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The Five Love Languages: Men's Edition: How to Express Heartfelt Commitment to Your Mate

4.18 of 5 stars 4.18  ·  rating details  ·  867 ratings  ·  93 reviews
Marriages may be made in heaven, but they must be nurtured here on earth. Dr. Chapman explains how people communicate love in different ways, and shares the wonderful things that happen when men and women learn to speak each other's language.
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Published (first published May 1st 2004)
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Meg
I know what you're thinking... "Meg, are you, in fact... a MAN???" Nope. My brother-in-law just handed me a copy of his book (the "Men's Edition") a few weeks ago and told me to read it, that it would probably improve my marriage and understanding of my husband. And it did! It's a great book, and Chapman’s a genius. My main issue with it was redundancy. There doesn't need to be a whole book about this theory (much less several), the following paragraph would suffice:

There are five major ways tha
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Ellis
Let me just say one thing about this book. It claims itself to be a special edition for men. Well, I don't know what type of man this author is used to (maybe one that doesn't like to keep any dormant mushy side from being exposed to the world), but just because this book has a brown cover doesn't make it very "manly". I don't have many other books in my library that have big hearts with arrows through them on the cover. Every, and I mean EVERY, new chapter has the same big sweetie-pie picture o ...more
Trevor Acy
This is one of those books that while you are reading it you think to yourself "well of course" and "I knew that". Yet at the same time realizing that you've never really considering the ideas that Chapman presents about the way two people express and more importantly receive love from one another.

I pretty quickly discovered that my primary love language is definitely Words of Affirmation. Most men, and Chapman points this out often, assume they operate from the Physical Touch language but that
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Grace
Now, as a single young woman, I assumed I would read about communication modes of a well functioning loving marriage, which, btw, is a beautiful thing to behold. However I was surprised at how the 5 love languages are so universal and explained so articulately and relatably the different ways that people express and experience love. Although this edition was targeted at married men, I learned a lot about myself and my own love language by reading it. It helped me to understand a lot of the pains ...more
Garrett Zecker
I am not a reader of self help books, but this book came recommended to me as a text that is helpful in the areas of communication with a lover or a spouse and can have a drastic impact in many areas of my relationships.

While I think that this book says many valuable things, there are also some places that I think that this book is complete nonsense and totally misses the mark.

First, trying to figure out what you best respond to and what your spouse or lover best responds to is definitely an imp
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Eric Sullenberger
First I want to point out that I mostly listened to the Men's Edition of this book, but there was a glitch in the Overdrive download, so I ended up listening to parts of the original version.
Second, the question I, and a lot of others seemed to have, is this a variation/modification of the original or is it an extension/spin-off upon the original. It is a variation, the points specifically for men seem to be an after-thought and the cover is a different color, that's about it. At the end of the
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Esther
I picked this book up this morning and intended to read it in a casual fashion but ended up devouring it in just over 5 hours. Anyone who wants to understand themselves or the person they love and be the best spouse or partner they can be will get something from reading this book. It's not a magic formula but if you're committed to someone and you try to apply the ideas in this book, I don't see how it can fail to help and bring happiness to all involved!

Admittedly, I am not married myself. Howe
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Dr.bilal Alabsi
a nice Book helps you to keep the love with your partner throughout your Marrige,it leerns you how to learn the love Language of your Partner and how to stay in love with her/him
Susan
Very interesting idea. The author is a long-time marital counselor who believes that even very well-meaning couples can leave each other crying for emotional support because they aren't communicating their affection in the way their spouse can hear it best. Its not a perfect book by any means, but it does introduce the idea that some of us respond most to "Words of Affirmation (praise/compliments) and some respond more deeply to Touch (hugs, etc), Gifts, Service (dedicated actions) or Quality Ti ...more
Adrienne
My reverend asked my sweetheart and I to read this book so we could discuss it during pre-marital counseling sessions. Dr. Chapman is curiously fixated on locations. “It was in New Mexico that I became acquainted with the third love language, thanks to Debra, a woman who approached me after a seminar.” This is the beginning of pretty much every chapter. “It was in [State name] that I discovered the [number between one and five] language, thanks to [generic name], who sought my expert advice afte ...more
Stacey Franklin
Some really insightful, good advice, but - as usual with this sort of book, couched in almost unreadable stilted dialogue, and peppered with super gay terms like "filling their emotional tank"... Kinda sexist, too, in a stereotypical "stop playing video games and spend time helping her arrange flowers" type of way... (granted, I did read the men's edition) and it got way to religious-y for me. All in all, though, still enough very useful material to warrant a wade through the muck.
Andy
I read the original "Five Love Languages" when my wife and I were engaged. The "languages" were a helpful framework for me to understand how to love someone long-term. The original book also taught me something about myself: which "love language" I naturally speak and naturally expect to be spoken to me.

Now, years later, I listened to this "men's edition" and found it to be just as helpful and that the "languages" have indeed played a role in my marriage.

