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I Loved, I Lost, I Made Spaghetti

3.08  ·  Rating Details ·  1,901 Ratings  ·  424 Reviews
From failure to fusilli, this deliciously hilarious read tells the story of Giulia Melucci's fizzled romances and the mouth-watering recipes she used to seduce her men, smooth over the lumps, and console herself when the relationships flamed out.

From an affectionate alcoholic, to the classic New York City commitment-phobe, to a hipster aged past his sell date, and not one
Hardcover, 288 pages
Published April 8th 2009 by Grand Central Publishing (first published 2009)
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Feb 18, 2009 Jean rated it it was ok
This book can be summed up in two words: "pretentious" and "pasta." I mean, really! Who can remember what dish you whipped up after a date with some guy 10 or 20 years ago? I can't even remember their names, much less what I fed them. Well, actually, since I don't cook, I CAN remember what I fed them (nothing), but I don't understand how someone else can remember actually cooking something for a man that long ago. However, I loved the recipe of how to make pasta while trying to download a Led Ze ...more
Jul 26, 2009 Malbadeen rated it it was ok
Recommends it for: bland people.
Shelves: memoir-ish
I don't really get this book. There was nothing terribly wrong with it but it certainly didn't seem publish worthy. The story of a forty-something year old woman reflecting on her few, again not terribly exciting but not entirely snoozeville relationships.
Mostly I was just thinking, "how/why did this get published". I mean we all have silly stories of awkward dating experiences and misguided attempts at relationships. Just last night I was made to sit for a few hours with a friend, her husband a
Dec 26, 2009 Holly rated it it was ok
Shelves: memoir
God this book.

I really wanted it to be enjoyable -- memoir plus recipes -- right up my alley, right? And although there were funny parts, most of the book was a slog reading about this woman who is so desperate to be loved that she totally morphs herself into a different person with every relationship. I guess after a while the low self-esteem schtick just got kind of old.

Melucci is obviously accomplished in her career and seems to be an interesting and self aware person, but she paints hersel
Carol Evans
Mar 27, 2009 Carol Evans rated it liked it
Shelves: advance-copy, memoir
I have toi start by saying that I was prepared to fully enjoy this book. I love spaghetti, and with a title like I Loved, I Lost, I Made Spaghetti, this was on my must-read list. It turned out to be a fun, quick read. Guilia has had a series of disappointing relationships, all men I would consider losers, but manages to make it funny.

I love the way she places the recipes inside the narrative, at the point she served them to her love at the time or to her lonely self. And some of the recipes sou
Feb 20, 2011 Karie rated it did not like it
I thought the concept of this book sounded interesting, but I found myself hating the main character (which is awful because I think this is a memoir). The premise is that she talks about her relationships and the she cooks as she works through the relationships. The recipes are included (not all that interesting sounding) but the very worst part is how awful her relationships are. All of the men she writes about don't love her - and yet she keeps throwing herself at them over and over again. Sh ...more
Apr 27, 2009 Jessica rated it did not like it
Shelves: memoirs, read-2009
This book proves just how awesome my boyfriend is.

Unfortunately, the author constantly wonders why men don't fall in love with her and leave her. Why she's a 40 year old unmarried, unsuccessful in love person. The answer: because you date losers who will always be losers. Even when it's obvious they're never going to love you or marry you, you still try to change them, or change your perception of your bad relationship.

A very frustrating read! The stories were not funny, or even sad. The other
Jun 05, 2009 christa rated it liked it
Typically when I read a book, I dog-ear pages with great sentences or ideas I like. With Giulia Melucci's unfortunately-titled food memoir "I Loved, I Lost, I Made Spaghetti," these notations were never about a turn of phrase -- they were about a turn of the proverbial spatula. There are at least a dozen recipes in this book that I plan to test.

This easy-reader -- six hours, cover to cover -- is about Melucci's relationship history, and what she was whipping up for the series of gents who have
Jul 02, 2010 Jennifer rated it did not like it  ·  review of another edition
If I had stopped reading the book after the first 60 pages, I would have liked it a lot more. The portrait of pr flack as a young woman seemed authentic and touching. But Melucci doesn't age emotionally as she ages chronologically, or at least that's how she presents herself. While she castigates men for being hipsters or poseurs or freeloaders, the evidence she presents about them is astonishingly superficial: one doesn't pay for her at dinner, another uses the word "fresh," doesn't like her mu ...more
Jul 01, 2009 Liz rated it really liked it
Shelves: read-in-2009
I absolutely loved Giulia Melucci's memoir, I Loved, I Lost, I Made Spaghetti. Maybe it is because I am 100% Italian, maybe it is because I have also had one too many bad dates, or maybe it is because I too love cooking and food; but I found Melucci's memoir much more enjoyable than many other reviewers.

