Setting Limits with Your Strong-Willed Child : Eliminating Conflict by Establishing Clear, Firm, and Respectful Boundaries
by Robert J. Mackenzie
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published
January 25th 2001
by Three Rivers Press
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Paperback, 288 pages
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0761521364
(isbn13: 9780761521365)
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Now You Can Effectively Parent Your Strong-Willed Child
Does your child constantly misbehave and ignore or refuse your requests for proper behavior? Is...more
Does your child constantly misbehave and ignore or refuse your requests for proper behavior? Is...more
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Not that I'm a strong-willed person with a strong-willed oldest child (cough)....
I really, really would recommend this book to anyone who has any sort of discipline issues with any child in their life. Seriously, it's very instructive. Jeremy and I were already doing this method with Ben about half of the time, but hadn't realized that it was the magic bullet of discipline happiness until I started reading this book and tried to use it all of the time. It's been wonderful.
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I really, really would recommend this book to anyone who has any sort of discipline issues with any child in their life. Seriously, it's very instructive. Jeremy and I were already doing this method with Ben about half of the time, but hadn't realized that it was the magic bullet of discipline happiness until I started reading this book and tried to use it all of the time. It's been wonderful.
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Read in August, 2008
Perhaps the best parenting book I've read...very clear, precise instructions on how to set limits and stick to them. I identified myself as setting "soft" limits with my kids too often, and now I understand how to be more "firm" but not harsh. I really needed this book, as I have strong-willed children that like to test boundaries.
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Read in February, 2008
This is such a great book for effectively communicating with strong-willed children. It taught me how to use more effective words and teaching methods. There has definitely been less frustration around my house since I have read this book!
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One of the few books that actually changed my life. For three years I had a "compliant" child and then along came his brother. My husband and I were frustrated with his behavior and we couldn't understand why he just wouldn't listen to us like his brother.
This book clearly explained our son's behavior and helped us to change our expectations, which made all of us happier. It also gave us practical instructions for changing our behavior and our son's.
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This book clearly explained our son's behavior and helped us to change our expectations, which made all of us happier. It also gave us practical instructions for changing our behavior and our son's.
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Read in June, 2006
recommends it for:
Parents with children who fight against your rules
I loved this book !!!! It really helped me find ways to set rules for my children. Hopefully I'll just apply it to my daily life now !!!!
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Read in November, 2008
recommends it for:
parents who nag, parents of stubborn kids
The concepts discussed here are very similar to those in the Love and Logic series of parenting books. In this case, Mackenzie tweaks the ideas to deal with kids whose wills are strong (formerly called "stubborn"). What I found most useful was his description of the way Strong Willed children act/react when limits are set and enforced. Knowing that my child's reactions are natural and not in themselves defiant allows me to follow through with natural and logical consequences without...more
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If you have trouble understanding a child who always says "no" and who is tough to discipline, I highly recommend this book. I haven't read a lot of self-help books, but learned some useful techniques with this one. The book is slow to start in terms of offering help. I felt more like I was reading the story of my life for the first half of the book and wondered when the author was going to start offering tips on how to correct these behaviors. Eventually he got there.
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Read in January, 2009
There are better books to learn about temperament, and how temperamental differences affect parent-child relationships. And his bottom line is, when all else fails, punish ("give consequences to") the child -- put him in his room for the number of minutes equal to his age kind of thing. Sigh.
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Read in February, 2009
This book was such an eye-opener for me as to what discipline methods I was using with my children. I loved how it goes through example after example of common discipline problems with working solutions for them. I think this is one book I'll be turning to time and time again. It has really helped me with some trouble spots. I would highly recommend this book!
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Read in May, 2009
I gained a clear understanding of exactly what a time-out is and how to implement one from this book. I find it to be a powerful tool that, when properly put into play, is not punishment but a method for my kids to understand what is appropriate and inappropriate behavior. I have seen immediate results with both kids, even my older child who is not spirited, but is very sensitive (I just needed to use the time-out in a very careful way and he picked up the concept immediately). We're function...more
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Cam & I read this on our way home from NE. Some great ideas to help raise a "stubborn" child. I think CAm & I already do a lot of them & it's so important in those first few years to establish the rules.
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Read in December, 2008
recommends it for:
any parent of a child older than 2
Lots of great tips. I've started to implement and my daughter thinks it really works (less yelling from me), I think it really works (more cooperation and better attitude from her)!
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Not sure if this is the same edition that I read. But this is such a helpful book to read when raising toddlers (and probably for any parent or teacher for that matter).
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Read in April, 2009
A friend gave me this book because I kept having trouble with my daughter. Not only has her behavior improved but so has our relationship. I highly recommend it.
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Read in April, 2009
It is amazing how you read a book like this and realize how much common sense there should be to parenting - yet, somehow up to this point I've missed the boat.
I'll give an update once Gale and I try some the methods in this book.
I'll give an update once Gale and I try some the methods in this book.
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Read in January, 2009
I did not care for the tone of this book, treating children as antagonists that must be controlled rather than engaged.
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Read in April, 2005
This book was insightful for me. It helped me to understand the different personalities of my children. I liked it.
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Read in February, 2009
recommends it for:
All Parents
Great book on parenting any children, not just strong-willed ones. Well written and an easy read.
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Read in June, 2009
I am learning that a strong willed child will always test boundaries and the most effective way to manage their behavior is to be consistent, be effective with immediate punishment for negative behavior (take toy away, time out, etc.) and don't leave room for negotiation.
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Read in January, 2008
I felt this one complemented Parenting the Strong-Willed Child well. Where the other one demontrated how to implement positive reinforcement, this one focuses on drawing boundaries and reinforcing them, including how to effectively give time-outs. Again, stuff that seems simple and common-sense on the surface, but really took some effort on my part to get it into action. We've really had a lot of success after reading this one!
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