Hos, Hookers, Call Girls, and Rent Boys: Professionals Writing on Life, Love, Money, and Sex

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Hos, Hookers, Call Girls, and Rent Boys: Professionals Writing on Life, Love, Money, and Sex

by David Henry Sterry (Goodreads Author), Audacia Ray (Goodreads Author) (Contributor), Jennifer Blowdryer (Contributor), Georgina Spelvin (Contributor), Kirk Read (Contributor), Veronica Monet (Contributor), Jeannette Angell (Goodreads Author) (Contributor), Annie Sprinkle (Contributor) , more…

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The only thing the writers in this book have in common is that they've exchanged sex for money. They're PhDs and dropouts, soccer moms and jailbirds, $2,500-a-night call girls and $10 crack hos, and everything in between. This anthology lends a voice to an underrepresented population that is simultaneously reviled and worshipped.

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Paperback, 333 pages

Published July 7th 2009 by Soft Skull Press (first published July 1st 2009)

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Feb 08, 2009 David added it · (Review from the author)

Shelves: i-wrote

The only thing every writer in this book has in common is that they've exchanged sexual services for money. Ph.D.s to dropouts, soccer moms to jailbirds, $2500 a night callgirls to $10 crack hos, and everything in between. This anthology gives voice to an underrepresented population that is simultaneously shamed and glamorized, glorified and vilified, reviled and worshipped.

Hos, Hookers, Call-girls and Rentboys is a collection of short memoirs, rants, confessions, nightmares, journalism and poet...more

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Dec 23, 2009 MAP rated it 3 of 5 stars

Shelves: biographies-and-memoirs, non-fiction

This book is split up into 5 sections (like the title implies...): life, love, work, sex, and money. And under each section several different people (sometimes introduced by David Henry Sterry, sometimes not, which at first made it difficult for me to know when we were switching authors) tell a story somehow involving this theme.

Like all anthologies, some stories are better than others. Some stories are hilarious, poignant, tragic, or beautiful, and some make you wonder if maybe your edition has...more

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May 02, 2011 Sophia rated it 3 of 5 stars

Shelves: 2011, gender, non-fiction, prostitute, sex, short-stories, women-s-studies

As the title implies, Hos, Hookers, Call Girls, and Rent Boys: Professionals writing on Life, Love, Money, and Sex this is a diverse anthology with contributions from individuals who have been paid for sexual services. Both their life stories and writing styles diverge greatly, ranging from PhDs to abused children, and from poems to interviews to autobiographical short stories. Since each piece is self contained, it's very easy to pick up and put down; unfortunately I didn't miss the volume when...more

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Oct 02, 2010 Kelley rated it 3 of 5 stars

Shelves: sex-uality

I picked up this book because, 1. I was shocked it was on the shelves of the public library and 2. the lovely Audacia Ray is a contributor. I have had a hard time putting it down for the other books I HAVE to read. The stories are almost all excellent, with the section on relationships with family my favorite by far. What I love most about this book is that there is a third-wave feminist, sex positive vibe that refuses to sugar coat anything - which is what sex positive feminism *should* be but...more I picked up this book because, 1. I was shocked it was on the shelves of the public library and 2. the lovely Audacia Ray is a contributor. I have had a hard time putting it down for the other books I HAVE to read. The stories are almost all excellent, with the section on relationships with family my favorite by far. What I love most about this book is that there is a third-wave feminist, sex positive vibe that refuses to sugar coat anything - which is what sex positive feminism *should* be but which it can never become in its constant battles against radical feminism and the rightwing.

What's great about the approach is that there is no one "sex worker experience" and there is very little moralizing about what sex work should or shouldn't be. There is no "Yay! Sex work is empowering!" cheerleading going on but it never devolves into the "Sexwork is disempowering and horrid and oppressive" trope either. The authors aren't here to tell you that they did/do it for anything other than money, if that's what was up (or down) for them. Some *are* here to tell you that they do it for a lot more than mere money. They aren't here to insist that none of them are drug addicts and no one was abused as a child - which is a strong tendency for sex workers who get fed up with that common stereotype. What's best about it is there is no moralizing, no "see, we are all so very different, so take THAT!" The contributors just put it out there, let people read, and let them come to their own conclusions, if they bother to at all. There is something about this book, the way the pieces work together, that resists forcing you to come to any conclusions at all.

