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You Are Not a Stranger Here
by
Adam Haslett (Goodreads Author)
In his bestselling and lavishly praised first book of stories, Adam Haslett explores lives that appear shuttered by loss and discovers entire worlds hidden inside them. The impact is at once harrowing and thrilling.
An elderly inventor, burning with manic creativity, tries to reconcile with his estranged gay son. A bereaved boy draws a thuggish classmate into a relationship...more
An elderly inventor, burning with manic creativity, tries to reconcile with his estranged gay son. A bereaved boy draws a thuggish classmate into a relationship...more
Paperback, 256 pages
Published
August 12th 2003
by Anchor
(first published 2002)
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October 2009
I bought this collection on a whim a few years ago--found it cheap at an online sale--but didn’t expect much from it. Something about it, the cover or the title or something else, discouraged me from reading it. Then, a while ago, I read "Notes to My Biographer," about an old inventor with an unspecified mental illness trying to reconcile with his gay son, and still wasn’t impressed. But I’ve been on a short story marathon for the past year, so I thought I should give the book anothe...more
I bought this collection on a whim a few years ago--found it cheap at an online sale--but didn’t expect much from it. Something about it, the cover or the title or something else, discouraged me from reading it. Then, a while ago, I read "Notes to My Biographer," about an old inventor with an unspecified mental illness trying to reconcile with his gay son, and still wasn’t impressed. But I’ve been on a short story marathon for the past year, so I thought I should give the book anothe...more
Here's what this book is about: fathers and sons, ailing relatives, madness and its inheritability, homosexuality and its consequences, the slippery boundaries between sanity and in-.
It's sad and lonely and full of longing and ache. Many of the stories end with a twist—not like the twist of a road under your wheels, but the twist of a metaphorical knife in a metaphorical back, making an already sorrowful and unfortunate tale even sadder. Everything is overlain with melancholy, with hurt, with t...more
It's sad and lonely and full of longing and ache. Many of the stories end with a twist—not like the twist of a road under your wheels, but the twist of a metaphorical knife in a metaphorical back, making an already sorrowful and unfortunate tale even sadder. Everything is overlain with melancholy, with hurt, with t...more
This was not one of my favorite books, but it does stand as one of the more interesting, challenging collections I've read, mostly because Haslett's fiction delves into highly charged issues without sacrificing narrative integrity but also because Haslett's prose is so perplexing, at once seeming carefully composed and ostentatiously extravagant in its use of detail.
Haslett explores mental illness and homosexuality as sources of societal stigma, following his characters as they struggle with fa...more
Haslett explores mental illness and homosexuality as sources of societal stigma, following his characters as they struggle with fa...more
Apr 20, 2008
Chad
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5 of 5 stars
Recommends it for:
Everyone on the planet. It's an important, necessary book to read.
Recommended to Chad by:
Michael Lowenthal
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Perhaps i had high expectations for this book, or high hopes, as my expectations of anything are generally pretty low. Or perhaps i was biased by the silly picture of the author on the back, with that pseudo-Truman Capote thing going on. Everything i'd heard described this as genius, the next great writer, etc.. and there is definitely talent here. But i found it all a bit too controlled, especially the humor, which i recognized as humor, and appreciated a certain cleverness in the humor, but i...more
http://www.andalittlewine.blogspot.com/2012/10/when-we-talk-about-mental-disorde...
When We Talk About Mental Disorders in Fiction
When I listen to music, I've found, I alternate between two kinds of favorite musicians. I love bands with multiple voices, who alternate the lead, who create music with tight harmonies- Barenaked Ladies, the Weepies, Slow Club. Or I love male singers who who are better writers than singers: Bruce Springsteen, James McMurtry, to a lesser extent Jackson Browne.
