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The Five Love Languages: Men's Edition: How to Express Heartfelt Commitment to Your Mate

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Marriages may be made in heaven, but they must be nurtured here on earth. Dr. Chapman explains how people communicate love in different ways, and shares the wonderful things that happen when men and women learn to speak each other's language.
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Sep 18, 2008 Meg rated it liked it  ·  review of another edition
I know what you're thinking... "Meg, are you, in fact... a MAN???" Nope. My brother-in-law just handed me a copy of his book (the "Men's Edition") a few weeks ago and told me to read it, that it would probably improve my marriage and understanding of my husband. And it did! It's a great book, and Chapman’s a genius. My main issue with it was redundancy. There doesn't need to be a whole book about this theory (much less several), the following paragraph would suffice:

There are five major ways tha
Garrett Zecker
I am not a reader of self help books, but this book came recommended to me as a text that is helpful in the areas of communication with a lover or a spouse and can have a drastic impact in many areas of my relationships.

While I think that this book says many valuable things, there are also some places that I think that this book is complete nonsense and totally misses the mark.

First, trying to figure out what you best respond to and what your spouse or lover best responds to is definitely an imp
Trevor Acy
Jan 11, 2012 Trevor Acy rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
This is one of those books that while you are reading it you think to yourself "well of course" and "I knew that". Yet at the same time realizing that you've never really considering the ideas that Chapman presents about the way two people express and more importantly receive love from one another.

I pretty quickly discovered that my primary love language is definitely Words of Affirmation. Most men, and Chapman points this out often, assume they operate from the Physical Touch language but that
Mar 20, 2008 Ellis rated it liked it  ·  review of another edition
Shelves: nonfiction
Let me just say one thing about this book. It claims itself to be a special edition for men. Well, I don't know what type of man this author is used to (maybe one that doesn't like to keep any dormant mushy side from being exposed to the world), but just because this book has a brown cover doesn't make it very "manly". I don't have many other books in my library that have big hearts with arrows through them on the cover. Every, and I mean EVERY, new chapter has the same big sweetie-pie picture o ...more
Shawn Bain
Nov 27, 2016 Shawn Bain rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
I would give the philosophy behind the book [series] a 5; the book itself a 4, landing it at a 4.5.

Putting a measurable reason behind discrepancies in how couples communicate affection is outstanding. Finally being able to know how to best show my wife that I love her is only going to strengthen our marriage.

I will say that the the author's phraseology is geared toward someone with no prior knowledge of psychology, which is good and bad. Since I know a little bit, it did make this book a little
Sep 09, 2015 Keith rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
Sound advice in a quick read
Sep 13, 2015 Brett rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
A must-read for all married men and those considering marriage.
Dr.bilal Alabsi
Apr 18, 2013 Dr.bilal Alabsi rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
a nice Book helps you to keep the love with your partner throughout your Marrige,it leerns you how to learn the love Language of your Partner and how to stay in love with her/him
Bernd Schiffer
Great model, not only for couples and children, but also for relationships in general, private or business.

Bonus for the audiobook: author has a great voice with a nice southern accent :)
Brave Sirrobin
May 15, 2017 Brave Sirrobin rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
Yes. Very instructive. I shall put it into practice.
Sean Fishlock
Mar 12, 2017 Sean Fishlock rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
Great concept, nice, easy to read book. Advice is very practical and there is a handy little self evaluation tool on the companion website. While the categorisation is good conceptually, sometimes I found myself attempting to fit a behaviour into the five and contemplating love expressions that don't really fit a particular one.
At times the author pushes the virtues of Christianity a little heavily; wouldn't think love languages would be exclusive to a particular religious following!
Jalynn Patterson
About the Book:

Falling in love is easy. Keeping the sizzle in your marriage? That's more like grilling the perfect steak-it takes time, attention, and some secret spices. Mastering your wife's heart doesn't have to be complicated, but it will take a little effort. Good intentions alone will not get the job done.

