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The Five Love Languages for Singles
by
Gary Chapman
Gary Chapman first penned the best-selling The Five Love Languages more than ten years ago. The core message has hit home with over 3 million people as it focuses on humanity's deepest emotional need: the need to 'feel' loved. This need is felt by married and singles alike. Dr. Chapman now tackles the unique circumstances that singles face, and integrates how the same five...more
Paperback, 256 pages
Published
September 1st 2004
by Moody Publishers
(first published August 31st 2004)
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I didn't really learn anything in addition to the original "The Five Love Languages". I recommend just sticking with that book. The examples he gave were either people who were currently dating or past tense examples of relationships that have came to an end. This is helpful for identifying what your own or what other's love languages are or have been, but really does nothing to help the single person enter a new relationship. It really did not give a very positive outlook on datin...more
I’ve had my eye on this one for a while because the author’s love language concept resonates with me. It’s simple and sensible but not widely applied. He explains that people give and receive love in five different ways (through words of affirmation, quality time, acts of service, physical touch, and gifts) and that the best way to love someone is through their language rather than your own. Your well-meant gift might not mean as much as a word of encouragement and a hug to someone whose primary...more
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I'm very happy to have finally read this book. I knew I would benefit from and enjoy learning about the love languages, and already agreed with what I had heard of them. What I wanted to gain most was a better understanding of each language and how to apply the knowledge in my life, especially as a single. So the version was perfect! Well-written and informative, the only reason I didn't read it fast enough was because there was much for me to contemplate, analyze, and set goals with. I'm pretty...more
Although I didn't like the way Dr. Chapman frequently uses the word 'singles' as a noun rather than an adjective, I liked the book overall.
The Five Love Languages is a helpful guide to understanding one's own behavior and that of others, and as this book is primarily for single adults, it explains how the languages can relate to many different relationships, not just dating relationships.
Two things particularly rang true to me in this book:
1)I appreciated th...more
The Five Love Languages is a helpful guide to understanding one's own behavior and that of others, and as this book is primarily for single adults, it explains how the languages can relate to many different relationships, not just dating relationships.
Two things particularly rang true to me in this book:
1)I appreciated th...more
This book is, essentially, the same as the original The Five Love Languages. Some of the examples are more fitting for unmarried folk and the illustrations also deal with different singles or dating couples he has come across throughout the years. Different chapters deal with how to love friends, roommates, coworkers, family members, siblings, and other relationships outside of romantic ones. Those chapters are mainly what distinguish this book from it's predecessor.
The main issue ...more
The main issue ...more
Recently out of a seven year relationship, I chose to pick up this book I’ve heard so much about to re-evaluate how I show love to others and to question my own love language. I didn’t know what to expect when I started The Five Love Languages, I just felt at this particular time in my life it would be a good read. There is much truth in the value of a book based on the seasons in one’s life.
As stated above there are five love languages and these are not only how we prefer to be love...more
As stated above there are five love languages and these are not only how we prefer to be love...more
This was a pretty easy read. Chapman uses good flow and all his arguments are smooth and organized. I found this book insightful in that I don’t think I ever fully realized that people love and receive love in different ways. It is a bit difficult to see myself before learning what was in the book, but I think I tended to believe that some of the love languages were good and some were just superficial. This book changed my views on that and has helped me realize that people do actually receive l...more
Being a single who has had his struggles with the female gender I found this book very enlightening. This book isn't geared solely towards dating it also deals with friendships, work relationships, parents and your kids. Basically there are five types of love languages that we all speak and we each have one that is predominate. If you figure out what the person's love language is you can "speak" it to them and fill their love tank. The five love languages are 1) words of affirmati...more
This author has written at least 6 books on this topic. Everyone apparently responds more to one "love language" than the others. The five languages of love are Words of Affirmation, Quality Time, Receiving Gifts, Acts of Service, and Physical Touch. Once you know a person's preferred language you can use that language to better express love or friendship towards that person. This theory can be applied to significant others, parents, kids, other relatives, friends, co-workers,.... ...more
The Love langauges series has been talked about in concervative circles for years. I have avoided this series for that reason. Although Dr Chapman has branched out and coverd many different situations regarding Love Languages... I first became interested in this series when I read the book Love Languages for Children. I have been in childcare for 15 years and out of all the classes and books I have read, it was the Love Language book that helped me the most.