It's my p...more
When We Talk About Mental Disorders in Fiction
When I listen to music, I've found, I alternate between two kinds of favorite musicians. I love bands with multiple voices, who alternate the lead, who create music with tight harmonies- Barenaked Ladies, the Weepies, Slow Club. Or I love male singers who who are better writers than singers: Bruce Springsteen, James McMurtry, to a lesser extent Jackson Browne.
It's my p...more
Aug 04, 2012
Hannah
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My edition of this includes quite a lot of slobbering cover quotes from reputable sources, among them the NY Times, which says "you should buy this book, and you should read it, and you should admire it."
One out of three ain't bad, I suppose. This book left me with an awful malaise - the sad events detailed within are often not crashingly sad, but the way they're told leached all the piff out of me. I do not demand happy stories with happy endings, not at all, but I prefer to have more, and diff...more
One out of three ain't bad, I suppose. This book left me with an awful malaise - the sad events detailed within are often not crashingly sad, but the way they're told leached all the piff out of me. I do not demand happy stories with happy endings, not at all, but I prefer to have more, and diff...more
Collection of extremely depressing stories. Adam Haslett writes well in terms of emotional expression and word choice, but most of these stories lack (1) a compelling plot, (2) compelling characters, and (3) a proper ending. By "proper ending" I don't mean happily ever after, but a resolution drawn naturally from the prior events that distinguish a story from just a nicely-written scene. (Admittedly biased against slice-of-life; it's never been my cup of tea.)
"Notes to My Biographer" and "Devoti...more
"Notes to My Biographer" and "Devoti...more
LA GIUSTA DISTANZA
Qual è? Quella che adotta Adam Haslett. Come si misura? Né troppo vicino né troppo lontano: alla giusta distanza, appunto. Empatia senza indulgere al compiacimento.
Sicuramente Haslett si muove a suo agio fra le storie, i personaggi, e le ambientazioni della sua raccolta, perfettamente inserito, per nulla estraneo (il titolo originale è You are not a stranger here che fa a gara in bellezza con quello italiano). E anch’io mi sono sentito subito a casa, sin dalla prima pagina.
No...more
Qual è? Quella che adotta Adam Haslett. Come si misura? Né troppo vicino né troppo lontano: alla giusta distanza, appunto. Empatia senza indulgere al compiacimento.
Sicuramente Haslett si muove a suo agio fra le storie, i personaggi, e le ambientazioni della sua raccolta, perfettamente inserito, per nulla estraneo (il titolo originale è You are not a stranger here che fa a gara in bellezza con quello italiano). E anch’io mi sono sentito subito a casa, sin dalla prima pagina.
No...more
Again courtesy of Sue, I have recently finished You Are not a Stranger Here. It is a collection of short stories with the running theme of mental illness. Might not be for everyone (!!) but I definitely enjoyed it. The characters' problems rum the gamut: acute to chronic, depression, grief, schizophrenia, manic.
I especially loved the inside view of a manic depressive's manic state. It puts my good days / bad days cycle to shame! I can have a few days of what I would consider amazing productivity...more
I especially loved the inside view of a manic depressive's manic state. It puts my good days / bad days cycle to shame! I can have a few days of what I would consider amazing productivity...more
Saw him read from his new novel yesterday. Ultimately, his writing strikes me as a little bland. He's good with character and in this collection he does some nifty experimenting, but there's something a little careful and restrained about even his experiments. His stuff seems over-workshopped. I'd compare him to Jonathan Franzen--the poor man's version.
