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Your Child's Strengths: A Guide for Parents and Teachers

3.94  ·  Rating Details  ·  271 Ratings  ·  65 Reviews
With this groundbreaking work, renowned educator Jenifer Fox argues against the flawed and maddening paradigm that "fixing"kids' weaknesses is the way to achieve success. Rather, Fox promotes focusing on kids' natural inclinations in three interdependent areas: Activity Strengths, Relationship Strengths, and Learning Strengths. Pairing inspiring firsthand accounts of succe ...more
Paperback, 368 pages
Published February 24th 2009 by Penguin Books (first published 2008)
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Kelley (Against GR Censorship)
As a kid I hated reading. I even lied and cheated in school to avoid it. A couple years ago, I discovered that I could listen to audiobooks downloaded from the library on my iPod. A whole new world of reading opened up for me. Sometimes, in the middle of a series I was listening to, a book or two would not be available in audio format. So, I would read the in between books to fill in the gaps. I was surprised to find that reading was not the chore I remembered it to be. I actually liked reading! ...more
Barry Davis
Feb 16, 2016 Barry Davis rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
An extensive and practical guide for parents and teachers, subtitled “Discover Them, Develop Them, Use Them.” The author heads a private school in NJ, has 25 years of experience in teaching and administration. After spending significant time describing how our educational system focuses more on weaknesses than strengths (she calls it the “weakness habit”), she challenges the reader to consider that LD does not so much stand for Learning Disabled as Learning Different. Focusing on the strength si ...more
Jan 18, 2009 Joni rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
Shelves: non-fiction, 2009
This just reinforces all our philosophies about raising children. Children need empathy and respect and it isn't helpful to focus on failures and punishment. It is also interesting to think about my own strengths and what things make me thrive.
Boulder Book Store
Thursday, March 13, 2008, at 7:30pm at the Boulder Book Store.
Nov 27, 2013 Elimoore rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
So far amazing...can't wait to get to the practical discoveries.
May 05, 2011 Emily rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
What a great read for parents and teachers. It takes the opposite approach of the current system of finding children's fault's and then trying to fix them, and instead focuses on finding their strengths and developing them. It was a good reminder that children do not have to excel at every subject. Their strengths are things that interest, energize, and enliven them (and not simply, I am good at soccer, but I enjoy working with a team or figuring out strategies). The process of discovery is one ...more
Julie (jjmachshev)
What an excellent book for parents, educators, and just about everyone else too. "Your Child's Strengths" by Jenifer Fox is a well-structured, logical, and methodical plan for bringing out the best in children, while inculcating resiliance and responsibility to help them face the ups and downs ahead of them.

Fox uses well thought-out plans, exercises, and examples to help her target audience learn how to re-focus their senses to work WITH children rather than trying to work ON children. Her appro
Nov 10, 2013 Sophia rated it did not like it  ·  review of another edition
I found only part of this book useful, the line of questioning for children. It could have been a short, one page book! The rest is very tired, has been covered, and is of no interest to me. I'm always looking for some new thoughts, and she only had a very small one. I think perhaps if she had worked more on questioning, and less on the other topics, I would have rated it much higher.