This book was an impulse b...more
This book was an impulse b...more
This is a great book but it should be called something like, "The Five Love Languages in Every Relationship." Apparently the original book was written only in the context of sharing love with a spouse so the author wanted to write something to apply to concept to other areas of life so it would be more accessible for everybody else. It talks about dating, parents, friends, coworkers, people you don't get along with, etc. It's a great book with some good insight into interpersonal commu...more
Full points for a compelling concept, but the many narrative real-life applications were a little like reading the script to a low budget office conduct video. Also, as this book is clearly Christian in perspective, some secular readers might be turned off to the otherwise objective truths.
That said, I think anyone and everyone could benefit from at least skimming this book. Chapman's insights are brilliant, relevant, and completely applicable to everyday situations. Granted, I do not think them...more
That said, I think anyone and everyone could benefit from at least skimming this book. Chapman's insights are brilliant, relevant, and completely applicable to everyday situations. Granted, I do not think them...more
He has a funny accent and it sometimes made me giggle listening to him. Yes, I listened to the audiobook; I am not a fan of people talking loudly on the train and distracting my lovely reading time. =(
I like the idea of there being 5 languages of love: 1. Words of Affirmation (me); 2. Quality Time (me); 3. Gifts; 4. Acts of Service; and 5. Touch (me). Does this make me too needy if I am a multi-lingual Lover? I kid.
I could have done without the religious preaching and the up-...more
I like the idea of there being 5 languages of love: 1. Words of Affirmation (me); 2. Quality Time (me); 3. Gifts; 4. Acts of Service; and 5. Touch (me). Does this make me too needy if I am a multi-lingual Lover? I kid.
I could have done without the religious preaching and the up-...more
Although the author is a Christian counselor I think that faith isn't necessary to appreciate the message of this book. The concept is simple and powerful : everyone has a natural way of showing love and a way that they best receive love. In order to have harmonious relationships (with anyone not just romantic interests) we need to understand the love language that we speak what language the other person speaks. Once you read the book you will quickly realize that their are people in your life...more
I put off reading this book for a little while, but once I picked it up I couldn't put it down. I learned so much about myself, and not only about romantic relationships, but relationships that I have with everyone on my life, from parents, friends, siblings, etc. It is an amazing book that I will read and reread and try to incorporate into my life. It breaks down the meaning of having and giving love in a Christian manner, and really tries to help you improve your life and the lives of the peo...more
I chose this book for the Singles class I facilitate. It is EXCELLENT! A must read for EVERYONE! There are editions for every age group and circumstance. This book really helps you understand how people give and receive love - romantically and within family and friendships. IF everyone knew these principles, I bet there would be far fewer divorces in our society. This is written by Christian authors but I recommend it to everyone just the same. Doesn't matter what religion you are or not, we all...more
Thought I'd blow through this before I gave it back to my friend's therapist. While I think the identification of the love languages is pretty profound, beyond that, I feel like a lot of this stuff is not quite so revoluationary. However, a lot of people find it so, and that's what's even more surprising. It's great that it helps so many people! I don't know that it gave me monumental ideas, since it doesn't take a great deal of thought to implement communication to people in their love lang...more
Everyone should read this!
The thesis of the book is simple yet staggeringly far-reaching in its implications: each of us has a primary "love language" through which we express and experience love most deeply.
If our partners don't speak this language, both we and partners don't feel loved and cause problems in the relationships.
Moreover, unlike regular spoken languages, there are only five love languages:
1) Words of affirmation (praises, e...more
The thesis of the book is simple yet staggeringly far-reaching in its implications: each of us has a primary "love language" through which we express and experience love most deeply.
If our partners don't speak this language, both we and partners don't feel loved and cause problems in the relationships.