Melucci's writing is an honest form of prose that truly spoke to me. Though I have, indeed, found the type of reciprocal love that Melucci searches for throughout her memoir, reading her stories
Jul 06, 2009 Katherine rated it liked it
Here's an interesting experience of reading a memoir. On one hand, I enjoyed reading this book. Melucci is a good and entertaining writer and nicely merged experience and food--one of my favorite combos. I zoomed through it and most of the time, quite enjoyed it.

On the other hand--Melucci is a romantic disaster. I started to feel like she was my boy-crazy friend and I just couldn't bear to read about one more boyfriend nightmare that anyone could have predicted. It is remarkable how self-aware s
Jan 07, 2013 Christina rated it liked it
As Mario Batali described this book, "It's a foodie's dream version of Sex and the City." which I think is completely true, to an extent. A memoir by Giulia Melucci, the book is all about Giulia and her love life and how she not only had relationships with men, but cooking for those men. She focuses on four major relationships and intertwines recipes she cooked, which I thoroughly enjoyed. After finishing the book, I made one of the recipes.

The author made more than spaghetti but many recipes w
May 04, 2009 Bridget rated it it was amazing
I just finished reading "I Loved, I Lost, I Made Spaghetti" by Giulia Melucci. This memoir takes you through the author's failed relationships. We've all had them. We've all felt at one point in our life that we are unloveable. I found myself feeling like Giulia's friend as she told me all about her life. I found myself telling her, "you're too good for him". All the things we try to tell our friends and just end up making them angry at us.

With each of Giulia's relationships, they start out gre
Oct 24, 2012 Fly rated it did not like it
Shelves: 2012
So I pick this book up thinking it will be a fun chick lit intertwined with some great recipes. I love cooking and it was the main reason why I grabbed it off the library's shelf. How could I go wrong?

Silly me.

To sum up the book, imagine the friend who won't shut up about her current guy obsession going on and on and on...a few recipes, then on to the next "boy toy" obsession. I already have to deal with this in real life. I don't want to read about it. Multiple times throughout the book, I tho
Aug 08, 2012 Danielle rated it did not like it
I can't believe I made it through this ridiculous book. I listened to it as a book on tape and it made me very frequently want to find a cliff to drive off. This woman is RIDICULOUS. She has an amazing career and family, but her only quest in life is to find a husband. The book chronicles her relationships throughout the years, and how they fail, and how it is all her fault, and how she is worthless without a man, and how her life is a failure because she just can't find a man to marry her. UUUU ...more
May 22, 2011 Carrie rated it it was ok
Shelves: non-fiction
At one point in this book, the author reports that she is afraid that she going to be come one of those women who dates anyone just so she doesn't have to be alone. I say, the author shouldn't worry about becoming one of those women as it is clear from the first page that she is already one of those women. This is by turns funny and well-written, and I felt like it had a lot of promise at the beginning, but by the end I was cringing. They should republish this book under a new title: "shady guys ...more
Jul 30, 2009 Barbara rated it did not like it
Absolutely terrible. In the end I couldn't decide whether I was more disappointed in the author or in myself for bothering to finish. The memoir is a series of failed romances, and if the author learned anything about herself or the human condition from these relationships (which would be a good reason to write a book like this) then she keeps that information to herself. The recipes are very run of the mill.
May 09, 2010 Linds rated it liked it
A fun read and some delicious-sounding recipes. Like many reviewers, I found the author's constant desire to please the men she was with grating, especially given how they all treated her. The 2010 edition has an extra chapter though and she addresses that idea there, which I definitely liked. I can't wait to try some of the recipes!
Feb 16, 2009 Annie rated it liked it
I really like Giulia but I was frustrated by her frustrating dating life. The book is mildly entertaining book but it is loaded with some great recipes. Some of the recipes are out of my league but there are some I'm definitely going to try.
Feb 13, 2016 Selwa rated it did not like it
Hi, I'm an old maid who hates being single so I'll put up with anyone's bullshit.