There is one truly great story in this collection, though: Devotion. It's about a brother's betrayal of his sister and the long-term consequences...more
There is one truly great story in this collection, though: Devotion. It's about a brother's betrayal of his sister and the long-term consequences...more
Like any great short story writer, Haslett has the ability to quickly plunge into the minds of his characters, not unlike those brave/crazy folks who practice the sport of cliff diving. All the protagonists have mental health issues or are close to people who do. But the author never strays into the maudlin or portrays his characters as people to be pitied. In fact, most stories present a matter of fact tone, as if reading a grocery shopping list. Here is an example of how a critical and alarmin...more
“You and all the inheritors of wealth who think life is a matter of perfected sentiment. You are wrong.” (“The Volunteer” 237)
You know those books you should have just gone ahead and read because people you trust swore by them? You Are Not a Stranger Here: Stories by Adam Haslett has been sitting on our shelves since I think 2003. It is Sean’s copy and he and our friend Kevin were the ones swearing. In my own defense, each were wrecked by the read (in a good way) and sad was a word oft repeated...more
You know those books you should have just gone ahead and read because people you trust swore by them? You Are Not a Stranger Here: Stories by Adam Haslett has been sitting on our shelves since I think 2003. It is Sean’s copy and he and our friend Kevin were the ones swearing. In my own defense, each were wrecked by the read (in a good way) and sad was a word oft repeated...more
These stories are well-executed, realistic portrayals of characters suffering from mental illness, but it's pretty damn punishing to go through each of these characters' personal pains story after story. This may just be my own sensibility as a reader, but I was more engaged with the handful of supposedly normal protagonists--the ones who didn't require medication necessarily, but who experienced the everyday neuroses and crippling insecurities that are just capable of ruining our lives. The you...more
Dark, dark, dark. That works for me. All of the stories have to do with alienation, depression, homosexuality (a brutal coming out, dying of AIDS, resigning to a life of no affection), decay, mental illness... am I missing something? All of these topics are great, and the overarching theme is, I guess, alienation. But the stories are uneven. Some of them, like "The beginning of grief," and "War's End," pack a punch and lingered with me days later. Others are ambitious but fall flat. A few seem p...more
This book was given to me by a teacher and dear friend several years ago; I never got a chance to read it, then I moved, then it was stuck in a box. I recently found it and thought I'd give it a try. Haslett's writing is certainly compelling - there's a little bit of heavy metaphor where simplicity might have done better, but hey, it's a first book, overall it's really solid. The problem for me was that it was so damn depressing. I don't know. As a new mom, I tend to imagine every horrible thing...more
Aug 28, 2012
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A new favorite. I gasped out loud during at least three of the stories. Everything builds so well. Thematically the stories often deal with two of my favorite topics: mental illness and gay. Haslett walks you unwittingly into the most brutal core of experience. I'm very thankful that a writer this capable of making us recognize our base desires is writing gay male characters. There are loose ends here and there and one story only impressed me (the others felt like epiphanies), but if he keeps wo...more
I idly picked this up off the counter at the house where I'm petsitting and can hardly set it back down. I've become a fan of short stories, after avoiding them for some unknown reason for many years. These are nothing less than amazing! I was able to focus for more than an hour and a half, an almost unheard of feat for me. I would have kept reading if I didn't need to sleep for work the next day.
I had to get this from the library to finish and sadly, had only one story left. There was only one...more
I had to get this from the library to finish and sadly, had only one story left. There was only one...more
Mar 22, 2010
Cheryl
marked it as to-read
from an old list:
Jonathan Franzen's selection: 'You Are Not a Stranger Here'
In "You Are Not a Stranger Here," nine richly varied stories carry readers into the hearts and minds of people facing life's most profound dilemmas. Readers meet an aging inventor still burning with ideas as he makes a final visit to his gay son. A psychiatrist's encounter with a reluctant patient reveals a young doctor's own needs and fears. An orphaned boy finds solace in a classmate's violence, and more. Selected as t...more
Jonathan Franzen's selection: 'You Are Not a Stranger Here'
In "You Are Not a Stranger Here," nine richly varied stories carry readers into the hearts and minds of people facing life's most profound dilemmas. Readers meet an aging inventor still burning with ideas as he makes a final visit to his gay son. A psychiatrist's encounter with a reluctant patient reveals a young doctor's own needs and fears. An orphaned boy finds solace in a classmate's violence, and more. Selected as t...more
I don't read a lot of short stories, partially because I often feel like I don't "get" them. So I'm also a little unsure how to rate a book of short stories. In this book of 9 stories, there were definitely 3 or 4 "5-star" stories that I thought were excellent. They were so vivid and compelling that I felt like I started to understand what short stories are all about. The rest of the stories were perfectly fine....good, even. At first this added up to a 4-star review, but after I thought about i...more
"I don't find them (his stories) sad at all because for me the saddest thing is compulsory happiness, the notion that a happy ending is something we have to have. I don't think stories have to have happy endings in order to be stories that contain a kind of redemptive quality." - Haslett himself.