In the sex worker community, there's lots of tension around telling it like it is. E.g., what do you do with the fact that, as a stripper, you like to insist, vehemently, that you were NEVER a prostitute. What do you do with that honest emotion once you realize that it makes it difficult to create bonds of solidarity across the sex work professions. Do you stop saying it? Do you cringe at yourself, and then spend the rest of your days slaying the attitude in others? It's a little like saying, as an administrative assistant, that you ARE NOT a secretary! It comes off sounding as if, well, you think there's something wrong with being a secretary or, in this case, being a prostitute. Well, the fact is, the author is saying there's something wrong with being prostitute, and she doesn't bother to insult your intelligence by backtracking and saying, "There's nothing wrong with it; it's just wrong for *me*" - as if it's possible to think something is wrong for oneself and that, somehow, you're magically not making a judgement.

Consider Audacia Ray's contribution. Should she have written about her partner who doesn't exactly come off as a model sex worker? Do you write the truth, feeding into the rightwing's prejudices? Do you cover it up and never say anything at all? Do you write about your girlfriend who really gets off on the money and who may be a little reckless - if not a little fucked up? If you do, will you just open up yourself and fellow sex workers for all the abuse likely to be heaped on them by the rightwing? "See, we told you. Sex workers are unstable. Abused as children. Addicts"? There's no easy answer to these questions. The editor, David Henry Sterry, does you a favor by refusing to make that manifest and, more importantly, refuses to scold you into a narrow groove of thinking about the issue.

While I enjoyed Sterry's introductions of the contributors he knew personally, I became tired of the long-winded introductions, particularly when it became clear he didn't know all his contributors. At that point, I realized that I'd prefer not to have the intros, that I wanted the authors to stand on their own, not propped up by Sterry's words which, you realize, were mostly there to tell you more about Sterry, and not especially much about the contributor.

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Sep 26, 2012 Shana rated it 2 of 5 stars

The “oldest profession” continues to be a great source of curiosity, disgust, and wonder even to this day, and I am not immune to the fascinating nuances of its practice. For this reason, I knew I had to read this as soon as I saw it sitting on the library shelf.

Sterry, himself a former “Rent Boy,” put together a compilation of diverse stories about the lives of sex workers. My fear when reading this at first was that it would glorify one aspect of sex work; namely the experience of the empowere...more The “oldest profession” continues to be a great source of curiosity, disgust, and wonder even to this day, and I am not immune to the fascinating nuances of its practice. For this reason, I knew I had to read this as soon as I saw it sitting on the library shelf.

Sterry, himself a former “Rent Boy,” put together a compilation of diverse stories about the lives of sex workers. My fear when reading this at first was that it would glorify one aspect of sex work; namely the experience of the empowered, feminist sex worker from an educated, middle class background (often Caucasian). People tend to be tickled when they hear that someone might actually like this type of work, and I think it’s important to acknowledge the variety of experiences and opinions within sex work. That being said, I didn’t want to read a compilation of stories that only addresses this one aspect. Luckily, Sperry provided much balance so that the reader could see how liberating and how horrific sex work can be.

My favorite story was from Mochaluv who puts it down straight. She declares,

“The next time I hear some rich white bitch tell me how great being a ho is, I’m gonna smack ‘em upside they righteous head… This one chick she was from Berkeley she kept telling me what an honor it is for me to be a sexual healer, how it’s important for me to tell everyone how proud I am to be a prostitute, how empowering it is to be a sex worker. Sex worker, I said, I ain’t no sex worker. I’m a ho!”

Much of this book is a reminder of the power of privilege. Some have the privilege to choose the life of a sex worker because they have a college degree or monetary wealth to fall back on if it doesn’t work out or if they want to explore another path. At the same time, there are many, many people who simply do not have this privilege and are in the life for reasons we’d all rather not think about because they are ugly and/or painful.

Any time that I can be reminded of the diversity of lived experience is a good one.(less)

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Aug 26, 2009 lola rated it 5 of 5 stars

The best sex worker anthology I have ever read. And I have read them all. Literally. Way better than Working Sex, and I will paraphrase a line from my review of that book: "This should come with a sticker that says, 'Now with 25% less San Francisco Bullshit!'" ACTUAL diversity of opinions--like, you know, a pimp! Or a bunch of people who needed to be anonymous! Standouts: Sterry's chapter openers, mochaluv, Jodi Sh. Doff (too good), Kirk Read, Audacia Ray, a bunch of others I forgot but I don't...more

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Jan 08, 2011 Danna rated it 3 of 5 stars

The difficulty with a book like this is, since there are dozens of writers with varying stories, some of them I loved and some of them I couldn't stand. However, I felt the need to finish the book because I was worried if I didn't, I would miss my favorite story! I love what Sterry did, putting this compilation together and giving a voice to so many different sex workers. It really does run the gamut and challenge some stereotypes. I admire his attempt to uncover the different worlds of sex work...more

