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Act Like a Lady, Think Like a Man: What Men Really Think About Love, Relationships, Intimacy, and Commitment

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“Harvey offers surprising insights into the male mentality and gives women strategies for taming that unruly beast.”
Philadelphia Inquirer

“Women should listen to Steve Harvey when it comes to what a good man is about. Steve Harvey dispenses a lot of fabulous information about men.”
—Aretha Franklin

The #1 New York Times bestseller from the new guru of relationship advice, St
Hardcover, 232 pages
Published January 27th 2009 by Amistad (first published January 1st 2009)
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Reeka (BoundbyWords)
Nov 29, 2010 Reeka (BoundbyWords) rated it did not like it
Ok so, I definitely have mixed feelings about this book. On one hand, I admire the fact that Steve Harvey gives it to you straight and without a TRACE of subtlety (or sugar-coating if you will), the reasons why the majority of men ARE the way they are, and why we, as women, are unknowingly encouraging them to continue bad habits. He made some very valid points, though I felt that many of them should ALREADY be obvious to woman everywhere (i.e. set standards for yourself, RESPECT yourself in orde ...more
Dec 13, 2012 AZ ZA rated it really liked it
Shelves: relations
بيبدأ المؤلف بالطلب من السيدة اللي بتقرأ الكتاب انها تنسى كل الكلام اللي سمعته عن عقلية الرجل من المجلات أو الراديو والتليفزيون لان كله غلط

الفصل الأول :
الرجل لازم يلاقي اجابات 3 أسئلة :
أنا مين ؟
بأعمل/بأشتغل إيه ؟
بأكسب كام ؟
أو على الأقل يبقي ضامن أو عنده فكرة واضحة عن الطريق لتحقيقهم
قبل ما يلاقي الاجابات الثلاثة مش هيركز فيكي أو يفكر في الالتزام بالارتباط بيكي

الفصل الثاني:
المرأة تعرف ان هذا الرجل يحبها بالفعل بـ 3 حاجات
profess , provide , protect

الأولي انه يعرفها لأهله أو أصدقائه أو الأشخاص المهم
Zero vi Britannia
A small rant:

I hate books that reduce male-female relationships to gender stereotypes.
I hate books that make men responsible for their woman's happiness.
I hate books that make men responsible for women in general.
I hate books that treat women as though they are objects to be sought after by men.
I hate books that teach women how to manipulate men.
I hate books that teach men how to manipulate women.
I hate books that take gender relations back to the 50's.
But you know what I hate the most?
I hate
Feb 18, 2013 Kathrynn rated it it was amazing
Recommends it for: All Women Plan to Date Men
First read April 6, 2009:
A quick, easy read that wasn't as funny as I thought it was going to be. Mr. Harvey gives straight, common sense advice about men that could be used by teenage girls just beginning the dating cycle to women married/divorced with kids. Several of his examples are with divorced women with kids: when to introduce your kids to the man you are dating; if a man is truly interested in a long-term relationship he will make an effort to include your kids on dates, etc.

As for you
Ziyanda Xaso
Mar 10, 2012 Ziyanda Xaso rated it did not like it
I'm actually going to review this book as I read it. I actually find it very simplistic in dealing with relationships. Steve here deems men to be simple creatures who are all basically the same regardless of upbringing, culture or creed. He makes some really sweeping assumptions about both men and women. The fact that he assumes that all men are running some sort of game on us women tells me that he really does not have a broad view of people. To me the book sounds like the advice that a father ...more
Apr 06, 2012 Kristen marked it as are-you-shitting-me
This is a movie now? Are you fucking kidding me? Sure, why wouldn't I take relationship advice from a some fourth-rate hack comedian whose greatest accomplishment is hosting Family Feud (which apparently wasn't canceled in 1989)? Clearly this guy is a relationship expert since he's been married three times himself, so who better to tell us women how to act right for our man. I especially like the casting of unapologetic woman beater Chris Brown for the movie.