Gary Chapman gears this edition of his #1 New York Times multi-million best seller to your needs, challenges, and interests as a husband. What really fills your wife's love tank? (It may
Jun 10, 2013 Adrienne rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
My reverend asked my sweetheart and I to read this book so we could discuss it during pre-marital counseling sessions. Dr. Chapman is curiously fixated on locations. “It was in New Mexico that I became acquainted with the third love language, thanks to Debra, a woman who approached me after a seminar.” This is the beginning of pretty much every chapter. “It was in [State name] that I discovered the [number between one and five] language, thanks to [generic name], who sought my expert advice afte ...more
Sep 29, 2016 Isaac rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
Except for the cover and the suggestions at the end of each chapter that are catered to men, this book seems to be identical to the original The Five Love Languages. I'm okay with this, since I was due for a reread anyway, and since I spent $1 on this copy at Goodwill, but I'd be pretty upset if I had made any significant investment, expecting to receive insights unique to this version.
Eric Sullenberger
First I want to point out that I mostly listened to the Men's Edition of this book, but there was a glitch in the Overdrive download, so I ended up listening to parts of the original version.
Second, the question I, and a lot of others seemed to have, is this a variation/modification of the original or is it an extension/spin-off upon the original. It is a variation, the points specifically for men seem to be an after-thought and the cover is a different color, that's about it. At the end of the
Hugo Gomez
Sep 29, 2015 Hugo Gomez rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
I'm not big into self-help books. My priest insisted I read this book after a little complaining in the confessional. Turns out my mother-in-law had a copy of this book just sitting in one of the many book piles in her home. Seeing that it was probably the same week from my whining, I felt it as far from coincidental and so asked about borrowing it.

The book makes some interesting points I had never considered, even though I consider myself a good reader of persons, determinations, and situation
Martin Baggs
Feb 17, 2015 Martin Baggs rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
I remember reading Gary Chapman's original book, The 5 Love Languages, almost two decades ago. That groundbreaking book introduced me to the languages of words of affirmation, quality time, gift giving, acts of service, and physical touch. Now, 20 years later and almost that many books in this series, Chapman has a new book aimed at men in marriage relationships. And it's powerful and well worth the read. The love languages have not changed, but this book focuses on strengthening your marriage b ...more
Feb 21, 2015 Andrew rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
In 5 Love Languages for Men, Gary Chapman discussed the five love languages and how to learn how to communicate love to your wife. The five different love languages are words of affirmation, acts of service, receiving gifts, quality time, and physical touch. Everyone speaks love in a different way and this book was written to help you discover the five different ways people receive love. The book also covered troubleshooting, anger management, and the art of apologizing. It also had a section co ...more
May 26, 2015 Ilze rated it liked it  ·  review of another edition
Recommended to Ilze by: Cheryl Sol
It is done.

Now may i please continue my life in peace without you asking and asking me whether i've read the book? Have you read it? Because if you honestly have (and don't DARE say you will read it again because a book doesn't save anything!), you would not be treating me the way you do. You wouldn't have moved into another bedroom a month ago and stated: "I moved out and your behaviour isn't changing". Your choice to do that was yours alone. You wouldn't have withdrawn the money i was me
Diana Montgomery
5 Love Languages for Men
By: Gary Chapman

Gary Chapman writes wonderful books to help the family. Which have sold millions of books. This new one is 5 Love Languages for Men. I liked right in the beginning where he says no two people share the same language and same dialect. No two people express and receive love in exactly the same way. Love tends to not be as strong as the years go lack of communication and getting just into routines, our jobs just to name a few. So Gary Chapman has come up with
May 29, 2014 Grace rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
Now, as a single young woman, I assumed I would read about communication modes of a well functioning loving marriage, which, btw, is a beautiful thing to behold. However I was surprised at how the 5 love languages are so universal and explained so articulately and relatably the different ways that people express and experience love. Although this edition was targeted at married men, I learned a lot about myself and my own love language by reading it. It helped me to understand a lot of the pains ...more
Very interesting idea. The author is a long-time marital counselor who believes that even very well-meaning couples can leave each other crying for emotional support because they aren't communicating their affection in the way their spouse can hear it best. Its not a perfect book by any means, but it does introduce the idea that some of us respond most to "Words of Affirmation (praise/compliments) and some respond more deeply to Touch (hugs, etc), Gifts, Service (dedicated actions) or Quality Ti ...more
Giju Abraham
Nov 29, 2013 Giju Abraham rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
It's a book that I put off reading for a long time and I regret that decision. Gary Chapman so clearly brings out some essentials about love that will help every individual whether married or not. The book helps one think about the many experiences in life and then understand why things did not turn out too well. The author offers a number of relevant examples that we can relate to and also offers simple steps/actions that one can take to improve the quality of relationships.