Moreover, unlike regular spoken languages, there are only five love languages:
1) Words of affirmation (praises, e...more
Great theory--in fact, I think I buy into it in a pretty big way. I plan on applying some of the things I've read. He relates a great way of looking practically at how to relate better to people. That being said... I wouldn't recommend the book to most people for two reasons: 1. it is poorly written with extremely "hokey" examples, which makes it hard to take the theory seriously at points and 2. it's written from a very Christian perspective, which makes it sometimes difficult for ...more
Gary Chapman in his book The Five Love Languages Singles edition highlights the five love languages through dialogue and his observations over the years while working with singles. The topics are divided into chapters with discussion questions at the end of each chapter. The dialogues make the book easy to follow and clarifies the information presented. The personal assesments and study guides involves the reader in the study of the Love languages therefore, reinforcing the information.
I wasn't very impressed with this one. It sounded very simplistic to me. There were many factors he didn't consider. If anyone gets any mileage out of it, I'm glad for them, but I don't think it's worth losing much sleep over trying to figure out how someone else best wants to be loved. We all do a variety of things for each other anyway and would want a variety of things done for us.
I couldn't help but think of Bob Hoekstra through the whole thing. I wonder what he thinks of Chap...more
I couldn't help but think of Bob Hoekstra through the whole thing. I wonder what he thinks of Chap...more
I had never heard of different love languages before I read this book and I am blown away by the new insight that I have into my close relationships. My goal now is to discover all of my family and close friends' love languages so that I can better communicate my affection for them. The one thing that I didn't connect to in this book were the strong Christian messages, I would have given this book five stars if it had been more religiously neutral. However, all in all this is a great book and...more
This man's books are no less than life changing. I'm so glad I'm reading them. Will keep them and re-read, for regular support. I've read the one on Anger, Love Language for Singles and now Languages of Apology.
His "prescription" for humbling yourself, giving up illusions and giving to your friend, coworker, family or loved one are not easy, but essential for good relationships with others, particularly partners and family.
Plenty has been written about this book so I won't say much. I appreciated the clear and concise way that the five love languages are outlined, and I liked the quiz in the back to help you figure out which one is your own (or someone else's). I also liked the practical application to everyday life, not just in romance.
I was disappointed that the author chose to lean so heavily on the teachings of Jesus and the Christian faith, because this book would be good for lots of people who ...more
I was disappointed that the author chose to lean so heavily on the teachings of Jesus and the Christian faith, because this book would be good for lots of people who ...more
This is a good book. Like most relationship books, emphasizes in how we are different, therefore the best way to communicate is to understand what are differences are, to see where the other person is coming from.
It gives the pespective of how to make others feel loved in the way they would understand it, but also discovering what's the best way to receive love as well
It gives the pespective of how to make others feel loved in the way they would understand it, but also discovering what's the best way to receive love as well
It's great theory, indeed. I like it. Although, it didn't tell more than I've already known. In fact, I could say that you don't really have to know this five languages. Instead of it, you can just be more open to people and develop more emphaty and you will end up the same.
Some psychological technics I've already known from my psychology classes and just from religion and life experience, though.
It suprised me that there were so many examples of people - according to th...more
Some psychological technics I've already known from my psychology classes and just from religion and life experience, though.
It suprised me that there were so many examples of people - according to th...more
The premise is sound: there are 5 "languages" people speak when in any form of a relationship. The quiz in the back of the book produces pretty accurate results to determine each reader's language(s). But beware: some stories are a bit contrived and corny. All in all, helped me learn to relate to people more effectively. Would not pass this along to any male friends though...
I heard a lot about the original book, and figured it wasn't for me since I am not married. This book adapts the ideas to singles. I gained some insights about myself which I hope will help in relationships and I also learned about others in my life--it was particularly helpful in thinking about co-workers as there are a lot of personality conflicts where I work.
A must read for anyone interested in improving both romantic and platonic/familial relationships. This book clearly identifies the 5 ways people give and/or receive love. In order to really be able to relate to another and show authentic love you should learn to speak their love language. And it's useful to understand your own. READ THIS BOOK!!!
You can get any of the "Five Love Languages" books, they are all pretty much the same, they just edit some words based on whether you get the single or in a relationship. It is sort of a "self improvement" book, but it's actually interesting and helps you understand your family, boyfriend/girlfriend, or any other person close to you.
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