Sadly I actually have a friend who o
Mar 05, 2012 Sara rated it did not like it
This book actually angered me quite a bit. It's a one-sided critique hammering away that women aren't happy in relationships because they are doing something wrong. It assumes that women are the ones who need to change in order to be happy in a relationship, as if men were perfect in their existence, and it is women who are still struggling to achieve that same level of perfection. Even when Harvey discusses men who treat women like dirt and use them for sex, he turns it around on women, claimin ...more
Oct 17, 2010 Judith rated it did not like it
Shelves: hot-books-read
Act Like a Lady, Think Like a Man by comedian, Steve Harvey, is as simple as the title. Moreover, Harvey insists all men are simple, like him. Also, all women are complicated, nurturing, irrational beings, or if not, they should fake it so they can get a good man. According to this book, whenever a “real man” chats with a woman it is because he wants to sleep with her. Mr. Harvey compares dating to sport fishing: a woman who is too easy is a “throwback,” not a “keeper.” So, ladies, if you want t ...more
Feb 26, 2016 Heba added it
Although this book is incompatible with our traditions and religious teachings...but you will know how men think and what you have to do to be a lady :) are a simple people & all are basically thinking in a similar way
do you believe that ???
while women are complex creatures.woman expect her man to provide what she wants even if is totally different from what she wants five minutes ago :D
I do believe :)
man's DNA is encoded by three basics which are :
who I am
what I do
how much I make
Mar 03, 2009 Kristen rated it it was amazing
I saw this book being promoted on "Oprah" one afternoon (rarity, since I typically work until 5) and thought he made a lot of sense. So, I picked the book up and within 2 days I read it cover to cover. Excellent. I recommend it for any woman struggling with relationships with men. It brought a lot of clarity to what I have been going through and made me realize what to look for in men.
Mar 06, 2013 Miranda rated it did not like it
I'm sorry to say this, but this book is a JOKE. The first half of the book, it acted like it was talking to smart women, telling women what drives men and how to make your man feel like a man. Then the second half was talking to dumb, easy girls, making sure they have standards for themselves and don't be clinging to a guy who has other women hanging on his other arm. It didn't flow into "this is what you need to do next" from the beginning.

Another thing he does, is has women making lists of ho
Jul 16, 2009 Suzanne rated it it was ok
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Mar 13, 2009 Robin rated it liked it
The best thing about this book was that when men saw me reading it, they would get ALL KINDS of bent outta shape. Seriously. I mean, they took it personally. That only made me want to get through it faster to see what the hell Steve was telling because men were nervous.

The first part of this book reads like a relationship manual from 1950. I understand where he's coming from, but I couldn't relate. My mind doesn't work that way. A friend of mine agreed that it did sound a little bit dateed, but
Amanda Roa
Jun 02, 2009 Amanda Roa rated it did not like it
There are so many things wrong about the advice in this book. I mean, right off the bat, he admires his wife for giving up scuba diving because he is afraid something will happen to her. He actually applauds her for giving up something she loves to do. And what the hell is wrong with wearing a t-shirt to bed? My husband happens to think it's sexy. Follow the advice in this book and you'll find yourself back in the stone ages being drug to the man cave with a huge bump on your head. Not all men t ...more
Jan 09, 2014 Traveller rated it did not like it
Just some more cliche'd rubbish spouted forth in order to make a few bucks.
Jan 08, 2014 Lilo rated it really liked it
Recommends it for: single girls and single women
Shelves: relationships
This book is a bit oldfashioned, and I don't agree with everything the author says. Still, it would not hurt girls and women to read it. Might make them think. Would make a great gift for a girl/woman who tends to get too cosy with a man at too early a stage of a new relationship.
Emilie Bertrand
Jan 14, 2013 Emilie Bertrand rated it did not like it
Shelves: gave-up
It's the first time I write a real review of a book on this site, and I'm writing it because I'm so upset by this book.
It's totally not the kind of book I'd have thought about reading myself, but my best friend gave it to me as a gift (still don't understand why). I could't get beyond page 50. And if I got this far, it was only because I was on a train home and didn't have anything else to read. I actually wanted to give up at page 10.