My family home learns, and this is very school-oriented. Perhaps not so surprising, since this lady is a principa
Natalie Barnes
Mar 20, 2013 Natalie Barnes rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
When I picked this book up I thought it was written specifically for parents but while reading it i actually felt like it was more for educators but can also be used by parents. i liked how she spoke about strengths as being something that gives us a positive energy and not necessarily something that others see us as being good at. somebody can't be told what their strengths are but we have to discover them ourselves. first we must go through this journey ourselves and then we can help children ...more
David Rickert
May 18, 2011 David Rickert rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
I found this book a fascinating look at how schools are falling short in getting kids to understand their strengths. Too often, Fox says, school operate from a weakness standpoint, showing kids what they can't do rather than helping them discover what they can do. This book is a useful read for those interested in helping children figure out not jsut what they are good at, but the type of activities that excite them and energize them. You can be good at something but not like to do it, and that' ...more
Mar 20, 2013 Pamela rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
I like this author's viewpoint of education and schooling. As a homeschooler I wanted to be sure I allowed my children to develop their own personal strengths and to be empowered by them. I wanted them to use their strengths to overcome any "weakness" that they were "told" they had (not by me, but by others who would be their teachers when I wasn't around). I'm a very positive person and the ideas presented in this book helped me validate my kid's individual learning styles. I'm done with this b ...more
Shaza Tehseen
Jan 12, 2016 Shaza Tehseen rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
A much needed perspective- rather than a solution to problems.
Parents and teachers need to read this to become emphatic about a learner's mind and character.
Mar 01, 2010 Lisa rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
Shelves: education
I really identified with this book (another education book, albeit one that can be applied to other arenas) but it talks about in our current educational system we tend to be focused on our weaknesses so that we can overcome them and learn. However this book sets out the premise that it would be better to help our students (and children) to identify their strengths (those things that make them feel alive and energetic) so that they can use their strengths in other arenas and so that they can eve ...more
Ruth Ann
In real life, people build their careers based upon their strengths. Most people are not completely well-rounded and they succeed in life nonetheless. In the age of high-stakes testing, schools are being forced to produce students who grow evenly in all curriculum areas. If one of a child's skills fails to develop according to the prescribed sequence and timeline, the school hurries in to "remediate".
Wouldn't it be better to build upon strengths rather than give young children the message that t
Major Doug
Listened to this book: good assessment techniques; too crunchy methods; should be reviewed by teachers/guidance counselors.
Sep 05, 2009 Sarah is currently reading it  ·  review of another edition
The school system teaches from an archaic place and does not recognize strengths of individual as a rule. Parents and teachers have to work together to foster this type of learning. Early on, children may get diagnosed with a LD or learning disorder. This may enable the child to receive more attention in school but does not address the real issue, which is that children are engaged in learning when they are learning from a strength standpoint and understand how the content selected by teacher co ...more
Jun 20, 2010 Maya rated it it was ok  ·  review of another edition
This was a tough book to get through for some reason. It's meaty and has good information but after I got too far into realized that it's meant for kids over the age of nine. It still has lots of practical ideas that I know we can take into account with our son but for ages 4 and younger and through elementary school it's more of reflecting on your child's likes, etc. and documenting those for later use as they go through the discovery process later in life. I might pick it back up again once ou ...more
Aug 25, 2014 L rated it liked it  ·  review of another edition
The beginning of this book got me fired up & thoroughly excited. However, the process and explanations of walking a tween/teen through this discovery at the back 1/2 ro 1/3 of the book is confusing, cumbersome and difficult to imagine really using. This was so disappointing after really enjoying her theories & stories. I haven't checked out the website to see if there are more user friendly tools or explanations, but the general motivations & writing are there for sure.
Apr 09, 2014 Nerak rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
Although thus was published in 2008 it's still relevant. It's one of those to refer to from time to time.
I am in the middle of reading this book & am realizing that I need to buy my own copy b/c this is one of those really helpful resourceful books that I know I will come back to time & time again. I haven't even gotten to the part of the book where it helps you not only identify your child's strengths but also your own. Another dually healing purposeful book that I can see by focusing on our strengths we can accomplish & be anything.
May 18, 2013 JP rated it liked it  ·  review of another edition
Fox is an experienced teacher who effectively makes the case that we should be educating children according to their natural strengths, for their benefit and ours. She describes the three types of strengths: Activity, Learning, and Relationship. Along the way, she also provides a summary of the evolution of theories in education. The book includes a series of activities parents can do with their children to reveal their strengths.
Nov 02, 2008 Nedra is currently reading it  ·  review of another edition
This is way more powerful than I ever suspected. I can't put it down and caused quite a conversation at my son's baseball game today. Jennifer Fox is brilliant. I only picked it up because Marcus Buckingham wrote the intro (I secretly have a crush on him), but now I'm realizing all that is wrong with our schools. I hope Barack Obama has read this book. Clearly, Bill and Melinda Gates have! Can't wait to learn more.
Feb 03, 2009 Maren rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
The first half of the book was pretty much a waste of my time. I mean, seriously, I picked up the book, so obviously she was preaching to the choir. But I give it 4 stars because of the workbook pages in the back to help children, particularly adolescents figure out how they learn, what makes them happy, and how they can best contribute to a group. I'll definitely be referencing this again.
Sep 06, 2012 Edith rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
The book presents an alternative way of viewing success for both children and adults. My only problem with the audio edition (used a downloadable version) is that a significant portion of the book is a workbook. This does not work well in an audio format. So I suggest listening to the audio version, and if the concepts are useful, gettng a print copy to use for the workbook activities.
Oct 17, 2013 Derek rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
I felt like Ms. Fox identified and teaches true principles in this book. The book is a little repetitive, but she provides concrete examples of how to help and encourage children and others to understand their strengths and to thereby make empowering decisions relating to their relationships, their learning, and their career choices. There is a workbook that I have yet to really explore.
Jan 09, 2009 Rachel rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
Recommends it for: everyone
Shelves: educational
I loved this book! I thought I was reading it for my kids, but honestly I needed it for myself. I highly recommend this to anyone with kids of any age. In fact, though I don't yet have teenagers, her chapters on teenagers were my favorite. The last fourth or so of the book are workbook style exercises that reinforce the principles in the first part of the book.
Excellant. Well written and easy to read. Different approach than others that I have read. Easy for me to relate to. I like the application component. As I read it, I wondered if maybe this is basic and something that everybody else always does. There are a few areas that I use this appoach as a teacher and parent, but I would like to make a paradigm switch.
Mar 07, 2010 Esmeralda rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
As a professional with experience as a teacher and administrator, Fox provides background and practical suggestions to improve education. The point of the book is to make learning relevant to kids. There are exercises teachers and parents can use to incite a spark to the individual learning in the classroom.
Jul 18, 2009 Tara rated it liked it  ·  review of another edition
I liked this book, though I didn't feel like the entire thing was completely applicable to my two small children. I took some good information out of it that I hope to use as I raise them. Maybe I'll read this book again once I have the perspective of being a mother of pre-teens and teens.

Austen to Zafón
Why: most of my son's friends have such definite intellectual interests and are self-driven to spend hours pursuing them. My son's strongest interests and skills are social. He's only 6 1/2, but I'm interested to find out what this book has to say about a child like mine.
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