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A Mother's Book of Secrets

4.25  ·  Rating Details  ·  424 Ratings  ·  140 Reviews
Book by Linda Eyre, Shawni Eyre Pothier
Hardcover, 154 pages
Published January 1st 2009 by Deseret Book Co.
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Sep 09, 2010 Mary rated it liked it
There are several gems I've found in the reading of this lovely little book. One is the image of children as a seed. In the Nature/Nurture debate, we get caught up in which force has the most influence. I like how Linda Eyre views it. We come as a seed, destined to be the thing we ARE. But, the type of light, water, and soil we encounter will determine how well we develop and reach our potential. A rosebush can't be a cactus, but it can grow large or small and have many blooms or few, depending ...more
May 29, 2009 Becky rated it it was amazing
This book has some of the best ideas for families. It is a mother that had 9 children and one of her daughters who now has 5 children. They share things that have been successful in their families. I have implemented 2 of the ideas and have a list of other things to try after we have these two down.
Alisha Stephens
Mar 04, 2013 Alisha Stephens rated it it was amazing
Such a wonderful book. Recommend to mamamas and dadadads.
Mar 19, 2013 D rated it liked it
I really liked parts of this book, and only kind of liked others. At one point Shawni points out "library moms," the ones with children who are speaking in whispers at the library and are well groomed and happy. She says she's not a "library mom" and I think one of the big secrets missing in this book is that none of us are "library moms." We have good days, and good moments, but it's ridiculous to think that anyone has it together all of the time. That's not real. So rather than being disgusted ...more
Sep 01, 2009 Janene rated it liked it
Shelves: non-fiction
A book by the Eyre's, this time a mother daughter team. I picked it up, largely because of the good things I've found in using their joy school curriculum and parenting tips at I highly recommend this read to anyone not familiar with their ideas. They know their stuff.

For that very reason, bits and pieces of it were repetitive for me. Mostly I wanted to take notes on the sections written by Linda. I love when she would wrap up a section with some great ideas on keeping order
Jan 05, 2011 Molly rated it it was amazing
Shelves: motherhood, inspiring
Loved it. So much insight and practicality. Short and to the point (my kind of self-help book). Ideas of how to help your children in so many areas: money, work, talks about sex, dinnertime. And ideas of how to enjoy the process of being a mother by being organized, creative, setting goals as a family, having mission statements and traditions.

I loved how the chapters went back and forth between the mother and daughter authors.

One of my favorite quotes:

"There is strength to be gained in soaking
Mar 03, 2014 Anna rated it really liked it
Thoughtful essays by Linda Eyre and her daughter Shawni Pothier that had funny stories and good ideas. It directs you to one of their websites called which was also helpful.

I tried implementing one idea: being there to really listen for 9 minutes for your kids every day--3 minute wake up, 3 minute after school and 3 minutes at bed time-- and it was very helpful and made them feel more loved.

Darling photos throughout the book as well.
Rachel M.
Sep 18, 2015 Rachel M. rated it liked it
Shelves: 2015
I'll take any parenting advice I can get. I feel like the Eyre's are sometimes a little extreme and impractical (their system to reward their NINE children for chores/practicing instruments/doing homework that involved various pegs and post it notes and getting a parent to sign off nightly had my head spinning.) But they are an amazing family and I found it fascinating to get a glimpse of how they do it all.
May 20, 2009 Dana rated it really liked it
Please note that this book is co-authored by Shawni Pothier, Linda Eyre's daughter. Why Goodreads has it wrong is beyond me, but VERY irritating, as this is one of the main reasons to read this book.