What century does this guy think he's living in ? To sum up w
Dec 10, 2009 Jennie rated it did not like it
oh Mr. Harvey, I have some REAL issues with you.
I will admit, some of the information in here might be considered insightful (the whole Profess, Provide and Protect thing was interesting), most of it I felt like was just excuses for men to act like jackasses. I'm so sick of hearing "Well, that's just how men are." Shut it. Seriously. And sometimes he contradicts himself, like the "hold out for 90 days" thing comes about 70 pages after "if you don't give him 'the cookie' he's gonna cheat on you."
Sep 21, 2013 Cristal rated it did not like it
This book is totally sexist and simple-minded. It's pretty upsetting to me that this is a best seller. In our capitalist world, it's exactly the sort of book that a publisher sees, think big money, and nothing more. It's so far from a good piece of literature, so far from a story or advice that has to and must be told, that I want to tear it up and throw it in the trash. (Not that I expected it to be Charles Dickens or anything.)

I read it on a friend's recommendation and out of curiosity. While
Feb 28, 2010 Kendra rated it it was ok
Emily recommended this and I thought it was a fun and fast read with some good practical, old school advice. I didn't agree with every thing he said, but then, I'm a woman and he is advising me to think like a man.
Jan 15, 2012 أميــــرة rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
Recommends it for: Every woman

I've learned so much out of this book !

It was really amazing to discover the way men think. They're so simple & straightforward creatures.
You should understand that their love isn't like yours! They love through professing, protecting & providing. They want in return your support, loyalty and the cookie.

I recommend this book for every woman just to know how to handle stuff form the manhood's point of view.
The writer's language is so simple & you can finish the book so fast but it'd
Feb 04, 2009 Cydney rated it really liked it
This book was right on time. Steve gives insight into the male mind and why guys do what they do. He cuts to the chase and informs females what to do to if you want to be a keeper. The book also allows you to realize the good traits that your guy has which helps you feel you're on the right track; other tidbits give you an idea of which areas of your relationship needs work. Overall, very good relationship advice novel that will give women info that they already know, but also good tips that the ...more
Sep 11, 2016 Amee rated it did not like it
Shelves: 2011, did-not-finish
While I'm sure there are some truths to what he is saying, I didn't like that he talked in absolutes. As if there was no gray area. Plus, he pretty much blames the woman if (actually, he says it's more likely to be when) the guy cheats. It must be that she's not doing something right, etc. I stopped reading at that point.
Jan 03, 2017 Ola rated it did not like it  ·  review of another edition
تعتبر خطيئة كبيرة أن تبدا عامك الجديد بقراءة هذا النوع من الكتب خصوصا إنني اخرج دائما خالية الوفاض