I'm not asking for a happy ending, but damned if this isn't the most one-note melancholy book I have ever read. Yeah, there's a sense of change/redemption in the end, but I'm still just not feeling it. H...more
I'm not asking for a happy ending, but damned if this isn't the most one-note melancholy book I have ever read. Yeah, there's a sense of change/redemption in the end, but I'm still just not feeling it. H...more
I found this book at a book fair.I didn't realize it was a collection of short stories.I usually stay away from them because it's too dramatic to be abruptly pulled away from the characters you've just started to get to know.That said, I stuck with this book because I really enjoyed the stories of people who are struggling with some sort of mental health issue and the struggles they face.I felt the writer did a good job getting inside their minds.I really liked the endings of some of them-a few...more
I think there are probably three or four tremendous stories in this collection. The others didn't always satisfy me.
When he is off, Adam Haslett seems stretch the drama and plot so much that the characters seem somewhat unreal.
When he is on, Haslett is a lot fun to read. The stories move quickly; the prose is unpretentious. Each story comes to a well constructed moment of intense, complicated emotion. In particular, I liked the stories, "The Good Doctor," "War's End," "Reunion" and "The Volunte...more
When he is off, Adam Haslett seems stretch the drama and plot so much that the characters seem somewhat unreal.
When he is on, Haslett is a lot fun to read. The stories move quickly; the prose is unpretentious. Each story comes to a well constructed moment of intense, complicated emotion. In particular, I liked the stories, "The Good Doctor," "War's End," "Reunion" and "The Volunte...more
All of the stories in this collection deal with characters that are suffering emotionally. Sometimes, it is because of psychosis - in The Volunteer a woman who's break with reality occurred during the birth and death of her only child is befriended by a young man going through first love while his family fails to deal with it's own mental illness. Sometimes it is grief - in The Beginnings of Grief a young man masks the pain of the death of his parents by subjecting himself to abuse from an equal...more
This is a collection of short stories, that I don't remember too well because it's been a couple of weeks now, but I do remember being very impressed with the writing. I also remember thinking that his poor author must have had quite a life, because all of the stories revolve around mental illness and the difficulties of family members growing up around such challenges as bipolar disorders, depression, suicide, to name a few. Not happy stories, but very well written. A National Book Award Finali...more
The strength of this book is Haslett's unswerving empathy. Most books about mental illness stop at sympathy -- they create characters that move us and make us tear up and donate little sums to worthy charities. But they operate largely in a closed world. A teeny subset of archetypes shuffle back and forth between pain and salvation like the zombies in Dawn of the Dead endlessly circling the mall escalators.
The problem is that the obvious primary sources to draw characters are personal experienc...more
The problem is that the obvious primary sources to draw characters are personal experienc...more
Although I am generally not a fan of fiction books, Adam Haslett’s You Are Not a Stranger Here was a surprisingly good book. Although technically speaking this book is a collection of short stories, Haslett uses a series of unique techniques to tie the individual stories together. The last story, entitled “The Volunteer,” incorporates elements from almost all of the previous chapters, creating the perfect ending to Haslett’s book. The first chapter comes across at first as an author’s note of so...more
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Nov 03, 2009 12:40am
I could be wrong, of course. It just didn't really stick with me.
Nov 03, 2009 03:22pm