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Dec 04, 2009 Nine rated it 4 of 5 stars

(Originally published in The Skinny magazine)

Do you see what they did there? Despite the wordy title, the editors have managed to steer clear of the terms ‘sex workers’ and ‘prostitutes’, both of which invariably piss somebody off. This tactic is noteworthy, because here we have an anthology bringing together the broadest range of contributors with experience of the sex industry: from the big screen to the street, phone sex to stripping, and incalls to escorting. Between them, they’ve experience...more

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Jul 08, 2010 Evan rated it 3 of 5 stars

Shelves: sexuality, sex-work, __in-my-collection, 2010-reads

This is an attractively packaged anthology of first-person oral histories -- each ranging in length from two paragraphs to five to six pages max -- penned by people in The Life: higher-priced call girls, street hookers, brothel workers, pimps, men and boys working off the streets or on Craigslist, S&M workers, trannies, strippers putting themselves through college, drug addicts hooking on the side, and a lot of other people whose modus operandi and identity are not always well elaborated.

Th...more This is an attractively packaged anthology of first-person oral histories -- each ranging in length from two paragraphs to five to six pages max -- penned by people in The Life: higher-priced call girls, street hookers, brothel workers, pimps, men and boys working off the streets or on Craigslist, S&M workers, trannies, strippers putting themselves through college, drug addicts hooking on the side, and a lot of other people whose modus operandi and identity are not always well elaborated.

The collection is a huge mixed bag, the ratio of good to bad is about 60/40, I'd say. I have to admit, my curiosity about The Life is greater than my curiosity about The After Life, so to speak, at least in terms of reading about these people's lives outside of sex work. There's a large therapeutic component to this collection, and that's why we get some stories here that seem to have little to do with sex work (someone's mother dying, for instance), but the subtitle does not lie; this is about "professionals writing about...life" as it says. Frankly, those kinds of testimonies don't interest me much. My interest in the book is entirely to learn more about the day to day of sex work, and the feelings and views of those engaged in it.

A problem I had with the book was the inconsistency in identifying or clarifying fully who the speakers were and just what kind of sex work it was that they did. Many of the pieces set the stage with extensive intros about the speakers authored by Sterry, but many others do not. And the writer credits at the end range from several graphs to one very vague sentence. The best pieces in this (and Zoe Hansen's is one of those) select and elucidate very vivid slices of life from the streets and tell their stories in longer form. Frankly, I could have done without so many "quickies" and, had I edited this, opted for fewer but longer stories with better scene setting and detail. Too often it's assumed that the reader knows the circumstances of these authors and what they are talking about, and that's just not the case.

All in all, though, I like the concept and general execution of this book, and would like to see more like it. It was worth every bit of the $16 I paid for it at Borders.(less)

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Oct 06, 2009 Ken rated it 4 of 5 stars

A bold, sometimes raw, collection of essays/stories by those that populate the various levels of the sex trades. Not for the meek this writing is eye-opening in every way. The essays/stories will make you laugh or infuriate you while providing a critical bridge to the many damaged souls that have been swallowed up by this business. I was amazed at how powerful the writing was any almost all of these people were non-professional (writers). Sure at times I winced and forced my way through but if...more

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Aug 11, 2011 Todd Kashdan added it

Some fantastic stories that pull you to different corners of the dark, seedy universe that most of us have never experienced. Some will make you feel intense pain and hatred, especially the section on exploited youth. But like most multi-authored books, some of the poems and stories just don't work. Worth it for about 10-15 gems.

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Jul 27, 2010 Alexandria rated it 4 of 5 stars

This book did a wonderful job of portraying the range of sex worker experiences, from the crack ho who hustles to get high to the rent boy servicing a sweet older lady to the famous porn star to the myriad horrifying stories of pimps and abuse.

It is an engrossing read and I now want to seek out the memoirs of many of the contributers.