فما شأني برجل وماشأني بالمرأة

عذرا عامي الجديد سوف أكون اكثر حذرا ويقظة



Mar 30, 2009 Heather rated it really liked it
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Jun 05, 2012 Doaa rated it really liked it
Shelves: favorites
First .. as Steve said :Every Woman have to read This book ! yes u have 2 do trust me ..
am Completely Impressed with this book .. and u'll do too..
every woman read this book 'll Shocked ' Learn 'Knows ..More and more about our life partners .. Men !!
The Author help us to Discover this world the manhood world .. find the big Differences btween woman and men in Love and in Expression and Dealing with some Matters of life !
As well he Talk about Relationships .. Simply How to enjoy a good relations
Apr 06, 2015 Meera rated it liked it  ·  review of another edition
Shelves: on-my-shelf
تطرَّق الكاتب إلى العديد من الجوانب التي تخص طريقة تفكير الرجال وأسباب تصرفهم لتصرفات قد لا يكون للمرأة اتجاهها تفسير معقول أو صائب كعدم التجاوب في الحديث وسكوته وتغيره في بعض الأحيان. بشكل عام أحبب الكتاب واستفدت من العديد من النقاط، لكن كانت بعض الفصول والمعلومات التي لم أتطرق لها لاختلاف الديانة والثقافة لعدم أهميتها لشخصي. كتاب جميل.
Feb 08, 2011 Josie rated it did not like it
Shelves: non-fiction
I almost feel like this book deserves a "fiction" tag. It was recommended by a friend, and not the sort of book I would normally pick up. I feel like most of the book was just a listing of stereotypes, most of which were demeaning to both men and women. Interspersed there was some good general knowledge (that might be helpful if you really were clueless). For instance, if after three months of dating exclusively your "man" still introduces you to friends and family as a friend, instead of girlfr ...more
Arabian Rihanna
Aug 26, 2016 Arabian Rihanna rated it did not like it
From the title, I expected the book to explore the wonders of the human brain and explain the difference between males and females.
After I finished the book, however, I couldn't remember anything related to the idea presented in the title. The author quoted it once, or maybe twice, without explaining his point any further.

I was very irritated by the author's style and language. He's definitely not a professional writer. If this was an e-book, the style would have gone unnoticed. But for a book,
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Act like a lady think like a man
عنوان جذاب جدا وفي قمة الذكاء

المذيع المشهور ستيف والذي وصل الى مصر بحادثته الشهيرة حين اخطأ في اسم ملكة جمال الكون في مسابقة ملكة الجمال – ذلك المشهد المزعج حين نزعوا منها تاجها وورودها بعد ان اعترف انه كان يقصد اخرى امام الملايين

في هذا الكتاب يعتبر ستيف نفسه يتحدث باسم جميع رجال العالم فهو يحاول من خلال الكتاب ان يشرح طريقة تفكير وعمل الرجال في كتاب من خمسة عشر فصل

في الفصل الاول يتحدث عن طريقة تفكير الرجال من ثم ينتقل لطريقة حبهم في الفصل الثاني ويعتبره مختلف تما
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Broderick Steven "Steve" Harvey is an American comedian, actor, entertainer, and radio personality.

He is probably best known as the star of the WB sitcom The Steve Harvey Show, and as one of the four comedians featured in the Spike Lee film The Original Kings of Comedy.

Currently, he is the host of The Steve Harvey Morning Show, a nationally syndicated radio program.

He is also the author of Act Lik
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“Nothing on this planet can compare with a woman’s love—it is kind and compassionate, patient and nurturing, generous and sweet and unconditional. Pure. If you are her man, she will walk on water and through a mountain for you, too, no matter how you’ve acted out, no matter what crazy thing you’ve done, no matter the time or demand. If you are her man, she will talk to you until there just aren’t any more words left to say, encourage you when you’re at rock bottom and think there just isn’t any way out, hold you in her arms when you’re sick, and laugh with you when you’re up. And if you’re her man and that woman loves you—I mean really loves you?—she will shine you up when you’re dusty, encourage you when you’re down, defend you even when she’s not so sure you were right, and hang on your every word, even when you’re not saying anything worth listening to. And no matter what you do, no matter how many times her friends say you’re no good, no matter how many times you slam the door on the relationship, she will give you her very best and then some, and keep right on trying to win over your heart, even when you act like everything she’s done to convince you she’s The One just isn’t good enough.
That’s a woman’s love—it stands the test of time, logic, and all circumstance. ”
“All I'm telling you to do is to be smart about it. Know that if this man isn't looking for a serious relationship, you're not going to change his mind just because you two are going on dates and being intimate. You could be the most perfect woman on the Lord's green earth-you're capable of interesting conversation, you cook a mean breakfast, you hand out backrubs like sandwiches, you're independent (which means, to him, that you're not going to be in his pockets)-but if he's not ready for a serious relationship, he going to treat you like sports fish.” 992 likes
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