That's it. That's this book in a nutshell.

On the plus side, the recipes seem pretty decent, if you can look past their silly names.
Dec 23, 2013 Nikki rated it really liked it
She had me at "I can count the number of times I've skipped a meal on my breasts" Some parts were funny, it was bare and honest and the recipes are great. At points, it can get a bit monotonous, but it's a good rainy day read.
Lorraine Groom
Feb 13, 2017 Lorraine Groom rated it it was amazing
This book is fantastic!! I read it for the first time after a horrible breakup (I'll spare the gruesome details but I had a plate of chicken cacciatore thrown at me). I am rereading it and I love it just as much.
Anastasia Karel
May 29, 2017 Anastasia Karel rated it liked it
This took me a while to get through, but I'm glad I picked it back up. So many good recipes alongside the author's trials in finding a boyfriend. When all feels hopeless, make spaghetti.
Kim V
Jul 27, 2009 Kim V rated it it was amazing
Do Not Read This Book On An Empty Stomach! Now that I have that warning out of the way I will proceed with my review of I Loved I Lost Made Spaghetti: I loved it! On one level Melucci’s tome is an insightful memoir of her romantic entanglements. On another level it is a philosophy of cooking book. In short, it is what you would have if you combined Carrie Bradshaw with Carmela Soprano.

Melucci is a successful, Brooklyn, singleton who is looking for her other half. In wooing her suitors Melucci i
Sep 23, 2011 Melissa rated it liked it
The name of this book is what makes you want to read it. Anything with spaghetti in the title is a must read. However, this memoir I only felt luke-warm about, and that won't cook a noodle in any hurry.

Giulia is unlucky in love. Not even dating until her early twenties, she falls for a series of men who just aren't quite what she needs. And she's obviously not what they need either as they don't offer to make things permanent. And this is in spite of her good cooking, active personality, and wan
Feb 22, 2017 Tim rated it liked it
This is one of my book club books. It's about an Italian American woman trying to find love in NYC. Through out she includes the recipes of the meals she makes for her string of failed relationships. It reminded me of the Big Stone Gap series.
Feb 21, 2017 Nicole rated it did not like it  ·  review of another edition
Shelves: chick-lit, memoirs
It was a struggle to get through this one. I feel bad for the author because her lack of self respect and self worth was on full display. The best chapter was the chapter on real estate where she wasn't falling in love immediately with some here or there guy.
May 08, 2009 Estela rated it liked it
Chick Lit with a helping of Roast Chicken. That's what you'll find in I Loved, I Lost, I Made Spaghetti
by Giulia Melucci. Her memoir focuses on her failed relationships, where the main attraction lays in the meals she cooks and not between her and her lovers.
Melucci finds herself drawn to the wrong type of men. They are unwilling to commit, and Melucci mistakenly hangs on, constantly feeding their bellies while they neglect to feed her need to be loved.
Interspersed in between her tales are so
Maggie Campbell
Aug 09, 2009 Maggie Campbell rated it really liked it
"He seemed truly smitten with me, and that kind of thing just didn't happen."

"I didn't care; I couldn't get over the fact that men were interested in my body back then. I had had enough of their interest in my mind, which left me unsatisfied 100 percent of the time."

"There is logic and order to cooking. What you put into it has everything to do with what you get out of it. With love, it's not so cut-and-dried."

"I knew this was the end. I checked out my face in the mirror before I left my apartme
Feb 16, 2009 Robin rated it liked it
Recommends it for: those who like memoirs
Recommended to Robin by: ARC
Shelves: memoirs, 2009-list, arcs
Last week I was showing my Goodreads page to one of my young patrons, who just turned 13 this week. He is a voracious reader so it's been fun to talk about books we've both read and I've specifically asked him to read some of the RITBA titles and gotten his feedback to share with the group. Well, as I pointed out my currently reading books, Joe looked at the cover of this book and felt it looked interesting. That is, until I told him it is a memoir. At that point he said something along the line ...more
Becky R.
Jan 23, 2011 Becky R. rated it really liked it
With a witty way of telling a life story and a book full of great recipes, Melucci's story was not only fun to read, but also yummy to devour! Yes, this is very much a single gals journey through relationships and good food, mainly at the same time. Not one of the men that she dated ever seemed to complain about the fact that she could cook. Really, what human being would ever complain about a really good cook? With her Italian heritage and her appreciation for good products, the meals she creat ...more
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