1) Linda Eyre was a key author in my life, in helping me find the way to become the kind of mom I wanted to be. She gave me hope years before I became a mom, and afterwards, as well. Her insights were completely born of real life, not theory. To now have a book written with her daughter, Shawni Pothi
Feb 21, 2011 Mommywest rated it it was amazing
I LOVE Linda Eyre--her books have encouraged me and given me hope and knowledge in motherhood. This little gem, written with her daughter, Shawni Pothier, will give you what you need to be the best mom you can be. I liked the parts written by Linda best, probably because she has way more experience, but both women have created a beautiful book that will help any mother to find joy in their children and in their role as a mother. Organized into five sections, the book is intended to help mothers ...more
Mar 23, 2011 Lori rated it liked it
Shelves: parenting
I had an order from Deseret Book that needed $6 more for free shipping, so I tagged this one on. I'm always looking for good ideas for getting my kids to cooperate. So I read it, and there were many good ideas. But somehow Linda Eyre's tone left me feeling guilty (probably because I have a totally different personality, and staying organized is a real challenge for me). I'm pretty sure I'll never do many of the things they suggest, like weekly family meetings (on top of FHE? wow., and monthly 5 ...more
Apr 07, 2016 Mashmc rated it really liked it
The format was great for busy moms, with short chapters and practical ideas both from Linda with her perspective and Shawni who is "in the trenches". Lots of good ideas I need to go back and try like Polite Cafe, Take 10, the big talk, lunch dates, and a ton of others that would make life better.
Jun 12, 2012 Sanz rated it really liked it
Mother's Book of Secrets is written by Linda Eyre and her daughter Shawni Pothier. I really enjoyed the quick chapters and beautiful photography. They gave sweet little bits of advice on topics like: children and money, order, traditions, prayer, mission statements, being organized, chores, family laws, meetings and more.

I especially loved the chapter "You Are The Expert."

I also loved one of their ideas for maintaining order: If a child leaves something out, then mom takes it and puts it in a
Dec 12, 2014 Suzie rated it really liked it
Very nice. Each "secret" is just a few pages long and focuses on an area of potential motherhood frustration. I need to read this again, section by section and really think about what will work for my own family.
Sep 30, 2010 Heidi rated it it was amazing
Okay, so I'm ALMOST done with this book and I just love it! These women are so REAL. Linda is a mother of 9 and has written many other books that I look forward to reading. Shawni Eyre Pothier is mother of 5 and has some pretty funny stories. They both have some great little ideas on making the most of your short time to spend with your children. Great ideas for seeing the positive, having an organized "offense", analyzing how you are doing as a wife and mother, figuring out your children and ma ...more
Aug 04, 2011 Cara rated it really liked it
There are some great parenting tips in this book. Some of the "secrets" though, I felt the daughter was slightly underqualified to be authoring for. I was reading her description of a "bad" day and thinking she can't even relate to me at all if this is what a bad day is for her. That's at best an average day for me. Forget having a dishwasher and swimming pool or children old enough to put dirty dishes into an already clean dishwasher. I appreciated her attempt to try to see out of the box, but ...more
Lindsay Ruiz
Dec 12, 2009 Lindsay Ruiz rated it it was amazing
This has been my favorite parenting book I've ever read. I love that the authors just tell it like it is and don't sugar coat the reality of parenthood. The stories are great and the suggestions are fabulous. After reading this book, it made me want to try so much harder and have a whole bunch of kids, so watch out. I wanted to be an honorary member of the Eyre family and go on vacation with them. I follow Shawni's blog now and if you want to help a good cause, all the proceeds from the book sal ...more
Dec 11, 2012 Jen rated it liked it
this is a fun read with plenty of good ideas about parenting, organized into short little chapters (just a couple of pages) perfect for reading one or two at a time. I started it once, then started over with a highlighter. once in a while, I felt a bit overwhelmed/depressed that my parenting isn't up to their HIGH level, but for the most part, it was encouraging. some of my new year's resolutions will see definitely come from here.