If you're looking for practical ideas ab
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Giju Abraham
It's a book that I put off reading for a long time and I regret that decision. Gary Chapman so clearly brings out some essentials about love that will help every individual whether married or not. The book helps one think about the many experiences in life and then understand why things did not turn out too well. The author offers a number of relevant examples that we can relate to and also offers simple steps/actions that one can take to improve the quality of relationships.

The book helps one r
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Nick
I thought I knew what my love language was before reading this book but I was wrong. I actually have TWO primary languages. I wasn't even aware that the second one was there, and was shocked to find out that the one I didn't know about was my primary language! For that realization alone the book was worth reading. The insights into Michelle's languages, and my acting on those insights, has made Michelle feel more loved and me feel more love toward her.
James Biser
This book gives some fantastic advice. As you learn about different love languages you feel as if your relationships are books you have been trying to write while you were blind. The insight offered in these pages are priceless. This is a necessary read for members of any couple.
Grayson Key
A great book for self-discovery that offers help and hope for the future. Chapman's perspective of love through the eyeglass of Scripture points out ingenious Truth that was there for us all along. Whether you are single or married, dating or divorced, this book will offer you tools to love and be loved better.
Belal Khan
Excellent book on understanding the fundamentals of how to engage with your spouse and foster love beyond the early blissful couple years. The book outlines how people are wired differently and we make the mistake of treating others the way we'd like to be treated. What fills your "love bucket" isn't what necessarily fills your spouse's.

First step is understanding what your spouse's primary love language is. There are five: touch, words of affirmation, gifts, spending time, and acts of service.
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Bella
It was ok, and the concept of " love languages" makes sense. But I didn't feel like I learned anything ground-breaking or particularly special. I also felt like it was a bit old fashioned and biased toward a Christian perspective. However, the book is pretty good at not knocking you over the head with constant religious references so it isn't that bad. I just personally wasn't moved by anything in it. I did think it was funny how at the end ( I listened to the eaudiobook) Dr Chapman shares how h ...more
Kimbolimbo
I think this edition might be my favorite. I read the original version many years ago when I was in a failing marriage. It was great but I read it a bit too late to help out my marriage but it did help me understand love better. Last year I read the Singles edition, it was even better because I was no longer married and the book didn't dwell on unhappy marriages or marriage successes so I didn't have to relive pain that I had buried away. Now, I have read this edition and I think it is excellent ...more
Shishir
A concise book with numerous examples, outlining the importance of love as an affectionate and considerate relationship between the spouses. It outlines 5 different needs in a relationship a) Affirmation encouragement b) Quality time c) Gifts d) Acts of reciprocation and service e) Physical touch. It also shows the folly of the short term euphoria of 'falling in love' and subsequent reversion to old values and habits(baggage borne of the past) and upbringing. The book shows ways identifying and ...more
Brad Stone
I loved it! Taught me so much I never knew. I wish I would have read this years ago! Now I'm confident I can keep my relationship strong!!
Tim
Typical self-help story (with a typical, though understated evangelical background most of the time), one solution (there are five different love languages - words of affirmation, quality time, receiving gifts, acts of service, physical touch), flavor it with personal stories, and serve. But because it is simple and straightforward and does not claim too much for its ideas (hope for better understanding and relating to your spouse and family) it is really quite useful. Probably helpful that its ...more
JC
This should be a must read for everyone prior to marriage or within the first year of marriage. So fascinating to learn about how different people are loved and how to express that love. this is a book that should be on every person's bookshelf and that they're constantly referencing.

It took me to the end of the book to figure out what my love language is but I know for sure now and I really understand myself better now. Also, I was pretty shocked to learn my wife's language - even after 5 year
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Sherief Rashad
Should be required reading for all relationships.
Leonardo Breceda
si tienes pareja totalmente recomendado te pone del otro lado del espejo y vez lo que realmente importa en la relación.
Joseph Draschil
Seems like one of those books that everyone needs to read.
Robert Henry
This book was very good. It gave me a few ideas for better interacting with my boys too.
Anthony
This book was pretty eye opening in the way we express our love to each other and how one person may be thinking they are expressing it but the other person still feels unloved. I really saw how I was lacking and why Kelly would get mad at me at times. It just is a completely different way of looking at this type of thing. I would recommend this to any person or couple who feels they are not being heard or loved. The other person might be trying to say I love you but you just can’t hear it.
Loretta
I wasn't sure I would like this book, but I did. It was very interesting, easy to understand and gain good ideas from. It is helpful for any realtionship - spouse, child, friend...although the author has books on each of those scenarios. It is best if you and the other party you have the relationship with take the tests at the end of the book, but you are probably able to figure them out on your own. My husband and I discussed it and many couples in our group read it together.
Jason
Mar 30, 2008 Jason rated it 4 of 5 stars  ·  review of another edition
Recommends it for: everyone
Recommended to Jason by: Mara Bliss
The book is a nice quick read; it's very easy to understand with just enough anecdotal narrative. Although it may not express many concepts the average reader would find new, it does help organize ones thoughts efficiently. With a clearer understanding of those things which we just assume we "know", our ability to grow and nuture our relationships (all of them) is critically enhanced. I recommend it to anyone who has relationships... which is everyone.
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