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Apr 08, 2010 Katya rated it 3 of 5 stars

Shelves: omg-nonfiction, anthology

Overall an entertaining and educational read. There were some really amazing stories, and some mediocre ones, as is the case with most anthologies. Some perspectives interested me more than others. My main problems with this book was the fact that it seemed to be heavily skewed towards the 'gay rent boy' and 'poor street hooker' perspectives - I would've liked to see more stories from straight male prostitutes and higher class call girls to even out the ratio - and the introductions written by S...more

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Sep 18, 2012 Martin Roell rated it 3 of 5 stars · review of another edition

Shelves: sexuality, money, sexwork

A long collection of essays and poems on sex work - it took me quite a while to get through. Some pieces are badly and some very badly written. The editor's chapter introductions are annoying. The structure of the book - I couldn't really follow it. But some of the pieces are so intense, so gripping, so clear and so insightful that I kept coming back to it, going back into the very diverse topics and themes that spring up from the stories. MAP writes: "I think people could get many different thi...more

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Oct 10, 2009 Caty rated it 2 of 5 stars

So far doesn't disappoint, and such a variety of experiences! Wish I'd been able to contribute. Why am I always irrationally jealous of Audacia Ray? Can't tell you which page I'm on, as I'm skipping around delightfully as one can do with a really good anthology. It's cool that D Henry Sterry, who was prostituted as a child, instead of joining the anti-traffiking movement, joined the sex worker's rights movement instead, recognizing his experience as isolated (though not isolated enough that the...more

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Aug 30, 2011 hey.emily rated it 4 of 5 stars

Shelves: books-read-2011, culture-study, ladies-women-and-girls, memoir, mental-illness, psych, subculture, substance-abuse

The diverse collection of sex workers compiled in this anthology is amazing. The expertise and love with which Sterry tied everything together makes me want to check out his other work, including his memoir.

For anyone who has read anything about sex work and sexual politics: read this next. For anyone who hasn't read anything: start here.

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Jan 12, 2010 Stephen rated it 5 of 5 stars

What an incredible mix. Most of us are blind to the this world, yet our beliefs and "values" judge at even seeing the title of the book. What a gift to expanding our world, what a challenge to suspend judgment, and perhaps even think, "I could have done that, I could have taken that path..." and then reflect, is that so "bad?"
Thanks DHS for doing this...

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Aug 26, 2011 lindz rated it 3 of 5 stars Recommends it for: Jennifer Bigheart

Recommended to lindz by: Saw @ Barnes and Noble

Some parts seemed to be slow, but for the most part this book was very interesting, confessional, touching and funny.

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Jul 14, 2012 Sharon rated it 2 of 5 stars

Shelves: did-not-finish

Ok, I admit, this is on the 'did not finish' list, but only because (I can't believe I'm going to say this) it was boring after a while.
Most writers tended to become repertious after a while, and I just could not be bothered reading it.
While this would normally be a intresting topic I would think, this book just did not cut it after a while for me.

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Aug 23, 2009 Krissy marked it as to-read

NYT review: http://www.nytimes.com/2009/08/23/boo...

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Dec 09, 2009 sara frances rated it 4 of 5 stars

Shelves: library-books, nonfiction, sociology, man-authors

there are some really amazing stories in here. i loved all the different voices that are included in this book. props to sterry for pulling it all together.

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Aug 29, 2009 Pam marked it as to-read

interesting review in the NYT Book Review

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Aug 21, 2009 Bob Cutler marked it as to-read

reviewed in the online Sunday ny times 8/23/09

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Aug 26, 2009 Don marked it as to-read

Shelves: to-get, nonfic

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Mar 23, 2012 Ryry rated it 4 of 5 stars

cool book! lotsa short stories of different peoples experiences in the sex industry. especially with more input from non cis-woman than a lot of other books i have seen. i like how it is up to each contributer to contribute what they want and frame their own experiences on their own terms which reflects everyone's different experiences and perspectives on sex work and the rest of their lives...

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Jul 06, 2011 Samantha rated it 3 of 5 stars

Shelves: swapped-out

Interesting book. Some of the stories were more interesting for me than others. The shockingly young age that some of these people got to me. I can't even imagine what some of these people went through. Good read.

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Jun 23, 2009 Zoe rated it 5 of 5 stars

Everyone must read this book, not because I have a story in it, but because many authors are in one neat little book about the greatest profession...

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Jan 22, 2010 Ivy Marie rated it 3 of 5 stars

I wanted t like this far more, but to me, it re-enforced stereotypes, or perhaps it merely focused heavily on drug addicted street workers. In any case, I, who usually love sex worker books, didn't really care for this.

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Nov 20, 2009 Monica rated it 2 of 5 stars

Well, I read a lot of it, but not all. Had to return it to the library. It was pretty good, but not phenomenal. Some of the essays, of course, were better than others. May get it out again at some point.

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Dec 21, 2009 Michele rated it 4 of 5 stars

i read most but not all of the essays. wonderfully vivid accounts from a variety of perspectives on selling sex.

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