people who are engaged to be married and their relationship, which evolves around their love for good food. It is a mixture of recipes and stories about the couple - Michelle is Italian and Rich is Chinese and they make meals together, combining the two cooking traditions they learned from their different family backgrounds.
I'm excited to try some of the recipes in the book, like the pastina and the artichoke pie. I was amazed how the couple put together such elabo...more
I'm excited to try some of the recipes in the book, like the pastina and the artichoke pie. I was amazed how the couple put together such elabo...more
The basic premise of this memoir is that the author tries to use food as a metaphor for her relationship. Every night (yes, every night) they have to decide what to eat (he's a Chinese meat-eater, she's an Italian vegetarian) for dinner. This is a process that involves learning about your partner's needs and desires, his moods, and it's a process that involves learning how to compromise. The premise is theoretically interesting, but it doesn't really work, because I can't see what the author lea...more
I loved this book. There are so many statements that I could relate to from the author in her memoir about food and her relationships, both with her future husband and with their families.
"He never wants to talk about what to eat in advance," she laments at one point when trying to decide what to do about dinner (pg 101). She is Italian (not to mention a vegetarian) and he is Chinese and she finds it difficult to wing dinner when combining these two so very different culinary traditions further...more
"He never wants to talk about what to eat in advance," she laments at one point when trying to decide what to do about dinner (pg 101). She is Italian (not to mention a vegetarian) and he is Chinese and she finds it difficult to wing dinner when combining these two so very different culinary traditions further...more
I really enjoyed this book at the start. There are great recipes that I wanted to jump up and try right away. I actually did run to the fridge to see if I had the ingredients for a soup she makes early on and ended up adding to my grocery list. (I did make the soup later and it was great!) The many lists of ingredients and grocery lists throughout didn't even bother me because I wanted to know what would come of them. What I really liked is how she sometimes worked the recipes into the text, add...more
This creative nonfiction memoir interweaves several of my favorite themes: melding of cuisines, family, career, friends and love (and why we choose the people we do to populate our lives). Anyone interested in the tale of a Gen Xer writer planning a wedding and both questioning and enjoying the exploration of gender roles in the kitchen and in her personal life, will enjoy this tale of Michelle and her fellow writer fiance, Rich. While I'm not a great cook by any means, I especially enjoyed her...more
In this memoir, Michelle Maisto describes the months leading up to her wedding, and how she made a bargain with her husband-to-be: he'd take on extra freelance jobs to pay for the wedding costs, and to give him more time to work, she'd take over the cooking. As she cooks meals, Maisto remembers her childhood, how she learned about cooking in the first place from her mother, and she struggles with the idea of being a stereotypical housewife. Recipes for the things she cooks appear throughout (whi...more
This book was sensational. Here writing is brilliant, her recipes are fantastic, every page is filled with laughter and one can almost smell the garlic and olive oil. I also love how translatable this text is. I feel like everyone can relate to Michelle's situation- either through her large, Italian family or Rich's small, reserved family. I also love how all of her relationships revolve around food and fellowship. My favourite is when she tells her father that she had pasta fagioli with Rich, i...more
a sweet surprise given that i ordered it after its appearance on the Book Design Review (a book cover critiques blog almost divorced from any mention of book content). it turned out to be a light, charming, unique account of a late 20-something woman's obsession with food & cooking, intertwined with thoughts on the nature of relationships, set in detail in new york city. williamsburg-dwelling, greenmarket-attending girlfriends, you will think at times that she wrote it just for you. (i did.)...more
Another honeymoon read, The Gastronomy of Marriage is a memoir of the days leading up to a couple's marriage and the food that binds then. Michelle and Rich live in NYC and the book makes you want to live there, too. Michelle's tales of bodegas and farmers' markets and fresh produce and cheese make you wish you could walk out the door to all of those things, but the story itself doesn't do much more than make you hungry.
Michelle and Rich have many differences but come together over an extreme l...more
Michelle and Rich have many differences but come together over an extreme l...more
Great book with a witty and fun style.
It's an interesting look at the fusion of two cultures and two lives as the author and her fiancée move in together and plan their marriage. She focuses on how their relationship changes how she thinks about food and cooking. Along the way she supplies the reader with some great recipes as well (the Stuffed Eggplant is yummilicious!). If you like food and are interested in cooking then this is book is for you. Of course, even if you aren't I think a lot cou...more
It's an interesting look at the fusion of two cultures and two lives as the author and her fiancée move in together and plan their marriage. She focuses on how their relationship changes how she thinks about food and cooking. Along the way she supplies the reader with some great recipes as well (the Stuffed Eggplant is yummilicious!). If you like food and are interested in cooking then this is book is for you. Of course, even if you aren't I think a lot cou...more
Every family has its own unique culture, full of eccentrics, oddballs, and longstanding traditions. Maisto tells her personal story of trying to create her own family rituals with her fiancé, Rich. Maisto is from an Italian family and Rich grew up in a Chinese family. The melding of their cuisine preferences is featured in the book along with several recipes. But Maisto’s memoir was really more, for me, about the alchemy of Michelle and Rich’s relationship.
I would highly recommend this book for...more
I would highly recommend this book for...more
Cannot tell you how much I loved this book - I devoured it (pun intended). Such a fun, sweet, incredible tale of love, marriage and food.