The book helps one r
Aug 17, 2010 Andy rated it liked it  ·  review of another edition
I read the original "Five Love Languages" when my wife and I were engaged. The "languages" were a helpful framework for me to understand how to love someone long-term. The original book also taught me something about myself: which "love language" I naturally speak and naturally expect to be spoken to me.

Now, years later, I listened to this "men's edition" and found it to be just as helpful and that the "languages" have indeed played a role in my marriage.

If you're looking for practical ideas ab
Josiah Simmons
May 04, 2016 Josiah Simmons rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
Chapman is an amazing writer and great love coach. He gives men and woman the inside scoop on how to become a better partner to there significant other. Chapman breaks down the chapters into a series of ways to better understand where your partner is coming from. He also goes in-depth about how to make the most out your relationship along with examples of what could happen when you aren't being a good partner. By catering to your partners love language he states your relationship will flourish a ...more
Belal Khan
Aug 18, 2013 Belal Khan rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
Excellent book on understanding the fundamentals of how to engage with your spouse and foster love beyond the early blissful couple years. The book outlines how people are wired differently and we make the mistake of treating others the way we'd like to be treated. What fills your "love bucket" isn't what necessarily fills your spouse's.

First step is understanding what your spouse's primary love language is. There are five: touch, words of affirmation, gifts, spending time, and acts of service.
It was ok, and the concept of " love languages" makes sense. But I didn't feel like I learned anything ground-breaking or particularly special. I also felt like it was a bit old fashioned and biased toward a Christian perspective. However, the book is pretty good at not knocking you over the head with constant religious references so it isn't that bad. I just personally wasn't moved by anything in it. I did think it was funny how at the end ( I listened to the eaudiobook) Dr Chapman shares how h ...more
Aug 21, 2015 Esther rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
I picked this book up this morning and intended to read it in a casual fashion but ended up devouring it in just over 5 hours. Anyone who wants to understand themselves or the person they love and be the best spouse or partner they can be will get something from reading this book. It's not a magic formula but if you're committed to someone and you try to apply the ideas in this book, I don't see how it can fail to help and bring happiness to all involved!

Admittedly, I am not married myself. Howe
Feb 26, 2011 Kimbolimbo rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
Shelves: read-in-2011
I think this edition might be my favorite. I read the original version many years ago when I was in a failing marriage. It was great but I read it a bit too late to help out my marriage but it did help me understand love better. Last year I read the Singles edition, it was even better because I was no longer married and the book didn't dwell on unhappy marriages or marriage successes so I didn't have to relive pain that I had buried away. Now, I have read this edition and I think it is excellent ...more
Kevin Bennett
Jul 10, 2016 Kevin Bennett rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
A Great Read for any Husband

Like the origin title written to couples generally, this book is thought-provoking, inspiring, and concrete. It is easy to see how the information and suggestions can be applied. The difference is that this work is written specifically to us men. We can understand and identify with what we read. I've been happily married for over 35 years, but I found plenty of advice that I can, should, and intend to apply. My suggestion to other men who seek a higher level of marita
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Married more than 45 years to Karolyn, Dr. Gary Chapman is just the man to turn to for help on improving or healing our most important relationships. His own life experiences, plus over forty years of pastoring and marriage counseling, led him to publish his first book in the Love Language series, The 5 Love Languages®: How to Express Heartfelt Commitment to Your Mate. Millions of readers credit t ...more
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