(why doesn't the goodeads app automatically capitalize the start
Sep 18, 2015 Bonnie rated it really liked it
Shelves: lds, nonfiction
I'm sure I'll be referring back to this as my family grows. There are some great ideas about how to manage your crew and help your children thrive.
May 18, 2009 Jeanna rated it it was ok
Here's the problem I have with Linda Eyre recounting her own experiences with raising about a gazillion children: Even though she talks about how parenting is hard and sometimes you're frustrated, etc., I always get the underlying message that actually it's all blissful and if you can't manage to always be cheery while raising an entire sports team, you just aren't good enough. I know it's not intended, but somehow it's what I get from her. So after about 20 pages of feeling guilty, I decided I ...more
Jun 06, 2015 Lynne rated it really liked it
Shelves: parenting
I kind of didn't want to read this book because I thought it would make me feel bad about my many parental shortcomings. But I ended up LOVING it and cried on nearly every page (in a good way). Written by a mother of nine grown children and her oldest daughter, herself a mother of five young children, each chapter alternates authors and perspectives. It's full of encouragement and really practical, applicable ideas, and is overall really inspiring and uplifting. Read it even if you hate parentin ...more
Jun 01, 2009 Susan rated it it was amazing
I bought this book for myself. The cover and photos are what enticed me to buy it. However, I found myself keeping a little list of advice that I wanted to try, quotes that I enjoyed and photos that I would try to copy with my family.
This book was a little treasure that I would keep in my car and read as I was waiting in the carpool line to pick up my kids from school. It gave me a pick me up when I needed it. what if some of it was advice we've heard before....I hadn't heard all of it
Jul 14, 2009 Marcie rated it really liked it
I really enjoyed this book. Some of the "secrets" shared were obvious, but others were surprising nuggets of good advice that I have now stored away for future use. The Eyre family is kinda like the Covey family -- you read about them and wonder if they are for real because they sound like they have it so together. I can see how that could annoy some readers, but it totally works for me -- my husband and I are huge Covey fans and I always joke that I fully intend to have a "Covey family." This b ...more
Jan 20, 2010 Megan rated it it was amazing
I really enjoyed reading this book. It gave me lots of great mommy ideas as well as reminding me of what motherhood is all about. I'm now reading a section a night with my husband because I think a lot of the information is beneficial for both parents to hear. The book reminded me of a lesson on prayer at church. I have heard lessons on prayer all my life but than every so often one particular lesson will really stand out to me and speak to me in a new way. I felt this book captured that feeling ...more
Feb 19, 2015 Natalie rated it it was amazing
Loved this book. Great reference to read over and over!
Dee Anne
May 20, 2009 Dee Anne rated it it was amazing
I served in Romania with Shawni, so I picked it up. It isn't anything really new, but it has some good reminders of things we often forget. Upon finishing it, I did learn quite a few new things. The most important of which is the significance of planning. I'm sure that I am the only one, but I get so caught up in the moment that never seems to stop that I don't plan what I want the future to be. And most importantly I don't look forward to the things I really need to teach my children in order f ...more
Aug 25, 2011 Audra rated it liked it
I like Linda Eyre's books very much, but found her daughter's two cents to be irritating. It was a bit braggy, overly writerly, too feel good, and frankly not helpful. Several ideas that Linda shares are also included in other books (I didn't plan to be a witch, or Teaching children...), but they are a good reminder. I admire that they tried to write a book together - it's sweet. But the "secrets" are mostly just common sense, or read like journal entries I couldn't much relate to. Glad I borrow ...more
Cassidy  Larsen
May 28, 2011 Cassidy Larsen rated it it was amazing
I got this book as a gift for Mother's Day and really liked it. It was organized in sections and within each section there were several stories that shared "tips" from either Linda Eyre, or her daughter, Shawni. It was a perfect book to read here and there when I had an extra minute or two. The tips motivated me to be the best mom I can be and got me excited about things I can do to be better. It was also reassuring to know that I'm not the only one that gets exasperated at being a mother at tim ...more
Jun 16, 2009 Christina rated it really liked it
This is a great book of ideas and experiences written by a mother-daughter pair. The book had a lot of great ideas, presented as suggestions to be adapted to your own family needs and situations. Some of the systems Linda Eyre uses are just not my personality, but it was fun to see how other moms organize.

There are a lot of good, gentle reminders in this book of the importance of mothering and of remembering to enjoy the trenches because they don't last.
Nov 17, 2009 Kirstie rated it really liked it
Any mother should read this to have some new wonderful parenting insights brought into their life. I marked several ideas down that I would like to try with my children. These range from how to deal with "the talk" to allowance ideas to sharing happy and sads with each other at dinner. Pretty much an inspirational book written by two mothers who have been there and know what you feel like on those days when you just don't have any energy left to keep going!
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As writers, lecturers, and grassroots and media catalysts, Linda and Richard Eyre's mission statement is: FORTIFY FAMILIES by Popularizing Parenting, Validating Values, and Bolstering Balance. Their latest efforts in these directions are their new books, The Happy Family (St. Martins Press,), Empty Nest Parenting (Bookcraft,) and The Book of Nurturing (McGraw Hill,), and their regular appearances ...more
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“Over time, the grueling job of a mother requires one to learn everything from patience to clinical psychology.

When you are "in the fire," it is sometimes hard to recognize the value of what you are learning. But the da-to-day refining process--the problem solving, crisis resolution, mental stretching, mess clean-ups, sleep deprivation, and loving more than you thought possible truly makes you into a smart, aware, beautiful refined individual.

The great secret is appreciating the refined person you are becoming through your trials.”
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