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The Object of My Affection Is in My Reflection: Coping with Narcissists

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How to Manage the Narcissistic People in Your Life

Does your boss constantly blame you for things you didn't do? Do you isolate yourself from friends and family to avoid conflict at home? Do you feel anxious when you see a certain 'friend's' name on your cell phone? If you answered yes to any of these questions, you most likely have a narcissist in your life. The Object o

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Paperback, 274 pages
Published October 1st 2008 by HCI
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Robert
I was grateful to learn more about what narcissism is and how to better understand people with these tendencies. However, I didn't like how Lerner made such an absolute distinction between a narcissist and someone with narcissistic tendencies. In my mind I see this as a continuum of severity, with different traits causing people to act in different ways.

Lerner kept insisting that ALL narcissists do exactly this and behave in this exact way. While labels can help us understand people and situati...more
shainur
I picked up this book because I had read another book by Rockelle Lerner that I thought was pretty good. I had been looking for a book about narcissism but not something that was overly clinical. This book was really good. Finally all the crap that I had been put through made sense. She even highlights other not-so-obvious signs of NPD that made me realize someone else in my life was narcissistic, as well. This book is very good 1) to make sense of what narcissism is all about 2) to understand w...more
Jennifer Spiegel
Long story short. I read this book after the guy who colors my hair recommended it when we got in a conversation about Alec Baldwin when he learned I love "30 Rock." It turned out that my hairdresser is working on a Masters in Counselling and I'm writing a novel that may or may not be about psychologically-damaged people, who are--quite possibly--Narcissists. I kinda think the guy who does my hair is awesome, and the book sounded like good research-material for my novel.

For the record, I think A...more
Lizi
Sep 13, 2013 Lizi marked it as to-read
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Review: "How to Manage the Narcissistic People in Your Life
Does your boss constantly blame you for things you didn't do? Do you isolate yourself from friends and family to avoid conflict at home? Do you feel anxious when you see a certain 'friend's' name on your cell phone? If you answered yes to any of these questions, you most likely have a narcissist in your life. The Object of My Affection Is in My Reflection will help you understand the complexities of this disorder and arm you with the cop...more
Angelyn
I learned a lot from this book. We all have some narcissistic tendencies, but the thing I thought was the most interesting was that true narcissists carry a heavy shame that they bury deep. It's too painful to deal with, so they just can't. Shame is different than guilt. Shame is not healthy and a can be given to an innocent with criticism and abuse etc. Guilt comes because of something we've done and can be a healthy deterrent.
Chandra Moore
If you have a narcissist in your life, this book will help you understand the clinical condition and how to deal with those who have it.

While most of us are to some degree narcissistic, this book will help you understand the differences between healthy narcissism and dangerous narcissism which can suck the life out of those in relationship with a narcissist.

This book will help you understand that their behavior is not your fault and be able to identify the subconscious ways narcissist try to k...more
Katie
I read this book at a time when I was trying to cope with a Narcissistic boss who was making me MISERABLE. For me personally, Narcissists keep showing up in my life- partly because I'm usually in places and situations that they seek out. So, I wanted to educate myself that much more. This is a good, common man, non-clinical read on Narcissism. It helps you gain a perspective of what's going on and how to cope with it without letting it get the best of you. Helpful, but certainly not preachy. The...more
Diana Rodriguez
This book provides a good overview of the factors that can lead an individual to develop Narcissistic personality disorder.It is helpful in outlining the differences between what an individual with narcissistic traits looks like versus someone who has a full blown narcissistic personality disorder.
Diane Maxwell
Good read, valuable advise.
Roman
There's a ton of information in this book. The author covers a lot of ground. For much of the book, identifying Narcissists and people with Narcissistic style is the focus. The last is how to survive one and cope with detachment.
Danyelle Leafty
4.5 stars. Excellent read if you're dealing with/researching Narcissistic Personality Disorder. Lots of helpful information, although much is slanted towards dealing with a partner who has NPD.
Barbs Lodge
Great read - I never really knew what a true narcissist was like. Now I do and no-one is immune from displaying some traits :-)
M
Great read on the Narcissists that try to invade our lives.
Ruth Anne Corbett
This book is really really interesting...........honest
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