Hard to tell if this book rang so true because I am also a recently married, former New Yorker who cooks like crazy with her husband, but this book did remind me that my little life is not all that unique (not the most shocking revelation, but it's still uncanny to turn so many pages and be reminded that your story is being lived out in how many other countles...more
Hard to tell if this book rang so true because I am also a recently married, former New Yorker who cooks like crazy with her husband, but this book did remind me that my little life is not all that unique (not the most shocking revelation, but it's still uncanny to turn so many pages and be reminded that your story is being lived out in how many other countles...more
I was completely enchanted by Michelle Maisto's writing and her beautiful honesty when it came to food and love. I found myself constantly comparing my husband and I to she and Rich...we're so alike! Our husbands are both the picky ones in the relationship, we're the planners of the meals (if our husbands let us plan), and we feel this need to be great wives without compromising a bit of ourselves.
I must admit, I was more than a bit impressed with Maisto's knowledge of food and cooking, though s...more
I must admit, I was more than a bit impressed with Maisto's knowledge of food and cooking, though s...more
On the fence about giving this book 3 stars (almost gave it 2). There were some things I really enjoyed about it, but I found it a bit disjointed (didn't flow very well) and repetitive. Basic premise: it's a memoir that covers several months of the author's life after she becomes engaged and moves in with her fiance. They are both foodies to some degree and it details their compromises in the kitchen and so on. She's Italian-American, he's Chinese-American. He eats meat, she doesn't. Definitely...more
This was a great book that I absorbed in less than 24 hours. It was written well and had a heartwarming feel to it. One thing that I really loved was that this book included some of the recipes that the author wrote about...they look delicious.
The author, Michelle Maisto, had just gotten engaged and was coming to terms wih her future. I loved that she really opened up and asked tough questions about her life; I felt her vulnerablity and strength at the same time. This is a book that I want to ad...more
The author, Michelle Maisto, had just gotten engaged and was coming to terms wih her future. I loved that she really opened up and asked tough questions about her life; I felt her vulnerablity and strength at the same time. This is a book that I want to ad...more
I think it was the zucchinis that first caught my eye – blushing oh so brightly as they cuddle up to each other. The word ‘memoir’ inspired me to read the back cover. Then there were the factors that encouraged me to pull some pennies out of my pockets: it’s about marriage, it’s about food, and it’s based in New York. Translation: I’ll get to relate to someone about married life, maybe pick up a few cooking tips, and live vicariously through the characters’ urban adventures (yes, I feel sorry fo...more
Honest, bold and endearing, Gastronomy captures a whirlwind of emotion, self introspection, relationship and career evolvement, and the infamous dinner selection - all set to the vibrant pace of New York City life. Passion and humor pour from every page: passion for her future husband, food, family & friends, and creative expression, culminating into a truly unique and independent voice.
This book was incredibly relevant to my current situation (living with my fiance in the outer boroughs), though Maisto is a cook and I am not. I found myself distracted my own weird animosity towards the author's fiance, so I couldn't enjoy this as much as I would have liked. Also, I don't feel that the author delved into the idea of domesticity as deeply as I thought she would.
I absolutely adore this book. I devoured it (pun intended) and wished I could scrape the bowl for more. It's a cup of introspection, two cups of mementos and memories, a dash of hopefulness, and a sprinkling of recipes. Exactly what I crave in written pages. I want to read volume two--I want to read about the wedding, the Southern food, and kids running around the kitchen.
Such a lovely and thought-provoking book. The author weaves thoughts from writers, poets, her mom, her soon-to-be-husband's mom, etc. throughout the book and gives you a real sense of what's going on in her head. I was surprised to find we shared so many of the same ideas about, and fears about, marriage and what it means to your identity. I might even try a few of the recipes scattered throughout as well. Overall a really good book, a quick read, funny, and enjoyable.
The Gastronomy of Marriage follows Michelle and her fiance Rich as they move in together and plan their wedding. Growing up in an Italian household food was a big part of Michelle's life and it continues to be as she begins sharing her life with Rich. During their engagement Michelle begins to focus on how different she and Rich's tastes are in food and how this might play out in their marriage. My only complaint would be that she spent so much time going over the wedding planning, but the book...more
Anyone in a relationship will appreciate and relate to the struggles and arguments that arise over dinner.
"What should we eat? Where should we go? You decide. I don't care, you pick." all come out of my mouth at least once a week. It takes reading another couple's compromise to realize that it does not ultimately matter, and to find that it is possible for two people to make food work for their relationship.
Mouthwatering descriptions within the memoir's text are accompanied by a couple of easy...more
"What should we eat? Where should we go? You decide. I don't care, you pick." all come out of my mouth at least once a week. It takes reading another couple's compromise to realize that it does not ultimately matter, and to find that it is possible for two people to make food work for their relationship.
Mouthwatering descriptions within the memoir's text are accompanied by a couple of easy...more
Entertaining memoir about the tense, uncertain year before the marriage of two young New Yorkers. They are getting used to the exotic ethnic mix of their relationship, Italian and Chinese, and how it relates to food. I tried a quck recipe for zucchini quiche made with Bisquick which was quite good, though it called for an obscene amount of olive oil.
I really related to this book and the challenges the author faced navigating and combining two very different food traditions. I really enjoyed the writing, as well. A must-read for food lovers, particularly those who are navigating the first years of living with (and cooking for/with) another person.
Saying I read this book seems a stretch. I sincerely attempted it, as the premise sounded promising and the cover is lovely. But...try as I did, I could only make it half-way and even getting that far was due to nothing else but the stubborness of not wanting to quit. It reminds me of a new blog, the content is right but the writing is pretty amateur.
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